 So, you were dating a girl, she broke up with you, she rejected you, whatever it is, but she says you're still a great guy. I don't know about you, but I used to hear this phrase all the time when I was younger where she would say, hey, Lloyd, listen, you're a great guy, but there was always a but. Every time, in fact, every time somebody started it with, hey, Lloyd, you're a great guy, I'm like, oh god, here we go. They're going to tell me something I'm not going to like. So if you're one of those people watching this video right now, have no fear because look, I've been through this before and it does suck when you're being told this all the time. It's the classic nice guy, like symptom line that they tell you again and again, hey, you're a great guy, you're a great guy, well, listen, if I'm such a great guy, why doesn't anybody want to date me? Well, I'll tell you why nobody wants to date you or sleep with you and that's because you are being too nice, okay? Too nice in the way that you are trying to do things in order to get favors for another person, okay? Being nice does not give you the prize in the end. Being a man and being the things that we talk about on this channel does. Now you don't want to do what I did, which is basically reject the nice guy principle completely and just start acting like a complete mean person to everybody in the year around like a complete asshole, which is what I was for a long time, because I've found that okay, well, if nobody respects me for being nice, then I'm just going to be mean to people and then I'm still going to get what I want, right? People ultimately didn't treat me that much differently. I think my dating success improved slightly after doing this, but not very much, okay? It improved a lot more when I was nice, but also assertive and a man and confident and all of those things that I talk about, all right? So if you're getting this a lot when people say that you're a great guy, that is part of that is actually good. Part of that is actually good. They think that you're a good person and they don't want to hurt your feelings. They don't want you to feel bad after what they're going to tell you is what they're going to tell you, okay? That part is actually something that you should celebrate. And I know it's hard because it feels insulting at this point when you're hearing that, but the truth is that is a good part. People are saying nice things about you because at the end of the day, a part of them really likes you. They don't feel that sexual chemistry or they don't feel that desire towards you just yet, okay? So if women are saying this, there is something good within that. Now, what you need to start doing is all those women that have said, hey, you're a great guy, but do not be friends with them. Do not engage or try and win them over with favors or keep proving that you're such a great guy and then eventually that they're going to turn their heads and realize they were wrong the whole time. Don't do that, all right? What you should be doing is you should be going after the things that are going to make you into the best version of yourself. Focus on yourself and grow who you are. Be attractive to a variety of different women. Go out, make friends and hang around people that are going to respect you, okay? It's kind of funny. People don't realize how good they have it with someone until they lose it, okay? And then when they lose it and they see you starting to act like the man that you should be, that's when you start being really attractive. That's when they start going, huh, you know, I never saw him in that light, right? But here's the key thing. You don't want to do this for them. You want to do this for yourself, all right? Yes, being called a great guy is cool, but actually having people desire you and want to be around you, that's the barometer that you should be looking for, okay? Keep being a nice and respectful person towards other people. Don't need to reject it and turn into like this fake wannabe bad boy because it's probably not you if you're watching this video. If you're a nice guy, how I grew up, you're probably being nice, but you're actually going after it and you're not tolerating disrespect. Ultimately what needs to happen is you need to have the ability to walk away, okay? Cultivate this ability where you don't need people in your life. You are self-sufficient. You can go after the goals that you want. And ultimately, if you can't get it from one person, you can get it from somebody else. This is the thing that is actually super attractive to women that they don't talk about, okay? The biggest after a DZX for women are what makes women want to sleep with you the most if they know other women want to sleep with you, if you have options. If they know that if they don't value you, they know that if they don't take care around you or show interest, you will leave and you will find somebody just as good if not better than them, right? And I know it sucks, it kind of sounds like a harsh world, but that's the reality of the situation. And you will not prove that to them if you do not have the ability to walk away. If they know that they can do anything or they can say anything and you're still going to be around and you're still going to be their friend, at the end of the day, that is not going to win you the women that you want to meet. What is going to win the women that you want to meet is having the ability to walk away, bettering yourself each and every day and realizing that as a man, you get better with time and the more you learn, the more you grow, the more attractive you're going to be. And in me, my own personal life, I think that's the greatest gift that we have as men, is the ability to change your own circumstances. You are not just going to be the great guy that nobody wants to sleep with, that nobody wants to date. You can be the guy who was also the great guy, but it's also someone that people want to get with. I know because I turned myself into that guy. Yes, it took time, it took, you know, months, not months, years of women telling me that I was just a nice guy or I was a good friend or I was just like, oh, you're like a brother to me, like all of those things. It took years of that, but eventually, once I had the ability to walk away and improve myself, those women, a lot of them ended up coming back. Okay, they came back and then, you know, some of them apologized, some of them didn't, some of them acted like nothing happened and we were still cool and, you know, it depends. It's up to you what you want to do in that circumstance. My, me personally, I think you should just act nice to people. I don't think revenge is something that you should strive for, although it can be a good motivator in your own life. So if you're getting this a lot, yes, it sucks, but just being called a great guy is not what you should be focusing on, what you should be focusing on. Hey, do I have the ability to walk away from this person and still be the man that I want to be? And if that's the case, I guarantee you're going to be hearing this message a lot less, or you're just going to be hearing, you know what, you're an awesome dude and I want to date you, or you're a great guy and I want to come home with you. You're going to be hearing those kinds of things a lot more as opposed to just you're a great guy. But, cool. Well, if you made it to the end, consider subscribing. I come out with videos like this every single week. My name is Lloyd, Lloyd Dixon. I run this channel and if you want help from me personally, I suggest you look in the description box below, get access to my free trainings. Good luck out there you guys.