 So this is a topic that I'm sure you have all heard about it a lot and a lot and a lot. It's, I rarely go to any conference or I attend a conference and there is not a topic about the manners of Rasul Allah SAW. And the topic was which part of the life of Rasul Allah SAW that impressed me or that I want to highlight. When I was reading the title, I was like, which one is not? Which part of the life of Rasul Allah SAW? When you really read it, not read it, just okay, I know, I'm just reviewing. When you really read and say which one and you take one incident, one incident, one incident, like let's take one incident with a non-Muslim, take an incident with his wife, take an incident with somebody he doesn't know, take an incident with his friends and it's like which one doesn't impress you? And it doesn't impress you. It has to make you at least say, whoa, wow. And who is he? Ali SAW. And I think all Muslims, all wherever we are, share a common love to Rasul Allah SAW. And I can speak from the woman's side when we are in the road. When finally we get into the road and all those of you who've been there, you know what I'm talking about. The emotion you see it on the ladies, this is not a fake emotion. And there's nothing, I mean, when we are in the road or the woman area, we don't see anything, it's not like the men side, we see nothing. We only see just like a white fence. And not now, Alhamdulillah, it's much less crowded, but before it used to be extremely crowded. Still there is these emotions and nothing stunning. You say to yourself, what is it? The love we all have to Rasul Allah SAW. Alhamdulillah, I mean, all Muslims are still the same. But there is one or more than one issue for us Muslims in our relationship with Rasul Allah SAW. The last session I was talking to the ladies and I said, and I focused on the relationship with Allah SWT. And now since the topic is, it's what's the relationship with our relationship with Rasul Allah SAW. Love is there. So don't think of love. Love is there. No one can at all question or argue about it. But the question I have to everybody and what I want to share with you is, this love is translated to what? These feelings are translated to what? And I'll give you an example in our daily life. Whenever you want to understand something in the Deen, always think of something in life and then see. So when you have someone who loves you, young and old, parents or students, somebody loves you. What is the sign that this person loves you? And I would love to hear from anyone. What is the sign that this person really genuinely loves you? What is the sign? I'm sorry? Actions, specify. That's what I'm looking for. What action? Prove, prove without a doubt. And even sometimes you say, what else I want to do to prove it to you? What is it? Praise, okay. Sacrifice for that person. You give the thing you love for that person. That's one. Definitely your trust is not love. I'm talking about love. Sincere love, obedience, you do whatever they tell you. Sometimes it doesn't make sense. But I love them. And look at your parents with your child. With your child coming from the university, coming home after six months, right? What does the first thing parents do? The mom is cooking something that child, that student or he loves because they love it. And you smile and it doesn't matter if this takes forever, right? And the daddy will go and do something because my son or my daughter loves it. The sign of love is actually obedience. And Allah said this in the Quran. Anyone can give me the verse. Say, if you love Allah, follow me. Me is a Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. And the result, you love Allah, Allah will love you. And Allah will forgive you. And Allah is all forgiving, all merciful. This sign, each one in this room, young and old, man and a woman, brothers and sisters, that you love the Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. We live in, what's the name of this estate? I know, what is the name of this estate? Show me, show me estate. I was talking to my family, my sisters in California and says what? And I said, yeah, it's called show me estate. Why it's called show me estate? Don't answer me, Google it, but you will find out. Show me, meaning show me. And I'm so worried about me, I'm not talking about you, you all are definitely better than me. That the Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam on the day of judgment, and he will say to me, show me, show me your love in my book. Where is the love that you had for me that you claimed you had for me? Fattabi'u ni, follow me. What does follow me mean? Do something he did. Let's take simple ones. Simple ones he did, who can give me one thing you all know about the Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. You don't have to read the Seerah. You don't have to listen to long YouTube. One thing the Rasul, alaihi s-salam did. Tell me, anything comes in your mind. I'm sorry? Give me act, not a character, act. Smaya, this is one. He used to be described. He used to be described that when he talks to someone and this, there's couple of things in his Seerah and I focus on his daily life that literally astound me. I was like, ya Allah make me this one. I don't think I can do it. It's very simple. When he was described by the Sahaba when he talks to someone they all say he talks to him or her as if there's nobody else in the room. Give them their all attention. His all attention. And he's a Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. It doesn't matter who's that person. Young or old, famous, rich, poor speaks the language, doesn't speak. It doesn't matter. And look at us when we get into a gathering how do we greet people? We have categories. Do you know that? I know her. She's my friend or he's my friend or he's my boss. I will need her. I have something to do with her and it is accordingly. And some people we don't even pay attention to as if they are nonexisting especially if they are quote-unquote less than us in my standard. So number one his relationship with the people around him. I'm not talking about the relationship with Sayyidina Abu Bakr, the special relationship or with Sayyidina Umar or the Sayyidah Aisha. These are special. I'm talking about the general. What is the other thing they said about him? When he greets someone he never ever was the first one to let his hand goes. And he's a Rasul, alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. When you greet he keep greeting till that person pulls his hand. What is that sign of? Caring. He cared about every single person around him not because they were from Quraish or they were in Medina or because that was the person who will bring Khair to Islam or because this is his friend or this is his father his father-in-law Sayyidina Abu Bakr. No. Because they were a creation of Allah SWT. That's why when he was described and you all know this hadith kana khuluquhu l-Quran. When Sayyidah Aisha was asked how was he because the men wanted to know how was he in his home? They see him outside but how was he at home? Do you know the dual personality many of us have? Outside were perfect when we go to home Allah knows or when we go to our room we are something we are with a family we are something not he alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam. And they asked her Sayyidah Aisha's hadith narrated by Sayyidah Aisha who was he? And she said kana khuluquhu l-Quran fi ahli baite How was he with his family? Meaning his wives and this is the wife talking about the husband kana khuluquhu l-Quran his manners his demeanor his speech the way he talk the way he walk kana khuluquhu l-Quran Where are we? If you look at the other person he had daily contact with not a woman a man in his house Sayyidna Anas he was his servant when he moved to Medina when he migrated to Medina Rasul Aleyhi s-salatu wa s-salam when he arrived to Medina the people of Medina they were so happy everybody gifted him something and the mother of Anas Sayyidna Anas was 10 years of age she grabbed Sayyidna Anas and came to Rasul Aleyhi s-salatu wa s-salam the meaning of I don't have much to give to welcome you take him ya Rasul Allah and teach him what a gift what a gift not to Rasul Aleyhi s-salatu wa s-salam to Sayyidna Anas go and live with Rasul Aleyhi s-salatu wa s-salam he served him for how long who knows 4-0 and some says 10 some says 4-0 and this is what he said Sayyidna Anas think of the people we deal with whether they are friends whether they are our bosses or they are under us and he said I think it's 10 years I served the Rasul Aleyhi s-salatu wa s-salam 10 years never he never said to me one time single time this is a young boy 10 years of age how many mistakes he does think of your children and he said for 10 years he never asked me why did you do this and why you didn't do that that's patient when you said patient absolutely but in action why did you do this or why you didn't do that and that Shahada this is a testimony not when in his house afterward not when he was alive afterward 2-3 they loved him to the extent Sayyidna Amr ibn al-Aas was asked way later on when he became the governor of Egypt they asked him describe him to us how does he look like how did he look like tell us how his face was and you know what he said does anyone know the answer we never looked at his face we could never look at his face that's love and that's what respect awe love respect and awe a man does not look at the face of a man that he cannot describe him and they lived around him and the famous story which I'm sure some of you when they went to the Najashi and they were who is this man and they said the meaning of that when he does when he performed his evolution the Sahaba run to collect the money the to collect the water from under who was he who was he and where are we in our relationship with him simple question to everybody what was his sunnah in these days what what where are we Shaba what was his sunnah in Shaba fasting right when Sayyidna Osama bin Uzayt came to him and said Ya Rasulullah I've never seen you fasting that much in a month after Ramadan why this month why Shaban what did he say That is a month that people forget about this is a month that people forget about because it comes between Rajab the sacred month and Ramadan everybody knows Ramadan and I wanted to honor this month by fasting and he used to fast not all Shaban majority of Shaban where are we and everybody ask about the night of the 15 of Shaba I can't tell you how many questions I had at one point I was like there's nothing else in this deen other than the night of the 15 of Shaban should we do that should we do that is it bid'ah is it not bid'ah and I looked at people and I say why don't you learn about his sunnah and do what he did in in Shaban he used to fast and then he said and this is a month where the deeds are presented to Allah and I love for my deeds to be presented to Allah when I'm fasting because our deeds are presented to Allah weekly actually daily weekly monthly yearly do you know that okay daily it's presented to Allah swt the change of the shift time when the angels change the angels change before fajr and before asr and they go to Allah swt the angels of the night and Allah asked them how did you see them we all have to have a good answer they just left we just prayed asr they just left so when they go to Allah says what did you see them doing and they say ya Allah we found them praying and the morning one is the same thing and this is the daily presentation and there is the weekly presentation and this is on Thursday and that's why he fasted asr because fasting is the most beloved act to Allah swt fasting is for me Allah is saying this not us not even the Rasul asr fasting is for me and I, Allah the exalted will reward for it and scholars teach you the only deed that is not time stand in fact it's two it is not time stand who knows them one is fasting what is the other one related to fasting it's patient sabr إِنَّ مَا يُوَفَ الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُمْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابِ the people who practice this patient let alone you struggle to be patient you will be rewarded unaccounted for fasting and being patient so on Thursday then you come the monthly the month of shaban then you come the yearly what day our deeds will be presented to Allah I'll leave this for you go and learn it go and learn it what He did He taught us He taught us how much we practice everything I'm going to tell you that impressed me I'm saying this to myself before I say it to you it's not about what He did it's about to me let me read to you this one because I want to read it because I want to give it its do right is when you all know this when He went to the cave of Hehran then He came back and He heard Iqra the angel came to Him when He came to His wife and I want not only the brothers to think of themselves but I want the sisters also if this was the opposite what will your wife say about you and what will your husband say about you and look what she said about him and He came you all know Zamiluni Zamiluni put cover me cover me and He was telling her the story and it is an overwhelming story I can't even imagine and what did she say to Him Wallahi Inna Allah la yakhdil la yakhdilook by Allah Allah will never let you down this is a wife talking to her husband this is not a prophet yet she doesn't even know that she took him to after it she took him to Waraqa but at this point she doesn't know what's going on this is a man came to his wife and says this is what happens to me I was in the cave and guess what happened angel came to me and then he was telling me this normally what would we have said really are you sure is that how it is see what she said Inna Allah la yakhdilook by Allah Allah will never let you down why these are the criteria these I call it the result is earned I do and I get we all wants to get but we don't want to do it we don't want to put the effort to get the result so what did he what did she say she said you always always take care of your blood relationship it's not the one I love with the one I like with the one I need blood relationship and I call it the non-negotiable relationship I have no choice but you don't know what they did to me no choice this is the first thing that people need to know about me and you let alone your close people to your life your spouse your husband your wife that you are a person takes care of people not because you need them or love them number one taasilul rahim fa inna ka taasilul rahim wa tahmilul kall you help those in need especially one day and you carry and you worry about their worries these days it's not my business why do I have to worry about them let me worry about myself all of us is the society of I, I, I me, me, me it's not the society of us community kuntum khaira umma you were the best nation that was sent out no, it's all about me life is all about me wa tahmilul kall does people say this about you you worry about the other people don't worry he is there he will take care of it don't worry she's there she'll help you can I claim this that's who he was wa tahmilul kall wa taqsibul ma'dum taqsibul ma'dum the person who is in need not to carry his worries but to help him wherever you can taqsibul ma'dum you give whatever and I'm not talking about money anything how many of us in this room follow this footstep that we help people before they open their mouth we feel them in college tomorrow is a very hard exam I know she is she doesn't know this very well let me go and help no you know I studied more she needs to take care of herself and put these examples that's who he was before he became a prophet I'm gonna re-emphasize the point he was not a prophet yet alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam and wa tahmilul ma'dum and you stand up for injustice stand up for injustice I'm not talking about the movements or outside I'm talking about in our masjid in our Muslim community when we see injustice what do we do it's not my business I am not the chairman of the masjid I'm not the president I'm not in the shura tansurul ma'dum these should be my daily character that's why I kind of you stand up for injustice in your home injustice with an animal injustice with the world people laugh oh you compose oh you recycle don't use plastic that's tansurul ma'dum because we have done injustice to this earth you all have seen the pictures of the plastics in the ocean and what happens to the animals that's him let alone a human being who's going through injustice whether I see in the road whether I see in the mosque whether it's in my house injustice in my house what tansurul ma'dum what tukri o'dlayh and you're so hospitable to the guest and he didn't say who's the guest hospitable he was a person alaihi s-salatu was-salam he loved people because they are human beings because they are a creation of Allah because that's what Allah wants from him not because who again who they are or they are my friend or I love them or I will need them tukri o'dlayh that's again that's what she said wa tu'inu ala nawaibil haqqa that's the last thing she said about him and you always stand up for the truth where are we from this stand up for the truth this is a wife talking about her husband how many of our spouses or say this about us when we in front of us to us and let alone behind us that's who he is alaihi s-salatu was-salam and this is before again before he became prophet and then the ones I started with is when he became a prophet alaihi s-salatu was-salam there is way more and I'm going to end up with this one when this is Sayyida Aisha his wife the younger one this is in Medina she described him he said she said I will describe him to you give me your hearts even write this down and ask Allah SWT month of Ramadan is in two weeks ask Allah SWT to make me this I can't do it we can't do it alone we live in a corrupted time that every norm became a norm every true become not true and he predicted alaihi s-salatu was-salam he predicted that Islam came and will come and will come and will come to the West Islam came as a stranger will come back as a stranger place in Jannah for those strangers may Allah make us among the strangers Ya Rabbi Amin so she said لم يكن يعيب أحدى he never ever looked down or called someone or find a fault of someone this is what she said this is what she said أحدى nobody look at us we look at this she stole she is this she is that never ولا يجزي على سوء بسوء and never retaliate or return harm or evil with evil never this is his wife never they say what did they say about him go and read the Quran what they did do to him go and read the Seerah never you all know the famous story of the Jewish neighbor who she used every day he leaves the house she throw garbage on him the day she did not throw garbage what did he do knocked on her door says are you okay see we laugh because this is this is impossible this is fairytale this is him my and your اسوء example Allah asked me and you to follow him that he was with the Messenger of Allah اسوءatur حصل the best example so she said never never retaliate respond evil with evil but كان يعفCROSSTALK he always forgiven for them always and you know when he entered Mecca in support of them God you're free those people who insulted him and did everything you probably all know it's manners what impress you should about al-Rasua al-Israat was a number one his manners his manners it's legendary subhan Allah and she said what kind of aid and I say that he was way far from committing any sin committing any sin Let me end up in the same never retaliate for himself Never said lemon lemon is not never have done that and he never hit a person Let alone a child. Well, I'm a good woman. Well, I'm a ton. Well, I'm a hotima. He never hit a child or a slave woman or a servant Bell let me address a whanan not even hit an animal Well, I'm your wood to say it and he never ever did not give someone asking him even if he had nothing With a smile with a nice word That's who he is Ali salatu wa s-salam We don't even move our lips to say Ali salatu wa s-salam Man Nassiyah Salatah Ali Khad Nassiyah Tariqa or Dalla Tariqa him in the Jannah the person who does not send Salam to Rasul alaihi salatu wa s-salam he lost the path to Jannah And we don't even were to please forgive me. We're lazy to even say alaihi salatu wa s-salam I'm looking at you. I want to see a mouth moved I'm not talking about the people who are making masks wearing masks But keep saying that you should hear it You should remind the person next to you to say it alaihi salatu wa s-salam. This is our Prophet this is I just gave you literally a drop in a bucket This is just a drop of who he is learn make Ramadan an Opportunity every single day Families or you in the msa after Maghrib when you pray cure fast five minutes Five minutes learn about one thing about one Every day every day every day No way you will not change no way you will not change or at least in your list of dua to Allah Ya Allah make me follow his footsteps Make it. I can't do this. I am not this but you are able to change me Do that my sisters and my brothers Allah gave us and I said this to the ladies before Allah gave us a lot of treasures But we have left it as Muslims a Sayyidna Omar said Nah, no common. I asked them Allah will Islam But I mean a lot of Islam a fee gheri. I don't learn a lot We are a nation that Allah honored us by Islam We chose dignity and honor somewhere else and we were abused You in case you wonder why we are we are Muslims Subhanaka Allahumma. We'll be handy. I showed you a la ilaha illa and astaghfiru kawak tubu leek salallahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad Wala Ali he was happy to see man Katera. I asked Allah Subhanata Allah to make us of those who listen to the word of admonition myself number one and to follow it May Allah Subhanata Allah shower us with the love of the Rasul alayhi sallatu wa sallam the real love not their love of words But the love of action may Allah Subhanata Allah forgive all our sins may Allah give us Subhanahu wa ta'ala Give us the life to live right to Ramadan to see Ramadan to fast Ramadan to do the qiyamah for Ramadan to give Ramadan It's do right and may Allah Subhanata Allah. Ya Rabbi. I mean for everyone in this room for everybody We know for all the Muslims that we get to Ramadan and finish Ramadan and we will be completely forgiven. Ya Rabbi I mean jazakum Allah khayran Salam alaikum Bismillah wa alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salam ala Rasulillah. I have a question from a young Very young woman who just came approached me and said please read this question in the question answer So she wanted everyone to hear it And I'm so glad she had the courage to write it and to ask to be read in public I am from a Muslim country and my parents are Muslim And my parents are Muslims too. I want to wear hijab and be covered But my parents don't want me to do though. What should I do? I'll read it again because I wanted to pierce your heart I'm from a Muslim country. This is a 1716. I don't think she is older than that I'm from a Muslim country and my parents are Muslim And I want to wear hijab and my parents does not want me to do that Subhanallah This is a real phenomena This is real. This is not a one case. You hear it every now and then this you see it in Unfortunately a lot of our Muslim community Where you see the youth we all complain about the youth the number one issue that we complain about and it's like We are losing our youth. Our youth are not connected with Allah. Our youth are distracted. Here you go That's a youth a sheet who wants to do the most difficult decision any woman Will do and those of you who wear hijab, you know what I'm talking about I would love to talk to the parents afterward in private if you are in the audience So we don't expose people, but I want them to ask themselves these two questions Why don't you want her to do that? What you will tell Allah? Subhanallah on the day of judgment when he will ask you and He said why did you be in her? Path to obey me hijab is an obligation my brothers and sisters Call it what you want to call it get excuses what you want to do, but it's fact It's there. It's in the Quran. It's in the Sunnah. It is there Why don't I want this young soul? Beautiful heart to grow up with the obedience of Allah What will she lose if she had her hijab on? When are we going to be moving? Pass this feeling that if I am a practicing Muslim then I am not be able to achieve and If I can ask anyone in this room, especially the sisters I can some I know you very well those of you who don't know me. I'm a practicing obstetrician gynecologist. I And I hate the word I but I need the parents to hear this And I trained before September 11 and was September 11. I was in training the only Muslim They've never seen a hijabi woman before they even they used to look at me. So what's your religion? Why honest are you a nun exactly? Why nothing happened trained in the best the fifth medical school in the US and It did not stop because I was wearing hijab and the final was me and another Blonde woman and everyone was telling me they will not take you. This is I've heard this from Muslims They said they will not take you because OBGYN at that time was extremely competitive And and I said that nobody will give it to me except Allah. He wants to give it to me He will give it to me and the rest is history No, I would have been I know I'm not doing I need the parents to hear this Don't compromise your Dean for Dunya. Do you think she will not get accepted to Harvard? You want me to show you the picture of people? I know they finished Harvard woman beautiful Even in the Biden administration, there is a woman who wears hijab and a proper for hijab Some of you may have seen seen her. She's from originally from Pakistan. What is the issue? Why not? Why do I allow my daughter and I'm speaking you can feel me with a lot of passion and sadness Why do I allow my daughters to be on the beach and to be in the clubs and I have no problem with that And then when this young heart wants to obey Allah, you come to parents and say no And I will say this last word because I don't want to take that and I say you better have a very good answer to Allah When you are standing in front of him and he will ask you Everyone will come to Allah as an individual So please say yes and help her and I will give my phone number to this girl Keep her strong and I will say to her do it Even if your parents said no and Allah will never let you do comment I don't know if you heard the question so two Muslims and I'm assuming they are two young Muslim a man and a woman wants to marry and the parents say no because they are not the same ethnicity Background and I'm not surprised because if you go to the horizon magazine when you look at the matrimonial and look at the request Tells you a lot Tells you a lot of that The answer is I will say one word and I leave the rest Ibad Allah Taqilla Servants of Allah have Taqwa Help people to practice their Dean And don't be the obstacle there is so many obstacles outside for all these young people You know it's all all of you know, what are we facing as Muslims? I'm not talking about politics. I'm talking about us internally with all the Temptations and all the things and now you come as a Muslim and become another obstacle. That's gonna be very hard We'll move on to our next question Insha'Allah I am confident that I can fast during Ramadan However, because of my pregnancy my husband is worrying and asking me not to fast. How should I react to this? Thank you This is my default Hamd Allah Rablani so pregnancy and Fasting scholars differ as that you look at it as like Sayyidina Abla Abna Abbas Basically said she is like Al-Adina Yolta Iqounu She is like somebody who cannot fast and then she doesn't and some people says it's according to the ability This is what I tell my patients you divided according to three things Is she a healthy pregnancy healthy woman and a healthy baby? The answer is try I Never say don't and I never say yes for sure you can people are different And even if it's a completely healthy pregnancy people are different and I say listen It's a ruchsa from Allah. It's a permission try it and see if there is any possibility of difficulty I'm not talking about harm talk about difficulty. She gets dizzy. She cannot function Then you know what take the ruchsa take the permission in Allah I love you and talk to Ruchasah Kama. I love you as I'm Allah Subhan Allah loves that we Muslims take the permissions like fasting not fasting and travel the same way He likes us to take his orders and obligations So that's the case if she's completely healthy if she is not healthy There's a complication high-risk pregnancy case by case. There is few cases where I said nope You cannot fast for example if she's vomiting all the time for example if it's a call to IUGR The baby is very small. It's not growing. She's not gaining weight And if she starts fasting and start losing weight, that's when she stopped fasting So it's case by case, but it's not categorically. Yes, and it's not categorically. No So basically the question is in a non Islamic and I will add and please forgive me even in the Muslim countries these days If you go to Muslim countries, you know, I'm talking I lived there I'm not saying this and I lived there not a long time ago when I studied absolutely and Valentine's Day and then It's not coming to me, you know, actually the last in October. What is the name of the Halloween exactly? Yeah, which is anyway, so Rasul Allah SAW you all probably know the meaning of the hadith I don't recall exactly but the meaning of there will come a time Where if you see the the Jews and the Christians go into a small hole in the wall you will follow So this is natural When we ever look at problems that's first accepted meaning doesn't mean except it's okay, but it's there Don't brush it. That's number one. And is it nice and cool come on in I mean you walk in the increase in December and you see all these beautiful homes And they are all with beautiful lights and then the tree and then the everybody's talking about it, right? If I have not engraved in my child from the age and four and five and six The identity of a Muslim it's not gonna happen when he's 15 and 60 These things to be different and I said this when we talked to you the Sisters you need to engrave in your child when he's two and three and four I always say this to the mothers your three and four year old or your seven and eight cannot wear anything Because when she becomes a ball of an adult It's not a switch and you will turn it off and tomorrow you expect her to dress completely modest It's not gonna happen. This has to come from the beginning Before that you need as parents to have this in in you that you are strong in your faith And you are proud of who you are And you see it which I really find it extremely astonishing You see the Jews and I work with a lot of Jews. They do not worry about the Christmas Add to all and everybody knows how do I know because who works in the Christmas day? It's either the Muslims or the Jews. Why we Muslims have this problem This is my my question to everybody. I think we need to be comfortable as I said it before in our skin and who we are Fa dhalna Allah has chosen us And why do you want to be like everybody else having said that you need to give uh An alternative you need to make a aid the most celebrated gifts Cakes everything and even decorate. I have friends who decorate their homes Exactly the same because it's a sign of celebration And I am in my region doesn't tell me don't celebrate It tells me celebrate one two and three and four and I will celebrate one two and three and four And a lot of dua a lot of dua and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us all What should I do or what should one do in cases when a muslima needs to see a doctor in an emergency And there is no female doctor an example would be during giving birth or other cases That's an easy one. Hamid this is not controversial. I mean the scholars have covered this Al-darrurat to be heard mahdurat. You need to know this basics in In fiqh necessity makes haram halal So anytime I'm in a situation and the necessity means necessity. I'm not gonna Sugar coated and color but necessity. So here I am going for example coming to labor and delivery Like there's certain places where you don't have a physician or let's say you came in here to Colombia and then you're pregnant and guess what you ended up with having labor And then you go up show to labor and delivery and the on-call person is a man. That's it Because if you're not going to see the man, what's going to happen? Going to end up they will not let you in the in the hospital You have to sign they have to leave and then you will probably deliver somewhere else and that's you're exposing yourself to Danger and the baby to danger. So this applies There's a case of necessity is not a choice. I don't have another option And that's it and then I can explain to that to them and I have seen it throughout all my career You really explain as much as You know in delivery, of course, there's issues, but again Respecting your privacy as much as possible But anytime there is a necessity for example my Muslim patients and I say even in the office I tell her if you're going to need if you want to epidural I cannot guarantee you A woman because that's a schedule. I have no control over However, and I explained this to her and I will talk to them that they cover you as much as possible Only the area that they need but learn this is the beauty of Islam That there's always solutions for Four cases may Allah make it easy for everyone Jazakum Allah here. So the question of hijab the fact the question is asked. I'm really happy Because if I want to read it again, can you explain why we are wearing hijab? So immediately come to your mind This is a probably a woman who's not but she said no when I get asked I can't answer I am wearing hijab because I'm told by Allah This statement it needs to be framed And then she said sometimes I feel yes, I understand but why should we wear modest and why I need to cover the hair Specifically the hair. So let's start by the beginning We as Muslims and I really appreciate what Sheikh Suleyman has been saying and Dr. Hakim is saying is basically We need to go to literally to the basics. I always say this to myself before anyone Why I am here on this earth This is the first question. Why did he put us here? What does he want from me where I am going? So why I am here right as a human being worship Allah loves Allah knows Allah. You all know this So come to the hijab Number one. He told me this is the first line He said so They said we hear and we obey and all of us men and women brothers and sisters We need to get to this point where the first reason is because he told me and who is he Who is he needs a whole lecture a whole conference Is not anybody else is not my friend is not my neighbor. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala my creator My beloved the one who gave me everything the one who sees me the one who I beg him When I need something the one who I am going to stand in front of him Let alone the one who will decide where I'm going at the end. So that's number one number two come You put it in your question the modesty I call Islam Of course, I have to bring things from my profession is a religion of prevention Is not a religion of treatment Meaning in medicine. Why did we get the the the covid vaccine? So we can be here today and we are not wearing masks That's prevention Otherwise, we're going to be still. Allah knows for how long Islam looks at society Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows us knows what we have Allah when he created us give gave us The ability or not the inclination to do good and to do bad. He knows what our inclination will be What's the prevention? We need Allah want when he looks at us. He wants this earth his creations to live in decency To live with the moral conduct to live in the way to please him to live to flourish this earth Coming to the hijab look at the opposite And I don't have to explain look at society around us where the hijab is even not there Modesty is not there again. I'm in the professional world and I see it every day. Where are we ending? Where are we ending? Right and look at the time of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right for 10 years if not 13 years There's only two recorded cases if not a three off And again la hiyaa of the of intimate relationship outside marriage Isn't that amazing? This is the human beings. They are the same because they had The morality in them And they know Allah said no and all the beginnings And at the end as a rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Al Ainut is Well, it isn't that the eyes commit zina And the ear commit prevention Part of the prevention is the dress code of the woman The dress code of the woman Allah created us in a way that the woman is beautiful and the men Get attracted to the woman. That's natural. That's his creation to to save The earth so we can have children and continue And at the same time he said don't show it Except in the proper channels. That's basically what it is Hijab is to cover the hair because it's one of the most beautiful parts of the woman Cover I always ask what will you lose? When you cover your hair What will you lose? Wallahi nothing If anything respect Wallah la liya allahu They look at you as a woman. They look at you as a human being. They respect you more And why not? Why not I think we need to a little bit take time pull back Don't be influenced by what you are seeing all the junk that they're outside and just think of it And enough it Allah told me i'm pleasing him. It's protecting me. I am being more respected I can tell you stories from now till tomorrow morning Just do it modest protection save humanity and save morality So the question is a non-muslim patient is dying and you held his or her hand And make a dua for them. So can we make a dua for a non-muslim start from the basics? Can we do? Or not the answer is yes except Al-maghfirah if they passed away and they are non-muslims We cannot ask Allah to forgive them because Allah said it in the Quran It's Allah explained in this verse that Sayyidina Ibrahim asked forgiveness for his father But then when he knew his father was an enemy to Allah meaning a non-muslim after he died He did not do this anymore. So can I make a dua to a non-muslim? My answer please make a dua for every non-muslim you see that Allah guide them And I really mean it Every non-muslim around you is a potential Muslim Sayyidina Umar was kafir and look what happened All the Sahaba were kufr. So absolutely Now what's you gonna make the dua for that person? Ya Allah ar-Rahma wa rahmati wa si'at Allah said that my rahma engulf everything. Yes Yeah, Allah make it easy for them. Yeah, Allah not If I was there, I'll ask this person to say it after me. You never know And through you Allah saved Soul from the hellfire like a rasu alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam with a young Jewish man when he Finally said his father told him say after abal qasim say what he is saying and he said Alhamdulillah rasu alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam the word me. Alhamdulillah that he enabled me to save a soul from the hellfire So absolutely there is don't be too strict. This is I'm finding some questions are various. Don't do that Don't do that. Always be a key for khayr Always be a key of goodness. Don't look at the people around us and they are less than us. I'll do billah You don't know when how they will die And I always remember this the statement of Sayyidina umar when he used to say Everybody knows better than you and I say this to myself. Everyone is better than you Why is that I don't look down at people and then I struggle to become even better What I will say is what the rasu alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam said Ya mashah rasabab Young man get married And if you cannot then fast So this is number one goes to the parents when and I say this to all my friends when your son Comes and now your daughter comes and says mom. I want to get married get them married Help them to get married because otherwise, you know what will happen. That's number one number two Communities can help we have actually in st. Louis. Ya umar. We do have this now where we have a couple of the sisters They took the initiative and they actually made a matrimonial committee And they do a gathering And as a slam everything is Islamic way Right, they come in they they the the singles send their names men and women And then they get them together with like a gathering and then they let them meet each other There's nothing wrong with that because we need to facilitate the halal We need to help we need to make halal easy because haram is extremely easy It's everywhere And we need as a community as parents as elderly as leaders is to help to make the halal easy So what I would recommend for all the communities. Alhamdulillah. This was I was not involved in this as other sisters And it actually came from sisters and just to go and do it and then use the others There's also muslim apps these days use the muslim apps There's nothing wrong with that because the app is just like introduction But use it and take it and ask Allah for istiqarah He will guide you make sure you put the standards that pleases Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. May Allah make it easy