 We can win this war. We can win this war? Okay, well joining us from Orlando, Florida, is the man in that clip, Anthony Dream Johnson, who says he wants to abolish feminism and make women great again. No, but it also says with the trademark, make women great again, always great. Make women great again. They're going to do a three-day seminar for women led by all men. In Man's Plaining News, a three-day conference for women led by men hopes to make women great again. How the 22 convention will make you the greatest you ever. Raise your femininity by 500 percent. First of all, how is a man supposed to tell a woman how to be the ultimate woman? A woman needs to be taught how to be great again. Not my words. Like how to land a husband. How to lose weight. How to pop out a bunch of kids. Why do men problems of women? Well, it says the world's ultimate event for women. In Orlando, Florida, that's going to be the scene of the crime. It's Man's Planing Palooza. And say no to the toxic bullying feminist dogma. Taught by men to make women great again. Taking the stage now is the founder of the 22 convention. You're in for a treat, Mr. Anthony Dream Johnson. Anthony Dream Johnson. Anthony Dream Johnson. The first president of the Manosphere. It's run by all men, which promises to, quote, make women great again. This course is guaranteed to raise your femininity by 500 percent. Together, we will make women great again. Excuse me, I'm mansplaining here. Back to the first ever 22 convention of Orlando, Florida being held at 21 summit. Where together, we will make women great again. Our next speaker is a very good friend of mine. He's been speaking for several years at the 21 convention since 2018. As well as our patriarch edition, because he's a father. And we are the fathers speak at the patriarch edition. He's been very influential in my life through his blog at TexasDom.com. And several years ago, this is why he's known in the Manosphere to the men in the patriarchs. He turned his marriage around. Very sharp turn along with his wife. He led the way, led the charge, and made it a very happy marriage that you're going to hear about. It's going to be very interesting to you all. You've probably heard of 50 Shades of Grey, but you're about to hear about 50 Shades of Tex. So without further ado, please tell me welcome for the first time ever to the 22 convention stage, Texas Dom. Thanks, sir. I am used to speaking to men. And I'm used to speaking to one woman. That's about it. So I have a message I want to share with you today. And I'm calling this the healing power of dominance. That's a trigger word, right? It really triggers the heck out of a lot of people. But what I'm specifically going to talk about is how the Dom sub lifestyle, which is thought to be really bad, right? How that can restore marriage or relationship. How that can get you back on even footing. That's how you can get back with a proper set of tools to work within the relationship. How people can live their true roles that they feel inside. So without further ado, I have figured out that the very best way of talking, introducing any subject is normally to tell a story, right? If you can't see, I have a bad habit of walking around here. So just wait me out of the way, okay? I'm not shy. So what I'm going to tell you is a story of Tex and Kirby. Because that's our story. And that's the only story I know that means the most to me. This is a love story deep down inside. And if I start crying, I've got to work with me here, okay? We've about threw it all away. This is after we fixed things. We're on a cruise ship and had a little bit of champagne in the disco and dancing and having fun again. And there's nothing more exciting for your kids to see mom and dad dancing and kissing and laughing. And even at home, we're ready to go to a restaurant waiting on somebody to get ready. And we got the music going and we're kind of dancing there in the living room and they walk out. And my son's girlfriend just melts when that happens, you know? So this is our story. And if you'll bear with me, I'd like to tell you a few things. Every guy's probably come in here. I've avoided the temptation of walking in here and listening to other speeches here because I wanted to have a very fresh perspective and not be influenced by anything at all. But I'm a man, I'm a husband, I'm also a father and I'm a grandfather. I'm a Christian, okay? People sub, dom sub lifestyle can't be Christlike or whatever. Maybe not, maybe this, right? So we'll get into that a little bit. I'm not preachy. But after we fixed our stuff, which we'll talk about in great detail and embrace this new lifestyle for us, I'm not only her husband and her lover, I'm her warrior, I'm her protector, and I'm her ser and she probably uses that bottom one even more. She likes the warrior and the protector part as well. And that's how it resonates with her. This is not going to work for everybody in this room. It's not supposed to. It's just one alternate universe that let's explore together for the next few minutes. About year 22, maybe 21, we've been married 30 something years now. I should know exactly how many. And if you ever watch this video, I'll hear about that too, right? I think we're 31 married and 35 together, 34 together, something like that. I became married to the enemy and she would say that too. We'd pass each other in the hallway, enemy combatants. And it wasn't that we stopped loving each other. We just didn't understand how to deal with each other. You know, the only thing she ever wanted in her life was to be a stay-home mom. And that was her goals in life. When we first got married, we were poor and she was a stay-home mom and smart as a whip. But, you know, she would do things like do school crossing guard. And at one point she started cleaning houses part-time and just did anything to help out and bring a little income in. That's the one thing she always had was an incredible work ethic, which I've always admired. One of the red pill things, you've all been hearing about red pill? I'm sure. They always told guys, oh, don't ever marry a single mom. That's what I did. I married a single mom. So my daughter is my, really my stepdaughter, but I've always called her my daughter. And she is now 36. She was about three years old when I came into the picture somewhere in there. So at this point where we can't figure it out because eventually, eventually as the kids got older, my girl got into real estate. She ended up owning her own company and running a business, a very successful real estate business. Had people working for her. She's a powerhouse. She's a dynamo. She's a force to be reckoned with. And the problem with that is she would come home and she couldn't check that personality trait at the door. So she came home. I'm large and in charge and doing my thing and she comes in and we never could pass the baton off well. And so it had to be her way or it had to be my way and we're just button heads all the time. And neither one of us, we got to the point that we were going to give any. And so there's only two pants legs and a pair of slacks and we're both trying to put them on and fighting over who's going to get the second one. And so that was the predicament that we found ourselves in. And over the years, there were certain words we agreed we would never use. The D word, divorce, was the word we never used, ever. And finally of that year, 20 something, 22, 23 years of marriage. The son was off to college and we got two kids. A 36 year old currently daughter and 30 year old son. And he'd gone off to college and the kids leave the house, right? And what do you got, the dog and your wife? Or she's got the dog and the husband. And we're not sure which one we like more, right? So this is not her fault. It's my fault. This was a failure in leadership on my end and I couldn't see it. I was depressed. I'd lost my dad at age 32 or 32. I was 32 or 33 when my dad died. I had no internet. Had no manosphere. I had no 21 university. I had no 21 con. Had no Twitter. I had no, had no uncles in my life. And anybody. I had a boss who eventually became a bit of a mentor to me, but he's still your boss, right? Can't tell you everything. So I'm depressed. I'm eating too much. I'm getting fat. I was like one point. I think during the middle of this, I was about 330 pounds. And yeah, I'm six forward. I could carry it well. Yeah, right. So the old joke was stand naked in front of the mirror. Would you want to have sex with that person? You know, I miss reality. And so finally it hit me. We're about to get a divorce. It's coming. I can feel it. I know it. And so I said, what am I going to do about it? And so I started losing weight and exercising for totally the wrong reasons. Not because I wanted just to be a better man, but because, oh man, I'm going to be in the dating pool again. It's coming. What am I going to do? I look terrible. This is not going to work for you. And I'm the guy that really wants to have a woman in his life. I feed off of that. I like having a partner. I like having a spouse. And so eventually we've got grandkids now. Hallelujah. They are the greatest joy. By the way, if you have grandkids, you'll understand this statement. But the minute your first grand kid is born, your kids become almost insignificant. Right? Right? You love them to death. But hey, you know what? That little baby is coming first. Y'all are just second fiddle at this point. And they hate it too. Oh, they hate it. You used to do that. No, that's all about them. At this point, the Christmas presents all of a sudden, all the money starts getting spent on the little guy. So right now I have three grandsons by my daughter. He's just 12, 10, and seven. I have that down. I know those ages. But so she's going to go to Alabama, Huntsville, Alabama. She's flying off for a 10 to 14 day trip. Doesn't know how long it's going to be. And we're fighting. And we're trying not to. We love each other, but we just can't get along. We're driving down a road that's very similar to this. I didn't want to go drive and take a picture and drive 100 miles to get the picture of the road. But this is real similar. Rainy day in Houston. And we're driving to Intercontinental Airport. And I take the back roads to get in and avoid traffic. And it's one of these little two-lane roads with a huge ditch. And it'd been raining really hard in the water. It was really high in the ditch. And, you know, pick up truck and we're zooming along, doing our thing. And she says, hey, can we talk? We're like 10 minutes from the airport. I'm like, oh crap, here it goes. Thinking, I'm going to go to Alabama. I'm probably going to stay longer than 14 days. That's what I'm expecting to hear. And she says, you know, I've been on the internet trying to figure out how to be happy. Because I'm not happy. And I want to be happy. And I know that I should be happy. Because I have a lot of blessings in my life. We have nice houses. We have kids that are healthy. And we have vehicles. And we have a little niceties and all that. She said, but I stumbled across this Christian women's submissive site. I'm thinking about saying, OK, what is it? OK, I understand. I'm thinking 50 Shades of Grey now a little bit. But Christian, that's weird. And she says, I think I'm a submissive. Do you know what that is? And the secret of all this is that when I thought I was going to get a divorce, I had actually downloaded 50 Shades of Grey to my tablet. Because, I mean, lots of women are reading this book and seemingly enjoying it. I would like to know why. I'm about to be in the dating pool again, right? So she says, I think I'm a submissive. Can you be my dominant? So my immediate reaction was, hell, yeah. Let's do this, right? Because I was looking for something. I didn't want this to end. She didn't want it to end. You know, like when someone is drowning and the boat comes with a lifeguard, comes up with a boat or whatever, they've got the life ring with the white, with the red painted in the ropes on it. They throw it out. I mean, she literally threw this life ring to me. I had about into the truck up in the ditch. I mean, that road was dangerous. And she sprung out on me. I went, oh, what? And I almost ended up in the ditch. So we got to the airport. And I'm rambling here. But I just love this part of the story. We got to the airport. I parked in the long-term parking type deal and I walked her up with her bags. And we were talking more as we were moving that last 10 minutes down the road. Yeah, we can get into this. And so in Intercontinental Airport, they had this little Starbucks outside of security. And we were early because I'm a freak as well about being early to the airport, right? Like two hours early kind of guy. And we sat there at the Starbucks and had a cup of coffee. And we got up and checked her bags. And the lady said, oh, you're walking her in to make sure she gets on the plane, huh? Nudge, nudge, you know. I'm like, no, I'm walking her in because I love her and I want to make sure I take care of her. Make sure she gets here. And I fly all the time. She never flies. Airports are scary places sometimes, especially big ones like the one in Houston. And so we sat there and we had coffee. And at the end it was time, probably one of the most honest gut-wrenching conversations you can possibly imagine two people had after 20-something years of marriage. And we ended with a kiss as I got her to security. We hadn't even gotten up out of the chairs yet. And it was without a doubt the most passionate kiss we had had in 10 years. So I got her on the plane. It's one of those things like she's in the security line and she keeps looking back at me and waving and I'm waving to her and doing all that stuff. All that cutesy shit you see in the movies. We're doing it. We're those people. And she's on the airplane. And so off she goes to Alabama and I'm left to go home, take care of the dog. And so what that gave us was literally about two weeks apart from each other so we could each research what she had asked me to do. And then once I started researching the DOM sub-lifestyle I thought, wow, this is a lot of work. This is a lot of work. She's expecting me to step up in every way possible. And they say, man up. Yeah, they're expecting me to DOM up. Okay, she's wanting me to take care of things. She doesn't want to have to worry about a lot of this stuff that's been going on. Her thing was, look, I'm tired of trying to beat my head against the wall running the show here. I need to be able to trust you that you can run the show for us. And I can just be a girl. It's all I've ever wanted to be. She doesn't need to work anymore. She's about to semi-retire. She says, I want to bake cookies and plant flowers in the backyard and take the dog for a walk at 10 in the morning. I don't want to work. I'm sick of it. I'm sick of trying to do all this stuff. And we don't have a problem with when we want to work. God bless you. Go work. She did and she financially contributed to our family's success. And that is no laughing matter. But she and I paid the price for that. She said, I just want to be a girl. That's all I ever want to be was to stay home and mom and now the kids are gone and that kind of thing. She likes to sit down and color pictures and grandkids. That's fun for her. In the world of BDSM, those are scary four little letters and DS happened to be two of those letters in there. This is our lifestyle choice. But in the words of that whole DS thing, it's just a scary thing for people to embrace. And so we had a chance to be apart from each other and to learn some terms and to do some research and figure some things out. What we found is that there's what we call a total power exchange. And that's scary too, right? But she's going to give me all of her power quote-unquote. And that's going to trigger the hell out of some of y'all. But she wants to. It's her choice, right? And she says, look, I'm going to turn it over to you. You lead, I'll follow. There can only be one bus driver on that bus. And we were both yanking on that wheel all the time trying to make this thing happen. So she said, look, let's just try this. And I'm like, I'm game. How many months we're going to give it? She goes, I don't know. Let's just do it. See how it works out. And so after a year plus, we were happy again. When I picked her up back at the airport, I had snacks in the car. It's a two-hour drive home for us. We live outside of Houston. Had snacks in the car. Had one of her favorite stuffed animals in the dashboard. I just said, all that silly little romantic stuff that, you know, I always say girls are romantic. Guys are way more romantic when they want to be. Right? So we did all that stuff, picked up, came back, and kind of got into our life. And the first question always comes up because there's a really lack of excellent resources on the internet for this stuff. There's a lot of sex stuff, right? And in the world of kinky sex, we're like the Diet Coke of kinky sex. Like one calorie, zero calorie, not quite kinky enough type of thing. And there's some people that are way out there, right? What we had for us was a re-engagement in the bedroom. We hadn't been having sex for a while, which is very, very frustrating for both of us because she really liked sex and I do too. But we couldn't like each other enough to make that happen. And I never understood what it took to really get her where she needed to be and I finally learned if I start at 7 a.m. in the morning with some jokes and some kisses and a little coffee here and there by the time I get to 8 p.m. at night we're going to have some good times, right? But in the old lazy fat me he would think, I deserve sex. I'm her husband. But you're not acting like her husband. You're not acting like her man. You're acting like a little boy. I'm acting like another kid in the family. And that's the curse men are under right now because they don't freaking know any better and women are frustrated and in my opinion you can back me up or shoot me down whatever you want to do. Women are amazing, especially moms are amazing in one way that I respect above all else. If the husband has dropped the ball and he's drinking beers every day or on the weekends watching football three games on Sundays and two college games on Saturday and there's a Sunday night game that's got to come on that I can't miss and all that stuff and he's DVR so he can watch Morgan in the week and he's slamming down the beers and the Jack Daniels and all that. The family starts falling apart and where women are amazing is they pick up the ball because their kids are not going to get screwed and all this. They're not going to let this family fall apart at least strong women are strong in that regard a lot of respect for motherhood and stay home moms I think are probably the hardest job in the world you can be a corporate executive some Fortune 500 company I'm sure it's stressful and all that but you get to come home and take your shoes off and try to put that away for a while stay home moms 24-7 it's hard work and I recognize that and I respect that a lot so it's not just kinky sex of course we just talked about this there's nothing paperback book of all times ever and they're still selling copy after copy hand over fist there's a reason why people want something more than they have and this is I call it chick porn I read about halfway through it I read all I needed to read type of thing the issue with this is two fold the blessing it brought the dynamic it brought the discussion America was discussing it right some good some bad but at least it was now not as socially rejected now it was more of that Hollywood bringing in all their kinky crazy stuff ideas out to destroy society anyway this was in their mind this is probably just one more of them the curse was that if you've ever read this or watched the movies the character the male character in his totally screwed up does not represent dominant sub-life style whatsoever anyway in my opinion he's just a screwed up dude and that's the emphasis of the story he's all screwed up and she's going to save him type of thing right that's the curse because people always think it's this and it's not the sex is great it's the icing on the cake it's absolutely amazing silly stuff right I'm not talking about like crazy stuff we talk about kinky sex we always say three words save, sane and consensual and everything in this dom sub-relationship is consensual we both want to do it this way this is how we want to live our lives I don't care what you do at home I don't care what you do behind your bedroom door that's not my concern I could not give a damn it doesn't affect me one way whatsoever this is how we choose to do our thing but we also use names that people may not recognize she goes by curvy she's not really fat she assesses like really beautiful curves and so you know we've actually taken on those nicknames in real life because the neighbors next door won't understand this we live in a conservative small town in Texas right so like I said we don't want to advertise this to the world because people think it's all sorts of things that it's really not what it is and you may have heard something like this this week so far sexual polarity the attraction of the opposites in a magnet you got a positive side of a magnet and a negative and you put two magnets together and the two positive sides are going to rebuild but a positive side to a negative side are going to attract each other masculine energy feminine energy are meant for each other I firmly believe that I let my girl be feminine however she wishes to be I don't tell her how to be feminine I don't know how to be feminine thank God and she doesn't tell me what to do to be masculine but when we're living who we really are and how we really identify caveat I know couples where she's the Dom or Dom A and he's the sub it's a little weird to me right it's not the way I think it's not the way I think and I think it's a very very small percentage of the Dom sub relationships so it's not always gender specific and I don't judge like I said it's weird to me doesn't make sense to me but like I said what they do behind their own bedroom doors I don't care it doesn't affect my life whatsoever but this is the secret to the whole thing for the Dom sub life the secret for the man is and the woman is that man's got to be dominant and I'm going to keep referring to men as dominance because that's how I think dominant not domineering no one wants to be with a domineering asshole no one does and you've known plenty in your life I've known plenty in my life you know they're aware of the higher way and they're mean and they're hateful and they're not kind kindness is such a big deal in life whether a man's living this lifestyle or any other I preach to these guys across the way you need to be kind not weak not nice but kind have kindness in your heart weak women are not very good submissives they really aren't they're terrible at it because weak women they probably say oh she's submissive she's just weak and that's that and the other no submission is her choice it's not abuse I always point that out it's not abuse and people would like to say oh that's just abuse and you're psychologically abusing her she came to me with the idea folks okay and oh my god we belong to a we had belong to an online Dom sub community where the Dom's were on one website and the Subbies were on the other and 80% of those guys that I interacted with women brought this idea to them okay guys aren't dreaming this up girls are so for her and she said this I'm representing her here right as well and that's a big responsibility I can go in there and I'm doing that to a certain degree I'm representing my family and all that but I'm representing her to you all in certain ways and I'm probably not going to get it all right because my guy right it's I don't know everything as far as from her perspective but she's done some writing and I appreciate it but for her it's the freedom from the feminist imperative I mean I was born in 61 I'm the very first of the millennial if you look at one chart and she's same age so we watched the 60s happen we watched the hippies, we watched the free love as little kids and then the 70s hit and the second wave feminism kicked in and there weren't bad things there I mean equal rights equal pay you know why not right glass ceiling break it whatever I mean I didn't really see a lot of harm in that because I was a 10-12 year old kid that made sense to me why would you treat them differently it didn't make any sense but it hadn't gotten radical yet not really not really really radical but what they did start doing they started telling little girls in 1970s you got to go to college you got to get a job and you got to start competing with your brothers and you got to start doing all these things and it started really getting pounded that's when it really kind of in my opinion really started to begin that's not what she wanted to do but that's what she was expected to do and so a lot of us don't live our true selves a lot of us let societal expectations dominate and dictate who we are and what we do and the center we can all break free of that the happy we're all going to be so in the DOM sub kind of my little education thing but I like this there are several foundation pillars in this world what I'm trust that's this nasty picture you're going to see I promise okay when I gave the presentation last October to the guys there were some little bit more erotic pictures but guys are all visual in that regard but it's trust trust is the key to this whole thing I'll ask men in that other room I'll ask you too if you have a spouse or an LTR could you hand them your cell phone for five hours and walk away and just go take a nap could you do it I can I was challenged the men in the other rooms if you can't hand your wife your cell phone for five hours and go out and play golf or something not even think about it you got a problem what are you hiding you chatting with some money on Facebook you shouldn't be chatting on I got off Facebook you know why all of a sudden girls I went to high school started reaching out to me when I started losing weight and we started once we got into this it was that's over I killed off the Facebook account still on Twitter a lot because it's all I got on for Trump back in 2015 really got serious about it so I love the interaction on Twitter I'm very very active on Twitter but trust is the thing and as we all know takes a long time to build trust and it takes about one second to lose it we all know and building that trust back takes a while takes a lot of hard work and both people have to be open to the idea so I can trust her with anything I can tell her anything that's going on I don't I don't spew on my troubles to her because I can handle them and what am I going to do just make her nervous make her upset I don't want to do that to her important stuff though she knows about always important decisions people all year she didn't get to make a decision oh hell yeah she's a 49% part of that decision and she defers to me to make the final judgment but she's my most trusted advisor she's brilliant and she can't spell we're worth a hell spell check is her friend but for everything else she does really really well she can read people that I can I meet a business meeting I've got a dynamics of situation going on and I'll come home and tell her about it and she'll tell me whose motivations are what's going on it's like having this fly on the wall you know and if she can tell me what's going on it helps me see things that I can't see she fills those gaps that I have and so that's that's that's a beautiful thing but the trust for me is the coolest thing of all because I don't have to worry about her shaming me for things I like to do or things I want to do or ideas that I have and vice versa I don't shame her for anything and we'll talk about that some more in just a second the communication this is the big thing that took us a while to figure out I used to think I could read minds how can she do that she must know how how I feel about that she must know I want to do that but she's just she's just disrespecting me and you know I thought have I ever told her what I really wanted has she ever told me what she really wanted well if he loved me he would have done this really how's this I'm supposed to know I'm a dumbass you gotta hear us come up and talk to me what's going on here I cannot so we both agreed early on we can't read minds we suck at it so we're gonna have to talk one of the things that was very successful early on is that I was blessed enough to have the job that I was home a lot I traveled a lot too but when I'm home I worked out of my house like everybody is these days right it's freaking awesome we'd have coffee in the morning together and you know it was check-in time for us and we would sit down I always woke up here so I'm always like chatty Kathy at that point I've had three cups of espresso and I'm ready to rock and she's just waking up poor thing but we don't talk about grandkids kids jobs money broken water pipes we talk about the relationship which is awkward to do it first because the subject tends to want to delve off into something else but you got to kind of corral it back in and we both have that right to corral the conversation back and so we talk about how we're doing things that are bothering her I run a boat in Galveston Bay I like to go fishing a lot and one of the things you'll notice if you've ever driven a boat you start to get veer off course a little bit I'm trying to go here and I'm going here and the longer I wait the further and further I get by doing our daily check-ins with course correction back in back in line back in line and we both do it and it's not just her it's me we figure out what's going on and I had a friend tell me one time you know if you're asking the right questions what you're going to find is she has all of your answers if things aren't going right my relationship isn't working the way I expect it to today I go stand in front of the mirror for a few minutes and I say okay what have you done what aren't you doing what need does she have that you're not fulfilling such that she's not acting the way you expect her to or want her to or ways she really has done in the past I got to take the blame for a lot of this stuff so most men can't see beyond that not my fault she's a bitch you're a terrible leader you're a shit person the power is trying to be a man you're a terrible father no wonder she resents you no wonder she can't stand you no wonder she wants to get a divorce 80% of divorces are filed by women I wonder why I know some group of guys in the world out there say it's hypergamy and they're always trading up trying to find a man with more money the truth of the matter is maybe there's a small percentage of people that do that but the truth of the matter is the guy just sucks she's had enough other guys that come in here and talk about divorce and talk about all these things I can't experience divorce because they've never been there I don't know anything about it I don't want one I've heard horror stories from both sides of the camp I watched my daughter go through a divorce that was ugly and I never want to be a part of anything like that so the communication aspect the trust we have trust we've got communication and that's key we got to talk it out I can tell it's a little bit inside I mean y'all think Anthony stood up here we fix their marriage, greatest marriage ever I got news folks it still does this it used to do this right now we're just kind of doing the little sign way this way so we have these ebbs and flows and so I can now I know her so well I can see her body language and stuff and I know she's uptight about something so let's do what we got to do this is an interesting one last year in October that video ever comes out for the guys I did a lot of this stuff but there was a study a book came out tell me what you want and tell me what you really want something like that it was a sex study that was compiled and put together into a book it was done by some guy named Dr. Justin Dr. Justin Lake Miller at the Kinsey Institute which is one of these sexual think tank places one of the really bizarre things that hit me was that the demographics were typical 25 to about 55 60 time demographic range all Americans and they all had internet access which means they had a reasonable degree of a fluency to be able to afford a device of some sort of computer or phone and they had internet access we just narrowed down that demographic did men and women what their fantasies were and I won't go super deep into it but bondage 80% of the women that survey had some sort of fantasy about bondage right a lot of kinky stuff wouldn't admit it to anybody but they admitted it to this survey and this was like 35,000 responses or something it was a significant number of people that responded back it's got like three years to compile all the data but the other one that came up was intimacy and romance right and both sides, both men and women yearned for this in high high percentages we all want that intimate connection my god we are in the swipe program you guys hook up and girls hook up, I'm too old for this but they hook up on the Tinder app the bumblebee or whatever the other ones are and they swipe left, they swipe right they hook up, they have sex with each other again if you don't know anybody very well you're not going to get intimate with them you might have some passion for a brief moment you might have a short term fling of a romance you're not going to have any intimacy and to me great sex is all about intimacy about knowing your partner it's about the whole dynamic there and again I'm going to keep this very respectful because I want to imagine my wife would be sitting here listening to another man talk so I'm not going to get into a lot of the sex stuff which may disappoint one or two of y'all in here but it's a great book out that's been out forever it's called Love and Respect it's written by a guy with his initials or EE it's like Egrets, Emirates or something like that, it's on Amazon and this is like the beginner's manual to Dom Sublife I swear it's written by a Christian pastor, it's used a lot in premarital counseling and the psychologist person that I went to and you know when I was miserable and thinking divorce I was going to see a lady you know a few towns over because I don't want anybody to know and I got some good psychotherapy and discovered some traumas and some things and did some EMDR and worked through a bunch of shit from my childhood and reasons why I was doing a lot of some of the stuff that I was doing and in fact that lady is so awesome that she's actually seen our son and she's actually seen my wife for some stuff as well so it's kind of like it's been a great family experience to get a little help because my computer is broken I don't know what to do with it I'm going to take it to a computer guy if my heart starts messing up I'm going to see my cardiologist if I'm not thinking right and my emotions are jacked up I'm going to go see somebody that can help me fix it I'm not shy, I'm not perfect I know that help is out there right so this book Love and Respect is so unique in some regards the basic premise is men need to be respected by their women and women need to feel love from their men not saying men don't want to be loved but given the choice, men would rather be respected and I wholeheartedly agree with that my wife didn't respect me, I didn't respect myself and I quit loving her and doing things I used to do for her because she wasn't treating me the way I thought I should be treated and so she's doing the same we've got this negative spiral we're going down and we're going down in tubes and at the bottom of that toilet bowl is called Divorce and we're heading in that direction we're spiraling down I read this book recommended by the therapist lady and what it taught me again there's some Christian the pastor wrote it it's not heavy religious but he did have some stuff in there on women submitting to their husbands and some things like that but the premise was one of you has to have the guts to break the cycle if you break and put the brakes on I may not feel like she deserves to be loved because I'm mad at her or whatever but you know what, I'm going to love her as much as I can anyway I've got to step outside of my own anger outside of my own mental BS and say I married her for a reason I'm going to love her regardless of how she treats me now if the woman reads the book first she's like look, this SOB isn't deserving of my respect but if she starts to read the book she goes you know if I want to break this negative spiral I'm going to have to be the one brave enough to say put the brakes on I'm going to respect him and show him some respect even though it's going to kill me to do it right and then what happens is that he and me doing my thing she took the book and read it now we've got both players trying to make things better that was part of our getting fix before the whole TomSub stuff came up but hell of a resource and if you know young people that are about to get married one of my friends in the young man 22 fraternity of excellence which I belong to which is a group of men trying to strive to be better husbands fathers and all that kind of stuff and it's Zach he's going by Zach Small now he runs the group we've got 15 of us here at this meeting right now so one of these young men is getting married he's Catholic and doing the whole big Catholic wedding he wants to have 85 kids and all this stuff and how they do it I gave him the book I mailed it to him I said I want you to read this before you go any further and he thanked me every guy I've given this book to has thanked me and I bought two or three copies I've been known just to give them away to people because I can afford it and I know they're so damn good at fixing relationships if that's the key right here's the big F both of you got to want it eventually right if you're doing everything you can as a woman try to fix your marriage and your husband doesn't give a crap or vice versa the husband is trying to do everything you can to fix things if you're going to get kicked out that's a difficult road to walk that's probably not going to work now eventually the other party might come around if you've got enough patience to wait it out what's your happiness worth so it's everybody's situation guys talk to me all the time I'm like hey it's up to you I mean you love her you love her and how much time are you going to work on trying to make this right because I'm telling you it took us a couple of years and figured out who she really was inside I'm over there talking about divorce rape and how bad women are women's bad don't get married and all that stuff I'm making a joke about it but there's guys out there that are like that and they piss me off because just because they sucked at marriage doesn't mean everybody else is going to suck at marriage I'm good with it right there are pitfalls in all this you're going to go along and things are going to be this honeymoon stage of sex is going to be amazing it's going to be daily it's going to be multiple times in the day sometimes you're so relieved to be back together and to feel that physical connection again that intimacy is back and eventually things are going to start to get rough I'm dogging guys here they're going to watch this video one day online they're going to shoot me but most of the guys get lazy they go oh man I get sexy any time I want to I'm a dumb yeah but you didn't pay the light bill and the guy came and knocked on the door asking for money or your car got repoed or you're still sitting on the couch now you stopped watching football for a while and drank a beer every weekend but now that everything is working good in the bedroom you're back to watching football again you're not following through and keeping the changes going that's on them so Neil's to say that frustrates their sub and eventually a lot of them just quit doing it they're done she's like look I've done as much as this I can you know I've given him sex as many times as I wanted as he's wanted and he's still not making any changes and we're not using sex as a weapon it's not a pay off it's not a reward never ever and my wife and I talked about that when we fixed our stuff sex is never off the table but a smart man knows when his girl is stressed out and doesn't want to have sex I mean who wants to have sex if your girl is hurting or she's anguished over something that's just stupid right there's so many years left to have amazing sex why would you want to have mediocre sex she's having a bad day and as her husband has her dominant her sir you've got to figure that out let's be smart figure this stuff out people talk about rules you watch 50 shades they have a contract with these 85,000 rules and all that kind of stuff you know we've got three rules I'll go over two of them because one of them is personal the other is we never speak to each other in anything less than a respectful tone does that always happen sometimes I lose it sometimes she loses it but the other party quickly reminds us to come back hey you know what we're really not we're really breaking a rule one right okay yeah you are the other one is when I call her by her pet name which is not Kirby I expect her to look at me and say sir with a little question mark and flexion at the end the reason why she's so super busy doing things and sometimes I'll say something to her she's so wrapped up in something else but it's important and I use that four times that are important where I really need her full attention and she's aware of it and she's cool with it and what she really likes though is when I do it in public because she'll sir there's a hell out of them right oh my god it really does or she'll say I belong to sir Tex she don't belong to anybody girl you know you're a woman you belong to her she's like no I belong to him he owns me type of thing right she does it to tweak them though she's gotten to the point now she knows what words trigger and sometimes depending on who she's talking to she wants to trigger that person there's all the time on this one complacency kills like I said the guy goes back to drinking beer he goes back to sitting around watching sports ball and I trust me I love watching baseball I love my Astros I love it but I also know there's a time and place for everything there's a time and place to take care of your relationship your family your job your business and all that and then you can have a couple hours off smoke a pipe watch the game that kind of thing it's fine just don't do it every single night and don't take up 12 hours on a Sunday it's ridiculous this is a biggie I'm getting a little bit out of the DS thing here for a second but great divorce is a huge deal right now and it's growing people over 50 are getting divorced in record numbers now in fact the first time divorce is for people over 50 is rates double this date is about 4 years old no telling with COVID my god everybody had to be together we couldn't travel we couldn't go anywhere we were stuck in the same room with each other I bet divorce rates we're going to find this out later we're going to try this year in 2020 but one in all four divorces a couple years ago were people over 50 and there were first time marriages okay it's a thing because why because the man quit having a mission he had no reason to get up other than to try to make a little bit of money maybe go coach some t-ball maybe do his thing the kids became the mission men have to have a mission in life they have to have something greater than themselves that they're working on I preach this all the time and my mission right now which I didn't discover for a number of years is to help these guys in that other room over there help them not make the same mistakes I made I'm the old guy I'm 59 they're all 30 40 there's potholes waiting for all of us out there and if I can help them avoid a few that's my mission if I can throw them ropes they give them a reason to pull out of their hole that's why I do what I do 100% why I do what I do in fact I started the blog because my girl wanted to start a website for submissives and I didn't know how to do wordpress so I started the blog just so I could figure out how to do it all before I tried to help her the next thing I got to writing and three or four years later I've written over a hundred and something articles now and I just keep doing it just keep cranking them out because it feels good it makes me I guess all the demons in my head just get out of them and I write them all out but we'll avoid that I get asked a lot about first steps let me back up a half a step because I keep looking at the clock and getting nervous trust, communication intimacy love, respect those are those five pillars of DNS those are the things that we fall back on those are the tools that we use to course correct those are the tools that we use to keep our marriage on track keep our relationship on it keep our love affair going it's a love affair people don't want to talk about that when they're a guy I love this girl and we're still here we didn't stop loving I was dying in a hospital during the battle days I had a flesh eating bacteria in my leg I had a million dollar life insurance I'm not dumbass and she saved my life twice within ten days I was bleeding out in the hospital one time and she was the only one that caught it almost too late and then when it first happened they had drawn a little red line across the infection said that red line if the red skin goes above that sharpie marker get your butt back in here I'm not that's fine she's like no we're going twice she saved my life I'd be dead right now almost lost my leg she saved my leg they were going to cut it off fourth or fifth surgery we're just going to amputate the leg she's like no give it one more try if you have to amputate it come back and talk to me first and one of our buddies is a doctor in town she saved my leg and saved my life I mean she must have loved me she met me I was a stupid school teacher I made $14,000 a year plus an extra $3,000 a year for coaching three varsity sports I was daddy warbucks so she wasn't a gold digger because they didn't have no damn gold so we know what it was like to be poor and all that so the first steps how to get started you study up a little bit ignore the smut and the trash and try to learn a little bit more about what DS really is because like I said the sex is fun you can be as kinky as you want you can tie up you can do the whole flotter thing it's fun stuff for both people or you don't do it you have safe words where she's tied up or doing something like that and something's uncomfortable she calls red we're done or slow down a little bit she calls yellow but for her it's fun she enjoys it her orgasms are way better than they used to be and this is going to be a bit of a humble brag but I'm actually bragging on her I mean she's had 20 orgasms in less than an hour before and who doesn't like that I'm all over that right I'm a guy right one and done well wait til the end that's the way that goes but I'm in this trust me 20 10 maybe on a bad day 8 I'm all out that too so we have a saying in the Manisphere everyone wants to rise from the ashes and be that phoenix but damn near no one wants to set their ass on fire we agreed back in the 1600s Cortez landed on the shores of Mexico with a couple of ships and his men all got off we're going to go find the lost city of gold or whatever the hell they were doing we're going to burn the ships burned them we ain't going home guys we're here so Ms. Kirby and I have agreed we have burned our ships we know there's no going back and we've had this conversation if the DS doesn't work for us we're probably going to divorce one day we're not going to go back to living as enemy combatants what does that do that's a slap of reality right there's a little bit of pressure there but it forces us all to be on our A game and no one's going to have their A game every day I mean she's been sick a little bit lately I don't expect things out of her she's not feeling good but it forces us to consider what life would be like without each other without this lifestyle that we've come to embrace so the door swings both ways we've acknowledged either one of us can walk out at any time and that believe it or not is freedom for both people I've told her I want you here baby I want you to live in my house and be my girl and all that but if you leave I'm going to be fine and she believes the exact same thing that sounds cold right oh my god you want me to leave but I also don't want you to carry the burden that if you do leave I'm going to fall apart or a wine or try to go shoot Trump or something you know I don't want to take that burden off of her I'll hang out for a while figure out what to do probably start dating again find me a new sub because I'm not going back at all and she isn't either she won't settle for it either she has come to love this so much to be able to do girly stuff I mean good lord we're at family events right family food we're all sitting around watching the Super Bowl and the Couch and she'll come down and serve me a plate and make sure my drink is full because she's a service person number one she loves to serve it feeds her soul right and I love it too she'll walk up and hand me my beer or whatever she'll kiss the room in the glass and hand it to me which is kind of a gory and master slaves thing that's a whole other talk we have flavors we play things we play master slaves sometimes we do things outside we role play a little bit but my brothers in law who have wives that sort of still detest them they're watching this she's bringing me food she's making sure my drink is full they're like man I married the wrong sister what's up we're looking at me like what are you doing it's all good we're just hanging out love each other so this is her collar collar is a big deal to her it makes her feel special it's a piece of George she doesn't wear every day she actually went down to the Petsmart and had the little tag you probably can't read it but it says owned by Sir Tex she had that made and said would you please attach this to my collar is that okay? absolutely it's fun for her like I said we have our dynamic we do it the way we do it what we do there's no one way to do this Dom sub thing I want to let you know that there's people out there they're going to do it this way this is the right way to do it BS you do what works for you if you ever decide you want to play this game you want to go down this road you figure out what works for you what doesn't work Jettison the stuff that doesn't work read all the ideas that you can possibly find to embrace the stuff that does work and you'll find that you'll probably be pretty happy okay so she really is she's my most cherished possession and she loves it when I say that she loves it because we both read the old science fiction gore books in the world of gore it's like a counter earth crazy stuff 35 books or whatever but men are totally in charge of that planet women are either free women or they're slaves there's no women in charge type of thing and it's a very masculine series of books that probably we've written for 15 year olds back in 1968 but it's a lot of people have loved these books and so it's all master slave stuff and it's all fun stuff it's it's role play guys gals it's role play um she's not my slave I don't tie her up at night to the bed right I mean it's well sometimes but not every night okay but I'm saying it's so the collar is part of the gore and thing but being she is my most prized possession and as such I don't share her my god people think it's all about the funny guy on twitter accused me of brainwashing her so we could have orgies every weekend 59 years old come on and at first we're also christians we believe in god you know we got a shirt we love it I asked her I said Kirby did you not get the memo about the orgies I didn't get them either um my clicker is now working so good oh yeah I got one more thing I tell guys I live the Mike Pence rule you know what that is Mike Pence is our vice president he's a very staunch christian and believes in certain things and one of those things that's going to sound very foreign to feminists he doesn't have meetings with women by himself he doesn't go to dinner with women by himself he doesn't put himself into the appearance of impropriety in any way shape or fashion I follow that rule I have since we started this thing I didn't always follow that rule I had friend girl you know old high school friends flames on Facebook and all that I just for a little bit but I was that guy didn't want her to have my phone my gosh you got my facebook account saw me flirting with some girl no that's not what a man does man not supposed to act like that little boys act like that chumps act like that the Mike Pence rule is good so one of the aspects of that and the reason I bring this up if you have questions and things that you would like more information on Dom's sub it's easy to find my email address I'm at texasdom.com I got a contact page super easy to find me you send me an email with a question I will relay it to her I will politely let you know is it okay if I relay it to her if you say yes it goes to her if you say no I just trash it I'm not going to reply back anymore because I don't not that I don't respect you but I respect her more than you and I'm not going to be putting myself in that situation I'm just helping her who's that okay yeah I'm 59 I'm an old guy probably nothing but the appearance of impropriety is unacceptable I tell these young men this all the time why are you putting yourself in that situation because people love to gossip and they love to talk and they love to tear your ass down any chance they get because they don't want you to do better than them by God you can do just as good as them but as soon as you start to get a little bit better take you back that crab in the bucket effect I'm going to pull you back in closing thoughts one of the other things that I have found that I told the guys about and I also think it's important for y'all to have your hormone levels checked women are better at that than men make sure your estrogen is where it's supposed to be your progesterone is where it's supposed to be it's usually important especially as we age we naturally lose some of that stuff as my family doctor told my girl one time he said would you if you don't want to take this you're probably going to have a mustache and stuff at some point she was like oh my God so it's fixed this kind of thing he was teasing with her but she's got her hormones fixed I got my testosterone stuff fixed as well and are there any magic bullet benefits to this stuff no not magic bullets you still got to put in the work still got to exercise still got to eat right if you want to have low body fat percentage a shot of testosterone in your leg getting on to it but if you're depressed if your man is depressed I can't speak to women on this too much because I don't really understand how y'all think all the time thank God but for me it fixed my depression it gave me more energy it got my ass off the couch where I could start lifting weights again and exercising it's so many hidden benefits for me personally my levels were like 200 something when they tested me it would have been a thousand at that point you know and so I know young men in their 20's that are getting tested that have 250 to 300 milligram levels of testosterone when they should be at 1200 at their age so whether we're doing it to ourselves somehow was the plastic in the bottles whether it's the chemicals in our water whether it's the environmental factors in the air trust me we are turning young men into little girls we are killing off their man juice their testosterone and it's a shame because men that don't have enough testosterone have a very hard time living up to being masculine men they just don't know what they don't know and so I always encourage if you have sons who are lethargic and can't get out and it gained a lot of weight and all that have them check now here's the scary thing right if you haven't had kids yet and you're a man and you take a lot of testosterone it's going to kill your your sperm production eventually no one wants that especially if you want to have more kids now my age when I finally started it my kid days were gone doctor had snipped that and figured that one out early on but for these younger guys there's other things like HCG and there's other things that they can take like clomid some of the female fertility drugs and stuff that can increase their testosterone without having to take testosterone and worry about losing their their fertility but that's just one of those things that I like to mention to everybody I guess the biggest thing is this is a lifestyle it's a possibility for some people and they make it work because it's just fun for them it's not a prescription for everybody it's not how you're going to live your life necessarily but if two people are committed to making the effort and continuing to put in that effort and not get lazy and complacent it just gives you this framework as I mentioned earlier this set of tools that you can use to have the happiest life that you might have together to have fulfillment to have the intimacy to know that you can say anything to that person and they're not going to make fun of you you can trust that they're going to listen to what you have to say they may not agree with you but they'll be kind about disagreeing disagreeing with you it has been a fantastic way and I have seen many many many marriages saved by this and I have seen a percentage of those fall apart after two years because the guy got lazy so it's not a guarantee both people have to put in the work but there's guys like me that eventually girls like you will eventually push them over to my blog hey, read some of this stuff and there's also sorts of things about masculinity on there there's things about a little bit of politics here and there every now and then I just can't help myself but a lot of DOM sub stuff and you can search by category you hit the DS category and all my DOM sub posts will pop up steer them over there there's guys like me out there that want to help because a man going into this if it's your idea and you're bringing it to a guy he's going to be lost and clueless not going to have any idea what to do and so guys like me are out there to help them and there's good resources there's couples resources, friends of ours and Scotland have a place called the oh god I never forget this email me, they got a great website that's for both men and women couples go over there and work on stuff together but it's just a really there's a good community out there there's just not a lot of good resources out there as far as anything it's not sex related I'm not plugging this but I am the title of this talk is also going to be the title of the book that I've got coming out at the end of the year and it's a cheap cheap cheap book it's not meant to make a lot of money but it's meant to cut through the bullshit that's on the internet because there's so much of that out there some poor guy like me got out there I was smart enough to figure out what might work and what might not work at least initially and there's a lot of really bad information out there so with that let's see if I got anything else here yeah we're texting Kirby thank you I bet there's probably no questions are we ready to take a break I have hearing aids you're going to have to speak up, step close to the mic or I'm not going to be able to understand you can you elaborate on how the Domsub framework aligns with your Christian values yeah I mean I'm terrible at quoting scripture women submit to your husband as Christ submits to the church husbands honor your wives and all things there's a second part of that everybody just wants to quote the first part submit to your husbands but there's a second part husbands you have to you have to treat your wives good too I'm paraphrasing for us it's I feel like this is the natural order that God put down thousands of years ago that men were physically and menly designed to lead I know it's going to be a trigger to somebody in here but that's okay that's what I believe and that women were meant to make things nice meant to follow meant to take care of the home and the kids and I think that's it just goes back to the way things were in my old school yes in my trad con not necessarily wouldn't say I'm a trad con but I guess I probably am a little bit I just hate the word hate the labels I hate them some people would say this is how your grandparents lived and not everybody's grandparents were happy you know maybe your great grandparents if you're really younger but generally 50s lifestyle head of household I've heard it referred to a lot of different ways for us as dompsub I hate labels it's just who we are and how we live and I see nothing in my own beliefs or she and hers that sees any conflict in that sex was supposed to be fun we make babies supposed to have God made sex pleasurable so we would do it and populate the earth and we don't swap we don't share we don't participate in anything anything like that because we believe that men and women are designed to be married and monogamous when you stray outside of that you try to do three ways you try to go do some other group activity invariably it causes a wedge in the relationship and almost everybody we know they did like a three way brought another guy and brought another girl in their marriages are now over it didn't work it's not worth let's say the juice isn't worth the squeeze if y'all have any questions from our girl email me I'll pass them over to her okay thank you very much oh one more okay I don't hear so good I admit it fine thank you for doing this text I appreciate you how do you well maybe I'll make it more general how do men view submission and how is it different than how women view submission and the way that we communicate and making sure that we're both communicating that we want the same things it's gonna depend on the guy right the man he doesn't know what it is you're gonna explain it to him probably most men think oh my god I'm gonna get blow jobs every night yeah let's go pardon my being so crude I was the crudest thing I said today thought I was gonna get away from here without making a crude term like that men don't have a clue they don't know what they're doing even if they're biblical they don't really understand completely what that means I've picked up on that okay did I answer it wrong no no I said I was agreeing with you you said that men don't seem to have a clue because in my experience I think it triggers a lot of worthiness issues in guys when you give them things in a state of submission the problem is we've all talked to be equal right we split the chores we do this there's no sexual attraction anymore because we're all trying to do the same jobs around the house we're splitting everything up and I think most guys don't understand what submission is or if they've seen 50 shades they think it's that right and it's just that's a completely skewed screwed up nothing but chick porn in my mind so but when I give a presentation similar to this it's a lot less touchy-feely when I do it for the guys but I don't shy away from the fact that I love my wife and then I'm a monogamous and then I take care of her and she's my greatest those guys hear that same message don't get me wrong but I also explain to them what their job is and how if they want their girl to be submissive to them there's things they have to do there's first steps I kind of blew past that a second ago but you know bringing the idea up and talking about it is a wonderful thing and when a guy says how do I bring this up to my girl I'm like man you know as you watch 50 shades you see into all that stuff and I said that might be an opening but you know just realize that that's from screwed up stuff and he's like well that or you could talk about living in the old days where great grandparents from males in charge followed and they had they had roles that they were able to explore who they really were I got ways of helping guys but I said you can't just walk up to her I went to this meeting and this tech guy was talking about flogging and I want you to be my sub and this that and the other and I said she's going to laugh at you and walk away or scream and run one or the other you know so then how does like a woman initiate those kind of conversations without then kind of putting herself in like the leadership position I would guess that if she's bringing that up things are pretty broke at that point or that she really wants to get better and I think you could always say hey I've been reading online that this is this is thing called dominance of submission and it's going to sound a little weird just like I explained it to you but some people live their lives this way it's kind of like your grandparents live you know maybe and you know do you think you could I could just turn over control of everything here in the house to you that's scary as hell isn't it right it's going to give your man all the control as far as paying the bills and making sure everything's done and making sure things are handled correctly and that's a trust issue that has to take time but I mean to be able to walk up to him is to tell you what works really well glass of wine no kids in the room kids at grandmas maybe glass of wine we can go off music playing late in the evening that's a good time to bring that subject up interesting that's all the time we have to give it up for Texas Dom thank you we can win this war we can win this war okay well joining us from Orlando Florida is the man in that clip Anthony dream Johnson who says he wants to abolish feminism and make women great again it also says with the trademark make women great again always great great again they're going to do a three-day seminar for women led by all men in mansplaining news a three-day conference for women led by men hopes to make women great again how the 22 convention will make you the greatest you ever raise your femininity by 500% first of all how is a man supposed to tell a woman how to be the ultimate woman women need to be taught how to be great again oh yes we do how to land a husband how to lose weight how to pump out a bunch of kids why do men think they need to fix the problems of women well it says the world's ultimate event for women you know Orlando Florida that's going to be the scene of the crime it's mansplaining palooza and say no to the toxic bullying feminist dogma taught by men to make women great again taking the stage now is the founder of the 22 convention you're in for a treat Mr. Anthony Dream Johnson Anthony Dream Johnson Anthony Dream Johnson the first president of the Manosphere it's run by all men which promises to quote make women great again this course is guaranteed to raise your femininity by 500% together we will make women great again excuse me I'm mansplaining here she said there's nothing wrong