 I disagree. This is what I say. So when women are upset at us, they call us dogs. I don't think it's an insult. I think men are absolutely dogs in the sense and and good, bad and ugly in the sense that men are trainable. Just like you said, men are linear. We are myopic. We are very singularly focused. And with that being said, we are not as dynamic as women like to think we are. Oh, we know. And so my point is, my point is like, you know, Lee could probably break this down better than I can. But like dynamic range and photography and videography is the ability to see the details in the light and in the darkness. Women are far more dynamic than men. That's wrong. I'm every woman. A woman can literally be 15 women at once. Men cannot do that. And that goes back to what you said about potential. The problem is women fall in love with who she wants us to be, not who we are. Exactly. I've been telling women to fall in love with projection, not potential. I remember you saying that. So with that being said, if women were to look back at these exes that pulled a rabbit out of a hat and tricked them so well, they realized that that nigga was not a magician, you were just naive. I don't even want to say naive because naive makes it seem like y'all didn't know. I think y'all fully know. It's just you would rather believe the fairytale. For sure. That was my last relationship 100%. It's blue pill in a way. Like I would rather, I know this is bullshit, but I would rather. So I think if the reason I keep bringing it back to women, if women start saying, kind of like in the 50s or the 60s and 80s, you have to have a top hat, a double breasted suit to talk to me. Niggas will have top hats and double breasted suits tomorrow. Now some niggas will be bad at doing that because that's not who they are. And the facade is not going to last. We'll make a look at a man and say, okay, this nigga wears suits regularly versus this nigga going to court. Yeah. Right. But over time, what we'll see is men being dogs, being singularly focused, being straight-line, will adjust themselves and become that to suit what the female delegation is literally rewarding. For sure. But until that, and if women decide that I would rather live in my fairytale, then you will have these bad magicians. That's all these men who get women are. I've been that. They're just bad magicians. I wasn't lying to her. She wanted to believe the bullshit. Yeah. For sure. Well, I think I agree. I think it's in the dream too. On the last episode, we talked about what you were saying that if women said that they don't want no more life skin brothers, right? That was a valid statement. And I've been saying this for years that it's going to take the woman to change the dynamic of the reality that we're dealing with because I have so much power and influence. I don't feel like y'all want to step up to that plate. Right. Y'all don't want to step up to that plate because if y'all knew that y'all can raise better men, right, be better wives, create better environments, why wouldn't y'all do that? Is the question. I feel like it's happening, but it happens in those relationships that are not glamorized. But we're talking about on the macro because the thing that annoys me about this female empowerment movement is in one sentence, there's this system of the goddess reverence that we now have of women, women are God, this, this and that. Okay. I brought up it during a podcast that I did. And I said, okay. What's the number one killer of black people? Food. Food. What part of culture does the female delegation own in any community? Food. So if we're serious about changing things as a black community, can women own that? And I got so much pushback. Oh, you want to blame the women for the heart disease and oh, I tried to cook good for my boyfriend and my husband and he fought me and this, this and that. But it's like, you don't get to own all the critical acclaim and all the benefits of having authority and having power and being a goddess without any of the responsibility. For sure. So if you want to be a goddess, here's a list of responsibility and here's a list of things. If they go bad, it is your fault. And I think the same thing for men. For sure. So when we see the insecurity in the black community, that's black men's fault. When we see, you know, the fact that a lot of boys would rather go into athleticism, as opposed to STEM, that's men's fault. But if we see kids who can't read at grade level, that's women's fault. And what's wrong with us saying that? They'll say the daddy, the father won the round. They'll still put it on the father. And to your point of being able to just acclaim that, just that responsibility, right? Just to say, okay, well, I'm going to cook better for my family, my children, on a nurturing level, right? Like, instead of me giving my kids the oodles and oodles, I'm going to give them the fruit, right? Just raising her awareness to that point to where as though she can say, you know what, I am going to equip myself better, to better suit, to be able to raise this family and to be a good spouse to my husband, to be a leader or goddess or whatever she feel like she want to be at the time. If she can't even step into that line of responsibility, like you're saying, what makes her valuable enough to demand all of these demands that she's having for man today? So I'll be honest, when you first started your spiel in my head, I was kissing you out. I'm not going to lie because that whole is your fault blaming their trigger words. But as you continued and clarified, I did, that's why I just said here, I'm cool, I cooled down because I was hot in the pits for a second, but I cooled down and I'll explain why, because women have taken on a lot for a lot of years, especially black women. And to be blamed for things like the whole, like if you're analogy food, that is my, that is my best way of showing someone that I love them. If I've never cooked for you and fed you a meal, I don't really rock with you like that. Like we cool, but now I'm sorry for no damn food. But I'm just, that's, that's where, like that's, that's me and it's like from the perspective of, okay, the food is unhealthy and we're the ones that make it, I go back to my mom being a single mom who didn't always have time to make, oh, let me think about how nutritious this meal is going to be. But I know these chicken wings, these pork meat wings, going to feed a lot of people at one time and it's going to be quick and I ain't got to be in there all day. Plus I got to check my kids homework to make sure they're spelling the right, go over the spelling words, so it's correct. Make sure that they're, you know, that they're doing their schoolwork. Oh, and I got to make sure the house is clean. All that fell on her. So inside of me gets offended. When you say things like that, because it's like, first the motherfucking off, we're the ones that are keeping things, keeping things going. So I think that's probably where a lot of women come from, because that's, like I said, you PM old me just now, real bad. But I understand what you're saying is, when you talk, likened it to where men are failing, I get it. So in my household, my girlfriend has come to the stage of a lot of our health problems are connected to our food that we eat. So we need to start eating better. I was, I was hesitant at first. But fuck you mean because who the fuck wants some candy? You better get them colors. I can put this pork fat in them and fuck them up. You know what I'm saying? But I had to understand you're doing this so that we can be better. So wow, I'm not going to completely go, okay, I'm going to go full force edit. I understand that you're coming from a place of you want to be healthy, you want to be better. And I cook the majority of the food in the house. So I need to work on what I'm preparing. And it's made a difference. Now your girl like Kate, I never thought I would like it. I can, I'm more open to trying those things because she showed me the way on it. And we're both women. So I get what you're saying with it, because I wouldn't have had that thought process to try more things. If she hadn't of put that in my head and like put it out there to me and showed me the benefits of it. And now I'm briefing the benefits of it. I understand it. Yeah. So I understand where you're coming from where we have to be the ones to kind of put our foot down. But like I was over here boiling it's frustrating because with all that we do and all the hats that we wear in a day, a week, a month, a year, it's like, oh, blame us for something else. We don't get the credit we deserve all the time. But we get the blame. That's where that's from my perspective. Even though you even though you said what blame men have, what I heard was what women did. And the things that I that I do and work too hard to show my love for my family like cooking, you're criticized. It sounds like criticism when it's really not, but it sounds like it. I'll say, I'll say this. And again, this might not hit well either. But I think back to your analogy about men being this and women being being more this. Have you all ever seen that? It's like a meme or a short video of a kid who's supposedly drowning, but all he needed to do was stand up. Yeah, that's a lot of women. A lot of women put themselves in more difficult situations to then get credit for their ability to navigate those difficult situations. And I think that's where I want to bring the conversation back to because even the example of the woman who is working three jobs to raise five kids and the whole nine, she was the same woman. And a lot of women will say well, I was young and I was dumb, who made the decision to get pregnant by four different men who she knew would not be responsible enough to take care. So but but then we frame it. We start the story a lot of times. And I think this is what frustrates men with she's busting her ass and she's doing quote unquote the best she can to now take care of five kids without starting the story in she put herself in that now and I understand it's more complicated than that. A lot of women have trauma and it leads them to sexual promiscuity that inevitably leads them to having multiple kids and a more difficult life and they have mental health issues in the whole nine. But again, I think the bigger picture is you cannot own the praise without owning the responsibility. And I think a lot of men now are saying that hold on, wait, I've been taught all my life to give mom praise for doing quote unquote the best that she could. Now I understand that she could have done better. Yeah, she could have done better from jump by not getting pregnant by my quote unquote Debbie daddy. Yeah, she could have done better from jump by not doing all the different things that she did to traumatize us to take out her trauma on us. So this idea that we continue to push of like women are benevolent and they're always just doing the best that they can that goes for men too. But that's not part of his narrative. It's not part of his narrative that he was touched when he was eight and that's why he ended up being a man whore. He was touched by a 21 year old woman. You see what I'm saying? So my thing is, okay, I want our community to improve this and this and this and this and this is what I think the men the male delegation needs to do this and this and this is what I think the female delegation needs to do. And these are all the ways that each delegation should take credit. And these are all the ways the same ways they need to take responsibility. I think we frame it as blame because that's what it sounds like. That's what it felt like to me. But it's not it's not blame. It's ownership. It's ownership. So if we're saying black men or God, black women or goddesses, yeah, what's your domain? Yeah, you got to step into that responsibility. You got to be you got to be that whole heartedly, you know, like from what you walk to what you talk. Yeah, right. There has to be the essence of who you are. Right. So it brings me back to the conversation about ownership, right? Like in my household, right? I'm God of God seven. It ain't just God of God seven because that sounds like a good name. Right? It's God of God seven because I carry myself Godly and God like. So if she sees that the kids see that they follow that, they don't just be like, Oh, you know, this is somebody that has a unique name that sounds catchy. This is the person that's getting in the kitchen, juicing, right? Waking up four or five o'clock in the morning, hitting the treadmill, right? Whatever it takes. I'm emulating change so that it can be a reflection so that my queen can be a queen and not just one who states that, right? So if she doesn't reflect what I am, I don't reflect what she has reflected, then it's null and void. Makes no sense. So like you're saying, if I'm taking that responsibility and she's taking that responsibility, then we can see the manifestation of what a family unit should look like. I'll say it because I just thought about something when you just said it. I think part of our issue as a community is religion. Y'all stay with me. For sure. Because when I thought about this whole God, God is phenomenon, we are taught that we can never blame God. He may not always come when you need him, but he's always on time. God never gets any blame. So now if you think of yourself as a quote unquote God, you don't associate that with responsibility. You don't associate that with blame just associated with authority. And I think for some black men, and I think for some black women, that's where this narcissistic ego is coming from. Just worship me. Just focus on everything about me that's lovely. Just focus on everything about me that's great. But don't hold me to any standards. If this goes wrong, it's not my fault. It just happened. And you should be glad that I'm here with you to watch it. You're 100% right. Because when you think about, like with my lady, we've been together 10 years, when I first met her, as she started to transition and change, I decided to give her a name. And I said, well, you know what your name is going to be Queen Refinement. And she said, why are you giving me that? I said, because you went through the process of refining yourself, you've decided to change because you wanted to change based on the information that was given to you. You just didn't just, I just wake up one day and say, that's who you are. This is what you earned. Right? I didn't just give you a title to yourself. And she had to learn to walk in that. And one day she came to me. She's like, I think this is too much responsibility for me. Right? I was like, what do you mean? She's like, I think it's too much responsibility for me. I said, no, it's not too much responsibility for you. It's just that now that you're aware to who you are, when you look in the mirror, right? I've taught you to do that, look in the mirror at you. Right? It's never about me controlling the dynamic of the relationship. It's about the value of what I instilled in you to control that. And once you got that value, the only person you can look at is yourself. Right? It ain't me no more is you. Because now you are the reflection of what I am. You just can't, it is no more, you want to be in control conversations, right? It used to be that. Right. And to bring it back to men, like me being a father now, I've learned so much. And I've gained such an appreciation of masculine energy. Because even now, like I'll notice my little daughter, she's two. And her mom can say sit down, but she says it in such a loving way that she'll sit down and she feel like it. I could just look at her and she runs to the nearest seat and sit down. Because she knows that like my first job is not nurturing. My first job is get your ass in line. Exactly. Right? And I think what's happened because a lot of our families have been just that maternal nurturing energy. People don't know how to take the, this is what you need to be, this is what you need. Because no offense to y'all, y'all's nature is to cuddle, to love, to the, the worst behaved dogs that I've ever come across are dogs owned by women. Yeah. For sure. Think about it. I'm thinking about my baby. My girl listens. She doesn't. But the best behaved dogs do. Them dogs don't get on the couch. They know daddy gon' whoop your ass. Exactly. But the women, I ain't just sleeping in bed with them. Oh no, we don't play that. I'm just saying, you know, in most cases, right, you see certain, like to bring up the dog factor where the woman is okay with the dog going outside, then jumping in the bed where the man ain't gonna, you know, you go over there. So it is, there is a difference and it's not a to be little woman. And it means it's just to be informative on just these small changes can create such powerful influences. Right? Right? And we just look at you say the macro, we just look at the macro and start making adjustments to say, well, just let me cook a little better in my household. Right? Let me hold a healthier conversation in my household. Let me not just always live my trauma in my household. But let me live what has changed and influenced my life in my household. You see everything starts to start to change. Even yeah. And the thing is women and this is this is what inspires me but also kind of breaks my heart about this whole thing. I think y'all don't give yourselves enough credit for sure. Women are freaking pop even in this mannispheres space we're talking about the whole red pill. Some of the most successful creators as far as lucrative are women for sure in a space full of men who hate women. The most successful creators are women which tells me that female approval, female insight is so even for the men who aren't conscious enough to recognize it. It is so so so valuable. So what I'm telling my sisters is listen, if y'all want to see better men, you have to be better women. Have to.