 Awesome. All right, guys. This is a 21-convention 2010 of Stockholm, Sweden. I'm Anthony Dream Johnson. I want to welcome everyone here to Sweden. I'll give you guys a hand, too. This is a long way off, man. We're a couple thousand miles from Orlando. Yeah. So I'm glad you guys made it out here. It's a long way. What's for me, too? Long flight, fun flight, fun city. Again, my name is Anthony Dream Johnson. I'm sure everyone knows up by now. 21. I currently live in Orlando, Florida. My dream, though, is just coming years of travel. So, man, I live there too much longer. By the way, before I talk too much about myself, where is everyone from, the countries and things like that? Because when we do this in Orlando, we always have a few, but it's always like Canada or something like that. Like, it's kind of a country, but what is a country, but it's so close. Like, you're from Sweden. Yeah, of course. Northern Sweden. Yeah, northern Sweden. Cool. Where are you from, man? Costa Rica. Costa Rica. That's a long way, man. That's good. That's awesome. That's farther than me, man. Scotland, I think you said? That's badass, dude. I'm Irish. That's close, right? My geography is horrible. Typical American. Who else is... Raise your hand if you're from England. Who's from England here? A couple of you guys. Fantastic. Anywhere else interesting around Europe? I'm just really curious. Everyone else here from Sweden? Really? No. Yeah. Oh, Norway, dude. I'm Norwegian. Yeah, yeah. Awesome, dude. I'm like quarter Norwegian, so... My name, the surname was Ingobotsen. I guess it's pretty Norwegian, yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. So we have a pretty international convention going here. It's awesome. Loving it. But moving on, I'm not here to ramble to you guys about the convention and what countries you're from for the next hour. It's not that cool. You get old pretty fast. I'd actually, though, before I get into the title of my speech and the actual subject matter, so to speak, I want to ask you guys, like, why are we here? Why do you think we're here? Not necessarily the esoteric one. I think the answer to that would be, like, we're here because we want to learn how to live. That's the question, the answer I seem to come up with. When I talk to guys, when they ask me questions at the convention, when people ask me questions about anything, it just comes in and I hear it as, like, you know, I want to learn how to live. That's awesome. That's why I'm here, to learn how to live. That's one of my purposes in life. But why Sweden? You know, we started this convention in Orlando. Three years ago, four conventions ago. So does anyone, you know, the guest is, like, why we're here? Anybody? Anybody? Just because it's Stockholm, hot babes? Svenskaflikas? Flikoros? I always screw up the plural and singular. I don't know how to do it. Yeah, I think we're here. I believe we're here because this convention is meant to help people and it's meant to change the course of a generation. To do that, we have to do remarkable things. And this is one of them. The first remarkable thing we do is put the footage out for free, which makes it mega, mega popular, thanks to, in part, our Jonas our tech guy who's here. So that's awesome. I think it's a huge part of what's going to help make it have any chance, any legit chance of making an impact on a tribe generation. And I really believe it's meant to do that. So that's remarkable thing number one. Remarkable thing number two, and this is more so why we're here in Sweden, is we're the first conference for men, as far as I know, to ever host it, both in North America and Europe, back to back. So again, give yourselves, give yourselves a round of applause for making it out here, especially for Danny who made it from Florida. So, damn. Yeah. So, enough about the convention, all that fun stuff, the remarkable things we do. Again, I'm not here to round the table at the convention, I'm actually more to talk to you about a specific subject that I've had a very interesting experience with over about the past eight weeks, and especially the past four weeks. The title of my speech is Becoming a Stronger Person. How I did it, and the key elements I see on how to do that in your own life. And also how a dream became a reality, literally us sitting here in this room, this was a dream of mine once, and we're here now, it was amazing to me. I'm still having trouble like processing it, I'm like, I'm in Sweden doing this, I always thought I might be in Orlando, but Stockholm really? So that's really cool. And also, a part of my speech today is going to be discussing the most severe test I've ever been through in my life, which was the past four weeks when I toured Europe, speaking about this convention, in Stockholm, Gothenburg, Amsterdam, Munich, Vienna, all these places touring Europe, I never thought I'd do that. And that was a very, very strenuous time for me these past four weeks, but I think it turned out really well, and I'm very glad I did it. So the title of the speech is Becoming a Stronger Person, and the four key elements is what we're going to kind of discuss and then go throughout the entire speech discussing. The first element that I found about, and this isn't necessarily an element of a strong person, it's more of an element of how to become a stronger person. So it's more of like about the journey and the process and like some arbitrary concept that we put together for like a strong person, whatever that means to you. So again, it's more about the process and then the end result being unique to you. The first element that I see is you have to do your own thinking. You've got to be an independent thinker if you want to become a strong person. It's just a massive, massive part of it, and it's the number one element that I see in it. The second element, and we'll get more to these as we go along. The second element is you have to drop the ambiguity you see in your own life. So when you spot it, you just got to discard it as fast as you can immediately. Second element, becoming a strong person. Third element, becoming a strong person. You've got to be willing to sacrifice everything for something you believe in. Obviously you have to know, you have to find that thing first. Once you do, you've got to be willing to sacrifice everything for it. And the key part of that too is willing. You don't necessarily have to do that, but if you're willing to, that's the important part of it. And so you may or may not necessarily have to sacrifice everything. We'll get more into it. The fourth element, and this sounds a little bit, I don't want to say woo, but a little more esoteric, I think's the word. And that is you have to find peace in your heart and rise to the challenge of massive, massive uncertainty when it comes your way. You shouldn't have it nonstop. That's artificial, it's unnatural. But when you do face it, you've got to be able to step up and rise up. And if you can do these four things, especially the fourth one, the first one, I think that's going to really skyrocket the process of you becoming a stronger person and not just like one area of your life, like women or school, academics, career, whatever, but I mean like the whole thing, like the foundation, the pillars, supporting you as a person in every endeavor you take on, every action you take. So the first element I get said is to do your own thinking. Become an independent thinker, whatever you want to call it. So how do you do this? How do you go about becoming a critical thinker, an independent thinker? One way I've found is to, and this isn't always the answer, but for a lot of times for my personality it is, I have to isolate myself. So about eight weeks ago, when the convention here, about eight weeks ago, I realized the convention here was lagging ticket sales. And it finally, it kind of hit me like all once. Like I saw the ticket sell throughout the year, and it was a pretty good amount. And then all of a sudden I was like, wait, this event is like in June, you know, we've X tickets sold, we need to sell more fast. And then I started kind of freaking out. I was kind of getting scared. I was like, what am I going to do? Like I want to do this, but I was like, man, there's a lot at stake here. It's not as simple as like just, you know, plow through it and like, you know, promote the hell out of it and like push tickets, because there's a lot of risk. If I messed up financing this event, it could hurt the Orlando event and everything like that. So it was really important to me. I was like, I got to make a decision. So I actually started to isolate myself. When I started feeling that stress from the possibility this event not happening, I started going for walks a lot more, which I say I do, but I didn't enough. But when it started happening, that stress, I started going for walks a lot more. I went for drives by myself. I just kind of, you know, I got a loan, like I got into my head so I could kind of figure out, you know, what I want to do with my life and like what I want to do with this entire convention over here. If I even wanted to still do it, because it was a, I knew there was going to be a very tough journey ahead. So I think if you can isolate yourself, that's a huge part of becoming an independent thinker. You just got to like get that noise out of your head, make kind of quiet it down and think real clearly and just get, even other people too that want to help, you just got to be like, you know what, hang on a second. I got to figure this out for myself. Really important. And the point too of, there's a point to isolating it, not only becoming an independent thinker, but when you can, when you do that through isolation for a temporary period of, a short period of time, you, and this is what I ended up doing, is you boil it down to something very actionable and action. So for me, you know, I quieted down, you know, all that stress in my head. I kind of got everyone out of my life for just like a few days, maybe a week or so. I was like, all right, what do I need to do with this event? And I decided, I was like, you know what, I'm going to do this, whatever it takes, more or less. If you read my blog, actually you can see by the time I was like writing about it. And I was like, yeah guys, I'm freaking out, but you know what, if we move X tickets by this date, then we'll do it. And if not, we'll just, you know, not do it. But I knew in the back of my head at the time, I was like, that's nonsense. Like I'm not going to do that. And I knew that, but I couldn't tell myself that yet. I wasn't there yet, but I was close. So deep down, I said I was going to do it at that time when I boiled everything down to that action. And then two weeks later, it was going to really hit me when I decided to come to Europe really early and do this event and bang it out. Another thing too is you should, I got some extremes from friends I had about, you know, advice on doing this event. So I had guys telling me like, you know, you shouldn't do it, man. Too much of a risk financially. You're going to lose your ass. You shouldn't do it, man. Focus on the United States. Do it in California. Okay. Yeah, people really have told me to do that. They think I should mention in New York and California. Maybe, but we already have a guy doing it over there. Some like it called PUA Summit. It's a great event. And I don't see like the potential for the event there yet. I saw it in Europe is where I saw it. So I had people telling me not to do it. And then other people, friends that were like, yeah, man, just do it, man. You can do it. You're the dream, baby. And I'm like, really? Like it's not that simple right now. Like it's kind of a gray matter. I mean, eventually, you know, I went through that and made a decision through isolation, but I listened to those extremes and it gave me like perspective on where I wanted to find where my answer was at, which is kind of, man, I ended up just doing it at all costs, but really it's more in the middle. It was like, all right, I've got to do this at all costs, but I can't just be an idiot about it. Like when I started this convention, it happened through like sheer like force. I was like, I want to do this, and everyone wants to do it with me, and I'm going to do it. And I worked my ass off and made it happen, which is what I did, did again here too. We all made it happen. Like I passed four weeks, especially, and bust some ass around Europe, but I couldn't do that same thing again. I knew I had to be a little bit more clever and more effective. So no longer was it just like, pile drive my way to Sweden. It was like pile drive my way like really fast and like weave through all these jagged rocks and like obstacles along the way. So not sheer force. My answer is in the middle. Well, I guess it leaned a little bit too. Just fucking do it. That's how I am. It's personality. Crazy. Another idea too that I'm going to get more into in a second is that by becoming an independent thinker, you don't just, I used to think this way. You just discard everything. It's like, I'll think for yourself. Everyone else can just screw themselves, man. I know what's up. I'm the man. I think for myself. Dude, not cool. Like I said, I was in the extremes to get perspectives, like those points in the end of the spectrum. At the same time, like I made that decision that was somewhere in the middle because I was thinking for myself. I became the filter of all that noise from all these people on extremes, people in the middle, people that had invested interest in the event, people that didn't. So all these different people, all this different advice, it came down to me thinking for myself and filtering all that stuff. That's what being a critical thinker is all about is being the filter, rather than blindly accepting what someone tells you or doing the opposing thing to that, which would be just discarding everything like an arrogant prick, which I've done in the past. I no longer do that. So that's element number one, do your own thinking for becoming a strong person. Massively important, foundational. I've brought about 50 notecards in Europe, by the way, and am I speaking to or around Europe? I did so many speeches. I used them all up. So I'm down to a friggin' little notepad thing, but it works. It works. It's good. The second element to becoming a stronger person, which we'll talk more about in a second, well, it'll tie into element one and element three, is dropping the ambiguity. So like I said, I was like, when I was writing on my blog, Jonas, a couple of people read my blog. When I was writing on my blog, when I figured out this event might not happen, I was still kind of like shaky about it. I was like, oh, you know, I want to do this, but we need to sell X tickets by this date. And on the surface level, that's really what I was thinking. On the deep down, that was nonsense. Nevertheless, that's how I was acting on the outside. And that at the time, I think, is why it didn't even pick up even more steam at that time, because I hadn't yet just shed that ambiguity in myself, that weakness. I was like, man, I don't know. It's just a weak move. I was like, nah, I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know what I'm going to do. I said it was rambling. Forget it. The point, though, element two has dropped the ambiguity. And I'm going to talk about how to do that. Well, you dropped the ambiguity by, like I said, combining element one and element three. So element one is doing your own thinking. Element three is being willing to sacrifice everything for something you believe in. So when I was thinking for myself from those extremes, that don't do it at all. You're crazy. You shouldn't do it. And so many different ways, too. It wasn't always that abrasive route. Some of my friends were like, dude, you shouldn't do it, man. It was almost like that underhand. Like, nah, it's cool, man. Just be right. Don't do it. Do it in Orlando. Take the safe route, man. Nah. That's not my personality. The opposite of the spectrum, too, though, well, I already told you guys that. So I came to the middle, and when I finally dropped that ambiguity, it was because, when I shed that ambiguity and you saw my blog, it was because I was like, you know what? I believe in this convention. I believe it helps people, individuals. And I believe it has the ability to help the collective, too, on a massive scale. I was like, that's what I believe in, and that's what I'm willing to sacrifice anything for. There's actually a friend of mine named Steve, my eight-hour old topos, you guys know him. And when he said that about me in an interview we did of him, that really hit home. And I haven't forgot it, and I probably never will. Because I really do believe in this event. And man, when I decided on that, when it became clear to me that that's how I fell deep down, and that I was like, you know what? There's a filter I need to put here to find that answer for this convention. That's how I drop that ambiguity. So if you ever feel the weakness in your own life, get really clear on what you believe in and what you're willing to sacrifice for. Willing, but not necessarily going to. And then be that filter, and you'll drop that ambiguity. So you come together in the middle from it. Or another way to say it, too, is that, I forgot it. As far as finding out what you're willing to sacrifice everything for, that's not the easiest question to answer. I can't tell you that. It's like asking me, like, why is the sky blue? It's just blue. So at the end of the day, though it's a conscious choice you have to make, it's an action you have to take. And yeah, it's something you have to decide on your own. Isolation, though, like I said, for independent thinking can also help in this regard. You don't want to isolate yourself too much. I've done that in the past growing up. And then I can have really, really devastating effects on your social life, on your relationships, on your academics, on your mental well-being. I'm not even joking, man. If you isolate yourself too much, which I've done for months at a time before, and your interactions with people are very... They have a lot of barriers in between them. Man, you'll, like, lose your mind. So you can't overdo it, but if you can do it and you can get a loan and you can really get, like, the core of what you want to do with your life and think, if you can just think and get all that BS noise out of your head, that, like, distortion, you'll probably find, at some point, I think we all have it too, there's something you're meant to be doing with your life and you'll find it. And when you find it, you're going to become a lot stronger person, like, automatically. Because you're going to say, like, this is what I want to do with my life and this is what I'm going to sacrifice everything for. My assets, all of my time, like, who knows what, man? My health, my sleep, whatever. If you believe in it, man, that's what counts. And the way to do that is through isolation, again, temporarily. There could be other ways, too. That, again, those seems to fit the way I've grown up and the personality I've somewhat created for myself. So if you find other ways, too, who knows what, man? There could be a million different things that help you find what you want to do with your life and what you want to sacrifice everything for. Key word, again, they're willing, not necessarily going to. Two different things there. So in that sense, too, don't be eager to just, like, trash your life for something you believe in. You shouldn't necessarily always have to do that. I've done it, but you're not always going to have to. And don't be, like, eager and, like, don't use that as a qualifier for something you believe in. It's, like, oh, if I believe in this, then I have to, like, trash other parts of my life. Not sense. You don't have to do that. It's total BS. But you've got to be willing to do that. And when people see that in you, that's what brings people across the world to Sweden, to Stockholm. That's what brings, like, tens of thousands of historic sites every month. That's what brings hundreds of people to Orlando, too, in Florida. Is I think people see that. I mean, they see that expressed through everything I do or close to everything I do. From the documentary to the footage to the events, is that they know that I'm willing to, like, make what I want happen and what, you know, we all want to happen together no matter what it takes. And when you guys can find that in your own life, whatever it be, career, academics, relationships, who knows. It could be, like, saving pandas or something. Saving zebras. You never know. There's a quote I read in a book recently. And while this isn't an exact quote, it's not a butchering, but it's, like, a paraphrase. When you're willing to sacrifice everything for something you believe in, you're going to come to a point, and I did. And with this convention in Europe, I happened to stay on my friend, Dionstrasse, who's also speaking next. I was, I got to Sweden, right, in Stockholm. That's the big reason I came here, obviously, was to promote the event and make this happen. But there came a point when I was doing all these things and I was pushing as hard as I could and as intelligently as I could. And, like, it wasn't working. I was continuing to kind of freak out. I was like, holy crap, man. It was really scary. And I tried all these things. I dumped a large amount of money in a PPC ad campaign. I contacted all the speakers to help promote the event. I did everything I knew how to do. And then some. I used to go to sleep at five in the morning. The sun would be coming up in Stockholm. It'd already be up for two hours. It comes up at, like, three in the morning here. It's crazy. You come up from the club and it's coming up. But there came a point and this is where this quote comes in. It's actually two and a half weeks when I got to Stockholm May 10th and it's two and a half weeks after I was here. And long story short, I decided what I needed to do was a tour of Europe speaking. Like I told you guys, Stockholm, Gothenburg, Amsterdam, Munich, Vienna. When I decided to do that, that was when I broke the threshold that most people think they don't pass. Not necessarily, they're going to fail out, but that's just where it ends up happening for a lot of people. The book's the alchemist and the quote. And it more or less says, don't be the guy that dies of thirst just before the oasis, which literally is what that point was for me when I was here in Stockholm. Don't be the guy that dies of thirst just before, like you're seeing the palm trees and you're in that desert, you're dying of thirst. Don't be that guy that's like right there and just falls apart. That point came to me. I was really like, I was terrified, man. This event wouldn't happen financially. The cost of doing this across the world, I'm not going to lie, pretty high. But I came to that point and I was like, man, if I can just hold on to that same courage that we all have, the same amount of, if I can hold on to it for a little bit longer, I'm going to get to that oasis and I got to it. And that oasis ended up being a tour of Europe. That was pretty hectic too and pretty stressful, but really fun. And I did that and I think it helped this event massively. If not actually indirectly because the cost of flying around Europe, they're not too expensive, but we only move so many tickets. So I think actually the bigger point of doing that tour of Europe too when I found that oasis in the desert is that it was another expression of like I was willing to do anything to make this event happen. So people saw that online. They saw it on my blog. They saw it on the site when I told them. I had this actually, this map I made like five in the morning and got them to the airport with like a track pad on paint. It was really crappy. I was just so tired. I was like, I got to tell you guys what I'm doing. I'm getting out of my ropes. I'm so scared. But I think when people saw that, people do. When I wrote that, people donated, people donated money, people bought all these things to help support the event because then you're all struggling to make this happen. Well when they saw that express, that strength, they're like, man, it's like you know you can do that and when you see someone else doing it, you want to support them because then you like, you receive that back. It's like a mirror almost. I get that too with guys. Like one of my favorite guys I like to support is Tim Ferriss. I have his book. It's the other one too now. The Becoming Steer of Humans coming out. And all it's saying, so you see that strength in him for example. Who's a fan of Tim Ferriss, by the way? Figure as much. Awesome guy. I think too, that's why he's a strong guy, man. I think people see that in him and that's why it's really clearly expressed. So not only is he a strong person, he's become a strong person, but people, it's reflected really clearly in him and when people see that, they support him massively because you get that back. It's like reflected in the center even more back at you. So in the same sense of people supporting this convention when I wrote about that and they saw that strength when I was just like, you know what man, I'm making this happen no matter what. I'll sell like my shoes to make this happen. Walk barefoot through Stockholm with the Symexka Flickas. People saw that just like you see it in guys like Tim or who knows. And when you support that you get it back too. Which I think is a huge reason why that happened. People saw that expressed so clearly in me when at five in the morning in Gothenburg Airport on a dying laptop. I've been on this third key element for a while. We've got to move on to the fourth one so we can get day on the man up here. The fourth element, again this sounds a little bit woo woo I call it, spiritual, but I'm dead serious. And it's you've got to find peace in your heart and then you've got to be able to deal with that massive uncertainty. So I had all this stress right from, you know like, you know the event almost was not going to financially it was a lot of expenses. And I had that stress when I was in Stockholm and every night I'd be up I'd get no sleep probably because of working probably because the sun was up and I couldn't go to sleep. But all that stress all that noise it's like I shook my head up so much and I allowed that noise to come back when I was in Stockholm. It got so freaking loud it like made me deaf all of a sudden and I was like man all this stress I'm going to let this feed me being relaxed and getting clear on what I need to do which ended up being the tour of Europe Stockholm, Gothenburg, Amsterdam Munich, Vienna. So in that sense if you can find that peace in your heart for me the way I did it was through that that massive amount of anxiety I felt that's not a good feeling but it's not necessarily anxiety for example I felt isn't an inherently bad feeling but it didn't feel good but you know what when I allowed that to feed into what I wanted to do that's another thing that gave me a lot of strength all of a sudden to be like you know what this is scary as shit but I'm going to do this tour I'm going to make this convention happen so find that peace in your heart and let that massive amount of uncertainty that's I'm sorry I tell you guys it's going to come to the territory of becoming a strong person in any way shape or form whatever way is unique to you it comes with the territory it's massive uncertainty especially for live events let me tell you but if you can let that feed into finding like that peace and relaxing and getting clear on what you need to do that's like number four this helmet's huge and number one so very important the stepping up too I got a question in Amsterdam when someone I talked about not this exactly but it was a very similar event in my life where I just all of a sudden stepped up it was actually happened in 2008 convention in Orlando where I lost a lot of money of the filming we had too many cameras too much camera work we had like 70 guys but there was like 130 RSVPs and we collected money at the door instead of online so we were like way short of funds so that was a really rough time in my life too and I talked about that my best friend also at that time that was in 2008 I talked about in Amsterdam and then I talked about right after that really traumatic time a friend died finances were on the floor probably somewhere on the floor I talked about I stepped up after that and that became really the big change in my life where you saw me change as a person from like kid to like I don't know what you call it man but you saw me grow up really fast all of a sudden because these really traumatic events and when I talked about that this question was like how did you step up which you might be asking yourself now too it's like how did I get to this really anxious point this really stressful point and how I step up like I said a minute ago it was a conscious choice I've told you about the ways that happened to me with the noise and isolation all these things but ultimately the same thing with you guys anyone and everyone in this planet let on this room it's a conscious choice you have to make that everyone can make it can be with women too like growing up I was as I've talked about elsewhere previous conventions growing up I was very very horrible social skills women everything like that but you know what to be sociable to sociable to relate to people to do all these things and communicate clearly you always have that choice we've always had that choice you just have to let the experience catch up and eventually you'll be able to you'll see and you can make that choice which is how I made it it always comes down to yourself to me to you whoever for that big choice in your life so it's the same thing again too with you can't ask people like how did you do how did you do that massive thing in your life and they can tell you all these things like I've just told you but ultimately it comes down to you so if you ever have in your life like that really hard point where you're like holy crap man I don't know I'm just really scared right now just remember it comes down to you not only does it come down to you that's where it ends up it can only come down to you so again like with the women example becoming more successful women dude you can we have all these coaches coming in all these speakers flying in from around the world they can help you massively get better with women right at the end of the day it's gonna be all you guys helping yourselves so they can help you they can talk you through all these things give you all these ideas and you can filter out become that independent thinker it's cool you can be cut good to see you man yeah so you can it's all good yep so you can do that but ultimately again it's just gonna come down to you every single time there isn't an option you can have you can have 20 Robins coaching you 24-7 be a personal assistant right it doesn't matter it's gonna come down to you people can make choices for you so they can but it's not good you gotta make your own and when you do that man that's another thing too it's like it's cyclical the more choices you make for yourself and the stronger you become as a person it just compounds upon itself people ask me like they always ask me like dude how do you do this convention they see it on the internet and it's like mystical to them it's like how do you do this it's like man this is what I want to do and I just figured out as I go along like life that kind of sound like it's like day on yeah but I'm dead serious it's always gonna come down to you and not only is that the way it just turns out it's the way it's meant to be and it really it can only be that way so if you get these four elements down you become a stronger person just to reiterate it again too you need to be an independent thinker you gotta drop the ambiguity which I totally stole from Jason Savage definitely 2009 speaker become an independent thinker critical thinker think for yourself how do you want to label it drop the ambiguity you want to sacrifice find that thing you believe in and then be willing to sacrifice everything for it that's the third element and again that key word is willing when you're willing people are gonna see it you can't hide that you couldn't hide it if you tried I couldn't hide how I feel about this event if I tried I could wear like who knows what I could do to try to hide it and it wouldn't work you guys would see that it'd be really it'd be impressively difficult to hide it because I'm a total nut job like that and if you hang out with me in person you'll see that and the fourth element is you gotta find that piece in your heart and you've gotta be willing to deal with a massive uncertainty that comes with every so often it's a part of everyone's path you're gonna come to that point in your life uncertainty it's just part of becoming a stronger person it's unavoidable it's not a bad thing even if it makes you feel like total crap it causes you to become to feel depressed anxious your life just falls apart you're getting no sleep for two months you wait you stay up every night for two hours staring at the ceiling freaking out about something that turned out pretty good pretty awesome we're in Stockholm there's events and conflicts everywhere so yeah and again let that the fourth one too it's important to let that when you come to that point when you're seeing the oasis and you're thinking about quitting and whatever you're doing it's important to let that feed it all those negative emotions we just want to labels and apparently bad nonsense use that let that feed into what you want to do and then be expressed so people can support you because when you truly want something man and I stole this from the alchemist awesome book but it's so real when you truly want something the world will inspire to help you which I think is exactly what's happening in this convention over the past three years four events now in Europe in Orlando online everywhere Jonas is a guy again who does her web work and he does it like for free he believes in the event which I can't even tell you like how invaluable it is because he's like so awesome with it and I can't do everything and neither can anyone else but he's awesome and again man like this event too I got more help during these past four weeks when I was in Sweden in Europe and other parts of Europe I got more help than I ever had before in my life to make this event happen because I believed in what I was doing and people saw that and when you truly want something I swear to God people conspire to help you man and if you don't they might conspire against you so believe in what you're doing it's important a little paradox there some of you might be wondering a lot of people come to this event because it focuses especially in Europe for the time being success with women stuff like that so how does this relate well directly relates I'm sure you can kind of connect the dots and how it directly relates to success with women and going through a journey where you go from someone who can't talk to girls someone who can or even if we get girls I couldn't talk to people which I think is a problem for a lot of guys in the pickup community so to speak they just can't even talk to people let alone girls to relate all this this foundational pillar stuff you should let that be a continuous like journey underneath service level journeys that you take throughout your life so the four elements that I was talking about about becoming a stronger person you need to let that support and feed into journeys that are more specific so with women for example I went through couple of years of just torture trying to learn how to talk to girls I basically crammed 17 years there were 17 years in my life where I should have had social experience I basically didn't have any so I crammed 17 years of lack into two years of going out to bars and clubs and meeting girls I just did that all once and it was really traumatic you know part of my life and all that and it was that service level journey that things like that things like I've just talked about those four elements they came into being and they began to support that journey and you know what I didn't complete that journey so to speak and I never will I don't think we're supposed to but I got my ability to talk to people and women in my life handled to the point where it was no longer a dark cloud following me around like in Winnie the Pooh or something like that or whatever other cartoon uses that so that's a service level journey that you can use these to feed into and support so women is one and I recommend everyone watching this or here I think everyone here has probably already done that started you start with women I think as a man that was like the number one thing you need to like get off your mind as again the dark cloud thing so you've got to focus on that first and eventually you're going to come to a point for me it was just my ability just to talk to people and girls that was the point where I was like alright I'm not done with this but I got it handled so to speak when you get a chance to can you give me my backpack from under the table I'm going to need something in a minute the whole thing so start out with women I think you're the best event in the world for this those other events too they're pretty awesome awesome events and the 20 minute convention in Orlando Florida it's next month you guys want to make it out Danny will be there a couple other guys here will be there so you have these events you have this help and really as a guy it's super important man you need to get that handled thanks I got it all my stuff backpacker so start out with that and then right after that I'm going to recommend you move on to your health I think if you have if the most human thing you can do is socialize or have sex you can kind of combine the two like we're social animals right that's the most human thing you can do so you've got to get that handled to the point where it's no longer dark cloud again though you're never going to be done with it you've got to continue the second one though I think right behind that as a human being you need to get your health handled which we didn't fly anyone here but if you go to Orlando and you watch the footage online we're going to have some of the best guys in the world speaking in Orlando Florida on how to exercise on how to eat on your lifestyle on how to sleep on like how to work out man everything everything you can imagine I'm not really good at describing these things even though I love them I'm more of a very long-winded so it takes me forever if you ever read my blog the dream line you'll see that but yeah start out as a guy getting that party life handled with women being able to talk and then move on I recommend as your next journey well it should be almost a mirror image it was for me as my journey with women and learning how to talk to people the next area of life should focus on is health, nutrition, exercise fitness any one of these words that we as a society you never seem to take the time to define if you actually try to define exercise it would be interesting because you never find something really concrete to do that to add and bring this backpack up I have my four favorite books as far as the we'll pass this around too if you guys want but they're day on no I never find okay I own these books too this is in my opinion the number one book it's the number of book I've ever seen on how to eat and how like a healthy lifestyle nutrition anything you want to call it diet it's an amazing book the author Mark Sisson the guy on the front is coming to Orlando a pretty famous guy so kudos to myself awesome though I gotta buy him a flight I gotta buy him a flight he's a really good guy though I've talked to him on the phone ironically the first thing he asked me he's like he called me he's like hey so Anthony I gotta ask you is this like a how to get laid convention and I'm like nah man hell no and it's not of course I've talked about this on the internet in the past years too it's become a lot more than that the first thing he asked me so the Prima Blueprint you can google the review of this the Prima Blueprint review or Prima Blueprint review and you'll pull up my blog actually I got the name of the review of it I don't know how I beat Amazon I don't know why but it's an amazing book I wrote a full review of it it's one of the few books I've taken the time to hardcore review awesome book highly recommend it he also has a blog MarksDellyApple.com highly recommend that it's got like a bajillion posts on it amazing book so that's nutrition and lifestyle the second book I highly recommend for getting the health area life handled is body by science awesome awesome book this to me is the definitive book on exercise period like I've never seen something better written not in the past nothing more concise nothing more condensed nothing more logical nothing more well written it's like it's not the be all end all but it's pretty damn close awesome book Doug McGuff actually the author just filmed two reality series with Tony Robbins part of it's coming out July 27th right out of the convention and of course I'm a huge fan of the book and Doug McGuff will be in Orlando, Florida at the 21 convention currently as I speak awesome book obviously watch his footage for free on toniccommension.com sick book sick book awesome guy and he's also too he is like the man an exercise medical doctor he's been a personal trainer for over a decade I want to say owns his own gym but you know what too if you read his blog bodybyscience.net and you go through and you find his comments I swear to God that guy's like one of the smartest people on the planet very wise guy very underrated not only with exercise but I mean just like a really wise human being that needs to write a book on like how to live your life awesome guy Doug McGuff okay so those are the two books for that that area of life as far as the getting women handled area of life we got like the best guys in the world coming here and Orlando and on the website toniccommension.com so you have a million books for that or speeches for that content a lot of content the number one book too that I don't have for that area of life I recommend is called the way the superior man I have a copy back in Orlando but God it's an amazing book I invited David Dieter to speak he was going to but he's on a writing sabbatical so didn't work out I guess that's where you just write forever you isolate yourself right that's what it is right yeah so you can't come but man that book's amazing the way the superior man we pimp that at convention add the convention every year we probably sold like you know a billion copies but keep buying it it's an amazing book there's no way I can commission for it I don't care awesome book seriously awesome the way the superior man buy the book immediately if you haven't read it it's not pushed hard enough despite being pushed more than like any other book from men I've ever seen the other two books that these would relate more to the first those key elements I talked about about becoming a stronger person the first one is called meditations or the emperor's handbooks another edition of it meditations by Marcus Aurelius Emperor of Rome this guy was awesome awesome guy there's different translations this is the one I have I got it from a guy named Ryan that I found and he wrote a post awesome guy he's like our age 21 something like that awesome book meditations super cheap it's just filled with wisdom men if you ever like if you ever like need to find that mirror like I said Tim Ferris earlier there's another guy too that's like obviously died a long time ago but god this guy was intelligent guy read this book meditations the final book that will relate to the first four elements of becoming a stronger person there's a book I quoted a little bit The Alchemist from Dion I can't tell you like meditations almost I can't even describe I just finished reading it so I'm still processing it but amazing amazing book once I got into it after the first few chapters I was just like this book is like incredible another I don't even know what to say his last name Paolo Coelho Coelho yeah amazing amazing book about just the journey we go on as human beings it's really underrated I never heard of it before Dion told me god awesome book just like meditations amazing book and that's more or less my speech for the opening of this convention I could take more time and just ramble on about how much I love it I think you guys get the point though and I write enough on the website about it and my blog and I span you on Facebook all these things so you get that idea if you want to I'm very personable I'll talk to everyone here and I will throughout the next three days I'm very one-on-one so if you want to know more about it the history everything like that that I could just go so much of it so many years now long history a lot to talk about and I'm here on the side but I'm not going to take time on stage away from Dion to do that so that's the end of my speech I hope you guys enjoyed it I wish I had even more time to prepare it and condense it but it should happen then I was really really busy praying for this event I hope you guys enjoyed it and that's it thanks guys before we take a break before Dion speaks does anyone have any questions or anything like that what was the name of the fourth book and the last one? oh he's going to get a mic for you yeah I guess I can just set up yeah it's not too big of a deal yeah the last one yeah well I can just go anyway the name he's asking you're asking the name of the fourth book The Alchemist I would just give you this copy if I had like five more at home I should just bottom up and spam them out because they're amazing awesome book and I like this it's one of the books too like The Way to Superior Man I've read that book years ago and I still like I haven't read it in like over a year now but I've read it like four times and man like I just want to I want to keep whenever I get a chance I should just keep buying that book and giving out to people it's like it's not a Bible but man like that book is awesome years after you read it and this one too this is not a book that's like oh I just read this book I love it and then a month later you forget about it it's like it changes your life the way you plot your world view will like be changed by this book if you're ready for it if not come back a year later because I've done that too books I've read like I almost didn't read this book first few chapters I was like it's alright Deon said it was good and then all of a sudden I was like holy crap it's like crack so it's amazing awesome book The Alchemist by Apollo Quello he has a bunch of other books too I haven't read it even yet maybe Deon has so next question anybody? no? no? thanks guys Deon's up next thank you