 Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming. Okay, Judy says question Dating man for about six weeks and he definitely copied and pasted me in his future Is this too soon or a good sign? I Love this copy and paste me for those who are not familiar with the work of where is she? Allison Armstrong Allison Armstrong. She's a very sweet friend of mine. She wrote the book called the Queens Code One of the things she talks about is what she calls what men do is cut and paste a woman into their life Now I have a different terminology I call it Futurizing or try it on for size and I can't tell you when a man is Excited when we like somebody and we're excited We are amped up on lust and limerence and for those of you everybody knows what lust is that's where I want to fuck your brains out and limerence is Limerence is Extreme infatuation when I feel extreme infatuation. I'm like I'm a matter of fact You know if I have a wedding to go to I'm like thinking how can I get her on the guest list? If I've got a trip plan I figure how can I get her to go with me on that trip? If I've got an event to go to I'm like Oh, how do I get that person to go with me and I start Describing it and this happens very early on this is because men when we like someone and when we're Enthusiastic we want to try it on for size to see if this person can fit into our life That's a great sign when a guy does that now for some of you that might feel like he's coming on too strong I'm gonna repeat that that might seem like he's coming on too strong and Yet some of the nicest high value high quality men do this so Is it a red flag that he might do it and I know that wasn't the question Red flags merely mean ask more questions. Just recognize this ladies when a guy is excited. That's a good thing If he's more focused on the sex, that's not a good thing. Okay, but when he's excited, that's a good thing That doesn't mean you two are right for each other It doesn't mean that you're the right relationship for one another, but that's certainly a good start Don't we want to be excited? Don't we want to get enthusiastic? Enthusiastic don't we want by the way women used to do this all the time they would be going Catherine as lay, you know Sharon as lay Tammy as lay trying out my last name on for size although my last name is a pain in the ass to say but So it's very common to feel and want those things so Cut and pasting I call it trying it on for size or Futurizing it's a very common thing men do It's not I just consider that a yellow flag not a not a red flag not a you know Not a green flag. It's just a yellow flag It just me when I say yellow it means he likes you But be a little careful because we can like you and then not like you later Okay, and this happens too because not everybody is compatible with one in there Not everybody shares the same values has blendable lifestyles or emotional maturity All right, great question. Thank you so much for that one. I really appreciate it