 فشرف بل اشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا دادا دالا وياله من شراف عظيمي الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء والمرسلين سيدنا ونبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد إن شاء الله تعالى today's benefit that I wanted to put forward and to benefit everybody with is an issue that many people present and they bring forward which is issues pertaining to marriage problems as we're well aware of there is no problem or there's no issue that a person faces except it will find a solution in the Kitab of Allah and in the sunnah of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم but a lot of the times we try not to but we don't go to those sources to find the answers to our problems and so what happens is the issue becomes worse and we don't find the solution that we're looking for so here insha'Allah تعالى is not just a benefit but it's also those volume of people who call me concerning their family issues and whatnot that they could be one who listens to this إن شاء الله تعالى these benefits and إن شاء الله تعالى to apply it in their relationship إن شاء الله تعالى and this insha'Allah تعالى benefit revolves around the ayah ومن آيات أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة إن في ذلك لآيات اللي قومية تفكرون إن في ذلك لآيات اللي قومية تفكرون الله سترى the ayah by saying ومن آياتي from the signs of Allah what we have to analyze here is and that we have to keep in mind is Allah started the ayah by saying إن ومن آياتي from the signs of Allah so the word here من is طبعضية it's some of the signs of Allah so this is not all the signs of Allah but it's from some of the signs of Allah سبحانه وتعالى and we all know that the signs of Allah are two types there are universal signs and there are legislational signs there are universal signs which are referred to as آيات كونية and there are signs which are referred to as آيات شرعية which are legislational signs so when you read the Quran you say I'm reading this آيات this is an آيات شرعية and also the day and the night the sun and the moon all of them are آيات as Allah said in the Quran إن في خلق السباوات والأرض واختلاف الليل والنهار لآيات الأولي الألباب لآيات there are signs this day the night the sun the moon there are what آيات there are signs إذن this آيات كونية universal signs and there are those which are around us and there are آيات which are شرعية وإبن القيم has a very good فائدة regarding this in his book الفوائد where he talks about the two types of آيات and he brings فوائد the benefits regarding it and one should go and look at it so the beginning of the آيات الله is saying ومن آياتي from the signs of Allah from not all of them but from is أن خلق لكم that Allah has created عبد الله بن عباس رضي الله تعالى عنه خلق الله تعالى آدمة he said Allah has created الله تبارك وتعالى he created Adam من تراب الله created him from clay from the earth Allah created him وخلق وخلق حواء من آدم and he created حواء from Adam he just took from the eye ومن آياته from the signs of Allah is أن خلق لكم that he created عبد الله بن عباس خلق الله he created آدم من تراب وخلق أن he created حواء من آدم الله created حواء from آدم فجوع إلى هم آدمة آدم his aspiration his motive his drive was placed in what فتراب in that which he was created from in the earth وجوع إلى هم حواء and حواء her desires and her motive and drive was made في آدم in آدم if anybody today goes to the gatherings of the people they will find that the men tend to talk about their profession because أصول المكاسب or fundamental places where people gain their risk from is the earth the agriculture the money goes back to the cycle of business and finance and agriculture so we can eat and men talk about their job and what happened and how their job is and how much money they make and that's what they talk about and if they were promoted and etc and the women in their gatherings they talk about their husbands the women they talk about their husbands وَلِدَ آلِكَ if the woman does not realize what the man loves and he desires and she doesn't talk to him about that and if the husband does not realize that the wife is into him and he doesn't learn to show her that he who she's into he's also interested in her then this causes a problem that is the second benefit the first benefit was that آيات is two types آيات كونية and آيات شرايا the second benefit is from the part of the آيات أنخالق لكم the third benefit that is in the آيات is الله سبحانه وتعالى he says لتسكنوا إليها ومن آيات أنخالق لكم من أنفسكم أزواج لتسكنوا إليها according to the محققين الربانيين من العلمة from the scholars who are deeply rooted in following the textual evidences they mention that أن الآية معللة that this آية has been given a reasoning الله is saying to us here من آياتي from the science of Allah is أنخالق لكم Allah created from you they will like Adam حوا why did we do that reason for that what was our aim and objective behind that الله says لتسكنوا إليها so you can find tranquility in her so the reason why a man is with a woman and a woman is with a man is لتسكنوا إليها to find tranquility a relationship that is not based upon tranquility it's a relationship which is fashion it's a relationship that's upon what destruction لتسكنوا إليها that the two parties are finding tranquility in their relationship that's what the آية is saying from the angle of what from the angle of but it's telling us directly the reverse understanding which is the مفهوم المخالف the reverse understanding is that if a person is not married then he doesn't have سكينة and tranquility so his situation is what he is in a situation that is حالة للضرب he's in a situation of confusion and lack of tranquility where the آية shows us from the angle of مفهوم المخالفة ولي داليكة because of that where a person should gain from a relationship that they are in whether it's the female the woman or it's the man is سكينة وطمطنينة they have to find tranquility in their hearts and they have to find joy within but pay attention the شريعة doesn't leave us and just tell us what one needs to find somewhere but does not leave us confused and not tell us how to gain it and how to have it and in the same آية الله mentions how to gain it in a relationship سبحانه و تعالى he says لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة و رحمة and Allah تبارك و تعالى he made now what's amazing is before I go to مودة و رحمة I need to touch on the word جعلة and when we were doing the شرح of كتاب شرح السنة الإمام البربهاري رحمه الله we mentioned that the issue of خلاقاء جعلة and the issue of when it's متعدة بمفعولين or متعدة بمفعولين we talked about that to refute the issue of the معتزيلة but here we find that الله used و من آياتي أن خلاقاء الله created and then after he says جعلة and they both mean the same why is it that he used خلاقاء at the beginning and then he used جعلاء in the second part let's call it as they mentioned كبن القيم و غيره they mentioned that the word خلاقاء is something that takes place دفعتا واحدة one time meaning Allah تبارك و تعالى he created حواء from Adam one time كن بي فا يقون and it became and it happened but the issue of المودة الرحمة is something that's gradual it's not something الله تبارك و تعالى he makes it دفعتا واحدة it's not something الله تبارك و تعالى he makes it غولة once but it's something he makes through what he makes based upon gradual time when the two parties and the spouse spent together the مودة and the رحمة increases if we look at the part where الله تبارك و تعالى says after that و جعل بينكم مودة و رحمة this is a very powerful point regarding the ayah which is a solution which is a way and a means for two married couples to find سكينة which was just mentioned right now is these two مودة الرحمة is what would bring in a relationship tranquility when the wife sees her husband she finds joy and happiness when the husband sees his wife he finds joy and happiness and warmth in his eyes and his heart is in the ayah مودة الرحمة مودة in the ayah is to fulfill the desires of both parties a husband he needs in a relationship to fulfill his desires و لذلك the hadith of the he said that if one of you goes out and he sees a woman فعجبت and she amazes him how she looks and this then moves his desires the prophet he says فاليأتي أهله لأهلهم come to his wife the ziyada like some of the narrations mentioned that wherever is with her the woman he saw is with his wife that ziyada is ziyada غير صحيحة it's not authentic but the part that says that whenever he sees he should go and fulfill his desires with his wife is to show you that the relationship is built upon the issue of shahwa and so the husband needs to find answers for his desires and the opposite is the woman the woman left her parents house where she had food she had shelter and she came to your house she needs you to fulfill her desires and intimacy when you find a lot of people whose relationships either the woman is cheating or the man is cheating because there is a deficiency on one party's side on the issues pertaining to fulfilling the desires of the other and a relationship that lacks this again it's towards the path of destruction the second part of the ISA is ورحمة affection mercy and compassion the relationship is not just intimacy it is not just sexual desires it is based upon mercy and mercy compassion kindness affection towards the other but what's amazing here is two things Allah mentioned these two together and not separately because separately independently each and every one of them a person can find it other than a حلال relationship a man can go today and can pay a prostitute and his desires will be fulfilled but he will not get رحمة and affection and a man can get رحمة from his mother and father and auntie but to get both of them مودة and رحمة and رحمة simultaneously one time Allah has placed that in the relationship of the wife and the husband that whilst these two individuals are fulfilling each other's desires they are also able to what they are also able to show each other affection and mercy but what is amazing is that the ayah put مودة before رحمة and that is because intimacy and and شهوة being fulfilled is what leads to the رحمة whereas when you look at those relationships which are حرام majority of those complain and regret when he commits the zina and the haram relationship he feels pain inside his heart what did I just do wrong how did it all go wrong what am I doing am I alright the person starts to you see whereas the relationship based upon حلال you find that the more that the person has relationship with the family and his wife the more the love and the رحمة increases the other reason the other wisdom behind why مودة was put first before رحمة is when you're young في بداية النكحم في بداية الزواج at the early stages of marriage it revolves a lot of the percentage around intimacy and relationship but when you grow old the relationship dies out the intimacy dies out and it starts to become weak and the two parties are only here with each other from افكشن الرحمة holding hands for years maybe they've not had no relationship because they're old but the رحمة is there إذا الله تبارك وتعالى he says after that سبحانه وتعالى إن في ذلك لآيات all of that which has been mentioned here there are ayat all of that there are ayat what's amazing brothers and sisters who are watching it إذا الله ستعطى the ayat by saying ومن آياته and he made it مفرد سنجلة and the word آيات when he mentioned at the end he made it plural and that means when a relationship starts it's only a ayat but when you grow into the relationship and you stay there for long you see ayat signs but those ayat are not for everybody those ayat are not for they're not for everybody who are they for إن في ذلك لآيات اللقومية فكرون there are only signs for people who are pondering and analyzing and thinking about the حكم and the wisdom and the make أريمان أريمان الشاطب بلحماه والرحك أريمان الشاطب إنه كتاب الموافقات he mentions the maksed الشرعي because it's the تدبر إنه فكر but he mentions he said I pondered on the wisdom and the the wisdom behind marriage and he said I realized these children biggest يمكنهم أن يكون هناك مرحلة منهم يمكنهم أن يفعلوا خياراتهم يمكنهم أن يفعلوا شيء مالذي يفعلون ويجب أن يفعلونه يجب أن يفعلون بما يفعلونهم أو يجب أن يجب أن يأخذهم من الوصول المشاركة التي أخبرتها هي الأمر من الله هو يكونون مرحلة لك لك لك محاولة لك وك تكون محاولة لهم هذا من خلال خلاله وخلال الوزدب المفاولة ويكلمة إذا كان يسيب اليوم ويأتي بالأسفل ويقول إن شاء الله أن تسيب ونعمل ماذا تفعل بالأسفل لكي تفعل كل شيء ما يفعل بالأسفل هو ما يفعله يفعله بسيطة حياتك أن تكون مجموعة لها هي حياتك أن تقدم لها عائلتك حياتك أن تحتاج لك from the cold وحياتك أن تذهب إلى حياتك حياتك حياتك أن تحتاج لك شهوة وحياتك حياتك أن تحتاج لك عورة لا one knows how you look your deficiency the way your body looks حياتك أن تحتاج لك عورة عورة for you وحياتك أن تحتاج لك شهوة حياتك أن تحتاج لك عورة حياتك أن تأخذ كل شيء ونعود للمتحدث عن ذلك إن في ذلك لأياة حقا أردت أن نضغط بالمال ونالذي يجب أن نضغط تضغط الفتح ومن يأخذنا اللهم من المؤسسر اللهم أنها يمكن أن تكون أخي that the creation and the legislation go against each other. This is one قائد I elaborate on. فلا يصلحوا و تصدقائدوا أن تحتاجوا لتمره. فلا يصلحوا حالا أنها يمكن أن تكون أحدى. The situation of the one who created, opposes that which he legislates. Your creation can only go in accordance to the one who created you, how he legislates for you. This is very important. فلا يصلحوا حالا من خلق إلا بمشارع. There's no other way out for one who's created except that which has been legislated. إذا ولي ذلك إبنو تيمى رحمه الله. إبنو تيمى. He speaks about الخلق و الشرء. That there's no conflict between the two. And I give you guys an example. وَبِلْ مِثَالِ يَطَضُحُ الْمَقْعَالِ And the reason why I say this is because a lot of the times people think when they go through problems that the sharia doesn't have a solution for their problems. That's not the case. The sharia does have a solution for you. But it's just you haven't gone to it. I'll give you guys an example. الله تبارك وتعالى today he created us. And he created us with what? He created us with أقوة. A strength that's within us. And he created us with some غرائز. We have this instinct in us. Is that we always want to know the unseen. أليس كذلك؟ Isn't that the case? We want to know the unseen. But that's why if you look at history people made myths. God's and you know things. Myth stories. Once upon a time stuff. Because it is a strength built within the human being to want to know the future. The sharia did not just create that in us and not give a solution to it. So when did he do سبحانه وتعالى? He gave us the solution of أشراط الساع. The signs of the hour. The signs which are major and the minor signs. He told us about جنة and that which is in it. He told us about نار and how it looks. He told us سبحانه وتعالى. The people of جنة and their characteristics. He told us the questions that are going to come in the day of judgment. But the difference between the two now is what? This is كلاب which is truthful. وتبت كلمة ربك صطقا وعدلا. الله تبارك وتعالى. Everything he says. صطق في الأخبار وعدل في الأحكام. Truthful in everything he says. And he's just in everything he judges. سبحانه وتعالى. So don't ever think to yourself. That your basic instinct that is within you. And the issues that you have as an individual. That the شريعة doesn't have an answer for it. It does. And they are not conflating and going against one another. Rather they go together. That is benefits that إن شاء الله وتعالى. That I wanted to share with you all. Anything that which I have said that was incorrect. فإنه مني ومن الشيطان والله ورسوله برياني منه. سبحانك اللهم بحمدك. الشهد أن لا إله إلا الله. استغفرك وأتوب إليه.