 it going for what you want to sexy and makes you a boss that's right as about boss that way one of the most attractive things you can actually you know characteristics you can actually have is just going for what you want this is for everything of some time dating but so few people actually trying at what they want it's unbelievable i talk about it in a bit of more specifically in terms of women it's super attractive just going for what you want like literally going for it so some of the guys don't go for they don't approach or the talk to girl they're not clear they don't know what they're talking about they're actually trying just by really going for it when a woman says holy shit this guy's really trying to hook up with me damn he's not kidding he's really he's trying to he's not going to walk away without my number he's not i'm a fuck this guy really likes me when you get when you get into a woman's head that you really are going for it that you're not afraid that you're really going for you like her you want to be with her that is extremely attractive because guess what it's showing her that you're you you're a guy who's used to getting what you want you've you've clearly got some skills with women you believe in yourself okay you're being authentic you're going for what you want these are all attractive qualities okay gotta go for what you want i see so many guys they know what they want they won't say it they won't act on it and they might tell their friends they really like her just by going for it you're already putting yourself in a category aside from a lot of people who who completely are not makes you a boss just by trying your boss in my book there's no failure you're trying you're doing good so if i can go for what you want this is a big one talked about this so much before but i'll do it quickly there's no such thing as rejection okay who who still really feels that they're afraid of rejection okay let's see in the hands really only six guys wow okay so the rest of you are gangsters already huh you're all gangsters alright so couple of mindsets for this first of all i just got to a point where i just don't care i just don't care anymore i just don't care people think i just approach so many girls already and had lots of success lots of failure i just don't care i love myself and i don't care people think that takes a while to cultivate okay that could take a lifetime of really working on yourself and doing all the kind of stuff and hopefully you're all on that path you're here right now so i'm guessing you're already on that path of just getting better and and building on your core you know loving yourself that's that's really the ideal thing you can do to to not have rejections to love the shit out of yourself you know like i'm so fucking awesome if a girl rejects me i look at it like she's fucking retarded i'm just like what is wrong with you you're just gonna go home and do what just gonna fucking jerk off or you're gonna fucking be with some douche bad guy with no personality who's just a fucking week like what do you do i feel i feel sorry for women if they have an opportunity with me they fucking up i feel really bad for them i'm just like all all your retarded all that sucks i'll give a little hug like you're a retard all that's cute now you'll find yourself a nice retarded guy one day that's cool it's not gonna be me but that's fine and i i feel bad for them and they see that i feel bad for them and i'm just like yeah you fucked it up that's fine uh... and that's that's really you know they fucked it up you know and you know i i feel bad i still feel bad for all those girls who fucked it up what can you do all right so so that's why rejection doesn't exist but furthermore a specific mindset i want to share as a couple first of all i don't believe in i just don't think rejection really exists is something uh... alan roger curry uh... good friend of mine and one of our speakers at the at the summit he gave me this example this blew my mind a couple years ago now and so i'll share this with you directly from him as you imagine just for a second there's uh... some kind of club there's fifty girls in that club fifty women and they're all in there dancing around and i say to you going to that club i'm gonna give one of those women uh... an envelope with five thousand dollars in it let's make it five thousand pounds yeah small money now all you have to get that money is what going to that club walk up to every girl and say excuse me do you have what i'm looking for okay if you walk up to one of the other forty nine girls are just gonna look at you and be like you gotta ask her three times you gotta say to each girl you have one looking for three times if you find the right girl the third time you ask is going to be like yes i do how she gives you the money however all the other chicks are just look at you like the fuck you talking about get away from me so of the people in this room who would go in there and try and get that five thousand just about everyone this guy's not having any of it like i do that i don't need that money i'm you must be rich right you're my best friend now you're my i want to go on a boat ride so i'm hanging with you but for everyone else okay so who put their hands up you put your hands up alright so why would you go in there and try and get the money you can talk as many girls as you want but why would you do it okay simpler anyone over here why would you you put your hand up it would be fun but why would you go in there and look for the money you want the money so are you not worried about all the other girls who are gonna why not yep you're never gonna see them again is one reason but be specific why why doesn't it matter exactly pingo who said that fantastic they don't have what you're looking for those 49 chicks they don't have what you're looking for so you come up to them they don't have it and you leave did they reject you is that rejection of course not they just don't have what you're looking for the same thing applies to women in dating right if you walk up to girl hey i'd like to take you home and bang the shit of you all night i don't want to do that okay well maybe this girl over here does hi how you doing hi i'd like to take you home and bang the shit of you all night it's not rejection just doesn't have what you're looking for it's that simple rejection does not exist my friend marcus in his speech last year he shared one of his mindsets which is uh...