 When narcissists take things away, the narcissist will take things away as an attempt to control you, as an attempt to direct your behavior at the course of events, to maintain influence and authority over you. It is designed to have an effect on your character, development and behavior, destroy your willingness and determination, stunt your progress and development, narcissists are very envious. They experience a feeling of discontented and resentful longing aroused by your possessions, qualities, luck or experiences. They desire to have the possessions, qualities, luck or experiences that you have. This is what makes them want to take it away and they feel as though it is justified for them to take things away from you, because they feel bitterness, anger and annoyance by what is perceived as an unfair treatment. They believe that you have an unfair advantage and this then justifies them taking things away from you. It justifies them seeking to harm or intimidate you because they have witnessed your happiness and contentment and it has made them feel envious. It has made them feel bitterness, anger and annoyance because they cannot get the same fulfillment from the things that you get very easily. So now they want to cause harm or trouble. They want you to feel the way that they do. They want to project their feelings of bitterness, anger and annoyance onto you. Their way of doing this is to take away whatever is providing you with happiness and contentment. It is also designed to enforce obedience, to make you comply with an order or request, to make you submit to a particular process, treatment or condition. Once you then comply with the order or request or submit to the particular process, treatment or condition, the narcissist then may or may not reveal whether they have hidden or taken your things. This is the game that narcissists play. They know that by taking things away from you, you will eventually comply and do what they want. As they begin to do it more and more and continue to get the results or the reaction that they want from you, it becomes very addictive. It goes from being one incident to something that they participate in on a regular basis. It makes them feel good. It gives them an opportunity to project their feelings of bitterness, anger and annoyance onto you. So they become addicted to the process of taking or withholding things from you. They have studied people and learned what to take or withhold from you to affect you the most. To enforce obedience and get you to comply with their demands. They will take or withhold money, sex, their attention and emotions or even your children. Because they know that you need those things and they know how it will affect you. They know that it will make you comply with their demands. You may think that as you are dealing with an adult, they are not going to be playing some childish game. And the narcissist who has perfected their craft of manipulation knows exactly how to disguise and give you a different appearance to conceal what they are doing. To make it seem like they are not playing a game. They will give you the silent treatment. They will refuse to communicate with you. They will ignore you or exclude you from certain activities. And they will make it seem as though it has nothing to do with you. So that you do not get the opportunity to correct the situation. They strip you of your strength and power and put you in a position where you are unable to defend yourself or to act without help. It allows them to continue playing the game and continue projecting their emotions onto you. While you are trying to comply with their demands to correct the situation, it has given them attention. It has made them feel significant or important. You are trying to make them feel better about something that they have invented or fabricated. When it has nothing to do with the real issue, a narcissist will never tell you the real reason why they are treating you the way that they do. There is always some underlying motive that they are not telling you. And that is the reason why they are taking or withholding things from you. But they are not going to tell you. Because they are embarrassed or ashamed of the real reason. And they want to continue playing the game. They want to continue manipulating your emotions and getting reactions out of you. They don't really care about what you think. What they really care about is your reaction. They want to make you feel pain or distress. They want to make you feel anxious. They want to make you feel as though you are not good enough. It makes them feel better about themselves. It makes them feel more comfortable. They don't care about what you think. They just want you to experience a negative reaction. Once they see you reacted to something that they have said or done, it gives them satisfaction and enjoyment. It regulates their emotions and boosts their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. The narcissist takes things away to make you comply with their demands. They are addicted to power. They are addicted to having the ability to direct or influence your behaviour at the course of events. It gives them a false sense of power. It makes them feel as though they are significant and important. And it gives them the opportunity to project their emotions onto you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate my PayPal links in the video description. Coaching Inquires. You can email me at nagsforvecoaching at yuma.com. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.