 Welcome again to another Narc Survivor Live video, and in this one we are going to be talking about a very interesting topic. We're going to be talking about what you can do to shock the narcissist. Because as you probably noticed by now, when you're dealing with the narcissist, they've always got to keep you off balance. They have to keep it where you are emotionally destabilized. And the reason for that is because they have a very weak character, which is based upon a false sense of self. They have no identity of their own. Within them, it's just a void. There is nothing else. There's no internal regulator that keeps them calm, comfortable and sane. Instead, what they need is an external regulator. They need a physical person outside of their flesh, outside of their human body to act as this external regulator to regulate their emotions. And you may notice that as long as they can keep you off balance to where you're constantly looking at yourself, yourself loathing, or you experience a lot of fear, anger or sadness. As long as they can get you in that state, then they seem calm and relaxed. They appear to be at peace with themselves as long as they can keep you down. Then they feel like they are up. But in this video, we're going to talk about how you can switch it around, how you can give them a taste of their own medicine, how you can shock them. And it's actually very easy for you to do this. All you really have to do is the opposite of what you've been doing so far. Because up until this point, it's likely that you have been fighting back. You have been resisting or opposing them. You have been feeding into the drama and chaos. And you've just been rolling around in the mud with them. Which of course is exactly what they want you to do. Yes, they want you to do that. Because like I said, if they can pull you down, it makes them feel like they are above you. When they can make you out of control, it makes them feel like they're more in control of themselves. So they will say a lot of hurtful things. They will do things to try to scare you. They may say that they're going to go out. They're going to walk out the door. They're going to go and cheat on you. See someone behind your back. They're going to sleep with someone else. Or they're just going to leave you behind and they're never coming back. And you're never going to see them again. They're going to block you on everything. They're going to do something to hurt you, to upset you. To make you really sad. To make you miserable just like them. And I'm sure what you would normally do when they do that, you would go chasing after them. You would try to get them to come back. You would do anything just to make them act normally. Or just to make them see sense. But how has that worked for you in the past? When you do that, it tends to make them worse. Because that is the type of reaction that they want from you. So what you need to do instead is you need to do the opposite. Be unemotional and non-reactive. Be indifferent. And you can give them these four words. These four words are very powerful. Very effective. And it will shock the narcissist. The four words are have it your way. You tell the narcissist, have it your way. Go and do what you want to do. If that's what you want to do, I can't stop you. I can't control you. I can't make you see sense. I can't make you a better person. I can't change you. I can't fix you. I can't do any of that. That's outside of my control. But it's up to you. It's your choice. If you want to go off and that's what you want to do. So you tell them have it your way. You don't fight them. You don't resist or oppose them. You let them have full control over themselves and their lives. And it will shock them. Because in that moment they won't be able to get supply. But they may also feel some sense of freedom in that moment. But they feel like they don't even have to fight. They don't even have to argue. They can just go now and just do whatever they want to do. But when they do that, if you give them enough rope, they will hang themselves. If you tell them have it your way. Go and do what you want to do. They will end up sabotaging themselves. Because narcissism is self-destructive. There is no person to my knowledge who was highly narcissistic and experienced a long-term successful or favourable result. Especially not in the end. They always self-destruct every single time. I've known a lot of narcissists in my life. And to my knowledge none of them I've ever found happiness or success in anything in their lives. So you don't have to worry about it when you tell them have it your way. That doesn't mean they're just going to go off and live their best lives. And everything's just going to work out for them. It doesn't work that way. It is self-destructive. And of course we know that it is self-destructive. That is why when they do these types of things, we try to resist or oppose them. Because we do have their best interest in mind. We were with them, we were trying to help them. That was the whole point. And also the narcissist deep down knows that what they're doing is wrong. When they run off and they go to meet someone else, when they go to cheat on you, or when they're about to discard you, they come to you first for validation. They're seeking reassurance. They want you to fight them to argue. Because then that tells them if you're reacting this way, then what I'm doing must be right. As crazy as that sounds, that is how they make sense of it in their minds. So we already know that their toxic and dysfunctional behaviour is wrong and self-destructive. And yes, even they know. They know that as well. Which is why it's so powerful and effective. When you give them these four words, you tell them have it your way. So I do hope this video is helpful to you. Let me know how it works out in the comments down below. I do read your comments every day, so I'm looking forward to hearing from you. And you can give the video a thumbs up as well to support our community. Share the video and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive the notifications for my future videos. And as always, I look forward to talking with you in another video very soon.