 Try not to. OK. Try not to. Hello, YouTube. OK, so today I made Tony sit down. And I made Tony sit down. I mean, he made me sit down. And we've been talking about one of our friends who recently had a quadruple bypass. That is when you are a heart. Your heart has its own arteries that supply the muscles of the heart. And that's when they are mostly blocked. And they cannot support the tissue. Your body is actively rejecting itself most of the time. Well, that suggests an autoimmune condition. And that's not true. Tomato, potato. But it could be kind of whatever. So heart problems. I'm sure everyone knows someone with heart disease or who has died of heart disease frequently as a coach. It's something that comes up with people that I work with. It's usually one of those hidden reasons that people really want to lose weight, like lost their dad early or something like that. And you don't want to do that to your kids. Like, that's a very common thing. And with Rufus, Rufus is a really good friend of ours. And him being sick in the hospital and having heart surgery was a really, really frightening time. And we're all very glad that Tony brought him to the hospital. And hit him with my car in the parking lot. Allegedly. I would like to clear the air here on the official story on this before you hear whatever happened by Rufus. So this started on the weekend of, was it cervical? Yeah. I think so. It was a weekend of cervical. And I remember, yeah, lead taft and bill, we're going to do a pre-talk. Yeah. And Rufus' hand, we're just missing some fingers here, was like swelling up. No, it was a good hand, actually. It was swelling up. And it was actually like traveling, which is universally a bad sign. And then Bill was just like, OK, you need to go to the hospital. It's been like that for a while, at that point. So what we didn't know was this, is that we found out later at the hospital, he was having, was it unstable angina? So he's having referred pain for six to eight months. And was like, I'm going to just tough it out, because. He has a history of orthopedic injury, shoulder, knee, ankle. Like his ankle doesn't bend at all. His knee doesn't bend at all. It's always swollen. And he just thought that his arm pain was just more joint pain. And come to find out, whatever, three years in the making of that, that was not the case. I mean, it was unreal. And he ends up, I ended up taking him to the hospital. And I'm in a rush. I just came from working out out of my tank top and shorts on in winter. And we drove him up to the hospital of the ER door. And as he's getting out, he's pulling out his cane to the side. My mind's in like eight different places. I'm like, shit, I got him in here. And then I start backing up the car when I realized was he didn't close the door. So the side of the door clips him in the shoulder and just starts dragging him a little bit. And he's like, tell me, I'm like, oh, shit, Rufus, I'm sorry. And I just hit my half crippled friend with my car door. And so I close the door. And then I go find the parking spot. And he goes into the ER. And they mainly sit him down, take his vitals. And what they found out was his blood pressure was 250 over 180. I didn't realize it was that high. It was, it's high. So the nurse goes, why is it high? Like, do you have any previous conditions? And then I walk myself in. And I'm all tattooed up. And then Rufus goes, with his double finger, he goes, well, that man tried to run me over in the parking lot. And the nurse had this blank smile, like mm-hmm, as her hands silently went for the silent alarm underneath. But we started explaining it. And then he gets put to the ER. And they're putting him on meds and everything like that. And it's going to be a long night because he goes and goes, well, who's your emergency contact? He goes, this guy. And then he goes, well, do you have your doctor? He's like, yeah, Dr. Hartman. That's Bill. Bill is a physical therapy. Not even a doctor physical therapy. And I'm so happy, by the way, that we can laugh at this now because the whole experience is just classic Rufus. If you've ever met him, he's a character and a half, the type of person that, when he leaves, everyone in the hospital remembers him. Not as Grant Gardis, his legal name, but Rufus. His wrestling name. Yeah. And I don't know, that was a scary time because I ended up, since I'm the lucky officer manager at IFEST, I set up all this stuff for the course. So I stayed in the hospital overnight with Rufus on the bed as he tried to leave the bed and sets off the hospital alarm that someone rolled out of the bed. And he gets an army of nurses running in. I jump out of the couch and, what's going on? And then Rufus is like, I don't know. I tried to get up and pee. So you were in the bed with him? Oh, no, let's be very clear here. That's what you said. No, so I have to choose my words more carefully. So there's a fold out food time. So the beds have a weighted alarm. Yeah, that's interesting. I didn't realize that. And they ended up warning him, like, hey, listen, just don't get out of the bed. Like, here's a urinal, here's everything like that. You'll need to roll out. Because if you do, the alarm goes off. He was OK. He goes, promise? All right, promise. No go. He stepped out. Like, the loudest alarm ever. I'm up at like four in the morning. Like, I kip up. I'm like, what's going on? I have like nurse, nurse, doc running in. Like, what's going on? Rufus goes, I don't understand what's so wrong. He's got to go up and pee. He's like, why'd you wake him? And he points to me. He's like, why'd you wake him up? And yeah, that was the first night. And then I had to get up at 6.30 to head off to pick up the coffee for you guys. Oh, man. That's amazing. So the reason that we're telling you about Rufus is because, well, we had a, I guess, Tony had to come to Jesus' moment and decided that it was time to help him eat better. And dude doesn't know how to cook mac and cheese much less anything. And Tony's going to, Tony's offering a hands-on approach this weekend. It's the only approach I know how, if that's it. That's true. He's not trying to foo-foo this person into being a better eater or thinking differently about food. He's going to physically take him to buy groceries and make him cook his food. Yeah, I told him I'm going to keep him alive, whether or not. And Rufus is very matter-of-fact. I'm going to do that. No, I'm not going to do that. As you can tell, with these stories, this dude who just keeps getting up out of bed, even though the nurses who care about him not dying, tell him not to, right? He's stubborn and you need to be so hands-on to accomplish what you're trying to do. And can I say this for one thing? It's like, when he just got, and I think this is amazing, is that when he got the heart surgery, like he's been walking around with McCain for, like I got the IFAS for that point for like a year so far. And he's been walking around with McCain since I was an intern for like two years at least tops. And like he was slimping, everything was swollen. And then as soon as he got the heart surgery, like quadruple bypass, he was moving around. He was jogging, he played a game of spike ball for it. And like this. He heard for a while after that, I remember. Yeah, quadruple bypass don't play that very dynamic things. But I mean, but he was like moving around with McCain. No, his overall mobility and function improved in ways that I would have never thought that somewhat just from addressing the limitation that you're dealing with in your cardiovascular system. Like that's, I wouldn't have thought that would affect your movement system so dramatically. Yeah, and that's the thing too, is that he had an awesome support system after that happened, because again, you have friends, you have family, everyone from the gym, after the first day of circle, we had like 15 people in his hospital room. The nurses were like, oh, you must be here for Rufus. And then they just tell us all in. But like he had such a great support system too. But then eventually everything goes back to normal, right? It's like, okay, so now you're out of the woods and everything like that. And you go back to family things. People have other people they need to worry about. And Rufus is an adult. You can take care of himself. He has, to my argument, not as well as you should. But we care about him. And it's one of those things where if we can help him at least guide on certain things and just say like, hey, listen, he is a coach first and foremost. I think he would sacrifice his other good hand to continue to coach longer. Is that if I can show him like, okay, this is gonna give you more energy. So you're not falling asleep in your chair at the gym anymore, like, hey, listen, let's do something where it's gonna have you coach more. Or at least that's where I'm gonna try to frame it. What are you, what are you, what all are you gonna, are you planning on doing Sunday with him? So my first order of business is going food shopping. So I already talked to him about the budget because he has M.A. Tupperware. So I figured it to be a good, who of us to be like, okay, let's buy a lot of Tupperware. So that way there's no like, hey, let's, I have to prepare some things. What was really nice is I talked to him and apparently he eats a lot of this stuff. Like he eats a lot of, yogurt has a lot of berries, which is, I'm trying to put him on the MediShred diet but that might be some type of plan that's like pretty simple to follow. Good book. I'll link it below. So what happens is that like he eats that stuff but he, it's very sporadic. Like he actually doesn't eat a lot and he's decently overweight. Forgive me for saying that, Rufus. He's gonna watch this. I don't know why he's gonna murder us. Continue. Tupperware. So Tupperware and the thing is that he already cooks the yogurt stuff. So if I can meal prep some of the simpler meals, like there's like the Fenway Park, which is pretty much just like chicken sausage, onions, peppers. So if I can cook for him or what Lance, it was the idea was make him cook. Tony was physically gonna go over there, buy his groceries, cook his food so that he ate healthier. And I said, man, you need, this dude needs to learn how to cook. He's 63-ish and needs to learn how to take care of him. How to prepare his own food. So this, you teach a man to fish, do you feed him for a lifetime or something like that? Yeah, two in the hand, one in the bush, something like that. And that's the plan though, is just like a lot of this, I talked to him about his diet and he says like, he doesn't eat that much, again, which is surprising. You see someone over there, it's like, okay, it's an old reading issue. But he has like a yogurt and then doesn't eat anything and then sleeps three hours a night. And then- Well, yeah, yeah, that's huge too. And then has like, okay, I'm gonna get up and then there's nothing in my house. I'm out yogurt, so I'm gonna go and get Thai food because it's healthier than Burger King that I had last week. So I'm just gonna have all the stuff that's slathered and like in sauce, but you know, there's rice here, so it's healthy. And maybe it's healthier, but you know, if we can even show him- Re-framed it. Yeah, yeah, but- Show him, exactly. I mean, just to come back because we're coming up on 13 minutes of rambling about our buddy, I hope that talking about this person reminds you of someone, I would imagine you know someone stubborn, maybe someone in your family. And I'm hoping that these tips can kind of give you some ideas on what to do with them. Don't leave them any option, like whatsoever. Yeah. Yeah. That I mean, if you can, or the other thing that I like to do with family is get someone else to do it. Yeah. No, there's not. But yeah, I was about to say for the next video of programming for your roommate's girlfriend, that that's what I've been doing. You're welcome. Yeah, but yeah, it's just like, even when they're like stubborn like that, or it's like, yeah, it might be healthy, it might not, like, I'm gonna just demo for him for a week exactly like what he needs to do and make it as easy as possible. And my goal is like, okay, hopefully he reaps the benefits and gets reminded like, okay, this is why I'm doing it and give him that context where I want you to stay a coach. I want you more importantly, just stay around longer. Yeah. Hopefully that does a decision to get him a little bit more down that right track. Yeah. I mean, I love it. If you guys have questions, leave some below. I'm gonna let Tony go to bed. And by let Tony go to bed, I mean, let me go to bed. It's been great talking with you. Goodbye. This is Anthony Giuliano and Lance Quakey.