 Hey guys, I'm just thinking about my house and how great it will look when there's a counter-depth silver fridge here, you know? Um, anyways, welcome to another vlog. Today's exciting. Today's a Tuesday. So far, I woke up, devowed, did edit the vlog, posted that, went on a run, came back, showered, got ready. I think that's it. It is 12.30, our friend Caleb is about to come over. Q is here. I'm recording a Boy Advice podcast episode and we're making pizza for lunch, guys. So, very exciting. We have some pizza dough. I'll show you guys when we start that. I have a whole corner of my house right now that are just packages that I need to open. Um, hopefully Caleb can mount my TV today in my office. That's like really high up on the priorities for me. Um, Q got me a Celsius drink, so I'm gonna drink this and hopefully just take it on the world. I have a lot of filming to do today. Today is definitely like a work from home kind of day, um, and it's also a very big filming day, which makes it hard to vlog, but we'll, we'll figure it out. Dating to Mary. Dating to Mary. We're about to start recording. The boys just took seven years to eat, so. To eat. To eat. Hey. I had to do, help you do any kind of trick shots, like I'll film for you. I'm, I'm done. Cute. Since when are you into... All right, everyone. We're doing a little Boy Advice segment for the vlog. We just recorded a hour, 15 minute long podcast episode, that means it's gonna be an hour and a half at least. Yeah, 20 minutes of it was just me plugging myself, so. Caleb is single. We are all the look out for his wife. You can fight with that. Caleb and I have a speech session. Yeah, exactly. All platforms. So it's really all about me because I just want to be able to give a speech at the wedding and then make the wedding all about me. I told her she could have a speech if, if... Six minutes. Somehow. I can sing, dance, or... Somehow the person I marry is from her podcast, I don't know. It would be absolutely cool. There's a strong bond, bro. You need a bath, go for it. We know. Her groomer is close today. Good lord. That's unfortunate. I know. We'll give her two in the past 12 hours. Well, she has. Thank you for the credit. Okay, so we're gonna answer a few questions in my view. I mean, one. I know a girl that messaged me like a really long knee, so we're just gonna answer that one. Okay. Long story short, it was like how do you keep your independence and keep growing while you're in a relationship? I think that... You know you don't need the mic. Why are they still here? Also too, we had to do this, the entire podcast, and if it dropped for a little bit, kids were like... I'm like a stage mom. Geez. Because the audio, like you have to talk straight into the mic. Right, I'll be you. You be me for a second. Go ahead. Pick the mic up and do... You were like this. Literally, you know, straight up he was like this. He was literally like this. And I was speaking from the heart. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was pretty funny though. Thank you. I would say that you have to maintain your individuality by maintaining your own... That was a lot of pops. It really was a lot. You have to maintain your own individuality by maintaining your own friendships outside of the relationship. It's great to have a couple friends. It's great to be friends with his friends or her friends, but you have to have an understanding of with each other that like, you know, if I'm dating Sally, like, hey, Sally, I'm going to go hang out with the boys and not in a disrespectful way. Like you see in a lot of memes and then you see on TikTok or whatever, like Saturdays for the boys. Yeah. Boys come first. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that like you need to have a healthy balance of being together and doing group activities, couple activities, couple friend activities and being yourself by hanging out with your friends and doing what you love on your own. I was watching some show and the wife really wanted to go golfing with him. But what she didn't realize, that golfing, him golfing was his alone time, his time to grow and think and be with his friends and hang out and then the fact that she wanted to go means they were together 24-7. And I think it is healthy to be able to be apart from each other and then be able to come back together at the end of the day or the weekend. Like if you go to me and Q were to go to like Big Bear for the weekend or something. Can we do that? I'm slow down. Let's do it. Okay. So if me and Q go hang out for the weekend, there's a trust between them that they know he's not going to go do anything stupid or bad. We're just going to go hang out with the boys and like talk about basketball and soccer and God and do what we do because that's healthy. Ultimately, that's what's going to help their relationship together. And now if they wanted to be together 24-7, which I've been in relationships where I was with the girl 24-7, I didn't have that healthy balance of like going off and doing my own thing and the relationship didn't go well. Relationship what? Crash and burn. That's why you're single. It didn't go well. So I think you definitely need to have the healthy balance of being together and then being yourself. If you have a hobby that you like to do on your own, continue to do it on your own and if y'all love each other and trust each other, then he or she is going to understand that you need to do that on your own. So that that's just how I think you're going to continue to grow with one another and don't and please ladies, please, I'm speaking for all men here. If you say it's okay for him to go do something, do not be upset that he is okay with it. I'm pretty straightforward. If I ask Sally, hey, do you care if I go golfing and you say yes and then the next morning I'm getting my bag of golfing and she's like, I'm going to go golfing now. And I'm like, don't guilt trip me because you said men need to have their time to do something and also don't be hitting them up the whole time they're doing something. It is only going to kind of like make their want and their need to be alone kind of stronger. So they're going to want to go on more guys trips or whatever. So if you give him that trust and that healthy, like have a good time, babe, text me when you can. I love that. Text me when you can. Love that. And if you do that, like I guarantee, I guarantee I'm going to take them for an example just because I'm sitting in between a couple. If me and Q go to Big Bear and she says text me when you can. When we go to Big Bear. When we go to Big Bear. Q is going to text her the minute we get there. He's going to text her before he goes to bed. He's going to call her before he goes to bed. But if Kenzie is constantly like, so what are y'all doing now? What's going on? Q is going to do this right here. I don't know if that's necessarily Q. He might answer for sure, but a lot of men, if they feel press are going to be more likely to hit you up later. But just give him his room to grow with his boys or grow by himself if he's doing his own thing. Like give him his room. And then I guarantee he's going to, if y'all love each other in a healthy balanced relationship, he's going to want to talk to you. He's going to want to text you and call you and do all those other things. So I think that is how you are going to grow individually. But if you continue to grow individually, y'all are only going to grow together as well. Yeah, I agree with that. So yeah, that was great. Thank you. We'll hand clap for that. Thank you. That's good. Can you just read the full question one more time? I'm just paraphrasing. How can you grow together and keep your individuality? How are you growing as an individual? Of course it's going to be like your morning routine, the first few minutes of my day, they're really important. I'm not going to bank account, man. That's how you stay independent. Oh, god. It's a joke. I'm just kidding. We're going to cut that out. I'm kidding. Okay. Good news. But I think there is, in a relationship, I think it's important. There are going to be times when you're going to have to sacrifice some things. Because if you're with somebody, they should be a priority to you. But I think there is a fine line between sacrificing and it's kind of brutal, but self-annihilation. Just cutting out all the things that make you you, all the things that give you that spark in your eye, that excites you, that gets you out of bed and gives you this eagerness about life. And there's been a couple times, even with kids, I'm like, hey, I know we've got a lot to do today, but I just need an hour. I just need an hour. Yeah, yeah. Seriously. Of course, sometimes it's inevitable, but I try not to budge because if I'm taking care of myself and doing things that I love, that's the Quinton that Kinsey fell in love with is the Quinton who's doing all these things. Those are the things that make me me. Yeah, well, I like that. I like that because she fell in love with you for a reason. And then the second you stop doing those things, that interest is now like... Yeah, because I think it can be easy to say, I do love you and I want to show you that, so I'm going to sacrifice all this stuff, but then it's like you don't have that excitement about life and then they're like, who is this person? This isn't the person that I got into a relationship with or started dating or fell in love with or people say married. So it's like, I think it's important to, like you said, have time with the boys and like when Kinsey's like, oh, girl's night, I'm like, great. So as soon as she says that, I'm like, hey, be efficient. Hit up your boys. Sometimes really do coordinate. Like that is annoying, but I'll be like, hey, I'm hanging out with my friend this night, you should go hang out with your friends or whatever. But I think that's important because, like, if you don't, like, if she's having a girl and you're just saying at the house, yeah, you can't, you can't do it. Like that would be Caleb. Who is that? Caleb Nash Femes or who is he? Yeah, who is that guy? What a scrub. You can find Caleb Nash Femes on Instagram, YouTube. Leave your wife, okay, so I'm not looking for a wife. I'm looking ready. I'm in a point of view. I'm looking through the wife. I'm not like actually like, oh my gosh, I got to find a wife. Well, what's that point of life? Love is blind. Set them up. You know, some people really want me to do on that show, but I'm at a point in my life where over the last year and a half, two years, I haven't been ready because I've been in such a season of grinding, growing, building. I'm still in that season of grinding, growing, building, but I'm at a point now where I'm like, if it were to happen, you'd be ready. Yeah, I'm okay with it. I'm not out here like. I'm really over doing. I'm, I, it's me. It's not you. So, I've heard that one before. Okay, okay, okay. Wait, so what are the questions? Do you have any paraphrase for you again? I haven't. Don't worry. I think, I don't know. I just think that's a really quick way. If you don't have that, that's a really quick way for the relationship to be unhealthy. So it's like, I don't know. I mean, I don't really have anything to add that you said it all. Yeah, you guys, you said it all. I think it's healthy to get somebody who's doing something. If you, if you're able to text me all day, every day, then, then it's kind of unattractive to me because I'm like, what are you, what are you actually doing? Yeah, you're not grinding your business. Like if we were in LA and Kinsey would stop Hapulates for me, like, I don't know, but they'd be weird. I'd be like, that's... Strange. Kinsey, her name is synonymous with Hapulates. It wasn't going to happen. It wasn't going to happen. Yeah. She'd give me up before Hapulates. That's not true. Okay. Guys, I just made my pasta look not as cute anymore with the chicken, but it looks so good and it smells so good. Wow. Chef Boyarkins. Basically, so I just fried some garbanzo beans with olive oil and rosemary and then I put some tomatoes in, just some pasta, really simple dinner, baked this chicken from Trader Joe's. Just incredible. I'm really just, wow. Okay, so I'm so sorry. I feel like today is in the worst vlog of vlog week. I'm going to try to make it up to you guys, but I'm actually about to put on like a, I'd put on like a worship set or something. Really calms me down, you know? But we have Bible study or Zoom Bible study. The reason I do this thing where I drink a lot of caffeine that I'm so focused on filming and recording and whatever and then I forget to eat until I'm like starving and I'm like, oh my gosh, I need to go eat. And then I eat too late and it's just like this never anything. Oh, very exciting. Out Your Voices sent me a new exercise score so I now have the red one. Oh, I also changed into just something to wear on the house. This crew is from Dip Dye Supply. It's so freaking cute. First thing I got are these little cake pans because I'm going to make these like three ingredient little chocolate paleo cakes. And then Instagram handles like really all over the place because I need to get on this call. But these, oh my gosh, no way. This, okay, this ring is so cute. I know that Brooke wears their stuff all the time. Wait, oh my gosh, no, this is so dope. Wait, okay, I need to figure out which ring. Okay, eventually it will, wow. When I get this on, I just don't have time. And then these really cute hoops have to go because it's playing. All right guys, so obviously my face is a lot lighter than my body right now. But I got the tan, it's beautiful, it's easy, a color-correct face tanner. And I really want to try it. My lips are also chapped, which is like the worst feeling ever. Really, I'm trying my best here, guys. I cannot stand chopsticks, it's the worst thing ever. Okay, one, I love the smell. Two, I love the consistency already. I hope this actually does a good job with the tanning because I'm already really into this product. Okay, now it's kind of sticking in my face. Okay guys, I'm back because I wanted to show you. So basically, on a start of this, she's the first generation Mexican American woman and she wanted to create something for herself and her family, which is so cute. So, beautiful ring that I'll be wearing every day. Oh yeah, saps here, guys. And then gold hoops. Oh yeah, Bible study happened and now it's over. Okay, and then other, oh my gosh, I'm obsessed with these. They're like chain links. So if you guys use K, oh my gosh, if you guys use code Kinsey15, you'll get 15% off your order, but it's not so cute. I know, it's gonna match my bracelet. I'm not a gold wearer, but like, love. Okay, well again, check them out. Kinsey15 for 15% off. So haven't I always do literally a send each other tweets and like TikToks and everything back and forth. Guys, it actually looks like I had the chicken pox with how many buckets I have. Like, they're not looking too good. They're not, like my legs are like, like what is this bruise? Oh my gosh, remember that bruise that was really bad? Yeah. I'm kind of cleared up. So, you know, it is what it is. You know, if I don't have some sort of iron deficiency, like, not that I want that on myself. I got a tie to, got my blood drawn everything the other day because there's something up with me. Um, if I don't have something, I'm even more concerned honestly, because like, I need some sort of explanation. I need them to tell me. This is just stand known. You know, when you just like once went like, this is like when I go to my therapist and she tells me that like, I'm not doing something wrong. I'm like, okay, so like what is it? Like clearly there's something going on. I'm like, no, no, no, no, like there's something wrong with me. Like diagnosed, like to explain this to me. She's just gonna be diagnosed as I can go from there. Exactly. And like, I, here's my thing. Like I didn't know what's wrong with me. So like, I go to my therapist and I tell her what's up. Yeah, exactly. And she just literally, half of my sessions to her talk, you have to tell her where I am. Okay? No, literally. Because then he was like, Savannah, it scares me how self-aware you are because like, you know your issues, but you still aren't doing anything. And I'm like, yeah, see that's where the problem lies. It's really in that. So I'm like, listen, so I know I need to do this and I know I need to do that, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, like honestly, I mean, my therapist does really help me. She's great. Don't get me wrong. Love her. But like it was mainly cause like, I don't need to like bother me. The cake stuff has got to go cut one more thing and it ended up being cake and like, I'm going to get an idea. It's not like, yeah, but we're going to have to drive all the way there. But like, it's like really, really not good. I'm getting it. I mean, we haven't done anything in months really. So I've only like, see you literally. Yeah. So like, that's really going to be something, but anyways, I'm going to go back to school. But are you going back? I don't know. Do you really like, are you really going to do that? I don't have a choice. Got it. Yeah. I guess also I literally have like three causes left. Tell me why like to get me to do a discussion point post at this point. Like I'm like three classes away from my bachelors. Oh my God, Jason. I totally agree with this post. Thanks so much. Love what you said about insert the first phrase you see in the discussion post. You know what I was thinking about? You have a different insight. Yeah. I'm going to open my eyes. And then again, thanks so much. Great post, Jason. Yeah. But you know what I was thinking about? Like on my discussion post, I just like, I don't even read their posts when I respond to it. I mean, I do read it, but like not. Honestly, no, I don't. I even read it all of it. I skim it. I skim it. So like what happened agreeing with something that's like totally actually not okay. And then like at all, like I actually even like worried. We should start like proofreading stuff. Exactly. But I also think that collectively as a society, we would just know that we all do that. Yeah, like everyone knows how the discussion post works. Yeah, exactly. They'd be like, oh, I didn't read it. Yeah, I know what they're getting at. I mean, I don't know what they would ever be able to say that I wouldn't agree with and like a business said it. Like, I mean, actually, there's a lot of things. But it doesn't get like political or like it's always. It's like, yeah. Describe this term and then like explain this in a setting and like point out how it's not like term in a setting. It would be controversial. Yeah, basically, but anyways, I don't know guys. Discussion post like maybe we'll come back to bite us and ruin our lives one day. But I hope not. This could really not age well. Just like, can you tell I haven't like seen a friend? I haven't seen Kinsey in almost three weeks. Yeah, like I literally was talking like I'm like, Sam, what's new? Okay, so anyways, this is what's up like and now guys, I literally have my legs are like on fire. I want to clarify the discussion post thing. Let's get back to that. Yeah, now that I'm thinking about it, nothing is controversial but like they're oh, you know what? One time, okay, I will say one time I did get an argument with a person in discussion post thing. It was an old lady. I guess she was like going back to college to take tests or like, I don't know. It was like really old and she was just being really ignorant and like hateful and I did get in an argument with her. So I did read that in my like Bible courses, which I don't have really like many like just straight by but it's just like more so I like infused their infuse. It's just like throughout the past. Yeah, she was just old and like saying some pretty mean things. So I had to let her know what was up. I had to let her know how I felt. So I was the person that thought I'm argument. But it was truly for the greater good. Like what if other people saw that and then I made them feel sad for themselves. So I had to stand up for what was right. Yeah, I had to stand up for my people. Yeah, just all of them collectively the world. You know, so anyways, you have a voice. You have to use it. Exactly guys. I'm like delusional of this. I'm like what's wrong with me? Anyways, hope you guys enjoy. We're going to watch. Um, I don't know something. Maybe we should watch this simple life. It's on Amazon. I think I'm on QZ Amazon here. We'll figure it out. Okay. Love you guys. Bye.