 and Mabuhay. My name is Amy Ortega Anderson, your host for Pinoy Power Hawaii. I want to welcome you to another special edition of Pinoy Power Hawaii here on Think Tech Hawaii. We come to you live every Tuesday at 12 noon. Much mahal again to Think Tech Hawaii for giving us the opportunity to come to your home where we aim to enrich, enlighten, educate, entertain, and we hope to empower. Today is a very very special day and along in line with the month for lovers of February we have these two special people in my life that serves as an inspiration and also they are my idols because they simply are two loving people and without further ado I'd like to introduce to you our guest John and Nancy Ortiz. John is our master retired US Navy master chief so he is the chief and of course the Queen of the household from the Alma Latina show Queen Nancy Ortiz. Welcome to Pinoy Power Hawaii. Welcome. Thank you very much. Love is in the air, right? It is. We are all dressed up for the occasion. Sir John, Master John, thank you so much for appearing on Think Tech Hawaii. It's my pleasure. Thank you. Awesome. Very talented people who does so much to contribute and also uplift and empower our community in so many ways. Hermana, sister Nancy, tell us about you and the chief. All right, what do you want to know about everything that you can share? Well, you know ironically enough the chief and I got married on Valentine's Day. Isn't that awesome? Actually a Saturday when we got married and so it was you know us with Latinos big blowout, right? Yes. Yes, but prior to that we met I think we were only what about a year going together just about a year going together and we both actually I was ready to to take that step again. He was not, but within what we met in January and in October he asked to marry me. He tells a story better. Go ahead. Yes, let's hear your version. Well actually I met Nancy first time I saw her was 1977 on a Mother's Day. We were playing music in his club and here's this beautiful woman walks by and I'm looking and one of my players knows her very, very well. So later on you know I asked him who's that girl? I think oh she's a really nice lady and so he kind of introduced us and from there on he just why not just marry away. Was it love at first sight? Not at first, but she kind of grew on me but yeah. Okay. And it's one of the best decisions I ever made was asking her to marry me. Wow. Publicly or unofficially? Officially, yes. Yes. In the best place where they want to kill part. We've come to the intersection and the cost stopped. I figured I better do something so the lights were red. I said would you marry me? She looked at me and she said she didn't know what to say and the lights turned green. I said well are you gonna marry me or not? I'm not moving till you answer me. Stop trying. And the car in the back was less than a half. She said okay, okay, I'm married. Move. She had no choice. That's perfect timing as we say. Wow. And how many years is? 38 years. 38 years. Yes. I was inspired to call you because I knew that you have, you have a great love story to share and judging from what I see I have served where you lovely come to drop off my sister to her show and I see you do that all the time and yet you never stick around for the show. No, I listen to it on the outside. Yes, but you are the backbone because you do everything in preparation for her big show, whether it's putting on her radio show in Alma Latina or the big productions that she does when she puts on a pageant or the community for Latinos. Sis, tell us about that. Yes, he's with me all the time. I do a lot of you out there know besides my Alma Latina show I do a lot of festivals. Yes. And he's right there and you know that is one of the ways of keeping a marriage or you know a partnership is do the things together. And so everything I do I always ask him first and I said hey you know I'm gonna do this this this will you help me he says go for it. Wow. And I go for it. The biggest supporter. And as you know he's a musician as well and that's the only hobby he has besides me and so he I'm there I'm there with him I support him all the way 100% as well. Well it's a great hobby to have because in line with what we do in the community we always need music. Yes to complete it right. Sir John so rather than hiring because musicians can be very very expensive. Yes. Yes. Yes. But I've been very fortunate because the band I play with they all support me and they support Nancy. Yes. So when she needs something to say yes let's go. So it's like a double cause. Yeah. All right. I want to send a shout out to Latin Amigos. Yes. Oh Latin Amigos. That's the name of this. Yes. Awesome. I've seen you on social media having a great time and all to the wee hours. Yes. Tell us more about your love of music. Well I actually my love of music goes back to a time I was five years old. Five. Yeah. And my neighbor noticed I used to like they were two brothers always playing music. I wasn't listening. So he asked my dad one day said you know I got his old ukulele. I want to string it up for your son and teach him a few keys. So that's what happened. And that's how it began. Yeah. With the ukulele play that for a little while and then it advanced to the guitar. And I found that I really enjoyed that. And you know for some reason I just could pick it up and went from there. Yes. And that's the wonderful thing about being naturally being given the talent. I didn't know I had that until I started. Yeah. And after that you know you listen to a song and you play it. And I don't read music. Wow. And I've actually had this guy tell me. He said I've been watching you. He said you play all these different keys but you don't you don't read music. I said no I don't. He just listened and played. That's a total gift. It is. It is to me. I really enjoyed it. And you know he's left handed. Lefties are very talented. Yes. He plays bass upside down. Yeah. String it up for right handed but I play it left handed. And that also got this guy excited. That is so awesome. Yeah. The reason for that was we had a party one time. One of our first dates. And we were just waiting at the HIC. And we were sitting there enjoying and this guy come over young boy. He said hey John. I said my dad wants to talk to you. So I looked and said okay so I know his father real well. He's a leader of this other band. So I come up and I said what's up? He told me my bass player just left. He got into a confrontation and took off. So he was stuck with other bass. I said I don't play the bass. He told me you play the guitar. He could play the bass. I said okay I'm left handed. He said I see you play upside down so you can. So he had him with the bass. I said to the bass at home. He told me here this is yours. Wow. And we went from there. And how has it been for a long time? We made an album. And you know it's I really enjoyed it for some reason even now till today. That is so awesome to hear us stories from the heart and how everything unfolds because of your passion. Passions in life. The love of music. And couple that with the love of the love of your life. My one and only Valentine. Yeah I see you folks all together all the time. I think you know at that age when John and I met I was a very independent woman you know. I can tell. Single mother very independent and what I really admired of this young man. I'm still gonna call him a young man even though next month is his birthday. He'll be 85. Wow. Next month. Sir John. Yes. Looking good. What really got me you know a young man from Kaua'i born and raised in Kaua'i. His mannerism. You know everywhere we would go he would open the door and close the door in a car or wherever it was. Gentleman. Yes very gentleman and he was very gentle. And I really admired that because you know us rough you know doing things out there. But he was the complete opposite and I think that that's what really attracted us you know. And until this day we still do things together. I mean believe me it's nobody can say they have a perfect marriage but we know how to work it out. If we're angry with each other we know how to work it out why we are angry with each other. We don't go to bed angry at each other or anything like that or the next morning we'll get up and look at each other and say gee what happened why were we angry. We don't even know we started laughing you know. Yes. But that's that's just how it is and communication. Our communication is always open. We talk about everything and anything and you know we don't like something about each other. It's like okay sit down talk to me you know what am I doing wrong. Or sit you know just things of that sort. Communication is very very important. You hit in some key points that you have mentioned of course communication is the big C. The big word if you don't communicate how do how do we come across our feelings and be able to resolve things really really important. And that's one of the key key points. Yes. In keeping a relationship as you had mentioned number two is a lot of us whole grudges. Some of us whole grudges for life. And we go to our final resting place without being able to resolve things. And then we have regrets. Yeah. Absolutely. So in your case to give the tips to never go to bed angry and have hold that hatred that is also another great tip in keeping a loving relationship. Wow. And you know us Amy we're aquariums so you know us we're going to say what we want to we don't you know it's like it is we say it like it is but it's okay at the next day we're fine. Yes. You know but if we have to say something we're going to say it. That is that is so awesome to hear because like you had mentioned and nobody has the perfect marriage. We all have our own challenges. Yes. Yeah. Now that my husband is older I have to repeat myself over and over because he is developing signs of aging cannot hear sometimes but I hate to repeat myself. How many times I've told you I already said that to you you know but but you still love him. I love him and I feel like the repetitious sometimes is needed to reiterate you know to retell not necessarily a bad thing but sometimes we like to hear it over and over especially the special words Sir John yeah which and which is appropriate. I love you very much. Tell that to Sister Nancy. She knows that. He's not afraid to. I am actually I'm actually shocked because you may not know it but John is a very private person very shy and when you asked us to do the show today I asked him and I thought he would say oh no I don't want to do it. He turned on he said sure. Wow. I can go on there and talk about us and our love and all of that because he knows I can count on him brother John yeah whenever you say you're coming you are coming and you deliver yeah and that's really really important to sis. I found out that if I say something and I don't act on it and I don't fulfill that promise it seems like I had broken the promise that I made so you can agree with me that it's important to keep our word which is our bond and brother Chief John is shaking his head agreeing that definitely that's our word is our bond we need to take that extra step to not just say it sis like talk is cheap right that's right yeah that's true but putting it into action is very very important especially in our line of business where people depend on us we have timelines that we have to develop and in order for us to go on with the show we got to keep it going absolutely keep our word yeah absolutely yes these are golden tips that we're hearing from Master John and of course my hermana sis Nancy my sister from another another mother we want to thank them for sharing their special love story especially for this valentine my one and only valentine we want to wish you all happy heart's day and keep that 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Tuesday at 12 noon I am your host Emi Ortega Anderson that's my Latin connection my dad is from Toledo Spain so I have I have a Spanish blood in me that's why I am so part so proud to feature my armada my sister Alma Latina producer that's Nancy Ortiz and of course us and master chief sir John Ortiz thank you again for the opportunity that you have given us thank you for saying yes sir it'll just like the bank that says yes all the time since we're on that topic are you a yes man is that one of the a secret also yes yes it is he's a yes man yeah he is to a certain extent okay yes the certain extent yeah but most of the time yeah it's Nancy's way but he got you first with that with that yes that green light or you wouldn't go yes that's right that's true that is so awesome it is so heartwarming to hear uh these love story that never need to be spoken at times sometimes just the locking of the eyes will tell you or the holding of the hands you know in secrecy like when you're in church perhaps or anywhere else do you know that he holds my hand all the time I think you've seen us walking together everywhere we go I mean he's always holding my hand so that's awesome now is that interdependency sis or it's just being comfortable yeah comfortable comfortable and in love in love also yeah okay so what are some of the things that you do that is not costly to share your special love give some pointers well always listen to what I tell you mm-hmm when she gotta say something you pay attention okay if you can help you do it if you cannot that's okay now in her case she don't drive okay so I made it about to myself I would take her any place you gotta go thank you for driving her here today that's anytime uh huh and this is has been like that for the whole time we've been together mm-hmm yeah and as far as opening and closing the door mm-hmm I learned it from my father mm-hmm he always did that for my mom so you saw it growing up yeah being a gentleman yeah yeah I thought you would say that you because you're a master chief in the military yeah part of your military training but it goes beyond that beyond that yeah and that's from your upbringing yeah uh happy for you to mention that it was seeing your idol your father uh doing that to your mama and therefore it's stuck yeah it stayed with me it's a way of being a gentleman and he's always told me and my brother mm-hmm you always respect a woman no matter how I am beyond her mm-hmm you keep your feelings inside mm-hmm and don't don't get verbal mm-hmm so I try to do that a lot sometimes you're gonna get carried away but for human every human but you know and I can see him looking down at hey bro you know but I've been very fortunate because I've had a very understanding parents both of them mm-hmm you know like when we were kids you know you smoke right so one day one of these young kids has met in my brother mm-hmm so he told my dad you know Benny smokes my dad said yeah what Benny smoked uh-huh so he told him he said good don't ask nobody for cigarettes anymore I'll buy you cigarettes for you oh so the kid didn't know what to do yeah that's awesome but it was it was wonderful because when he met me he was not smoking already mm-hmm and I never smoked so that was wonderful that is good yeah when you're willing to give up something for your loved ones uh that's the show of real intent and uh honest and of course genuine love which we're talking uh about today um you know one of the things I really want to his other many traits that I really like is that you know I have three children yes and of course their dad died when they were young but when he came into our lives they were teenagers and what a challenge yes a big challenge and he took that challenge and I mean it was like hey you know you're going to marry me then you're going to marry my kids too that's just the deal you know they're part of the pack exactly and you know they he talked with them and in fact that he asked them for besides asking me you know to get married to me he sat down he set them all down and said hey I'm going to marry your mom but I'm never going to be your dad you know yet your dad has gone you know has passed but I'm here to be your friend yes and it was like wow you know they couldn't believe it in fact my daughter had a little bit was a little bit apprehensive because she said this guy she was already 18 so she says this guy's a little bit too mannerly you know and he's and she's never I guess met someone like that so uh but now they all love him yes all three of them awesome our grandchildren you know they just it's great kids are good one of my grandchildren one of my grandsons who's on the main and now he says papa walks on water I said no he doesn't he doesn't do anything wrong and if I say something and I say oh I'm so angry today or whatever he's what did you do not what papa did never his fault it's mine you know John Moses who walks on water wow rather than John it sounds so awesome because in today's world uh fast-paced and sounds like seems like we're losing uh those family values exactly you know the things that you talked about that you learn from your mother and dad growing up we seem to be losing it because society uh doesn't really uh enforces the value of uh respect yeah which is really really important mutual respect which is needed in a relationship and uh you're agreeing sis and uh these key points or key elements are important to keep the relationship going yeah well I've always learned that respect is a two-way street I give you respect you give me respect yes and I've done that with our kids and I didn't tell today I'm not sorry I did because you know they can talk to me no matter what the subject and I listen and then if they want an opinion I will give it to them I will not force it on them say well this you got to do this no yes we're like the Brady Bunch because I have three children that are all here and he has three children that live in Texas and he has many grandchildren as well of parents but that's all we are we're you know we're the Brady Bunch we're together the perfect blended family we try and I like it when he said I want to be your friend and not impose or put on that uh military order like I'm going to be your dad from now on you give me the respect because what I see is what you do what I say is what you do yeah I think I'm more disciplined with my kids than he was uh because I have two boys and a girl and especially the boys he would say let them go they're boys uh what's their men now but I mean at that time you know he's just let him go you know I was more a little bit I tried to be a little bit more strict but it just didn't work you know sometimes I get one thing I want to see those children her kids it's never ever disrespecting me that's because you gave them respect right they don't call me dad they call me John and which I love that because that's their relationship and you know we can talk about anything I know the older son he's kind of hold back a little bit but we still can talk Wesley he's cool he's our youngest one and then well Gina well you know daughter's always special yeah mm-hmm yes and I thought I thought that you were the dad all this time just watching you folks from afar you know and that goes to show the true uh eternal love yes that you have for uh Nancy's children yeah and they know that I mean you know I never hold back they know that I don't have to tell them that I love they know that I love and that's the way it should be that's awesome uh I'm going to talk about a challenge in everybody's relationship which is do you ever fight over money because every now and then that gets in the way oh yeah you know I think it's more not fighting but more of a discussion discussion yeah because you know me Amy I'm I'm involved with a lot of projects yes that handle a lot of exactly and we have to sometimes use our own money to make those projects go forward and I've done that many many many times and um he does sometimes get upset about it but it's just for a little while you know he'll say something I told you not to do this not to do that and I don't say anything because I'm wrong and then later on he'll come and he'll say you know what babe it's okay I'll help you but let's try to make better decisions that is so awesome yes I get the same because he has to carry the difference and the load you know how it works is we don't have to go over the figures but he tells me oh just watch out a little bit on the extra spending this month because we need to make it we want to make sure that we're able to continue doing our mission without having to break the bank and and that is good that's good yeah yeah it's a healthy discussion because the reason I ask is that sometimes money matters cannot break the marriage because the two are not working together as a team if I may say because the marriage is a team you know you got to be considerate of each other's feeling and make sure that you don't make decision based on your own just because you want that Louis Vuitton bag you know I don't go buying that $5,000 bag I know sir John was gonna say okay honey you can buy it next month because we have a little bit more fun to do that to splurge but they just don't go out and and do it yeah yeah I still I still have to run the big purchases through my husband well I do too I you know and in due respect you know you have to run it yeah yeah uh huh so uh with the remaining minutes is uh what would you again advise to young couple or your children that's wanting to make it a marriage work uh commune like I said communication is one of the most main things and um always be loving do little things even if it's the littlest thing it means a lot um when John and I uh well when we first were married for several years every Friday he would bring me home a rose every Friday for a little bit until I told him you know what those roses get expensive you know but he still does for every occasion whatever it is you know he always does even if it's just a card um I know I used to always go and just little things you know um buy cards and leave it on his dresser drawer or something just you know I we always we always every single day we say to each other I love you and when he doesn't you know we're busy or doing something I'll say you know what you forgot to do he says no I didn't forget I love you awesome okay that brings our uh very special Valentine's Day edition my one and only love yes don't forget to express that genuine love not only in Valentine's but each and every day uh like uh Sister Nancy and Brother John said every little bit count but say it with love and uh with that I say mahalo mabuhay maraming salamat and we love you all thank you again mabuhay