 Hello everyone welcome to a NARC survivor live video. Before I get into this one please hit the thumbs up button down below to show your support and if you would like to make a donation to our community you can donate through the super chat in this live chat or Through a super thanks in the comment section Or you can also go to my PayPal. It is paypal.me slash NARC survivor. I Appreciate all donations no matter how small now. Let's get into this message for today blatant signs You have defeated the narcissist. I'd like to begin by saying that If you have Defeated a narcissist They will let you know in some way It will usually be pretty obvious that you have defeated them They're going to let you know There's going to be some form of Response a reaction They can't just keep it to themselves They can't bottle it up They have to let you know that you have hurt them and I would even say this the more extreme the reaction the more Damage that they have done to you and your life The more that you have Had that defeat over them The more that you have already won Because then they've got to do that much more to get you back under their control again Now let's get into detail about this The signs what are the blatant signs that you have defeated than our cyst? I would say that Actually from the very beginning As soon as you first got involved with them you've already defeated them But at the time you don't even realize it But just look at how they are towards you. They manipulate you They use a false character Because they don't believe that who they are as a person is good enough So they've already lost from the very beginning You've already won. You've already defeated them Because they had to manipulate and deceive you They had to use a false character And then even after that they go to devaluing you Why are they devaluing you? It's because you have value and they're trying to take value away from you So that's another another sign that you have defeated them and then even after that They go to trying to make you envious or jealous of someone or something And whatever they tried to do that you should already know They're actually envious and jealous of you And they're trying to project these emotions on to you and by doing that It's just another sign that should reveal to you that you have defeated them again And of course, there's other signs such as when they cheat on you They lie to you they steal from you Even when they ghost you they discard you They try to discredit you they assassinate your character. They smeared your name They seek to punish you they become passive aggressive They try to get you fired from your job They try to target you financially they take you to courts They make false accusations about you they do all of these things to you behind your back Instead of confronting confronting you Instead of just saying it to your face Instead what have they got to do They can't just talk to you one-on-one. They can't be direct open and honest Because they're weak they're losers. So instead They have to sugarcoat everything they have to beat around the bush They have to do all of their little campaigns behind your back All of these little manipulative tactics these Plots and schemes to take you down and then they do these smear campaigns the gang's talking They've got to bring in all of these other people Because they're not strong enough to Confront you by themselves They can't win if it's one-on-one So what I was saying is from the very beginning you already defeated them They were losers from the very beginning of the very beginning of the relationship And there's so many signs that should reveal that to you Not just the ones that I have mentioned in this video, but so many more as well I'm sure many of you can think of so many other signs That would reveal that you have defeated them and please share those with us as well in the comments section down below But yeah, there's so many signs Because They're not winners And in fact if you look at it, they're not even trying to win everything a narcissist does They're just trying Not only trying not to lose But just not wanting to be seen as a loser because They don't want to see themselves Like a loser They don't want to feel like a loser. They don't want to see themselves as someone who has been defeated They don't want to feel like they have been defeated So they do everything they can they twist reality They have these distorted perceptions and it gets to a point where a narcissist Can do all of these wicked and immoral things They can manipulate you deceive you Cheat on you lie to you steal from you Abandon you Get you fired from your job, smear your name ruin your life all together and in their minds because they've Twisted reality and they've got this distorted perception of themselves that in denial They actually think Not so much that it makes them a winner, but that it doesn't make them a loser When in fact that's exactly what they are Everything they do is typical behavior of a loser. I Mean you really think Someone who is a winner. I Mean let's just look at someone like It could be someone in sports such as Michael Jordan Mike Tyson people who Are some of the best in their field People who have strived to become something great You really think a winner like that It's gonna go out of their way to bring someone else down. Can you imagine? Meeting Michael Jordan in person and here he is. He's this Famous multimillionaire basketball player You really think he's gonna care so much about what you're doing and he's gonna want to take you down He's gonna feel envious and jealous of you He's gonna want to isolate you smear your name Trying to get you fired of course Someone who is Successful and they feel successful and they're a winner not a loser Of course someone like that is never gonna do that They're never gonna do that to you because this is the thing with these Narcissists they are losers and deep down They know that they are losers That's why every day of their lives They're doing anything they can To not lose So that they can manage other people's perceptions and it's all about their false image So that it looks like they're not losing And then they don't have to feel Like a loser because that's all that this really is and yet Everything that they do in an attempt to not look or feel like a loser Those are actually all of the blatant signs that you have defeated them because if someone is a winner If someone has the qualities skills and abilities to succeed and be something great They don't need to manipulate lie deceive future fake Play these silly manipulative games They don't need to take someone else down They're not gonna be constantly Comparing themselves to someone else or watching what they're doing trying to Compete with them and I would do them no winner is gonna be doing anything like that Or even someone who just has the potential To be a winner to be something great They're not gonna be worried about any of that because all of their time energy and focus It's gonna be on becoming a winner because They have the belief they know that they can Well narcissists They have lost all hope in their lives They already know things are never gonna get any better for them So their focus is on you. It's about bringing you down To their level and even trying to put you beneath them If that's even possible If it is That's what they will try to do so By now, I'm sure you recognize this Concept that I am given to you Based on these signs that you have defeated them. I mean if someone does not feel defeated They don't feel like You've surpassed them. You've outdone them. You're ahead of them. If they don't feel that way They're gonna be able to maintain their self-composure They're not gonna be overly emotional They're not gonna be reactive At least not to the point where they feel like they have to destroy you and they have to take you down hurt people hurt people if they try to harm you or your life in any way it's because They feel like their false character Their false image and their False narrative their illusion their false reality Has been harmed It's caused a narcissistic injury. So now they seek to harm you as within so without How a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves So when a narcissist is treating you in a certain way You should already know exactly how they feel about you, but their feelings for you Really have nothing to do with you at all Remember their narcissists They're self-absorbed and they lack empathy their feelings are not even about you Their feelings are for themselves So they feel defeated and then they're projecting Their feelings of absence loss Failure disappointment Defeat They're projecting these feelings onto you and that may result in them taking certain actions Engaging in certain behaviors and sometimes you may feel Intimidated by what they're doing But you just need to remind yourself the reasons why they're doing that It's because they've been defeated And this is the case even if you're dealing with all of their fly monkeys They all feel defeated They feel as though they have been overpowered by you They have lost control over themselves and their lives because of you Because you're that great you're that special And they feel like they're nothing in comparison to you They feel completely inferior to you. So all they can really try to do is manage Your perceptions and other perception other people's perceptions of them, but then even even then really it's just about themselves Because it's all about how they feel about themselves That's all they're really concerned with Everyone else were just objects that they move around to create the desired effect We're just pawns on a chessboard All a narcissist is concerned about is themselves. They do not care about anyone or anything else It's all about them and yet When they got involved with you they began to realize that at some level it's not all about them and in fact You are Greater than them in many ways They felt like you stole the spotlight away from them You made them look and feel insignificant and inadequate in comparison to you Which is why they feel the need to level the playing field to make things even Because at some level yes, they recognize that they are dealing with a winner someone who is far more intelligent Creative Driven self-motivated hard-working and so many other things as well a Person who has so many wonderful qualities and abilities That they will never have They're never gonna have that They're never gonna be like you but most of all what they seek When they're doing these things When they're manipulating people When they're using their force character, they're wearing a mask They're cheating, lying, stealing whatever it is Spearing your name Trying to take you down trying to get you fired Trying to do all of these horrible things to you. What they're really trying to achieve when they're doing that is this feeling Because when they first targeted you they recognize that you have this feeling you feel great You feel satisfied with yourself Your achievements success and accomplishments You feel satisfied with your life You feel satisfied with the person that you've become and just by witnessing that It triggers them to reflect on the fact that they do not feel that way That they actually do not like themselves very much And in fact they despise themselves This is why they're always comparing themselves to other people. This is why they're so envious and jealous So possessive and controlling of you. This is why it's all to manage their feelings To regulate their emotions Which is something they can't do within like you can Because it's very easy for you. It's like all you have to do is just Admire yourself in the mirror your beauty How handsome you are and I know a lot of people these days they think that's narcissistic But that's actually self-love Because you're admiring who you actually are Not a false persona, so that's very healthy behavior. You're satisfied with yourself your appearance Your hard work your success your accomplishments the person who you are The person you've become but with them What have they got to be happy for? What have they got to be satisfied with? What have they got to be proud of? And what has anyone got to be happy with about them to be satisfied with Why would anyone feel proud of them because they're fake They're fraudsters They're Decepticons They manipulate people in order to get their knees met They lie they future fake they cheat lies steal They punish people they abuse They start smear campaigns they set out to destroy people's lives How could anyone Feel happy About being around a person like that. How could anyone feel satisfied with them? How could anyone be proud of them someone who's fake manipulative and abusive and yet Many of us we look at them and we wonder why they behave in the way that they do Because they know it's never gonna be for them How it is for you They're never gonna have that feeling that feeling of genuine pride and self-satisfaction It's never gonna be like that for them You think they're ever gonna look in the mirror See themselves as they actually are and actually feel proud Actually feel like they have done something right It's never gonna be like that for them And yet we wonder why they're so hyper sensitive to other people's success To other people's pride and self-satisfaction in themselves This is why Because they know they're never gonna have that They know it's never gonna be like that for them. They're never gonna have that moment Where they love and appreciate themselves. It's always gonna be something fake It's always gonna be based on Some lie some plot some scheme To manipulate someone To steal from them to tear them down to sabotage their life That's where their false sense of pride and accomplishment comes from destroying people From ruining their lives From keeping them down from holding them back based on the success of their Manipulation in the past Which means that it has no foundation no structure and in fact it has no basis in reality It's all just a fantasy that they've created inside their heads Because no normal person is gonna approve of that you think any normal person If you imagine that you're the narcissist for a moment You manage you go to them and you tell them. Oh, yeah, I just manipulated this person I lied to them Deceived them stole from them tear them down Ruined their life, but as a narcissist it's like Yeah, you came in with nothing But because of the manipulation and deception You left with a lot you think anyone if you imagine yourself as the narcissist doing that You think if you went to someone and you told them that And you acted like you're a winner You've accomplished something You think anyone is gonna be happy for you You think anyone is gonna feel proud Of course not And why Because you manipulated them You deceived them you cheated you elevated yourself at someone else's expense Someone who did not deserve that type of treatment and that's what makes it fake Because you didn't care about them, but we cared about them We care about these narcissists They exploit our empathy That's how they get one over on us But everything they do all of these lies and manipulations all of these Tricks and schemes It should only reveal to you That you have already defeated them they were already defeated By the world A very long time ago That's why they abandoned their true self who they actually are They created a false character. They chose to wear a mask Because they believe that who they actually out was not good enough And that's why they have to do the things that they do That's where they have to behave in that way and despite that they're gonna behave that way until the very end They're always gonna be like that They're never gonna be anything different. It's always gonna be that way for them And when you realize this I guess in some ways At least from afar you can have some pity Some compassion for them by recognizing that yes, they are just losers And they're doing everything they possibly can To avoid looking like they've lost To avoid feeling like a loser like I've said before in past videos Let's say you were having a race with an assist They wanted to race you in a hundred meter sprint You know what they would do before the race began. They would probably Tie you to a tree Or if you're dealing with a malignant narcissist, they might even break your legs Or they may just get in your head and psychologically abuse you before the race begins Whatever they do is to handicap you in their minds is to level the playing field To make things more equal and fair Because it's not fair for them when they're dealing with you You're far greater than them You're superior to them in ability and performance So they've got to hold you back They've got to tie you to a tree before the race begins And they'll go ahead and complete the race and then they'll come back to you and Flaunt the trophy in your face Yes, that's exactly what they will do And in their minds, they will feel like they have won They will feel like they have defeated you This is what we mean when we say that they are in denial That they have a false character That they live in a false reality Because if they were being real They would accept That they are liars, cheaters, manipulators Cornartists, Decepticons Losers They would accept that they have lost And if the narcissist does not accept that they have lost Then they're being fake They're living a lie They're living in a false reality And they've got to live that way until the day they die To protect themselves, their fragile ego Because they just can't admit or accept the truth But guess in fact And they always act this way but it's you The reality is that you are superior to them You're far greater than them in every way And this is why when you're dealing with them They've always got to go down They've always got to go low They've got to be deceptive They've got to be underhanded They've always got to be two steps ahead of you Because they know they're not going to stand a chance By being righteous, by being good By playing things fair And honest They know they're never Never Going to surpass Or outdo you in that arena They know they wouldn't stand a chance They know they would never Be able to match you in ability and performance This is why they do what they do All of the hurtful things they do to you It's because at some level they know that They recognize it that they're just not good enough They can't compete, there is no competition Between you and them They already know If it was actually a level playing field They wouldn't stand a chance You would wipe the floor with them It would all be over before it's even begun And this is why I say from the very beginning You have already defeated them Even before all of the things they do after that Because from the very beginning they manipulated you They deceived you They lied, they future faked They gave you a false character They pulled you into a false reality If those aren't signs of defeat I don't know what are And when you really look at it Everything they say Everything they do It's a sign That they have lost They have been defeated They have given up They have thrown in the towel They have gone a wall on reality They have given up Not only on themselves But on life And that's why everything they do is the opposite of normal It's the opposite of how things should be In reality This is why Because they failed at reality They failed at being normal So they look at it like ok If I can't win at reality I'll win at something else I'll create my own reality If I can't win by being myself I won't be myself I'll create a false character If I can't win by being normal I won't be normal anymore I'll be abnormal I'll be weird I'll be creepy I'll be a stalker So that's exactly what they do They use a false character They create their own reality They do the opposite of anything That is normal That is usual Typical or expected They'll do the opposite of all of that Because they've already lost They've already been defeated They were defeated a long time ago They already gave up So celebrate Your success Your achievement Because up until this point You didn't do that You can still be normal You can still be yourself You can still live and exist In the true reality You don't have to manipulate Or deceive anyone You don't have to cheat You don't have to lie You don't have to steal And I do believe That makes you a winner A champion That means that you have Defeated The narcissist Thank you all for joining me On another Narc Survival Live video Please hit that thumbs up Button down below Helps the YouTube algorithm To get this message out there To other survivors who may need to see it And if you would like to show your support To our community You can donate by leaving a super chat A super thanks In the comment section Or by going to my Paypal It is paypal.me Slash Narc Survivor Also don't forget to hit the subscribe button And click all notifications So that you will be notified When I upload a new video And if you would like to book A one-on-one coaching session with me You can go to my website It is NarcSurvivor.co.uk Also don't forget to follow me on Instagram Where I have new 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