 will the narcissist find someone better than me? I know that's a question that a lot of you have and I'd like to answer that question in this video. I have done a lot of research on this topic and of course I've seen it in my own experience. I mean especially for me I already know that every narcissist I've dealt with they're not going to find anyone better than me because as far as I'm concerned I am the best and it's not narcissistic for me to say that because I have put the work in. I've been for the trials and tribulations, I've struggled, I've suffered, I've worked very hard. I've been putting out these videos for almost five years every day and I take special care with my appearance and make a lot of effort with things in my life and I'm convinced that they won't find anyone better than me but even in the unlikely case that they did find, it wouldn't make any difference because they were very insecure around me, they couldn't exist around me, they felt like I was taking the spotlight away from them so it would be the same with anyone else if they did meet another high caliber person and even if they found a way to control their insecurities they would still find a way to screw it up just as they did with you. Remember how much effort you put into them, you did everything you could to make them happy but it was never enough, you did everything you could to make them feel comfortable around you and yet they still found a way to screw that up so what makes you think that they can move on find someone better than you and make that work that doesn't make any sense if they couldn't make it work with you they're not going to make it work with anyone else at least no one who's at your level no one who's capable of doing all of the things that you did for them they're not going to be able to sustain anything with someone at that level so from my own experience I know that our sisters in my life they're not going to find anyone else like me they will search for me in someone else but they will never find me they're never going to find anyone as successful as me as influential as sexy they're never going to find anyone like that but even in the unlikely case that they do it doesn't matter because they're not going to be able to sustain it they won't even sustain it half as long as they did with you because they lose their patience the more people that they deal with they become even more short fused and they expect more and more from people so the likelihood of them experiencing any form of satisfaction it just becomes even more and more unlikely the more people that they deal with but you become the measuring stick for everyone else after you whenever they meet someone new they are comparing them to you they're comparing their success wealth their physical appearance all of these things and I'd hope that after they've met you no one else is going to measure up no one else is going to be good enough just like you were never good enough for them it's going to be the same thing they're going to keep experiencing that over and over again and they are never going to be happy it's pretty clear that they will not find anyone better than you because you've just got to look at everything you did for them everything you put up with most people wouldn't put up with that they wouldn't tolerate it it would get on their nerves it would irritate them who would want to be around that no one but you are a rare breed you were willing to put up with a lot of things that most people wouldn't you stuck in it and you kept trying to make them happy you kept trying to make them feel more comfortable but it was never enough and you might think that it has something to do with you and they would love for you to think that but I can assure you it is not you it is them you are fine I've been watching my viewers for almost five years and in that amount of time I've done hundreds of coaching sessions and I can see that you are all beautiful intelligent people as I've said before, narcissists pick the best of the best they don't want the average person but after they've left you they have no choice but to downgrade it's a desperation pick they have to hurry up and find someone to replace you and they often run into the harms of another narcissist someone who is manipulating them someone who is tricking and deceiving them because there are a lot of narcissists out there there's a lot of scammers, carnitists people who aren't playing fair and they do run into those types of people people who are just like them so the very same thing that they did to you they end up finding people who do that to them they get a taste of their own medicine and I guess in a way that is their karma so you don't have to worry about it don't be jealous there is no reason to feel that way because they will not find anyone better than you I can promise you that but even in the rare case that they do it is not going to last long they will not be able to sustain a relationship with anyone because a relationship is the way in which two people connect but they never connected to you they never cared about you so how can someone who never cared about the person they're with move on and have a successful relationship with someone else that makes no sense that's impossible if that was going to be a possibility then they would have had to have cared about you and they would have tried to make things work with you you would have had a proper relationship then why didn't that happen the reason why is because they're self-absorbed and they lack empathy and yet they're very arrogant and entitled they have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance and they feel inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment who wants to be around someone like that only another narcissist only someone who is looking to use them for whatever they've got but in most cases they haven't got anything they're just lucky to take from you so they're lucky if they even find another narcissist or if they even find anyone because what have they got to give what have they got to bring to a relationship nothing they didn't have anything to bring to you other than an illusion an orchestration because they know how to plan and coordinate the elements of a situation to produce a desired effect but that's all it is it's just a mirage it's not real because if it was real you would have seen it they would have given that to you so don't fall for the manipulations don't fall for the illusions of their false self their false character it's only intended to manipulate you and if it's done that then it's done its job many of you especially after dealing with a narcissist you have low self-esteem I just have to tell her like it is if you're thinking that they're going to find someone better you need to remember just how great you are because they pick the best of the best and you need to know that just remember all of the work you put in everything you did for them remember that you did so much you put up with a lot most people wouldn't do a fraction of what you did for them and you just need to remind yourself of that you need to remind yourself just how great you are you need to write down some affirmations read them out every day write a list of things that you are grateful for read it out every morning every night let it sink in because if you've been involved with a narcissist they have been invalidating you they've been putting you down or ignoring you not giving you the recognition that you deserve and why? because they're insecure they don't feel like they're good enough to be around you so how could they ever feel good enough to be around anyone who is anywhere near your level they could never so no matter who they find you can be sure that they're gonna screw it up the best chance they had was with you if they were gonna make anything happen it was with you that was the best chance they had they had because you did so much for them you put up with a lot and I don't think anyone else is gonna do that anywhere near to what you did and to what you put up with them no one else is gonna do that you were the grade A source of supply and you need to remind yourself of that and that is how you know that they are never gonna move on it may look like they've discarded you they've just forgotten about you they've rode off into the sunset like you don't matter you don't even exist but they are still watching you they're still watching what you're what you're up to they're checking in they want to see what you're doing they want to see who you're with they can't just leave you alone because they know they screwed it up they might not ever admit it but deep down they do know that's why they become so defensive when you try to confront them or when you start bringing the truth to them that's why they become so defensive that's why they get so mad that's why they project and deflect and try to shift the blame onto you because deep down they do know they know that they're insecure they know that you are better than them they know that they're never gonna find anyone as good as you they know all of that stuff that's why they react in the way that they do that's where they play these stupid games if they didn't believe that deep down then they wouldn't react in that way there would be no reason for them to do that if they were secure in themselves they react that way because they're insecure because deep down they know the truth so don't ever think that they can just move on and find something better than you that is never going to happen and I know any narcissist in my life they are never gonna find someone better than me that will never happen not in a million years and even if they do find someone who's even a fraction of what I was to them they're gonna screw it up even if it takes a few weeks or months they will find a way to mess it all up they always do just like they mess things up with you so don't worry about that don't ever think that they're gonna move on and find someone better I'll be happy without you that will never happen I can promise you that all right that's all for this video 50 live viewers please 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