 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. How y'all been? I know it's been a little while, but I'm back. Okay, so I had a bunch of topics that I was trying to figure out which one I'm going to do. So out of the few topics that people have requested, I only do one because I'm not experienced with some of these questions because I never lowered my standards that low in order to... I'm not making fun of y'all. But I never had that low of a standard to have to deal with these type of issues. So I don't think I'm qualified to give advice on it. So I'm just going to go ahead and skip through some of these requests and I'm going to go straight to the ones that I am familiar with. Let's see. Okay, so my choices were dating men who have kids, how ambitious women can be good girlfriends, and how to love yourself in order to attract more love to you in your life. So I'll just touch on the ambitious woman and the how to love yourself because when I first met my husband, I was in my career. I was looking for... I was all about work at that point. I spent 14 hours a day at work and I was... And I was very ambitious. I was not going to accept anything less than what I knew I deserved. Okay, I worked around funeral directors. I worked around men with money who owned funeral homes and y'all know that's big books, right? So I was working around millionaires. I was working around people like very important people and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So I wasn't just going to be dating anybody, right? So I was an ambitious woman at that time in my life. And for me, I had to date older men because I could not find a man on my level at my age doing the things that I was doing. So I had to date up. I had to date older because if I dated guys my own age, they were still out playing around. They hadn't gone to school yet or they were still in school or they weren't about their career. They were more about a job this week and a job next week, job to job. I had to get a career man and there was not that many career men my age out there that was looking to date, like seriously. So I had to go for an older guy, which ends up being my husband. So I think ambitious women should go for older men or men who are already established financially. This helps them to not overpower or emasculate their partner. If you're an overly ambitious woman and your partner is the same age and he's not as ambitious or successful as you, it's going to backfire soon. He's going to start feeling less masculine. He's going to start looking at women who will make him feel more manly who aren't as ambitious or competitive. So as they go for older or rich, they can teach you things. They can help you get to certain places in your career faster because they've been around longer. They have more connections if you're that ambitious type of woman. Most of the time older guys are not in a rush to pressure you into things because they've lived life. They're not all hyper and they're more smooth. So yes, ambitious ladies, the best boyfriend to have is either a very rich one or one who is a little bit older and established. If you're dating someone your own age, good luck with that. Especially if you're ambitious because you might leave them behind and you don't want to have them play catch up with you. Try to compete against you because instead of being a partner then you become their competition. I know a lot of people say you're supposed to push your spouse and you're supposed to push them. But eventually that guy is going to get tired of being pushed by you and he's going to want to feel like a man. So he's going to go find someone less than you and less than him that can make him feel manly and masculine like he's the man and he's going to be like, well you make me feel so manly and important like I need it and I can teach you things. So you don't want to date someone less than you or that you're going to excel past faster and you already know it. So unless you are in that role on purpose, unless he's like the house husband and he's comfortable with that or the artistic type that's never going to be a millionaire and just maybe by luck or chance. But he's not thriving in that direction and you are okay with it. Unless you're okay with it, I don't suggest dating any guys that aren't on your same level or higher. But to be a good girlfriend, if you are and you're trying to make it work, you're going to have to downplay yourself a lot. You're going to have to hold your tongue a lot. You're going to have to step back a lot. You're going to have to let him shine more sometimes in front of his friends and family. You're going to have to be less controlling. You're going to have to not be his competition but be more at his supporter instead of saying, well, I make this much money. How much do you make? Or I got a raise. Oh, you didn't get a raise? I have to work. I don't have time for you this weekend. I'm so sorry. I don't have time. I'm flying out tomorrow. I'm busy. A lot of those things can damage how the guy feels about himself as a man. You're going to have to act. You're going to have to act like when you get around him and his friends and stuff. You're going to have to act. You're going to have to act like the feminine, non-competitive woman that's his cheerleader. Y'all know that song? Ooh, I think that I found myself a cheerleader. You're going to have to be like that. He knows who you are. He knows what you can do and how ambitious you are. He'll love that you're supporting him and then he'll throw you a bone. He'll say, oh, she's so smart too. She's really good at what she does too. He'll start bragging about you. You have to act. You have to support him. You have to be his cheerleader. It can't be all about you and what you've done and what you've accomplished and how great you are and the raises that you've got. It can't be all about you. You have to act and push your ego down a little bit if you're an ambitious woman in a relationship. You're going to have to play the feminine role and just let him do all the talking most of the time unless the spotlight is on you. Don't interrupt him when he's speaking. Don't be like, well, you know what? A lot of women who are very ambitious find themselves correcting other people too much and they don't even realize it because they're so used to working and suggesting ideas to their coworkers. It just becomes habit. If you're like in charge of people at work, you're so used to bossing people around. So you're going to boss everybody around. It's just going to be like a second nature. So you have to kind of step out of that zone just once you get off work and just step into your more feminine shoes and your more supportive role and your more nurturing role as female. Okay. Okay. So I'm going to have time to cover the lesson. Yeah, okay. So I'll cover how to love yourself in order to attract more love to you. This is the biggest issue with women these days. No one loves me. They just want to use me. No one sees me as wifey material. A lot of women I know or see on Facebook, they're always catering to other people. They're always giving time to other people, doing things for other people instead of themselves. If a man sees you doing a lot of things for yourself, taking care of yourself, making yourself look good, dress good, your home is taken care of, your apartment is taken care of, wherever you live is taken care of, your skin is soft, your skin is moisturized, your teeth are nice. That shows self-love because you're taking care of yourself. If you dress nice, the clothes you wear, do they fit right? Because a lot of women will just buy some tight clothes to try to get attention from guys. But that's not really self-love. Self-love is buying nice pieces of clothing that make you feel good about yourself, not to get attention from other people. Let's just say they see somebody in a tight-fitting spandex dress and some heels on. That's to get male attention. We know that. But say they see a lady in a nice outfit that looks expensive and designer. She wore the outfit just for herself. She's not trying to impress men. This is what she like. She went to the store. She had a sales associate help her find some really nice, classic, chic clothes that are just very high fashion. You don't even have to spend a lot of money. You have dupe looks. A blazer. A nice pair of jeans. What do you call it? A midi skirt. A nice mock neck shirt. Kitten heels. Heels that aren't just club-like. Something that says, I bought this for me because I think it's pretty. This is not for every man to look at who doesn't really admire style. Let's get some celebrity examples. We know the shows Love & Hip Hop. You know how they dress on some of those shows and all their stuff is out. Then you have the classier ones who dress in nice design. They don't show all of this. There's a difference between classy and trashy. If you look trashy, that's not really self-love. You want to try to look more classy. If he took you right when he met you to meet his mother, that outfit would be appropriate. Unless you're in a beach or something like that. Basically, dress for yourself. Don't dress for men. Dress for what your style is. What you admire. The parts of your body that you love with classic, nice, clean pieces that say, I love myself. I'm going to dress myself. Not trying to get attention from men because I like this outfit. Men notice that. That's wifey when they see a lady nicely, classically dressed. That's wifey. They will go for the other girl because they want sex from her. The one that's dressed nice and loves herself is going to get the flowers, the candy, the courting, the dates. That's what she's going to get because he knows that she already expects that out of a man. If he even dares approach, he has to come correct. Love yourself more. It's going to teach other people how to treat you even women. Women are not going to talk trash about you as much as they would if you didn't love yourself. It's respect. The more you respect yourself, the more people will respect you. The more you love yourself, the more people will want to love you because they can't come incorrectly because they know you're not going to settle for less than how you treat yourself. Let's just say you drink Starbucks coffee every day. They're not going to bring you some cheap 50 cent coffee from the gas station. They're going to bring you Starbucks. Let's just say you like a certain type of music they're not going to say they're not going to turn on the music you don't like because they know. You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself. If you're walking around trash with your house slippers on, sliding your feet with a bonnet on your head and pajamas in the store they already know you don't love yourself and they already know you don't care about your appearance or the level of respect people have for you when you go out in public. They know you will settle for anything you'll be happy to get anything and so they're not going to give you their best they're going to give you their worst cleaned up and nice and pretty smelling good looking good hair nails make up classy outfit on you know clean car they're going to treat you like that they're going to treat you how you treat yourself. They're not going to even approach you the same way they might not even approach you at all because they're not together themselves and they just saved you a world of trouble so the men that will approach you they already know that they can impress you they already know that they have what it takes to date someone like you they already have a lot of the standards that you probably have from it so they're going to approach you and it might be few but the quality is better than the quantity when I used to now I used to dress up really nice and not that many men would approach me because they couldn't afford to approach a woman like me but the ones that did they were the ones that I would consider and I ended up marrying one so ladies love yourself and you will attract people who will love you and treat you the same way as you treat yourself thank you guys so much for watching thumbs up subscribe and share this video bye