 Is this white TikToker being racist by making jokes about living with her Asian boyfriend? What do you think? What's going on everybody? Welcome to the hot pot boys. David and Andrew here. We got to talk about this. There's this white TikToker girl who I believe is in Germany and she's going super viral for making these jokes about how different the culture is when she's living with her Asian boyfriend. People being outraged at her, people supporting her, people being outraged at the outrage. Man I'm telling you this is where the Asian community split like they cannot decide on anything. Yeah apparently this issue of is of extreme gravity. All right but it does bring up some interesting points and we want to talk about it. So first off let's start off the video talking about the things we like about her TikToks and the things that we might not like so much. Okay first off you got to say it is comedy. She is attempting to be a comedian. Her TikTok career is based around cultural comedy. I will say one thing she is generally I think the intent is to be positive about her boyfriend. She lives in a household that's very very traditional and she is experiencing all these things. She's immersed in the culture. However she is poking fun at him. I would say on the downside the content or the comedy execution is cringy. That's fair. I mean I think that she does have some kind of surprisingly deep cut jokes in there about culture that you kind of have to live in a Chinese household to even experience but the kind of the faces she's making this whole TikTok meme thing it's it's executed a little shaky. Right it's a little cringy. She's clearly not Tina Fey. She is an amateur comedian which is what people go to TikTok for. Right one thing that I know a lot of people and there are mostly guys who are championing her on this is like she said her Asian boyfriend's penis is large and that was just like you know a lot of Asian guys are just taking that as a compliment but some people are seeing that as kind of fetishization and exoticizing something and maybe trolling other Asian guys to get views because she knows that when she says stuff like that there will be like Asian guy fans who appreciate that. A pro you could argue is the content side it's funny enough that some people would argue that a con you know a knock against her is also the content because she could be viewed as exoticizing the Asian culture saying the chopsticks are very complicated to use like being like what are these sauces this is weird. I think she's literally German in Germany. Another good part is it actually did make me laugh when she pointed out the grandparents paintings because I was just like yo we got some grandparents painting in our you know house that we grew up in so it's like tough what a good point. Hey when she said that you eat off art as in to compliment how beautiful the fine china plates are I thought that was clearly a compliment. You had some nice plates. Yeah like if a white girl was dating me she could not make these tiktoks because my house will not look like this. No you wouldn't have the rice cookers from 1995. Yo those are some old those are not the cuckoo rice cookers not what the digital it's not the zojibushi. At the end of the day I think that a lot of the crowd that went out against this German tiktoker white girl essentially don't like it like white people commenting on the culture like for example had she been black and doing the same thing I think people would have been more like more receptive to it. Yeah I think what you're saying is that basically when we see a white face say anything about Asian culture and even if it's kind of positive but still also has a tinge of kind of jokingness that we usually or otherness we usually roll with the negative side of it and we're like whoa this person's being negative because they're white. Now she is if she's from Germany and in Germany you know they're not as like woke like America is so this is not like a liberal arts school white girl from the east coast this is literally a girl in Germany if that's the case then like do we give her a break and kind of give her a pass like hey Germans are kind of like behind on the whole woke stuff like chill on it. And I would say on this particular issue the the large pool of like gray colored moderates are actually more going uh going against the woke crowd. I do think that uh not to fully defend her but we do have to look at the intentions of the tiktokers because I've seen a lot worse tiktoks out there. Well if she's living with the Chinese dude and dating him and I'm assuming having sex with him. And enjoying having sex with him. If she enjoys having sex with this guy because and she loves him I don't know. Yeah yeah so I mean um I don't know I mean that that provides a lot of strong context to interpret things within the context. And it also matters that you know I think a lot of Asian bros are feeling like oh this is complimentary and a lot more people on the woke side are like hey guys this is the same stuff that white men due to Asian women and is problematic. It is true that if she would if it was a white guy making these exact same tiktoks about his Asian girlfriend he would get roasted. Yes that is that is true that is true. But you would also have to say that the gender dynamics would be also completely different and you know it's not right it's not wrong it is what it is you could argue we live in a patriarchal society it's been that way for a long time. So when it comes to the question is she being racist or not David what's your take no I mean I think she's just being German you know Germans they don't have that good of a sense of humor for people who have spent a lot of time internationally like I remember when we were living I was living in Shanghai there was like a lot of Europeans around and I would always try to find out the European stereotypes about everybody and everybody said the Germans like kind of struggled with modern sarcasm. From a comedic standpoint from a tiktok standpoint she's not being racist unless was it cringy though unless no it was cringy but unless she touted herself as like a super woke person I don't think it's racist. I do think that once you put that label on yourself like hey I know better I know culture then you probably can't fully make these like simplistic jokes but no I don't think it was racist. Now what would have been racist is if she did stuff like well when me and my Asian boyfriend have babies they'll look like this that would have been like a little bit like whoa chill girl like that's not really uh that's really bad comedy in that sense but yeah I mean I feel like there's more racist jokes she could have made it's not racist. I thought it would have been funny if she would have put a wiener schnitzel on some noodles or something I don't know some German or some Asian I don't know it would make me laugh like it's interesting to see because it's like a lot of people don't understand when you live in in America it's even though it's an interracial relationship it's not an intercultural relationship because both people are like born and raised in America this is a true interracial intercultural relationship like where this person's in Germany which is homogenous this guy's from China that's homogenous and she's living in a Chinese household in Germany so of course they're gonna have like these crazy perspectives on comedy and like the differences like that we might find like cringe inducing in America. You know for me with everything that's going on and all the Asian attacks that are very very real taking all that stuff into consideration because we think about that stuff a lot I kind of got like this new standard on how to judge stuff on how racist it is and my standard is how directly does this encourage hate crimes against Asians that's my new standard is this thing going to lead to a crime now there are different acts and things that are said that you can say pretty clearly are going to lead to more hate crimes against Asians and there are things in my opinion like this TikTok that are very very very far from it. Just sometimes I'm shocked that the Asia community gravitates like fireflies to a lantern to the most trivial things I get it it's a little bit easier to understand these like softball microcosms than like actual issues that like dictate these larger dynamics but hey man 2022 however you need to think about it think about it. I know that fetishization true fetishization is actually overall not good I agree however there's a thin line between feeling desired and appreciated and fetishization there's a line that you can cross and I feel like Asian guys are like dude we just got ignored and rejected by so many women over the decades that we could use just people who toe that line please we'll we'll call it out let us call it out there is a little bit of a feeling of like you guys are not going to cancel this one above average white girl who likes us like you know you're not canceling her we're we're taking this guys let us be you know what I did like about it too is like this guy is not like a k-drama k-pop model this guy is like a chinese hacker which is like uh you would say on the scale of asian desire really below the k-pop guy so you know I think that's not worthy she's literally saying she appreciates traditional asian guys who use the computer a lot do you understand that on the internet she is going to be very very popular okay her tiktoks could have been racist but I don't think they were so anyways guys that's gonna wrap up our take on whether this white tiktok girl from germany is being racist when she makes jokes about her asian boyfriend please let us know in the comments down below what you think and again it's the hot pot boys until next time we out peace