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Let's watch this check it out Copyright disclaimer under section 107 of the copyright act 1976 Allowance is made for fair use for purposes such as criticism comment news reporting teaching scholarship and research Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing Non-profit educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use No copyright infringement intended all rights belong to their respective owners True talk to me strict greens live in Nottingham where Tracy and Ben a training 11 year old daughter Shantae for the 2012 Olympics Birmingham is the home of the free-loving Ramsey found Chris and Bray a swing this is episode season 8 episode 10 I just whatever was available is what I jumped into. I'm gonna treat this like police interceptors. Whatever we can watch we will They have that doesn't need to be in chronological order for us to understand anything and live with their kids 16 year old Ginny 18 year old Ray, Jr. 19 year old Sam and her three-year-old daughter Jess Got a lot of kids Tracy and Chris have agreed to swap families for two weeks to find out what they can learn about themselves and each other What happens when a tough? Disciplarian is forced to spoil his daughter. You're supposed to be her parents. I also supposed to God and explain to her understand. You don't get everything just like that That's true Is there just the intro cuz I don't want to see no intro You feel me But I got a feeling we supposed to get you to feel the need to have sex I think just like that How will a laid-back dad cope when he's forced to get tough you're supposed to be out don't you understand And what will a traditional mum make of a real wife swap? This is fetish. Do you want to stand on there? No Is this something missing in the relationship to feel the need to have sex out of the marriage I Got a feeling this is gonna be hilarious See I'm more of this style, but I'm also the other style as well But I'm more of this stuff like I'm disciplinary we got to do a stuff by the book But I'm also understanding what it was like being a child The Green family from Nottingham are super fit Mum Tracy and stepdad Ben's goal is for 11 year old Shantae to swim for England in the 2012 Olympics This is an 11 year old Yeah, this is an athlete 100% I hope my daughter this like I hope my daughter is this tall when she's 11 I know she is because she's kind of tall now She's training on and she's training six times a week. She's born a hundred and ten percent every time she trains So hopefully and her targets will like giving her she's achieving them When she did the other day I said to you didn't to work could you have gone quicker? She says yeah So she's not done it before Tracy wants to see Shantae succeed where she failed When I was a kid I was a very good swimmer like that's the bad side Did your daughter choose to be a summer? Did you turn her this way on tears? Well, and I was spotted and my dad said no Didn't want me to go Shantae's grueling swimming schedule dominates the entire family routine Mom and dad take equal responsibility for keeping the program on course as well as sharing the chores You work together as a team and then you'll have more time to actually together that person just she got a different genetic makeup than her been mom but let's not I'm not trying to say nothing or sound crazy, but we all know like This is a different DNA. This is the different code of DNA Obviously two people met had intercourse had a child But this is like a different splice like a different. You know what I'm saying. I don't want to say don't make me say They will say sport gives dedication. It also teaches him just saying that just bring them in a young age And then they'll learn when they get older Shout out to Michael Phelps though Their strict regime for Shantae includes fines for neglecting her many chores and misbehaving. Huh? I just think it's good. So I like no worry. I'm kind of thing. So I'm not too naughty There is no such thing as too naughty for Chris and Ray Ramsey The Birmingham couple a real-life wife swappers swinging is intimate fun with each And with other consenting Freaky freaky When Chris was just 21 and Ray was 38 What that's not weird at all Ray was your mom and dad's best friend And y'all got together when you were 21 and he was 38. So how long did bro have an eye out for you? I See, I'm okay. We're getting deep here I see a little bit of something else that might need to call 999 about like I don't So Hello Is this 999 yeah, I'm watching UK wife swap and I just heard something crazy Yeah, no, I don't I can't repeat it. I can't you would not be proud of it like somebody come get this man, please These days it's Chris who treats 60 year old Ray like a baby doing everything for him Their free living ways also extend to their parenting there's no rules in there's no discipline in the house They're rule the house really They rule the house they don't push their kids to do anything And the kids do what they want 19 year old Sam has chosen to be a lap dancer I like the job because it's more like a night out for me because I can go out and I can see my friends I can have a drink I can have a stick of that I mean I can earn money as I spend in there and then they'll come in This is what happens when you don't like when you're home when you're a father, but you're present, but you're not present Like what are you doing? Father is not supposed to keep daughters off poles and jet in and sons out of jail That isn't you failed as a father. I'm sorry. I'll say it brofail Meanwhile Sam leaves much of the childcare to her mom Chris Time for me. I want to go out But we have to now think about who's gonna have Jess my job evolves around Jessica as a nurse Chris has a demanding job But she still has to fetch the family's takeaways seven days a week and even buys her kid's cigarettes I love my daughter and I want her to live alone a long thriving life I'm gonna clean a bottle. I'm just gonna be a lot of judgment here. I see I'm I'm judging She not bloody babysitter taxi driver. I'll do everything I think it's always good to be a good mix though before meeting them like one don't one somebody when both sides are too strict Eventually if you're too strict of a parent eventually Your daughter is going good out here and go crazy Let's let's keep it a buck. We know this at least in America. We know this All the good girls with with strict parents by the time they get kid to kid college and it's free realm Oh, it's over. They're done for her body count zero to a thousand respectfully though and allegedly But you know, that's what you got to find that it's a thin line Families Chris and Tracy have the chance to look around their new home Definitely younger this pot is in the living room. There's nothing as well In the living room. No kids can generally annoy me Somebody's in the swims god Is that enforced on the child or does she enjoy doing it? Good question. That's the same question I asked Things Raymond don't eat So they don't need to ship his pie cottage pie or lasagna if shanta put a list up saying she wouldn't eat that Then she'd eat it. I'd make it. She's really I'm getting a vibe. She's definitely forcing her daughter to swim mom. I don't want to swim. Yeah, you got to swim I hope they don't get up early in the morning to go swimming I'm not getting up at any time to go. This must be the lover of Jesus Christ. It's very organized up here They're very straight nice family Both wives have written a manual as a guide to running their homes There are lots of people in our house, but I don't believe in rules or discipline How can you like it disordered and undisciplined with no rules? She's very ambitious and trying six days a week. What other life does this girl have apart from swimming? Many people would think that we have a very strange relationship. We are swingers Crazy people share the partners. I would never share my husband I'm not gonna cap. I would not share my girl either. I can't in no way Plus I'm laying down pipe. So it don't matter There's some things like in the relationship because otherwise you wouldn't swing Jesus Christ What a manual the child swims more than she has a life Get up This is rude. You got to get up when you're greeting people See that's good manners Already off top the other wife His not this wife. The other one she thinks they're but she's above them That's why she didn't feel the need to stand up. You know, I'm saying I'm out here really counseling really breaking this down Hello, darling, my name's Chris. Hello, young lady. Hello Oh, thank you. Oh, how nice, you know what? That's great manners. Oh, that's nice. Don't worry I want to get the buffer right because I don't want you moaning at me. So do you like More used to an equal partnership Tracy must now play the role of dutiful wife. First task is running Ray's bath and laying out his clothes Ray is the grown man. That's the death. Okay Running his bath He fun to put but the porcelain They just anything by way of what everybody says. So generally just that I want to come in. I'll just put myself some shorts. I'm gonna take you out. Yeah I can't just maybe I'm just too much of a feminist for even running the bathroom Weird I do it. I wanted to do it, but I wouldn't do it because it was part of my duty I mean, I get it like Running a man's a bath occasionally But first and foremost, I'm taking a shower I need to I don't like to sit in my own dirt in my own filth Like what for men that take for anybody that not no, this is about men for men who take shower baths Do you get up and shower afterwards? Because you really sitting in your own dirt right now you you you you a you a man stew You a man soup you brining You marinating So good. I'm very impressed so far. Oh my goodness. I'm a day one There's been no pressure on me yet Tracy's next chore is dinner And as usual it's a takeaway Okay, I can kind of see the format of the show They come in they do it their way that if you run it as a normal show And then she switches and they do it how they would normally do it at their other place And didn't they try to find a common ground or something? She's genuinely not a believer in her If you don't eat enough to get the dirt alive I think there was nothing nutritionist on that and that little baby tonight brought chips and nuggets and she Hey chill out my daughter be eating chicken nuggets and chips almost She hey listen Nah, but she uh also eats vegetables This is bizarre this is a cooker Dinner's also proving to be an issue in Nottingham Veg Should I cook spaghetti bolognese? Have you got pasta sauce and stuff? Um bolognese sauce and no we'll make her own Okay, um if you got some oil Okay Some oil for to fry all right to fry the mince yeah well i'm gonna I'd a fries in its own Do you not put any oil in it? No no no it fries in its own fact, don't it see the front one's too high So I always put on the back one to see I put that one to the back Put it onto the back Yeah, I don't know. Hey, what was he trying to fry with the oil? The meat You don't put oil in meat at all. Yeah, it cooks in its own fact. Yeah, turn it down Don't worry I'm just I'm just watching what I'm just actually watching what you do is it I work poison Yeah, we'll have some fun after a few days or it's just start getting on my nerves I think Yeah, it's very controlling because obviously now I'm trying to cook dinner. Um He's trying to get in there and do it here the way so I think we're gonna have to One thing I will not do is like Hover over a woman if she's trying to cook dinner I said that she even has to but if that's something that she that like I would never hover over a woman when she's doing something that she's doing Because at the end of the day She's gonna get annoyed And she's gonna stop trying to put that effort forth you Issues about what he shouldn't shouldn't do is that'll be fun spends house But it could be my house next week my rules Oh for a week they do it It's strict mom tracy greens first day living in the liberal ramsey's home Her first job is to look after baby jets Whilst mom sam and her boyfriend recover from a night Ain't no way no why her boyfriend and her what? First of all your 19 year stripper You make money every day and you got your boyfriend living at the house while i'm babysitting you a bit get out Get out get out 100% get out you're not staying here no more. It's a dud Chris she's acting like mom to the child rather than grandma just needs to Realize that mom's the boss and grandma's just grandma. Do I get 100% agree in the morning? Yeah, what time does she get up she'll get up about it depends there is normally about half past seven eight o'clock Sam leaves jess in mom's care four days a week While she goes to work in Cheltenham as a lap dancer Yeah, so they went she comes down. What does she like to do? She'll just sit at the turning when she wakes in the morning. She'll just sit at the turning bottle She won't do anything. It's fine. Do she like to watch it? That is so toxic. Don't do that to y'all kids, bro Like today, I let my daughter watch no not today. Was it today? Yes, it was today in the morning. I let her watch tv all morning And it was the biggest mistake of my life like the day was a lot harder Because that's at the end of the day. She just wanted tv tv tv like It's not a good thing They get like hypnotized. It's almost like a like a like a class a or something For them She controls the telly she does it's like from eight in the morning to like She watches tv from eight in the morning to bed I'm almost positive that she has trouble putting her to sleep every night and control telly's And she throws mad two retentions all the time. This seems to be a chain of um Not having good mom interaction skills And it seems to be going down the family starting from grandma to mom to daughter To their daughter and you know, you've got four generations there And it could hit a fifth if the pattern don't get amended Next up, it's the breakfast run to mcdonald's. I gotta agree with that When it was mentioned take my breakfast hat. That's the one I really really couldn't get around I don't even let my daughter have chocolate cereals in the morning At the greens in nottingham chantay has got herself ready and with early morning chores already done She's off to the gym She does swimming six days a week Outside activities away from swimming. She hasn't got your life is promoting. Yeah I'm not gonna tell you like this. Nobody's right 100 right here. So either side is pushed into her swimming A lot of your effort and your time is pushed into her swimming. Yeah You are promoting you and tracy are doing everything for her Right because you want to do the best for her I am doing exactly the same. Why what the best for my children? So I give my children the best But that isn't being the best for them. Why isn't it spoiling them like I said, what's wrong with spoiling your kids? What's the problem then in that respect or they do gratitude for them. They do deep down. I think they're right They do a deep down. That's cap They don't we've seen it. I think No, your oldest daughter is showing you gratitude by by going out all night party and coming home laying up with her boyfriend And letting you take care of her child That ain't gratitude You brainwashed, I hope that they respect me While the family enjoy yet more tv time This is Tracy's had to pick up the second takeaway of the day Take away all day The chip shot was absolutely rammed You know if you and chips and graver did cook overnight do you think you prefer that then takeaways? I'm just curious because obviously it's my only second time I've been here and had two takeaways Yeah, I prefer takeaway Really? Yeah, as long as I don't want to pick them It's about 25 pounds that we stood on tonight's dinner That's a lot of money and there's a lot of unnecessary fat calorie empty Dinner in the greenhouse is a healthier option with Chante special training diet Whoever comes in first it's got to start a dinner because she has to go swimming And she has to eat for a certain time so we have to get dinner done as quick as we can Like I could I could dig what they're saying If the if my child has made the choice to want to be an athlete Then yes, I'm I'm gonna be all in for you. Let me all right, Dan If you want to be an athlete you want to get me ahead of everybody else trying to be an athlete Let's do it But they would have to make that choice like I'm not making that choice for my child Like I'm gonna give I'm gonna I'm gonna lead you to this water And if you choose to do whatever whatever my daughter chooses to do I'm gonna rock out with it No matter what it is As long as this, you know what I'm saying like obviously something, you know After dinner the family's evening is devoted to Chante swimming But she's up down that line for an hour. There's too competitive for an 11 year old There's too much competition in anything now in sports as well And then the government That's not what I said. It's not if she's made the choices now What I'm saying is she's 11 She's 11. Yeah, but the stars at the start at four and five Well, that's wrong. It's up to you what you're on your daughter to do. They're doing exercise My daughter, Sam, pulled down Sam just ran a pole all night and day all night That's she is Physically fit She does she does as she works. That's her training when she works and she does that four days a week four nights a week Do you really want your daughter to do that then? Do I want her to make her happy then? There's no difference between you supporting Sean and everything she does and backing her 100% because that's something she loves to do And there's no difference to me and my daughter who chooses to let dance and hold dance because that's something she wants to do I'm saying to you It's coming across as if that's something you you think is Disgusting I'll find it wrong. Yes. Do you know lap dancers and prostitutes. They're different That's a real general like that's a gentle that's what they do crossover. No, they don't Yes, they do I live in Miami. I'm telling you yes, they do They don't because you're comparing that somebody's a lap dancer or a pole dancer He's also into prostitution and they're not 95% in Miami that that's the rate It's rare that it's not like that I says it's a crossover. Well, they don't some do delusional Well, not as far as I'm aware they don't and I think that's a I should ask them He more or less seems to be waited that you know if you're a lap dancer the pole I'm told and she would prostitute I thought That's my daughter you're talking about Right, you know that's my line here because I will flip In the Ramsey house Ginny's extreme views cause concern for Tracy What That I just don't know occasion people Why You just want to go out and shoot them, right? No, it's not like that. Every time I go to a boy for a job, I walk in the next day, that's someone I didn't see before, and then I have it. You know, if you met somebody, and they were really nice, would the fact that they're Asian plow job? No, it's not like that. Oh, right, so it's not just Asian per se. Right. What about you? It's generally a bit... So it looks like it's... Is it... This is sad. This has passed down from generation. This is... He does not learn... He does not... picked up his top... His top from the top down. Yeah, but not all Asians, at all. Yeah, I know, but it's like... most of them are. You can't just say, I don't like you, you Asian. I was surprised that Dad didn't pull her up for it really. Do you think you're the strict parent of your wife? I used to be the disciplinarian, but Chris reckons on I was too strict with them. Do you find the chicken... See what I said about her? You can see. What I said about earlier about, oh, I would never stop a woman from doing what I would never hover over, and your wife should have never stopped you from doing what you was doing, because that's what a man's job is supposed to be. And that's why your oldest daughter is on that pole, allegedly, is what I would think. You're not dissing them? Oh yeah, definitely. So you've been fortunate going back to staying? It's too late now. Never too late. Never too late. 100%. Never too late. The rules of the house allow the boyfriends of 19-year-old Sam and 16-year-old Ginny to regularly stay over. Nothing, though. Unfortunately, last night, I, you know, I could hear Sam and a boyfriend through the wall. Well, Jess was in the room. I didn't hear Jess wake up. But surely, if I could hear it from my bed here, and my bed's not on the wall, and it was loud, then Dad's got to have heard that. And do you go on his video? I thought that not. Can you go on and say, do you mind? That's disrespectful. She has no respect for her dad at that point. I should have a boyfriend stop over. Not if she was living at home at 26 or whatever. Talk about it. Talk about it. Definitely think it's going to rain, Ben. My daughter wouldn't want to do that. Out of respect. That's what happens when your kids don't respect you. But in the green home, there is no time to relax. So you're dying the inside out first. And then just quick rush on the outside. But you're going to see the inside, and it's like double getting the crease of that. It drives me barmy. Because it's like, I've got to do something. Because if you knew the amount of steam you're using there, you'd probably get away with it. It's like, move out my way. That's like my role. About to control. Ben's way, or no way. That's how I feel. That's stopping. My role changed. Like I said, neither one of these families are like 100%. Nobody is perfect. Nobody's parenting techniques is perfect. Period. But they are both on opposite ends of the extreme though. While Ben keeps the garden under control, Chris grabs some time with Chante. Most of these are just from school garlers. So what was the first medal you ever got? This one. That was at my old club. Do you think something's quite competitive? This is what I'd be looking for when I'd be looking for a wife. When a man is looking for a wife, when me personally, if I'm looking for a wife, you can't be the exact same as me. Because when we have kids, something is going to slip through the cracks that I'm not going to be like, no, we've got to be opposites. A little bit. If you don't see something, I'm going to say if I don't see something that I would normally see you with or you would normally, we would catch each other's short haps or whatever. Yeah, but you've got to be. What about the girls that you swim with? Basically, they're my target kind of thing. Do you think there's other things other than swimming that you'd like to do? I like everything. But I think if I didn't go swimming, then I'll just, I don't know. And then I would like, is that what you're frightened of then? If you don't go swimming, you become lazy. So who put you on to swim in them? Is that your mum? She's not letting Shantay be a child. She's been made a clone of a mother. You know, because Tracy didn't get to do it. Yeah, I see. Tracy's whole, her, the mom, failed athlete, pushing your daughter to be in a sport and make it. I don't like that. I don't like that. She's infringing her values on Shantay and that she's, you will go swimming. You will do this, you will do that. But nothing else has been encouraged outside curriculum. There's more to life than swimming up and down a piece in pool all day. In Birmingham, Tracy is having a night out Ramsey style. Swinging. What do you want to drink? Jack Daniels and Coke, please. Jack Daniels and Coke, right? Jack and Coke. That's a suspension. You can use it for different things, to be honest. This is fetish. Sadia masochist. Do you want to be shoved up with your wrists? I've always thought there's people that swim. There's got to be something missing in the relationship because if you're happy in what you had, then there wouldn't be a third party involved. Do you want to stand on there and I can show you? No, no, no. Thank you anyway. Is there something missing in the relationship to feel the need to have, not have to, but to have sex out of the marriage? We find it brings us closer together because we have our fantasies instead of him having a fantasy and me having a fantasy. We can talk about and have a dual fantasy and fulfill that fantasy too. You've got to be super like-minded to do this. Together. But to just go out and have sex with someone and sorry, I didn't mean to, it meant nothing. To me, why do it then? Wow. Because we're men with animals. Why do it? Absolutely. It's an actual urge isn't it? But we're on different scales with that. You've got to be very careful how you approach it. You can't force it. But tonight, talk about swinging is as far as Tracy is prepared to go. That was just the wildest scene. UK television is crazy. It's all changed though and both wives are keen to make their mark. Oh yeah, okay, here we go. Oh yeah, we're going to make some people mad now. I'm not doing it to annoy the kids. I'm doing it to get them to communicate. Distance. Chinese is. Chinese. Like one family is super uptight. They do need to relax a little bit. And then the other family is like way too relaxed. They need some type of order. This family has far too much discipline and authority and not enough fun together. You all live in this family but you don't tend to function properly together as a family, united. You're trying very hard, okay? I know that you love your swimming. But I feel you need to take a week off. A week? We're going to spend a girly day out. Get your nails done. Look at some clothes. Have some pizza in your bedroom. Some ice cream. Some pop. Some music. She do need to like, y'all need to let that girl be a kid at least once or twice out the week. Do you clean up after tonight? Oh absolutely, you're not touching it. But I'm going to do it when I'm going to do it. Not as she drops them. Sam, you probably wouldn't like me saying this but I think Jess, while she's too much television, you know I think she's an intelligent kid. And I know what you're going to say. I have enrolled her in a nursery. Relative to the point in nursery, I'd be quite happy to wait until she's in preschool or something. Well you're almost there. Ah! By the time you're a kid, if you're not doing the proper things at home between the ages of one and four, your kid is going to be so behind when preschool time comes, it's going to be ridiculous. Like all TV, your kid, she was going to be behind. But I will not go into nursery. Ben. And why not put her in nursery? You'd be asleep anyway. Grandma, you ain't taking care of yourself, of course it's all white. You ain't got no responsibilities when it comes to that. You need to loosen up your attitude. No more household chores. You do farting much in this house. He's going to do it all. Me? I will. So no more cooking. It's take-aways or we eat out. You're going to turn to a right? Roly-poly. Absolutely. It can be a roly-poly. Ben has to be a couch potato. He's not allowed to do anything. There's something on the floor and we can't pick it up. Even if you're out of bed and you're bedding messy, you can't untie it up, which I'm still going to do. I think she's punishing me. She's trying to say how. Like them together? Him? With the woman that's in his house right now? That's the yin and yang thing that I'll be looking for. Like let me be the strict, you be the loose parents, and together our kid will be great. The household will be great. We'll figure it out. You know what I'm saying? As long as we can find a common ground in between both, it's going to be solid. Both strict or both lazy, it's crazy to me. Things you know I don't like doing, the things you've got me doing, the things I like doing, you're stopping me from doing. That says to me that's punishing someone. Ray, I don't think you pull your weight in the marriage. I think that Chris does tend to baby you a bit. You've said before that you think that the kids do take the mick and you don't agree with the behaviour and disrespect at times. So I need you to tackle this. I personally don't agree with the kids having the partners stay over as I personally find it disrespectful. I wouldn't let my daughters do that. Tracey's rules may not be popular with the women, but the man of the house is a willing convert. To the new rules. To the new rules. I have elect Chris run the house. She wanted to. Right real wrongly, I'll sit back and let her. So yes, Ramsey strikes back. The Ramsey man is going to be a dad again. Ramsey man's first mission is to take charge in the kitchen. Sam Bro got his testosterone snatched from him by his wife. Like that's tough. That that man be a man and he'll let you be a woman. Like don't tell, don't do that. It's nice to do this because I've never done this before. If I'd have had my way. You over cooking that thing, but okay. It's done. It's done. But it's off the before now. But Tracey just told me it would have been wrong. Hello. And where's the seasoning? Y'all know lorries? Can we have chicken balls in the batter? Yeah. And can we have some chips? In Nottingham, Shantae's training diet is the first thing to go. Looks quite nice actually. It tastes all right. Yeah. She should definitely have a cheat meal. Like come on now. She's 11 on a diet. I'm pretty sure they're hitting all major categories and she's getting the maximum of whatever she needs to stay healthy and strong as a child. But like. Occasionally. Looks quite nice actually. It tastes all right. Yeah. Today as part of the rule changes, Chris is taking Shantae on a shopping spree. Nice. I hope he'll be coming at the end later and having fun. And the emphasis being on fun because at the moment she's not having that much. Yeah, I kind of agree on this home front man. But if she would have came to continue on the same path when she got 18, it was going to be crazy. Gotta experience fun before it gets too crazy. Oh, they're nice. Do you feel comfortable in them? Yeah. You could buy those. I just said to Ben as a walking man, I tell you what, you get those for Shantae. It's like, okay, I buy it then she can be back later. I went, no, you buy them for her. So let's spoil her. And the look of shark on his face because he's got to get his wallet out. Next we're going to go to a designer shop, Sharn. Sharn. Up there there's a designer shop. So we'll have a look. Have a look. We've got Ben, he's got a platinum card now. He's got a platinum card. We'll have a look and see what's in there. All right, we'll treat you. Have some fun. It's nice to spoil them now and then. It is, as long as they thank you for it. But if they get used to it, then they're not grateful for it. What do you like and what you don't like? Do you like the jeans? I don't think they look right. They look lovely aren't they? I think they look nice on you. I don't want them on me. I don't want them there. She tried to force me to buy these clothes I didn't want to buy, you know. I didn't want Ben to buy them. They said I didn't want them. Thank you very much. Bye. She didn't want them on Ben's behalf though. All right, bye. Thank you. It's not about Ben spending money. It's about Ben spending time and letting Si and Ty grow up into a young lad and have fun and have fun. Under Tracy's new rules, 16-year-old Ginny is due home at 10.30. It's now 11.15. Where's Ginny? Aaron's. What now? Right, can I have the phone to phone please somebody? Hello, Ginny. I want you home now, players. Come on. The principle of it is... We agreed on... We agreed on half past ten. It's the first time Bro did that. She was trying to twist it. She was trying to say that you said as long as she didn't say it in the same room. The difference is, Ray, I said half past ten for a start. It's called past eleven. So what's she doing out of the house? Really five minutes late. Ten was my first deadline. She said eleven. It just seems every time I negotiate with Ginny, she takes the... I'm sorry I'm swearing, but... You're right, you're right. So I think what I've learned with Ginny is don't negotiate. Yeah, just don't negotiate. An hour after curfew, Ginny finally appears. Well, Ginny, why are you in trouble, Ginny? I said half past ten. Yeah, I'm watching that round. But you don't know, you don't want anyone back. I'm watching round to get his keys. But you don't. That's what I'm saying. I've come home, I'm half past ten. We agreed. What it seems Ginny, every time I negotiate with you, you take the mech. Yeah, you do. You said half past ten, I was in yesterday. Dead on half ten. You went tonight? I didn't give you half past ten. I bought you a half past ten. I'm in half eleven yesterday. I wanted you back round to get his keys. I bought you a half past ten. That was the rules. You don't know what I want him around. He's the man. He can drive you off and do it by himself. I've bought you a half past ten. I want you back round to get his keys. You're not supposed to be out, don't you understand? Half past ten, we said. Yeah, I was back for half past ten. But don't give a s***. Half ten, we said. The end of the day, you should have been in. You shouldn't have been out. What, did you go out the house? To get his keys? What, are you going to get his keys? Are you just going to meet his dad? You're making a shoot, you're making a shoot. To be honest with you, Ray, we're asking for this because we're standing there explaining ourselves. You don't seem to explain stuff, but nobody comes around. No, I don't. We're not, we're not here. I'll tell you something. You can give your dad your mobile for a start. You can tell everybody about it. And don't go anywhere tomorrow. You can't go anywhere. Well, that's good. So... Ah, punishments. No, it isn't all that at the moment. No, I'm really, I'm really not. I've given you my time. I've got you, bro. Well, at the moment, that's what I've said. You can say bye to Aaron. Too dumb, really. Hey. I'm making balls. Do you like it? Yeah, thank you, boss. Yeah, so it's done. It's time I was like, oh my God, I'm going to kill her. And I just wanted to give up. I just wanted to think, no, I said I've had enough. You know, I can't see my boyfriend then. You've seen your boyfriend all day. All day. Just being home at 10.30. You can see that man from wake up to 10.30, you know. Why should I stick it out? I try to suggest to me to basically go back to where I was and discipline wise for this task. And I don't see why I don't carry on. I don't see why. Because I think I'm getting more out of it. You know, short-term, okay, the kids want to talk to me. I think long-term, they'll benefit. That's facts. Well, I've never noticed you've tied it up in here. Just once, I've got it over in real life. Chris has taken over the household chores. But Ben's finding it hard to let go. The table could do with a good cleaning. We haven't used it, so what does it do with cleaning? She hasn't done it, but when you change the rules, she didn't do it the next day. It's fine. So we're not doing it the next day. But we haven't used it. It's a bit of dust. It ain't dust. That's crumbs. All right. You've got crumbs everywhere. She hasn't usually tied his shoes around here. But it's a hallway. You put things in a hallway. Yeah, you do. But if you're going towards upstairs, it's tripping, I said. No, it is. No, it is, but it is. It is. It is. It's stuck. I'm stuck. I'm living with an 80-year-old. I know he's a little older than me, but not. That's good negative. That's good negative. Talking behind that man back. He whispered in his house. That's negativity. And that? Yeah, I did that on purpose. No, that's the coffee machine. Actually, the lid on the coffee machine. I didn't do that on purpose. Seriously, that's a coffee lid thing. What I'm saying is it would have been cleaned up. I don't think about things like that until I'm doing them. But it's like, you're walking around going... Yeah, but what I'm saying is it's like, say, slippers there. He is nitpicking. Once you're tripping up them. And that's that bothered you now, those slippers there? But no cap. As soon as I do something, I normally clean it up. Like, that's just how I was taught. I was raised by women, so it's like, you've got to clean up ideas. Yeah, that's because to me it's a tripping, I said. In the Ramsay house, Tracy's rules are starting to pay off. Do you understand I was in the wrong last night? I'm sorry for that. I weren't raving mad, but I was quiet. I felt let down. That's the thing that didn't happen. I said I was raised by women. I ain't saying nothing about all women being the same. I said I was raised by women. The woman I was raised by. But I do understand all women ain't the same. Some women dirty, some women not dirty. Some men dirty, some men not dirty. You got to go whatever you got to go with it, man. Oh, you know what I'm going to argue with you because... Cleaning up after yourself should just be... It should just be innate. Like, what are you... If I spill something on the floor, I'm walking away from it? No. What are we even talking about, right there? And then you have children and you expect it to be any different. They see you spill something and walk away. They're going to do it. And then they're going to do it at other people's house. So they're going to be looking at you like, Bro, what are you teaching? You got no home training to your parents? No. You are a reflection of me. And that reflection got to be me. Period. I ain't out here teaching no wrong. I mean, okay. I'm not saying I'm not perfect. Because me and my daughter, we'd be listening to rap. We'd be doing all types of stuff. You know what I'm saying? We'd be turnt up. But at the end of the day, respect is going to be respect. You hear me? Like respect for the crib. Respect for somebody else's crib. Respect in your elders. Like, we're not doing that. Period. I'm going to raise my voice because you're not my mom. I have more respect for you. Yeah, they mind about example for sure. Exactly. Tracy now has some time off, as Sam has taken on all the mothering duties for baby Jess. And you see how quick they adapt it? When the rules was put into place, do you see how quick they adapt it? Yes, they showed argument at the first day, but Sam was out there. Sam was the one that she was talking to outside. She was like, you know what? You're right. Of course. Of course. It's nature. That's in... Like... It's actually making a big difference to my life. And that's just the thing that's actually quite a good thing. And the more and more I think about it, and the more and more I like the changes, and the more and more I... Of course. It's easy to fall in line when stuff is already in your nature. I see myself as being a different person, which is a good thing. Are you tired, Jess? Don't you dare go to sleep. Under her new rules, Tracy is making Sam put Jess into nursery and find a job. I've seen a lot of bad-tempered kids come out of nursery, and I've seen them swearing and things like that. And I don't want that for Jess. Jess is quite content with just me. She's learning a lot from me as it is. This time, this is a very touchy subject. It's a very emotional subject. As a mother, you always try and give 100%. So what I'm a little bit apprehensive is, I'm not here to make her feel a bad mom. I'm here to help her try and help her be a better mom, I suppose. Yeah, that's the key. It's a real thin line. It's her toys. It's her children's toys. She's gonna drop that daughter off. She's gonna run and go play. She's gonna have the best time of her life at this daycare. This is Mum, by the way. Internet, ready? To help Chante keep in touch with her friends and have more fun, Chris has moved the computer into her bedroom. No, not in the bedroom. To have access to it, yes, but in the bedroom, I don't know about that. What does Tracy use that? What do you mean, what does Tracy use? It's stuck in this room. The other room is the computer room. Tracy can come in and use it? Yeah, but Tracy looks at the computer at night. You can still do it, but you just have to do it. Well, you do it together as a group, as a family. Charles likes to do music and do pictures like that. Yeah, that'll do it. It's called playing. It's just a week, say it, like, I mean, buddy. Aimee Ben. Is it? Yeah, it is, it's called playing. Playing what? It's called having fun. You're supposed to be her parent. I'm also supposed to... You're supposed to be her parent. I'm also supposed to be her gardener and explain to her, understand that you don't get everything just like that. No, that's about, no, that's just you, Ben. It's not just like that. A computer, every child should have a computer in their home. Every child. They have got a computer in their home. No, you control the computer. Hang on. You control what she does and what she doesn't do. You're the one that says, no, but I'm saying it's just like that. 2024, all kids have a laptop, 100%. But you see, the thing about me is, at a certain time, you can't be on there. Simple. I cut the Wi-Fi off. They both write and they both wrong at the same time. Both of them. Thanks. Isn't just... You can't do... The way you control everybody in this house, Ben, is under your rules, right? She's an 11-year-old girl and this is a life for her. Do you want the computer in your room, Chance? I'm not really bothered. Do you want the computer in your room, Chance? Double question. Why would you even bring her into it? That's her old dad. That's her old dad. Are you going to put your daughter in a spot like that? I know that's your stepdaughter, but dang! She don't know. Let it go, my boy. See, she likes it in her room. She's become a child again. She's gone from a shy girl. I don't know, you know, it's the second sometimes I had to get used to me. I believe if she really wants to be a swimmer, she could do all the things that she wants to do as the swimming routine calls for and be a child at the same time. But her whole personality has changed. It's as if, yeah, I'm allowed to do this. Now, when she's getting in high school, she might have to lock in a little longer, harder. Then when she's getting in college, she's really going to have to lock in. But you know, college is college. I can have fun. And I can become, you know, me. She's become an individual as opposed to Ben telling her what she can do. How is she not a child? Somebody asked in the chat, how is she not a child? I'm not sure if you was watching this whole time. She's 11. They had her on a strict diet. They had her on six times a week. Six times a week training regimen. That's not childlike. I ain't even going to lie to you. Like, I was an athlete growing up. I was a Hooper. So I was able to do both. You know what I'm saying? That's too, that's crazy. While Jess is at nursery, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with how they got it, but like, you got to let it like, do she got friends? Like, damn. Tracy's taking Sam to learn to teach pole dancing. He said, I used to play football. We was training four times a week. I understand that. For basketball, I trained seven days a week, but I still had a life as I was still able to be a child outside of that. I'm pretty sure you was still able to be a child, too. If you wanted to go to the food court and get a burger, you could go get a burger. If you wanted to highlight your friends through a cell phone or text your friends, you could probably do that. You know what I'm saying? If you wanted to go see a movie, you could probably go see a movie. I don't think Shorty was doing none of that in here. Be a mom, not a part-time mom. You can spend time with Jess, hence the nursery. And also do this for a living, for a nine to five-month Friday job. Jump up, no legs, and stay there as long as you can? Oh, yeah, yes. So she can still come home. She can be a mom to Jess, and she can also have a separate passion. Because she's only young, it gets a bit boring being a mom. If I get the qualifications and I do it, then I won't be working as a lap dancer. I'll be doing the teaching. That'll be a normal job. So it gets to spend more time with Jess. I mean pole dancing, low-key, let me be real with you. Pole dancing is a real talent. There's a difference between a stripper and a pole dancer. They're not the same. They can be, but they're not the same. All strippers cannot pole dance. I'm talking like Miami Tide style, climb the pole, do some tricks, hold it with your all-the-arm, lock it in with your all-the-your-lith. That's real talent. I think I'll be impressed. Allegedly, I'm not saying I've never seen it, but allegedly I'll be impressed. Tracy's career plan for Sam is going well. Jess! But she's yet to convince her about nursery for Jess. Jess, look, Jess had the time of her life. The biggest question of all, he said he was going to assess her behaviour. What did you assess? My first impressions are good, all good. I'm glad she enjoyed herself and it looked like she enjoyed herself too. I'm happy. Half a calling, please. And a Colesburg point. Ray's usual idea of a romantic night out is to take his wife swinging. But Tracy's keen to show him there's other ways to spend time together. What do you think Chris would signify as being romantic that would mean a lot to him that you could do it? Well, I suppose just going off at random and giving her a peck. You know, giving her a peck on her cheek. I bet you make money if she comes home and you've cooked her dinner. She'll probably fall off her chair. I'll probably do it as well. I'll tell you something that would mean the world to her. I think she's got a definite lack of communication. And when she comes back, I'm going to address it seriously. I didn't realise how she felt. She said in the chat, my nephew plays football for his high school and plays soccer on the weekend for his local club and still has time to be a 14-year-old child. It's possible. I'm telling you it's possible to play a sport at a high level or want to reach a high level and still be able to do it. I'm telling you it's possible to play a sport at a high level or to reach a high level and still be a child to a certain extent. You can still, you know what I'm saying? I'll do what's good. They said it. Love play. Call those e-numbers. Sorry, Mom. Chris' campaign to spoil Chantay continues with a party for her friends. I believe that Chantay wants her friends to stay over and she wants to eat with them. She has to clean up her own mess. Don't think if I bought my mate's brand and had to clean my mess up. That's fair. Hey, your friends can come over to spend the night, but they got to clean up their mess. I think this might be her first sleepover. She wants to eat with them. She has to clean up her own mess. Don't think if I bought my mate's brand and had to clean my mess up. She wants to eat with them. She wants to eat with them. But she needs to clean up. He's obsessed with this man. Absolutely obsessed with controlling people. You're getting a daughter that's enjoying herself and learning to clean up after yourself. But he just doesn't get it. He just doesn't grasp it. Surely he can't be that thick. Well, I first met Chris. Because I don't feel like she did this. I thought I wasn't going to get home with one. I thought she was going to be one of these people who didn't believe in working and didn't believe in cleaning and didn't believe in the side stuff like that. But I've got some of her and she's really nice leading. Chrissy's style of parenting is proving less popular with Ben and his friends. I don't think she wants. Do I think my kids respect me? I hope they respect me. You can't say whether they do or not. No, I hope my kids I hope my kids respect me and I'm not in fear of me. I used to have rules. I have done that you will do as I say and they've left. I'm not worried about anything. I don't know, I'm just asking you. You're worried about leaving. Absolutely nothing about my kids. If they want to leave home, that is their choice. But at least I know if you're buying a room they're going to stay there. I would, wouldn't you? Precisely. I will move into your house. I'm not just going to stop kiffing them when they want me to. You're buying your kids. I'm not buying my kids. It's okay. I feel like it's okay. But you've got to tell your kids no occasionally. Even though I can go get it but no. No. I just need you to be used to hearing because if you only hear yes and you become an adult, that's not real life. Real life is not yes. You're buying them to be there. No, I'm not. You are. You're paying for everything. You're buying them. No, they live at home because I choose to live at home. Because you're buying them. 100. I let my mama say, I live here rent free. I'm going to pay for your food. I'm going to watch your child four days a week. What show? I think the conversations I've had just how much my kids have done respect me when I thought they did. But we knew from five minutes in they didn't. I really thought, you know. They love you. It's not about discipline and respect to two different things. But the more being said to me, do your kids respect you? I can't answer them truth. Because I don't think they do. That's rough. So things are going to have to change at home. But they already have. It's the end of the swap and time for the wives to return to their families. I can't wait to get home but I still feel a little bit sad about saying goodbye to the girls. I don't need to go to a white one. I feel like I was really into this reaction. Hey, it's a 47-minute reaction and we're at one hour and four minutes. A weekend therapy course because I think I've just learned that in my last few days. My family is functioning a lot more like a family now. We're talking and we're getting things resolved doing it that way. This one of those reactions, if people actually watch it emotions are going to get stirred up. Wait a minute. What is going on? Thank you. Nice to meet you. Hello, Robbie. The first thing I went in with was the discipline. The lovely kids but they kind of had no structure. They just did what they wanted. I've discovered over this last week or so the last two weeks I've discovered that my kids take the b***** out of me and they have took the b***** out of me. There's no discipline in my home but I wouldn't want it as disciplined as yours. No, you just meet halfway. You know if you just... Well, how do you meet halfway in your house? Because it seems to me it all bends way in that house. No, me and Sean's have. We really get on. We never fall out. Well, you don't have a close relationship because you think you do, Shantae. I'll tell you now. Well, I'm glad maybe I don't because I... Shantae is too old-headed. She's 11 years old and she scares me in that she's very swimming orientated. It seems you're trying to live out your swimming because obviously... That's a bean. That's a buck. For all the reason. You then stopped doing that and Shantae loves to swimming. I would never take that away from her but she lacks other things. Everything like a friend's like... Ben says she's allowed one person just now. I didn't say she's allowed one person. You did, Ben? I don't want more than one stop, then. She went to sleep over in the bedroom. She was one different child last week to the child this week. I've never heard her laugh so much. She's allowed to relax more. She's not been uptight about what she does or what she doesn't do in the house. I've always said that. He's always told me. She's 11. I spend a lot of time with her, with her swimming. I'm the main driver of that. But I've realized that I need to take time to allow her to be a child more. Well, it has got to be together. It's... I'm glad they can sit together as adults and not have a smoking argument. Because this is like... When it comes to kids an argument can start like this. I swear to God. Like... Don't tell me how to plan. Like... constructive criticism and telling somebody what to do with their child. It's a very, very thin line. What are the kids? They should be in a big way. Then you need to back off. I'll back her all the way now. But all I am going to be the main, the dominant force. Not Chris. You're the main. And so just to understand what it was all about when I said to you, didn't I? Honestly, if you have to do that do you think there's something missing in your marriage? Question mark. And he said, nope, our marriage is perfect. And I said to him, you know what, it ain't perfect. Oh, I'm definitely going to be more romantic for him. I'm definitely like... She comes downstairs looking lovely and I say it, it gets to her and I stop. Yeah, instead of saying... You told me that. But I don't. I don't say. That's one thing I had to learn low key. Like a lot of men be thinking like, oh man, my girl know I love her, my girl know I think she look good. But if you tell her, it hit different. You got to tell her. If you got a girl and you think, oh man, she knows I love her. No. Tell her. This is good advice. That's some strong advice that she just gave. You got to tell that woman. Because if you don't, guess who is? Her work husband. And with her work husband it's them cheeks. You going to be wondering why. Well, let me tell you why. You never gave that girl a compliment. You feel me? Go ahead, get that girl a compliment. You know what I'm saying? Don't get lazy. It's okay. Listen, you chased your wife before she was your wife. I knew it. That's a bean right there. He's keeping it real. A lot of us as men we don't be knowing that stuff. We'd be oblivious to it. He said the words. And that's going to change. Look at her. She's about to cry. She's so, thank God. She's like, yes. Look, she didn't got emotional about that. What? See? Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Where's the telly going? He missed me. He missed his telly. That's it. In the month since the swap there have been big changes in the greenhouse. I think he gave me the power to say, you know something. Nah, I'm not weird, bro. Weird. That was weird of him to do that. I thought that was weird. This has got to change now and we'll spend that extra little bit of quality time together. And we've been out for a couple of meals together and we've even had a couple of takeaways, haven't we? Not excessive. There you go. And it's not all work and no play for it's important to like do things that you need to do, like with work and that, but it's also important to have fun. We've had a couple of girly shopping days as well. That's why a wardrobe is so fun. When he does the ironing, he's moaning he can't get the stuff in the wardrobe. He's sick about this. And in Birmingham, the Ramsey home is a very different place. Ah, okay, cherry tomatoes. Talk about it. Clever girl. Go on. Okay, shorty playing golf. Talk about it down. That's good. We are grandparents now. Well, I'm a grandmother now. I always was a grandmother, but I was actually a mother. And that's stopped. So the house has just changed so much now in that there's no toys or mess anywhere and food on the floor. And I don't miss it. Nadara grew some respect about you. I think the whole experience made me think, you know, what do I actually want from my life sort of thing? I wanted to get a different job and I wanted to be a chess nurse. We could have some time with other children away from me so I've got time to myself. Chris has got more time with Ruff and they've got big plans. Next year we've made 21 years. We've got made a register office and then he was a divorcee. And now we've got the church doing next year. We've got four books, beautiful church, ten bridesmaids. Nice. I'm looking for substitutes. Yeah, still freaking. Yeah. 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