 Can you be fat and happy? Well stay tuned because in this video that's exactly what we're gonna talk about. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And in this video, I really wanted to discuss more of our value systems which I've mentioned in some other videos but in this particular video I wanna talk about where we're at as a society and our focus on mental health versus physical health. Okay, this is a very, very, very important video and I can't stress that enough. So please, please do me a favor, share this video. Watch the video if you get something from it or you think this is a message that somebody needs to hear. Please make sure you go out and share this video. Okay, let's get started. All right, as always, I put a big fat disclaimer right here. So the disclaimer for this video is before I have like a bunch of like Nicole Arbers coming out, like trying to come over here and tell me about my unhealthy weight and say stuff like this. Fat shame. If we offend you so much that you lose weight, lose, lose weight, I'm okay with that. You are killing yourself. Like I just wanna let you know, like I'm not ignorant, I'm not dumb. I understand I am at an unhealthy weight. I understand that being obese is not healthy. I get that, okay? So as a father and a boyfriend and a son and a friend and somebody that people rely on, yes, my health is something that I'm working on and I have made some changes which I struggle with and maybe I'll do a more dedicated video on this but just for example, steps that I've personally taken the last six months, I've been vegetarian. I've started to try yoga. I'm bad about going to the gym. I need to get my butt back there but yes, physical health is definitely something that's on my mind. I have that issue where I've put my mental health so far past my physical health that this is not under control or where I need it to be at but I just wanna put that disclaimer like I'm not delusional to the fact that physical health is important, all right? So now let's talk about the real issues. So something that I mentioned in the video I will link above when I discussed Lost Connections, the book about depression and the experiment I did. Something that keeps coming up, it keeps coming up because I think it's the most important thing is our screwed up value system and it's something that society has impressed upon us, okay? So throughout our lives, we're always being told that we need to look a certain way, we need to dress a certain way and all these different physical things and when that is in bed in your head we start to look at our prioritization and we start to put our looks, our physical attributes and all these things at the very top of the list and unfortunately that's why many people who are overweight or don't look the way they think they should unfortunately that's why they get quite depressed and I'm gonna touch on that in the second half of this video but I really wanted to focus on this value system of thinking that being a certain weight having certain physical attributes like big biceps or like thick legs or like a nice butt, things like that I wanna discuss how these are sometimes the wrong thing that we're chasing when it comes to our values like the reason why this is something that I feel like I need to address is because of this and I hate to be so blunt about it but it's just to give you some perspective and let you understand the depth and weight of what I'm talking about there are plenty people who commit suicide each and every year who have a six pack like think about that for a second and like I just wanna put it in perspective for you like I've done other videos about success and happiness and which one comes first and the reality is that losing a certain amount of weight having different physical appearances and all these things there was absolutely nothing guaranteed about your mental health when it comes with that so like I'll do more videos on like it's the same thing with like money like there's this idea that we've been led to believe that if you make a certain amount of money then you'll be happy and we now know that's not true like when the lead singer of Lincoln Park committed suicide money, fame, family, people loved him you know what I mean? Like we have to really start stepping back and checking in while our value systems and something for anybody out there who is in shape I really want you to pay attention to this video as well because we need to start focusing on our mental health more as a society and like don't get me wrong don't get it twisted there is absolutely nothing wrong with being in shape nothing wrong with it like we should all be in shape we all need to take care of our bodies we need to take care of our minds our bodies, our spirit, all that stuff the problem comes from thinking that this certain body is going to make you happy so one of the reasons why this is an issue is typically because of the ideas that we have embedded into our brains about what comes along with looking a certain way right? Like for example, I'm going to attract better partners you know, better looking women or better looking men whatever your thing is we get that idea that this is what we're going to get maybe the idea is that if we look a certain way we're going to get more respect from people in some cases we may think that looking a certain way is going to help us get the job that we want so at the end of the day when we talk about success versus happiness even with those things there's not guaranteed happiness let's use a prime example and one that hits home close to me the idea that by looking a certain way you're going to attract the person who is going to make you happy is not necessarily true for example, I have a friend right now this dude is a health nut dude is eating healthy his the gym really focused on his body but he's not focused on his mind and he is currently in one of the most emotionally abusive relationships I've ever seen his girlfriend is constantly beating him down over and over and over again all with her words you know what I'm saying so all of the hard work that he's done on his body has attracted somebody who is emotionally abusive so where's the happiness in that and he keeps going to the gym he keeps working on his health now he's keeping this figure that attracted his girlfriend but he's not happy you see what I'm saying like I hope you're following me on this so just keep in mind like anybody out there who is overweight I don't want you to get into a situation where you think by losing all this weight you're going to be happy I know a lot of people who have gotten gastric bypass and things like that and don't get me wrong a lot of them are for health reasons but there are a lot of people who do it and think if I could only lose this weight then I'd be happy right but then they go through all that trouble and then they realize that they're still not happy you know and we're constantly seeking the next thing that will fill that void that's always inside of us like is it possible to be fat and happy? like I like to think that I'm a real good example of that you know what I mean? I am happy more often than I'm not and it's because I've gotten my priorities straight like my weight a lot of this weight was put on during my drug and alcohol addiction like about 200 pounds of it was put on and it's been a battle to take it off but I'm almost grateful that I've had the weight issues you know over these years because it's helped me really learn how to love myself without having to have a six pack and big buff arms and stuff these are kind of buff though you see those can zoom in on that all right but you know what I mean? like I've learned to love myself and be okay and I've learned that other people can love me too even though I look this way and the main reason is and why I make this channel and make so many videos so many videos is because I want you all to learn that despite your circumstances you can be happy so for any of you watching this if you're overweight like my goal was saying this thing is to give you hope I want you to know that it's possible to be overweight and be happy once you get this thing right again, again physical health is extremely important because just like I said there's a lot of people with six packs who commit suicide like there's a lot of people with great mental health who die from diabetes and heart attacks you know what I'm saying? So like I said I will make a more dedicated video on maybe like just the struggles I've had with my weight and all the things I've tried and you know all sorts of stuff if you would like me to do that leave a comment down below but anyways I'm gonna do a lot more videos on this just about our value systems because I just want you to sit back and start thinking I just want to get your wheels turning and have you just start thinking like why am I constantly seeking the next thing and how do I know that that is going to make me happy you know what I'm saying? So like once we get our values in check we're more likely to have you know this kind of equilibrium of happiness and not all these ups and downs all right but anyways like I mentioned at the beginning of this video if you found that this video was beneficial if you think it would help somebody that you know please go share it share it on social media Facebook, Twitter, Instagram whatever you got going on Reddit I don't know what you kids are up to these days share with some people and help other people start working on their mental health and being a lot happier okay anyways thank you so much for watching if you like this video please give it a thumbs up and if you're new here I make a ton of videos to help you out with your mental and emotional wellbeing click that subscribe button and if you like check out some of the videos by clicking or tapping right there okay so do me a favor stay kind to each other love each other show some love all right but I'm out and I'll see you next time