 Why the narcissist is destined to die alone Many narcissists are destined to die alone They're destined to get older and then experience nothing but loneliness and sadness Where they become very bitter and resentful towards the opposite sex Because they feel like they have been treated unfairly They will never look at themselves They will never adjust their way of thinking They will never hold themselves accountable for their actions And that is why they're destined to die alone Because accountability is the key to success in any area of our lives But all the narcissist ever did was blame other people when things went wrong They never looked themselves and made the necessary changes We cannot control other people We cannot choose how other people behave We can try to influence their actions or decisions But in the end it's up to them how they choose to respond We can only change ourselves By taking responsibility for where we are in life By realizing that it is our own actions and decisions That have led us to where we are now by tracing our steps back to that fork in the road Where we went in the wrong direction By understanding what made us make those actions and decisions And then choosing a different path to then achieve a more favorable outcome or result Which is something that the narcissist will never do they will always blame a person or circumstance for them as fortune Which is why they never change or develop Their disorder is maladaptive They have an inability to assimilate They cannot take in or understand fully certain informational ideas They cannot absorb or integrate into a wider society or culture Because everything has to go their way Everything has to revolve around them There's no room for them to accommodate another person's desires or needs Because the narcissist has a void that can never be filled It can never be filled because they refuse to look within and attend to it Instead they expect us to intend to them and fulfill their needs Which is what we try to do until we realize that we cannot change them We can only change ourselves and it is their inability to change that prevents them from being able to sustain a long-term relationship Because eventually people just get fed up of having to do everything their way Relationships are meant to be reciprocal They're supposed to be a mutual benefit Rather than one person being drained of their energy and resources To feed or sustain the other person But this is a concept that narcissists do not understand How could they ever understand it? You cannot rationalize anything with someone who has a large gaping wound inside of their chest Or someone who is hanging off the edge of a cliff Which is why there's just no way to get through to them There's no way to get them to understand Because anytime that you don't make everything about them in their minds, you're the problem You're expected to be at their beck and call It's like they're suffering from severe injuries They cannot survive unless you are there to sustain their false self Which is why narcissists cannot be alone They need a source of supply They need someone to provide them with a sense of stability and security That's what keeps them sane It gives them a purpose But they never have that person's best interest in mind They just manipulate and exploit those people They take advantage of them They use them and when they have nothing left to give They toss them aside Like they're garbage But they never regret their actions In their minds, it's always the other person's fault and that is why they're destined to die alone Because they never learn from their mistakes Which is why you should not feel bad for them This video is not a pity party for the narcissist They had plenty of options to choose from But they abused them all They mistreated them They refused to limit themselves to one person Even if they found someone who was perfect for them They were always looking for something else They wanted to see what else was out there It's a never-ending cycle First they idealized their target Then they devalued them And then finally they discard them But then it just starts all over again with someone else They refused to limit themselves to one person Because they always want more They always want something better They want someone who is more attractive or someone with more money But even when they get that, it's still not enough They just keep wanting more and more But they're never satisfied Which is why they're destined to die alone Because although they may have met lots of good people They always felt like they could do better They always wanted more They always thought the grass was greener on the other side They always felt that what they had wasn't good enough In the end The narcissists who are once so loud and grandiose Eventually become covert They play the victim They act like everyone did them wrong And they become very bitter and resentful As though life is just being fair to them Rather than accepting that they brought this on themselves It's the result of their own actions They chose this And they could have made a different choice But they didn't Eventually many narcissists will even choose to be alone Because they have a long list of what they're looking for In a relationship partner But a very short list or no list at all Of what they have to bring to the table Many of these narcissists act grandiose and arrogant But they don't actually have any quality skills or resources That would benefit you or improve your life in any way It's all in their heads Which is why when you get involved with them You find that they're just a hindrance in your life They're just setting you back Because they lied about their abilities They had to make you believe that they were on your level But eventually The truth reveals itself When you're no longer able to perform at the same standard as you did before Because they lied to you They exaggerated everything They sold you a dream Eventually You just wake up You see the truth And if you don't get rid of them They'll get rid of you Because they don't want truth They don't want to deal with reality They want the fantasy It just gets to the point where people begin to wake up No one wants to participate in this fantasy anymore Which is why they eventually end up alone Not because they can't find anyone But because they don't want to be with someone Who's beneath what they think they deserve Because that would just reflect back to them That maybe they're not special or important It would reflect back to them that they're not much better than the average person Which is what their narcissism is designed to deny So instead they become bitter and resentful at the world They act like they've been treated unfairly As though they're deserving of something better or greater When the truth is much worse than what they're trying to deny Because while they may think that they deserve more than what they've received The truth is that those relationships failed Because they were not deserving of them But in the end, they act like those people were not deserving They cut off or resent anyone who is not willing to validate this illusion The narcissist is destined to die alone Because they will always choose their false self over their source of supply The illusion is more important to them than love or any form of connection Because they live in fear That maybe they're not special or important In life we have two choices We can choose to live in fear Or we can choose to live with love But for narcissists, it's not a choice Because they've lived in fear for so long They don't know anything else So eventually they just die alone because they're afraid They target people who they think are better than them Because then it makes them feel like they are better Then they can feel better about themselves Rather than accept them themselves as they actually are Because all they're really doing is running from themselves That's the purpose of the idealization, the devaluation and the discard That's the purpose of the illusion It's a distraction They create these different characters Which they abandon eventually And they abandon everyone and everything that goes along with these characters Until there's nothing left Because if you've spent years of your life working on yourself To become the person that you are today You're probably not going to want to live in a fantasy You're going to be content with your reality You're not going to want to conform to an illusion But the narcissist never worked on themselves They just decided one day that there's something Without putting any work in Which is why their only option is to sustain the illusion Without that there's nothing All they can do is pull people into their world Until those people realize that it's not real And then the narcissist will either remove them from their fake world Or those people will leave on their own Once you discover that it's all a lie There's really nothing you can do You can't rationalize whether narcissist You cannot bring truth to the situation Because truth is death to a narcissist So in the end A lot of them have to be alone Because that's the only way that they can survive That's the only way that they can sustain the illusion Because although they may have tried to brainwash you They're also victims of their own manipulation They're under the same spell And they want to stay there Because reality was too painful for them to deal with Thank you 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