 What really matters to the narcissist? What is most important or significant to them? What really matters? There is something that matters most to the narcissist More than anything else and this can often be distinguished by certain behaviors They can make it look like they're actually interested in something else But really, there's only one thing that interests the narcissist They don't really care about things with purpose or meaning They don't care about anything beneath the surface They don't care about building relationships Or helping their family or friends They don't care about investing their time or energy into other people None of that really matters to the narcissist They don't care about making this world a better place They don't care about making people happy or improving people's lives None of that is a concern to the narcissist It's not a matter or interest of importance to them Because there's something else that preoccupies their minds Something else that they insatiably desire and that is their fuel Their supply The reactions they get from you or other people That's what sustains the illusion That's what props up their false self And makes them feel like there's something valuable It makes them feel significant The narcissist doesn't really care about you or anyone else It may look like they're trying to assist you But even then it's just for supply It makes them feel useful It makes them feel like they are significant or important It's not because they want to improve your life in any way They just like how it makes them feel by helping you Just like when a narcissist tries to flirt with you They're not really interested in you as a person Or even on a physical level It's all about how it makes them feel It gives them narcissistic supply by proxy From interacting with you They see it as though if there's a reciprocal interest That must mean there's something desirable or attractive Which is why they will go out of their way to get people's attention They will initially want you to attach to them Without ever attaching to you Attaching to you doesn't fulfill them in any way But if you attach to them it props up their false self it gives them narcissistic supply It makes them feel like they matter to someone They want to matter to you They want to feel like they are something significant in your life Which is why if they can't get positive interest from you They will sell for negative attention It still gives them supply Because all that really matters to the narcissist Is feeling like they exist Narcissists do not respect reality They don't care about the truth They don't care about facts or statistics They don't care about what is really going on Unless they can use it to get supply They will mould reality into whatever they need it to be And they will perceive you and whatever way benefits them So that they can get supply So that they can feel better about themselves It really doesn't matter about who you are Or what you did to get to where you are today Unless they can use it to get supply Which is why if you are a positive source of supply to the narcissist They will exaggerate everything good about you And they will minimise your flaws or weaknesses They will act like it doesn't exist While if you are a negative source of supply They will exaggerate your flaws or weaknesses And minimise everything good about you Or act like it doesn't exist Whatever serves them Whatever gives them supply Whatever makes them feel better about themselves Regardless of what the truth may be Because the truth only matters to the narcissist If it gives them supply If it makes them feel better about themselves If it doesn't It's of no concern to them It has no value And it's the same thing with the past or future None of that really matters to the narcissist It may look like it matters When they bring up their past or anticipate their future to get supply Or they will point out a fault or mistake that you made in the past And it may seem like your past or future has some significance to the narcissist But that is only how it pertains to the present moment Because really They can only get supply in the present moment Which is why the only thing the narcissist really values is right now They're always in the moment They're fully focused and mentally involved In what they are doing and experiencing in the present moment Because that's what's going to give them supply They will often ignore things that have been said or done in the past They will ignore the bigger picture They will ignore the most important facts about a situation And the effects of that situation on other things They will stray from an understanding of a situation That includes more than what is immediately apparent Because none of that is a concern to the narcissist Unless they can use it to fuel themselves All that really matters to the narcissist is supply And that is why you can't get through to them That is why you can't have a genuine conversation with them Because they're not going to care about anything Unless they can use it to fuel themselves And that's the only part they're going to listen to Whatever they think has the most useful and their so important to them Whatever they think will help them to feel better about themselves It's never about you They don't even see you People are just objects That either make them feel better or worse about themselves And all they're ever going to do is manipulate you Into seeing things the way they do So that they can get supply They're only ever going to brainwash you So that they can keep you under their control So that they can keep you as their source You're either a source of supply to the narcissist Or a problem They do not value anything beneath that They have no interest in relationships They have no concern for their family or friends It's all about how they can use you to feel better about themselves Thank you for watching I hope this video has it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the 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