 Can a narcissist make you happy? They will do whatever they can To make you believe that they can make you happy. It's designed to lure you in especially in the love-bombing phase They want to make you believe That they have everything You could want that they could be Everything that you might need them to be. The very good are creating the illusion The very good at making you think That they can make you happy but if we're talking about When people actually get involved with these narcissists, I have yet to hear even a single person Who says that the narcissist has made them happy A narcissist is Not going to make you happy because just look at them They're not happy with themselves So they haven't got any happiness To share with you if anything they only come around you Because they're hoping that you will make them happy They're hoping to get something out of you, but they don't have any happiness to share with you Narcissists are miserable people and it's true Misery loves company. They want to share their misery with you when you first meet them It might seem like you are happy with them But that's only because you're validating their illusion You're giving power to it You're giving energy to it And that energy comes from your belief You believe that it's real And as long as the narcissist Thinks that you believe in them They will continue feeding it back to you But it's not really what they're about. It's fueled by your attention Your admiration But it's not real. It's an illusion Once you take your attention away from it It falls apart. It's only fun because you're there and it'd probably be a lot more fun Without the narcissist But not only do these narcissists Trick us into thinking into making us think that we have fun with them But we also end up tricking ourselves We want the fantasy We want to believe that they're this larger than the life character Someone who can make us happy But really happiness only comes from within and what you may not realize is Even when you're around these narcissists Even in the love-bombing phase That happiness is still coming from within you. It's just when you were around them at that time You gave yourself permission to feel it and you can give yourself permission to feel that right now Even if the narcissist has left you You don't need them around All they ever really brought to you was misery and pain But you validated them You supported the illusion Which then made you believe that you were happy with them When really you just gave yourself permission To feel that way you just told yourself Okay, I've met this amazing person Maybe they're attractive, maybe they're confident intelligent whatever it is Now I can be happy now I've earned the right To feel good about myself Even if it was all fake Even if it was all a lie It was just a false character It wasn't what they were really about We believed in it, so we gave ourselves some permission to feel good And we often mistake that with The narcissist making us happy When if that were true, why would our happiness suddenly end? Why didn't it continue? Why were we only happy for the first few weeks or months? Your happiness in a relationship with a narcissist What only last for As long as you validate the illusion and their false self But as soon as you pull your attention away from it, it can't last anymore then It's forced to end The illusion is dependent on you You give power to it And once you take your attention away from it It seizes to exist That's when you pop the fantasy bubble You leave their false reality And you realize that it was all a lie it was all fake But then you might look back at the love-bombing phase And have cognitive dissonance and think Maybe it was real Maybe that is who they really were Maybe I messed it up No That's just what they want you to think They want you to blame yourself And they want you to think that they've moved on with someone else And now they're gonna make that new person happy So then they can get supply from fooling the new person And then also from hurting you it's all a lie A narcissist cannot make you happy They cannot make anyone happy Including themselves and that's why they're always so miserable That's why they're always look for happiness outside of themselves And other people when material things Happiness does not come from another person It does not come from money or material things Happiness comes from within and anyone who tells you that happiness comes from something outside of you Is misleading you They're telling you that the power does not exist within yourself Which is a lie They're misleading you from the truth And that's why I make these videos Because I want to remind all of you That the power is within you to create the life that you deserve To be happy and you don't need anyone or anything To feel that way All you have to do is give yourself permission And make that choice right now To be happy You don't have to expect it from the narcissist. You don't have to be dependent on them You're never gonna get any happiness from the narcissist Because they're just very miserable people So cold out here. I think that's enough for this topic. I hope that this video Has been helpful to you Check out the new website if you haven't yet It's www.narksurviver.co.uk And also the Instagram Nark Survivor YouTube And also We're looking for people to share their story For the future episodes of dealing with narcissists So if you would like to share your story, please send me an email Coaching at narksurviver.co.uk Now I'm gonna go now before I freeze Thank you all for joining this live And I will see you in the premiers tomorrow