 Why the narcissist is still with new supply? The narcissist appears to be happy with their new supply. Things seem to be going well for them and you thought that it would all be over after a few months but they're still together and it confuses you. Because how can the narcissist not be bored of them by now? How can the new supply not see all of the things that the narcissist is doing? How can there not be any problems? Something must have gone wrong by now. The reason why the narcissist is still with their new supply is because their new supply is a codependent, a people pleaser, someone who cares a lot about whether people like them, someone who has an emotional need to please others at the expense of their own needs and desires. They have an excessive emotional and psychological reliance on the narcissist. It's an illness, an addiction where they enable the narcissist's self-destructive behavior. They give them the ability and the opportunity to do it. By providing whatever is necessary, codependents function well in relationships where they're not getting anything out of it. They don't care about reciprocation so they're well suited to the narcissist. They're made for it. They don't know what a healthy relationship is meant to be like. They just want to be with someone. They don't want to be alone. They want to make someone happy, which is exactly what the narcissist was looking for. Someone who will overlook their faults and failures to meet certain standards because they don't want to be alone. So they will supply and empower the narcissist no matter what the narcissist does. They will justify it. They will make excuses as long as they don't have to be alone. So they will stay with the narcissist even though they're being exploited and abused because they're used to it. It's all they've ever known. So they can deal with things that you couldn't deal with, things that affected you, things that broke you down. Because they're toxic and unhealthy, they're able to deal with it. They expect to be lied to. They expect to be cheated on. They expect the narcissist to steal from them. They just don't want to be alone, which is perfect for the narcissist because now they can do whatever they want. They can live independently. They don't have to be domesticated or tame. They can be ratchet. They can act wild and crazy. They can be low class. They can have no moral values. And they will still be accepted and tolerated. So why would the narcissist ever leave? It's the perfect situation for them. They can just lay in their own filth. They can do whatever they want to do. And this person is always going to be there for them, which is nothing for you to be jealous of. You shouldn't feel sad because they didn't do that with you. That's a good thing. You should be glad they didn't. Anyone who stays with the narcissist for a long period of time must have something seriously wrong with them. And most often people who do that are co-dependents. They can't be alone. They need to be with someone. And normal people can't be with co-dependents because they're very needy. They're overly attached. They're too emotionally dependent. They act like narcissists in many ways. They will force you to stay with them. So you couldn't be with a co-dependent just as you couldn't be with a narcissist because you're a normal person. But a co-dependent can be with a narcissist because they will tolerate things that you wouldn't. They will pay little attention to it. So the narcissist is still with their new supply because they found someone who can put up with them, someone who can put up with their filth, which is not something that you should be jealous of because they're not with a good person. They're not with someone who is going to make their life better. They're with someone who is enabling the destructive behaviour. The narcissist will always look for situations that work easiest for them. They will always look for someone who is going to put up with them so that they don't have to change or make any improvements so that they can stay the same, which is the perfect situation for them because no matter what they do, their new supply is always going to be there waiting for them. But just because they're still together, it doesn't mean that things are better. It's a toxic situation. They haven't won. There is no winning with a narcissist. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching Inquiries. You can email me at coaching.narchsurviver.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.