 everyone welcome to another not survive a live video just walking through this mall take you on and talk with all of me today and in this one we're gonna be talking about how you can hurt the narcissist forever like a pretty understand being there before I know what it's like you were involved with this person who so much hatred inside their hearts it's like they were never happy they were never satisfied with anything like you did for them and they were always trying to hurt you to punish you to bring you down to make you feel small make you feel insignificant just every day they were coming at you leave you alone you thought you were real you thought you were building a relationship but they weren't really about that they were just using you future-faking stringing you along meanwhile they were abusing you using you for money a place to stay sex whatever it was so of course after that you've been used and abused you've been chewed up spat out you want to punish them you want to take revenge you want to give them a taste of their own medicine you want them to know how it feels I completely understand that different people are at different stages of their healing and you want to process that you want to get through it and so if you want to hurt the narcissist forever this is what you have to do and this is not so much about manipulation or psychological tricks this is more about you bettering yourself and doing what you need to do so my advice for you if you want to hurt the narcissist forever all you got to do is go no contact forget about them and move on with your life because trust me that will hurt them the most for you if they went no contact on you they wouldn't make really any difference at all if anything that would help you you would become a lot better without them but it's different for the narcissist because they need you more than you need them they depend on you they leech off you they live off you they need you for all of these things for attention validation admiration money a place to stay sex all these things they need that from you so when you go no contact they are losing all of that they are losing their supply I remember with narcissists they can't be alone they always need to have supply on tap 24 hours a day they are addicted to people so when you cut yourself off you're taking away the one thing because they need that attention that validation when you take that away from them it will hurt them and on top of that once you've gone no contact you can move on and become the best version of yourself and live your best life because that will hurt them even more because remember they created this false narrative inside their heads about you and about how you're no good at all these things wrong with you but then if you move on and you do better without them it completely destroys their false narrative because they've got a look at you doing great you did it all in your own without any help from them and meanwhile they were trying to bring you down you still rise above that so it completely destroys their false narrative and the reason why it hurts so much is because the left their own devices there's one thing they hate in this world more than anything else it is themselves they hate themselves and they can't stand to be alone to reflect on themselves that is the last thing that they want to do and that's why they always need to have you around that's why you had to be their great a source of supply and they always needed to validate their image so yeah of course when you go no contact and you move on and live your best life that will hurt them a lot because then they're left alone to themselves unless they've already got a new supply lined up but if you leave them and they have no supply at that point it is very dangerous for them and who knows what they will do but one thing for sure it will hurt them a lot if you do that but my advice is really not to worry so much about hurting the narcissist it's more about you focusing on yourself and finding your own happiness that's more important than anything else because the truth is when you discover your true happiness within yourself you're not going to be worried about the narcissist you're not going to care about hurting them you're not going to be watching what they're doing on social media you're not going to be trying to find out who they're with you're not even going to care you'll just completely forget about them you will become indifferent because you've got something that's more important to you than that something more viable and it is something that you can generate from within and that is your happiness so that's really my advice because you're not gonna find any happiness in hurting the narcissist or trying to tear them down like what they did to you it's not gonna work like that it might give you short-term satisfaction but that's about it and then many of you are empath so you're gonna feel guilty about it too it might hurt you more than it hurts them which is why I don't really recommend doing that instead I would advise for you to move on live your best life you don't have to tell about it you don't have to broadcast it you have to show them anything you just do it for you because that's what you're passionate about and you want to find your own happiness for yourself and that needs to be your motive that needs to be the reason why you're doing it not to get back at them not to hurt them it has to be for you so that is my advice John Tracy says I'm 100% fully healed glad to hear that John you know that's what it's really about because when you have healed from the trauma you will feel no need to check in on the narcissist get revenge on them punish them try to make them jealous all of these things you won't even care and I can say that from my own experience the narcissist in my past I have no desire whatsoever to take revenge on them because I can genuinely feel happy from within I can generate my own happiness but you know what that's something they're never gonna have that's something that they will never get to experience and it's also something that you should not take for granted so do not place so much importance on hurting the narcissist instead realize how significant your own happiness is and not just that but your peace of mind because you will feel peace when you move when you move on from them you will feel a lot better when you do that so yeah I mean if you really want to hurt the narcissist you know I can understand they've hurt you you want to make them feel how they made you feel you want to give them a taste of their own medicine yeah you can do that I mean it's really the same path regardless the only difference is you want to put it out there and broadcast it make sure they can see it I don't really advise doing that I mean it should be for you because otherwise what you're doing is it's more it's more what the narcissist does when they broadcast it it's because they can't experience that happiness satisfaction and fulfillment directly they can't generate it from within instead they can only experience it vicariously through you so and that's kind of what they do when you see what they move on with the new supply they don't really find any fulfillment in that they get their fulfillment from putting it out there and then you see it and you value it because they can't see any value in it so they experience things vicariously through you and you don't want to be doing that because that's not the right way to live trust me it's a lot more fun when you experience things directly although that is something a narcissist will never be able to do and the reason for that is because they're self-absorbed and they like empathy which is kind of a curse in many ways it's not something that you have to deal with so like I said value it don't take it for granted find your happiness generate it from within just enjoy your life man and yeah every day you know that's what I'm doing out here living my best life making the most of every day life is short and that's what I advise you to do as well so yeah I hope you enjoyed this video if you did please give it a thumbs up down below helps us support the YouTube algorithm helps our community and share your thoughts in the comment section let me know if you agree with this or not share the video subscribe and if you'd like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me you can do that for my website it is not fiverr.co.uk and also check on my Instagram as well I've got new pictures and videos of my travels on there it is not some other YouTube and Instagram all right thank you all for joining me and I will talk to you in another one very soon