 So what should we talk about? So what are some, I want to actually interact with some of the youth at this point. I don't really want to give a speech. I did that yesterday. I'm kind of bored of that. So what are some of the issues that you all, as youth, are experiencing in school? I assume many of you go to public school. Yes, sister with the pink hijab. Yeah. That's, thank you for your comment. She made a comment that many of the people at her school, they think she's very dumb, right? Because a lot of children, unfortunately, children, they're not fully developed intellectually, right? You'll notice when you get to college, and people start thinking very differently because people, they can think for themselves. So that's, thank you for your comment. That's something that happened to me actually when I was in elementary school as well. And at that time, I didn't even identify as Muslim. If you asked me in sixth grade, are you Muslim? I would say, no, I'm not, right? I didn't want anything to do with Islam when I was that old. And it's kind of because not only was there no Islamic practice in my home, but everything I knew about Islam was just through television. So watching TV and oh my goodness, this is what they're saying. Well, I don't want to be that. So a lot of these children that are saying that to is just from a standpoint of being very ignorant. Now, if you feel like you're being bullied, you should always tell a teacher and don't be afraid of doing that, right? Tell the teacher, say they're calling me names because schools should really have zero tolerance for that type of thing. And then also, are there other Muslims in your class? That's good. That's good, you know, be with the Muslim students. And also, you know, you can ask someone who says you're stupid or you're dumb. Say, why do you say that? Give me an example of my stupidity, you know? And you can even show your report card and say, look, I have all A's. How am I stupid? Because there's really no, there's no basis for what they're saying, right? So I remember when I was in fifth grade, this, and my school was all non-Muslim and everyone was Caucasian. They were all white, except my sister and I. So this student, non-Muslim, and many people, they're very religious Christians. It's one religious, very religious Christian. He came to me and he said, are you Muslim? And I said, no. And he said, but your name is, you have a Muslim name. I said, oh man, how did he know that? So I said, no, I converted. To what? To Mormonism. It was the first religion to pop into my head. So I said, hey, it was a Mormon. And then he said, really? And then he went and he asked another student, a female student who was sort of the, I don't know, sort of the student pastor, the most religious student in our class. And I heard him ask her, is someone allowed to change religions? And I was thinking the whole time, oh my God, please say yes. She said yes, of course. And I said, oh, thank God. So from that point on, I was known as the Mormon. All right. Yeah, I know. So I didn't actually start calling myself Muslim until I was about 15. And it was because I came across someone named Malcolm X. I read his book and he wrote an autobiography. He died in 1965. So he died along before I was born. But I read his autobiography. And he was African American who converted to Islam. He went to Mecca, he made the Hajj. And I was very impressed with his story. So 15 or so I started calling myself a Muslim. I didn't actually start practicing and I didn't have any resources. So I didn't have any Muslim friends. And that's the key, I think. Just be around Muslims, al-marwa al-adini khadili. There's a hadith of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam where he says, a person is upon the religion of his friends. Right? A person is upon the religion of his friends. So, and then, you know, so be careful who you be friend. So obviously be friendly to everyone. Friendly to everyone, right? Even people that are not so friendly to us, we should show them friendliness. You don't have to make them your best friend. But you should be kind. You know, that's the sunnah. That's the way the Prophet used to interact with people. When people would be harsh with him, he would show them kindness, right? But it doesn't necessarily mean you'd hang around with them. Right? Hang around with good people with believers. So you have sort of an inner circle of very close friends that should be Muslim. You know, people that pray, people that read Quran, people that believe in what you believe so you can learn from each other. You strengthen each other mutually, you know? So, it's very, very important that when we're in these public schools, and you know, I obviously have experience in this, is to seek out these Muslims, right? And, you know, if people are making baseless claims that are name calling, then you can engage with them. And one of the things that I don't suggest doing is sort of just cowering away and being afraid and hiding it and not telling anyone. Because if you show fear, oftentimes children will, they'll sort of encourage children to keep doing it. Like, I can get away with this, right? I have power over this person. So the next day, they'll say something even more crazy. But if you say, you know, a challenge them initially and say, why are you calling me stupid? What's stupid about me, right? They'll be like, well, I don't know. Because they're Muslim. So what's stupid about Islam? And they won't have an answer. They don't know anything. I mean, it's amazing. I mean, people don't know anything. I used to teach classes at the graduate school level. I used to teach Christians that were doing masters of Divinity degrees and they have to take a class on Islam. You know, so these are gonna be Christian scholars and a room full of Christians. And I would say, I said, who knows what the Kaaba is and nobody would raise their hand? Not one person. They're what? Kaaba? What's that? So I said, you know that black cube and about half the people go, oh yeah, I know what that is. And I said, you know who built that? Nobody raises their hand. I said, you know, Abraham, he raised the foundations. I say, oh really? I mean, something so basic. It's so basic, right? But, you know, graduate students don't know that. And so imagine, you know, children, fifth, sixth, seventh grade, they don't really know anything. You know, they're just sort of repeating what they sort of hear on television. So if we take an intellectual stance and say, well, you know, prove it to me that Islam is stupid or I'm a stupid, they won't know how to say anything and that will discourage them from actually talking to you again because they don't want to look foolish and not have an answer, you know? I also encourage students, you know, when you get home from school, do something fun, you know? Don't have, you know, Facebook accounts at this age. When I used to get bullied in school, I would come home and it was a really safe space for me. Right? And you know, that's when the bullying stopped and I would go and I was a soccer player, I played football, I'd do martial arts and hang out with my dad, you know, watch a sports game or something. But nowadays, you know, students that engage in social media, they go home and they, you know, get on their Facebook and they're still being picked on. So it's a 24-hour cycle. And, you know, that's too much for children to bear. And when I say children, I mean, even in high school, I wouldn't get a Facebook account until I was in college. I didn't get an iPhone until I was 39 years old, which I just got it, by the way. I had a flip phone until a couple of years ago. Then I got somewhat of a hybrid, kind of smartphone type of thing, but I never used it for internet or anything like that. So it was really the first time in my life I'm using my phone for internet at 39 years old. Because you don't really don't need that. You could have your email account and just, you know, you can use it from a computer. So I think limiting engagement in social media for youth is extremely important, you know? Oftentimes what happens again is, you know, the child will come home from a rough day at school. People calling him stupid and things like that because he's Muslim. And they don't turn on Facebook. Oh, they're still making fun of, so they get into this type of depression. So that's important. And also, you know, sort of a message to the parents as well is that your child should feel very comfortable coming to you with issues. I can't tell you how many youth have come to me, and these are usually in high school, that come to me and tell me things that should be reported to schools and possibly even be pursued by authorities, things that are happening to them in school. And I say, well, did you tell your father? And he says, no, my dad will kill me. I say, well, it's not your fault. So yeah, but my dad, you know, he doesn't like any type of conflict. I mean, there was a student who said that he literally has to ditch a class every day. I think it was his math class. So he hasn't gone to his math class in weeks because there's a certain student there who physically attacks him in class. So he said, I'm failing that class now. So did you tell your father? No, no, no, you know, he won't even care that I'm getting attacked. He just cares about my grades, you know. So children have to feel comfortable with their parents. And you know, you should also think about maybe having some sort of mentor for your children. Someone who's not exactly as old as you are, right? So they're not, you know, they're not an uncle. They're kind of, they're not a child, but they're sort of in the middle, right? A mentor, a few years older than your child that they can speak to, they can be more comfortable with. So having a youth halakka, you know, a youth halakka will bring in dynamic speakers, you know, people that know how to speak to youth so that in the halakka, you know, the children have this outlet to voice their opinions about certain things. We used to have a youth halakka years ago and, you know, 200 people would come into the masjid and they'd ask me questions, they would never ask their parents, you know. And that was good, you know, that's something that they needed. Like, you know, kids coming up to me and say, can I get a tattoo? Said, no, you can't do that, oh, okay. Thank God I asked you because I almost did it. And I was gonna hide it from my father. You know, so have a youth halakka, give children, give children the ability to be in contact with people that are closer to their age and understand the society. And oftentimes as parents, you know, we come from different countries, we don't really understand. We might think we do, but we really don't understand what's happening in the society, especially in public school because we didn't go to public school, I went to public school. So understand what's happening. So I would say that's very important. Limit social media as much as possible until you get to college. You don't need an iPhone, you know. Have a phone if you're in high school, you know, in case there's an emergency or something like that. You don't need internet on your phone until you're in college. And this is for our own good, I think. There was another hand up here somewhere. Hassan. Hassan. You have a question, do you have an issue? Yes, sir. Some people mock my name. What's your name? Muhammad. Oh, Subhanallah. You know what you can say? You can say my name is the most popular name in the world. And it's true. The name Muhammad is the most popular name in the world. So you say, why are you mocking my name? It's the most popular name. And they won't know what to say. And that's the trick. The name Muhammad is the most popular name in England. Hmm? Yeah. Allah says, Allah says to the Prophet, when he was the only Muhammad on the planet, Allah says to him, we have elevated your dhikr, your remembrance. So one of the meanings of that is that this name will be the most popular name in the world as a prophecy. So that actually happened. So what you don't want to do is mock other people's names. Just give them an answer. It's the most popular name in the world. You didn't know that, right? But if you mock their names, and that's what we can't do. So we can't return an evil for an evil, right? So if somebody insults you, then you can't insult them, but you can stand up for yourself. So the answer isn't to sort of go, oh, that's not the answer. And the answer isn't also, what's your name, Brad? That sounds like, rad or something. So that's not the answer either. But the answer is to take a stance, but make it intellectual. So why are you making fun of my name? It's the most popular name in the world. There are more people with my name than your name. So you should really learn what my name means. Yes, sir, how's that? This is not really my problem, but there's a lot of people in my school who like get flicked. I don't want to be all impoverished, but they get sexually abused. Really? By who? Well, like their own friends, because they're like peer pressuring them to do drugs and stuff. They get sexually abused? No, not sexually abused. Like sexually encountered or something. I don't know. Maybe harassed? They get harassed. Like the girls are getting harassed. Yes. Yeah. Yeah, if you see something like that, you should always tell a school administrator. Even if you think, oh, that's okay. If there's even an inkling, a little thought in your mind that this is inappropriate, you should tell someone about that, because oftentimes girls in schools, things like that happen, and the girl doesn't want to sort of embarrass herself, I guess, and tell someone about that. So she'll let things slide, but really that should be cut off immediately. So tell a school administrator if you see something like that. And that's unfortunate. And then if you see someone, if that's happening to someone, whether they're a boy or a girl, speak to them and say, I saw what happened and I think we should tell a teacher or an administrator about that. So don't be afraid to engage with teachers and administrators. They're there to help you. Sometimes we think, oh, they're mean and things like that, but really they're there to help us. Yes. I once told that school that this kid said, I hate Muslims and the Muslims were bad. Yeah. So I say, why do you hate people? Hatred is bad. Right? I said that, I asked him that and he said that because he was a Trump supporter and that his whole church loves Trump. You could say there are Muslims who support Trump. What do you say about that? There are Muslims who voted for Trump. That's true. There are? Yeah, of course. You know what's interesting is a lot of the, I don't know if I can explain this. Muslims politically actually lean more to the right towards conservatism than the left. If you look at some of our issues with like marriage and abortion and things like that, that's more right-leaning, right? Trump didn't want to go to war in Iraq. I totally agree with him. So this idea that I, we support Trump, therefore we are the antithesis of everything. Islamic is just a false narrative. You can say that, you can say it. What about Muslims who voted for Trump? So, and then also remind people, it's hating people. If they're Christian, you can remind them that it's a very un-Christian behavior to hate people. So you're really not following the example set down by Jesus Christ. And if you say something like that, he's gonna be sort of taken aback by it. But just remind people that hating people is not a good state of mind to be in. And you can actually tell that person, I feel bad for you that you hate and let me pray for you. And that's gonna sort of resonate with him, I think. Yes. Actually, last week I found out a girl was smuggling alcohol into the school and I told on her and our ex-pelt, but then the next day a bunch of people were telling me, no, that's wrong. Why would you do that? You bully me. Even though I was doing the right thing and what she was doing was clearly a week. Yeah. Yeah, so I agree with you, you were doing the right thing. So don't worry about what people say to you after that because you did the right thing. Obviously, whatever you can do, you can feed a million homeless people and there's always gonna be someone that's gonna say, well, I don't think you did the right thing. There's always going to be critics and that's what we have to understand. You can do your best and try to please everyone which will never please everyone. So the most important thing for us is to have a good intention and try to please God. That's it. And if we try to please God, we might please a few people, we might not, but that's not our concern, right? So if you see something wrong, you did the right thing. So don't worry about how people criticize you because that is absolutely illegal and you might have saved someone's life. People, young children drinking alcohol. There's alcohol poisoning. They might do something stupid and fall or get behind the wheel of a car and get into a car accident. So definitely you did the right thing. So don't worry about people that criticize after that point. Yes, sir? There are multiple times in schools where people call me a school shooter and whenever I say something, that was not against the left. Like something for liberals they always keep on booing me in schools. What was it in that room? So they expect you to speak out against the left? Okay. Well, the whole issue of the school shooter, you can remind them of history. Do you know about the Columbine shooting? Yeah. Yeah, just remind them. So you know, the Columbine shooters is probably the most famous school shooting other than the Sandy Hook massacre. Neither one of those, there were three shooters total. They were not Muslim, you know? So ask them like, what do you mean that I'm a school shooter? Because you know, and you have to learn these names, Adam Lanza, Dylan Kleepolt, Eric Harris. Those are the names of the shooters. I memorized them. You should memorize them. So when he name dropped like that, they say, oh, this guy, he knows this stuff. He's serious. I better shut my mouth because he's coming to me with facts, right? And I'm just insulting him. So oftentimes kids will back off if they hear that. And if they don't back off, just keep repeating the same line. So have you heard of Adam Lanza, Dylan Kleepolt, Eric Harris? Say no. Have you heard of, what was the Oak Creek, Wisconsin shooter? Now I'm blanking on his name. You should learn these names. I'm forgetting some of the names right now. And so you know, none of these shooters were Muslim, you know, Wade Michael Page. Wade Michael Page was a Christian. He was in the Aryan Nation, which is a terrorist organization. It's a Christian terrorist organization in America. But according to the FBI, it's called the Aryan Nation. He went into a Golan Dwarak temple, a Sikh temple, thinking they were Muslims. And he opened fire. He killed six people, right? And it's interesting, people justified what he did. And so he thought they were Muslim. That doesn't justify murder. So you should know these names. Wade Michael Page, Wade Page, two syllables. Just let people hear these names, you know? And these are not Muslims. You have more, there's more of a chance for you to be killed by slipping in the bathtub than being killed by a Muslim terrorist in America. This is absolutely true. There's more of a chance of you slipping in the bathtub, hitting your head and dying, than being shot by a Muslim in America. This is absolutely true. There's more chance of you being killed by the police than being killed by an American Muslim terrorist. And that's not a slide against the police. You know, that's just a fact. Your own clothes can kill you more often. They're what? Your own clothes kill you more often. Your own clothes, yeah. There's more chance of you, there's more chance of being shot by a toddler. Children, they find their parents' guns every so often and they shoot and they kill, like, kill their siblings or kill their mother. There's more of a chance of that happening than you being killed by a Muslim in America. These are just the facts. So people, you have to put things in perspective for people, right? So you have to think, you have to be intellectual. Don't be swayed by emotion. Oftentimes, you know, people who pick on you, they want to get an emotional response out of you. So they say, you're a terrorist because your name's Muhammad. And then you say, shut up! They say, see, see, you're crazy, you're crazy. So engage with them intellectually, there's no answer from them, I guarantee you. There's no answer. And if there is an answer, they'll notice that, oh, he's willing to engage intellectually. So he'll take the discourse at a higher level. Yes. What is the reason why people think Muslims are bad? Well, that's the perception that the media is projecting. So America invaded Muslim countries in the past under false pretense, right? So in 2003, Iraq was invaded because we were told that they had weapons of mass destruction. So sort of a preemptive strike, but it turns out there were no weapons. But the war continues. So the war isn't really for weapons of mass destruction. There's other things happening there. So this is something that a lot of Americans find very disturbing. Like why are we invading these countries? So in order to justify these illegal wars, these unjust wars, a lot of propaganda is pumped through the media to brainwash people into thinking, well, these Muslims are bad people. Muslims are bad. They say, well, no, it's radical Islam. Radical Muslims are bad, and they are bad. But a lot of times people don't, they can't differentiate, especially children, radical Islam and just regular Muslims. I mean, I get questions from college students. College students, is there a difference between ISIS and the rest of the Muslims? Oh, of course. How, why would you think there isn't, right? But they can't differentiate. So what's coming from the media, what's coming from like news channels and things like that, what they're reporting, a lot of it is sort of a grand dice. It's made bigger than it is. For example, this instance here where a child literally believes that a Muslim is very likely to come into a school and start shooting people. It's so unbelievably unlikely, we shouldn't even have to worry about it even that much. But that's what his perception is, because he's listening to the news. Because the news, again, is trying to justify American foreign policy. And it's okay for us to criticize. Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson said, he said, dissent is the greatest form of patriotism. Dissent means disagreement. And he's talking about with the government, right? Dissent is the greatest form of patriotism. So we're allowed to criticize. That doesn't make you un-American. In fact, if you really love something, if you really love someone and they're hurting themselves, you're not gonna just go ahead and let them hurt themselves. You're gonna try to give that person advice because you love them. You want to fix them, you want to correct them. Maybe they take advice, maybe they don't. The point is we have to engage in academic civil way, not by name calling, right? Not by losing our tempers, not by any type of violence whatsoever. So the prophet in Mecca is very important. So our situation is kind of like the Muslims in Mecca, right? We're a minority in a non-Muslim land. But this is our country as well. So don't forget that. We are as American as anybody else. America is a land of immigrants. Everyone came from somewhere unless you're a Native American, right? But the prophet in Mecca, his stance was what's known as assertive non-violence. So you should remember these terms, assertive non-violence. This is a term that Martin Luther King used to use. Assertive non-violence is different than passive non-violence. Passive non-violence means I'm a doormat and you can step all over me and spit on me and I'm just gonna go cower in the corner and cry. So that's not a good state. The prophet said a Muslim is never humiliated but is always humble. So the difference between being humiliated and being humble, right? So assertive non-violence is you don't, you're not violent at all. No violence whatsoever. But you are a principled person. You have principles, right? You believe in God. You believe in the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. You're not afraid of praying. You don't care if people criticize you because you have principles. You don't hurt people's feelings, right? But you take a stance because you're a principled person. A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything. That's what Malcolm X said. So you're not violent but you have principles and you want to share those principles with people because we want to engage with people intellectually, right? So that's what we have to do. A lot of non-Muslims, they're getting their information about Islam from these mainstream media outlets. So they're being told, what is jihad? Oh, jihad is war against infidels. Holy war against infidels. No, that's not what it is. We have our own definitions, you know? So when people define our terms, then they will control discourse. When they control discourse, they'll tell our narrative. And if they tell our narrative, then they're the ones that are educating people or mis-educating. So we have to define our own terms. We have to take our discourse where we want it to go, right? So that's very important as well. A lot of people last night, they told me, I talked to several non-Muslims last night and they said, you know, we weren't even sure you spoke English. I mean, that's just a perception. I don't really blame them. Or they said, we expected you to go up there and be like, okay, hello, today, yeah, so we're good today. They had this big accent. So you can speak English so well. So yeah, it was raised in America. Oh, really? Okay. A lot of people thought I was just gonna go up there and just badmouth America. So they were very defensive. I can see their faces, right? And then I say something and go, oh, okay. And then they go, oh, all right. And then they go, oh, am I coming? Yes. What's your score for this great European playing volleyball? There's this really jerky kid named Jack Humphrey. I hated his guts that much. Jack Humphrey, yeah, yeah. Well, really, when we were in the middle of volleyball, he literally called me a terrorist, which dropped me so much, I told the teacher, Hanan, they didn't do anything about it. They tell somebody else, if your teacher doesn't do something about it, tell another teacher. And if they don't do something about it, tell someone else. And then go to the vice principal and then go to the principal. All they did was just tell him, don't do it again. But he just kicked on badmouth. Then you have to keep telling on him. Keep telling on him till something's done. And you can actually go home to your parents. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents. So he just made a parody of his name, which is very effective, he stopped calling me names. Yeah. Jokey, I'm not even gonna say it. Yeah, no, you don't have to say it. I think I know what it is. But yeah, I wouldn't actually recommend doing that because it's a breach of our ethics. So don't insult people, even if they insult you, but stand up for yourself. Tell your parents, this person is calling me a terrorist and school administrators are doing nothing about it. And then your parents can go and demand to have a meeting with the parents of that child. And he'll be there too. And you can demand from him. I want you to apologize to me right now in front of his parents. And oftentimes that bully will go. Ah, I'm sorry. And that's the end of it. Yes. Something that happens to me is that a kid he sometimes places me around the walker area. And there's another kid, he, it was maybe, I don't know, maybe a year ago when he started cursing and saying that you were doing stuff. To you? Well, no, we just said it like right on the edge. Yeah. Well, if you're being pushed again, if anyone's putting their hands on you, you have to tell a school administrator. Yeah, I did, but then the teacher was like, okay, next time it happens, call me again. And the other kid, he was like, you need Hitler. The different what? Hitler. Hit her? Hitler. Oh, he called you Hitler? You Hitler? Oh yeah, he'll kill you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, so a good response to that is, oh, I'm not a Catholic, you know, because Hitler was a Catholic. But, you know, if you just hear things, you know, we have to also learn how to just kind of tune things out as well, you know. Some days he like, like the same kid he called, the same person he called me had learned. And he like, sometimes persons like, like he once asked, once said the F-word out loud in class, but he didn't, but like, he said it was free and he called me on, he was going on the R and called me an idiot, and the same kid he called my friend in the F-word in a word. Yeah, something like that, you have to tell your parents, you know, tell the school administrator and then immediately go home and tell your parents because if a child gets his hands on you, he can be kicked out of school, he should be kicked out of school, you know. So we have to make an example out of students sometimes. Someone who does that, we have to make an example out of him. So if he's kicked out, other students will see, oh, you got kicked out of school for abusing another child. They'll think twice about doing that as well. So we can't let physical violence go. Don't let that go, you know. I'm not saying hit back ever, but unless you have to, unless, you know, people are holding you down, they're punching you and you have to defend yourself. But if it was a kick and a punch just kind of to annoy you or bully you, you have to tell an administrator and go home and tell your parents and your parents have to demand a meeting with the principal and the parents of that child, right? And demand if that doesn't happen that the child be kicked out of school because that cannot happen. That cannot happen, it's against the law. They should have to leave the school. But if you hear like people, you know, cussing and things like that, you're gonna hear a lot of this, especially in high school. Just don't even, just ignore it completely. There's a term called ta-ghaf-ul in Arabic. The prophet says to them, he would practice ta-ghaf-ul. Like, you know, just random noise happening. He would just pretend, you know, whatever. Just do what you're doing. Don't necessarily dwell on what everyone is saying. Hold on, I gotta go to the sisters. Yes, ma'am. In the motherhood of that child in high school. Yeah. You know, and a lot of this was happening at lunch. And the question I have for you, or it's just an observation that there's a fine line between kids shifting kids and kids picking up other kids because of their race or religion. So for me, when my kids talk to me, I try to keep the racism and the disloyalty out of it. And I talk to them as, this is general voice, me voice, and we need to address it at that level. Yeah, that's also true, yeah. So I think we need to have that consciousness because I think a lot of people in general from our background, according to anything that happens to them, they attribute it to racism. That's true as well. So just to comment on that. Yes. This child and his friend just the other day they were there on Friday night. They were at a school party. I was there, my friend was there. And kids would be very happy that we'd be using that language. We would be rude to the parents and everything. No, no teachers, they were just parents. And again, in the car with me, and I'm asking them, you know, how was your party and whatever, and they're telling me about the students and all of the friends, they just said, I think they were racist. And to me, everyone is in general for our community and our people from our background, we just tend to attribute everything that comes to us to racism. It's a cop out, yeah. No, I agree with you. And I think we need to educate our children and the way we talk to them, let's address the issue and keep the racism out. Exactly. Unless something is explicitly racist. Exactly. Somebody explicitly saying something about your religion or your background. Good. But other things that happen is just kids being taken. Yeah, and oftentimes boys are penalized for being boys. You're absolutely right. Boys are rambunctious and they tend to bond by sort of slapping each other around. That's true. So that's a very good point. And I know this is true because my kids go to an all Muslim school. And this happens amongst the boys. So obviously that's not racism. Because everyone's Muslim and many of them are from the same ethnic background. So it is, so get down to the specific incident. Why is it happening? If someone's calling you a terrorist and then hitting you, well, that's something very different than just sort of, boys sort of slapping each other around because they're boys. I totally agree with you. And a very good point. Thank you very much. And that we have to be not so quick in drawing the race card all the time. That's a very good point. Yeah. Yes, sister. Yes. You seem to be nice at work. And have other dogs talk? Just pick something more. I don't know what to do. You have a friend who picks on your other friend? Are they Muslims or no? Like, remember when I had a friend? She was just saying the opposite thing. She was just saying, what's that? And literally, she wanted to be able to do it together. Yeah, just remind people to be kind. Just say, that's not very nice. Give people advice. Sometimes, again, children, most people here are children. Oftentimes, they all lack discipline sometimes. There's an impulse control problem. So sometimes a child will do something, but they don't really mean harm by it. It's just something that occurred to them as to whether they're going to do it. I have a daughter like that who will just see something and go for it. Say, what are you doing? Oh, I didn't mean anything. So just remind them. And if it's getting worse, you'd have to just keep reminding them and sit down and maybe just have a more serious conversation with them. Like, this is hurting this person. So you'll be surprised how far a good conversation will go. Communication is very important. People don't communicate anymore, for some reason. Maybe it's because we live in an age, and it's not obviously to do with you, but this generation in general, the older generation, they don't tend to communicate face to face because the technology is sort of limiting our face-to-face experiences. So people are very bold on the computer. They like to text. They don't even eat dinner together anymore. I mean, there are parents who don't see their children the whole day, not even for dinner. When I was a kid, we were outside playing until much of the time, basically. But when we came home for dinner, we all had to sit at the table. You turn off the TV. My parents would ask me questions about my day, and I couldn't be like, if they're like, how's school? How was it? Great. What did you do? Nothing. That wouldn't fly for me. My dad would be like, no, what do you mean nothing? What did you do? And then he'd sort of get into a conversation. So sitting down and just having conversations with people. Yes? No, they don't hate group. That's a stereotype. So that's not true. It's like saying, why do Muslims hate? Why are Muslims terrorists? Why do Muslims hate America so much? It's just not true. My experience is the vast majority of Christians are beautiful, loving people. The vast majority are 99.9%. I've met a lot of Christians, you can imagine. I've been to hundreds of churches. I did my master's degree in the Bible, biblical studies. I've met Christian professors and academics. I'd say maybe in my entire life, I've come across one, two, or three hostile Christians. One, two, or three of them that were hostile. That's about it. The vast, vast majority. So the question itself to me is problematic. If your question is, why do some Christians hate Muslims? And that's true. There are some that hate Muslims. And I think it's because, again, they've been, for lack of a better term, they've been brainwashed into thinking that Islam and Christianity are incompatible. So there's a lot of churches in California that have a section on Islam in Sunday school. So the children there have to learn about Islam. And most of the time, the person who's teaching them is doing a good job. They do their research, sometimes they bring in a Muslim speaker or it's sort of a junior pastor who speaks with Muslims and gets sources from Muslims and they teach them the best they can. Once in a while, you have someone who does a terrible job and gives them false information. And these are children, so they don't know, I mean, what are they gonna say? There's an older person telling me these things. Why should I not believe them? Maybe it is true. So a lot of the children, unfortunately, they're being sort of brainwashed by adults who don't have sound knowledge. Ah, yes. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I had that experience too. I had teachers that were totally racist. Like my sixth grade teacher was so racist. She was actually one time, she actually pulled me by the ear and I had a teacher one time in second grade. I was, when I was in second grade, we used to sit at these big tables, right? And so there's other students there. And there was a German student next to me. And this German guy next to me, he drew this funny picture and he said, look, this is a bunch of Hebrews. He used the word Hebrews. And I just thought the word was, it sounded funny, Hebrew. So I drew the same picture and I said, these are Hebrews. But the teacher looked at our pictures and said, you have to stay after class to me. Right? And I go, okay, why? I didn't know what a Hebrew was. I just thought the word sounded funny. Like, what's a funny sounding word? You know, something else. Buen Vosel, Chucky Barra. Bamboozle, like someone said bamboozle, not going around, bamboozle, bamboozle. So Hebrew, Hebrew. Anyway, so the teacher said, she took me after class and she said, I know you're Iranian and your parents are telling you to hate Jews. But don't bring it into my class. And I started crying. I was six years old. Because I was just so afraid because the tone of the teacher was scary. I had no idea what she was talking about. And then I went home and I had this McMillan dictionary for children. I looked up the word Jew and it said, descendant of Judah. And I said, who's Judah? Forget it. I didn't even know what she was talking about. So there are racist teachers. That's absolutely true. So if you feel like your teacher is being racist, you know, you should talk to your parents. Have a very open line of communication with your parents. Don't be afraid of your parents. Your parents only want good for you. I promise you that. Your parents are never trying to hurt you. If you don't know, my mom's trying to hurt me because she won't let me have four cookies. Well, if you have a lot of cookies, you're gonna have a lot of sugar and you're gonna gain a lot of weight. You're gonna be all crazy. So that's good for you. Maybe we don't see how that's good for us, but it is good for us. Our parents only want good. So sometimes we have to just trust our parents, right? Because they're our parents. So let your parents know if something like that happens. If you feel like a teacher is sliding you or is not paying attention to you and you feel like there might be racism there. You know, your parents will talk to the teacher and get down to the bottom of it. Sometimes maybe, hopefully it's nothing. It's just, you know, the teacher was like, oh, I'm sorry. I just, I was busy or I was depressed or something. I was thinking about my laundry or something like that. Whatever it was. Yes? So you know what you can do? You can tell them about your religion. Just tell them. You don't have to have this big like speech and class or something, but just informally, you can just tell them, you know, why I believe this. This is what it is. It's very similar. You can say, you know, I believe in Jesus. I love Jesus. I have actually a T-shirt that says, like all Muslims, I love Jesus. And I wear this shirt in public sometimes. And you'll be amazed the response I get from people. There are people who do like a triple take. You know what a triple take is? It's like, I guess he goes, yes. Like triple, whoa, and then people come up to me. Is this a joke? That's what they say sometimes. Are you mocking Jesus? What do you mean? You're a Muslim. Obviously this is a joke. No, I love Jesus. What do you mean? Well, he's a prophet in Islam. Oh, he is? Wow, that's so cool, man. So talk to people about and maybe even bring them to the must chit. Show them the must chit. If there's an event at the must chit, you know, where there's a younger speaker who's dynamic and bring them, don't be afraid to invite people. Yes, sir, he's had his hand up for a long time and he's, what's your name? Which, huh? Tariq, go ahead, Tariq. There was a teacher in my school. It's not my teacher, but there was a teacher who, I don't know what grade, but she used to hit kids with that, right? That's abuse. And you're in the public school? She's like, yeah, in the public school. Really? Yeah. She's not there anymore? Yeah, not. That's probably why she's not here. Thank you. That's probably why. Yeah, that's not a good idea to do that. Yeah, yeah, so she's gone, so it's good that they got rid of her. Mashallah, yes. Yes, sir? So what do we do if racism grows now that we have, you know, a racist president? Oh, God, that's so true. Well, whether he's racist or not is open to debate. I would be very reluctant to label someone a racist, you know, unless there's something just very explicitly coming, very something very explicitly racist about what a person is saying. So one can make the argument, however, that, you know, a Muslim ban from these countries is a demonstration of racism. So one can make the case. I personally wouldn't label him a racist, but I think he makes statements that are unproductive and irresponsible. You know, to say, I mean, he said this, Islam hates us. He said, I think Islam hates us. So you gotta think about this for a minute. Who's us? What is he talking about? What does he mean by us? America, right? So Islam hates America, but I'm an American. So does Islam hate me? I'm Muslim. Do I hate myself? Do I hate myself? No, so the statement makes no sense. It's very polarizing. I just don't think he knows any better. I don't think he's trying to be explicitly racist. I just think he's not very bright. He's not very polished, right? That's why a lot of people actually voted for him is because he doesn't sound like a politician. You know, Obama's like, hey, he's very, he'll suave and all the good, because he's a politician. Clinton is a politician. They know what to say and what they say sometimes does not match their actions, right? But what people find refreshing about Trump is he says what he thinks. And oftentimes, he doesn't really think things through, but I wouldn't necessarily say it's explicitly racist. But we should look at this as an opportunity to engage with people and educate them. It's something, there's something good that can come out of this. I don't know if there's organizations here. Running California is an organization called ING, Islamic Networks Group, and then they'll fly out here where they actually give presentations in public schools about Islam. And I tell you, when they go to these schools, there's an entire paradigm shift. I mean, everyone just sort of wakes up to the reality of what this religion is. They talk to the entire school. And maybe something like that needs to happen that'll allow these schools to actually hear from established Muslim organizations. And even the teachers and administrators, they attend these events and it's eye-opening for them. So I think it's badly needed in these times because, yeah, I mean, the rhetoric is increasing, but I look at that as a teaching opportunity. Yes, ma'am. So I don't think it's a tie that means we should be stopped if we really know what's on it. So can you tell me what you thought about it? Yeah, is what I said earlier. So the Prophet, say, said, he was asked by a companion. He said, give me some advice. And he said, And he said, He said, speak the truth, even if it's bitter, right? Sometimes the truth for people is bitter. They don't want to hear it. It hits their nuts or something. And then he said, and don't be afraid of people. Don't be afraid of the reproaches of human beings. No, be Muslim, be principled. Remember I talked about that? Assertive non-violence. Don't be violent. But be a principled person. And that's how you can be a proud Muslim. Proud, not in the sense of kibir. We don't like kibir. Kibir is arrogant. Don't be arrogant, right? Be humble, have taladur. Be humble, but also be proud in the sense that, in the sense that you're not afraid of being Muslim. You're not ashamed of being Muslim. You don't eat pork. You're not ashamed to admit that. You don't drink wine. You don't go out of parting in haram ways. We have fun, but we have halal fun. We pray, we listen to our parents. People actually respect that. People don't respect someone who is sort of wishy-washy, to be honest with you. You'll learn as adults that people, even if they disagree, people respect people who are principled, even if they're principled in positions that disagree with them. When I got my, I was an accountant a long time ago, out of college, I was 21 years old, and became an accountant. And this company hired me, and they also hired a CFO. You know, CFO is a chief financial officer, someone who's way up there, basically the boss of my boss. So they took me and the new CFO out to lunch, and it was during Ramadan. So at this point, I could have gone, you know, maybe I'll just eat lunch because I don't want them to know I'm Muslim, then they're gonna start asking me questions, what if they start talking about terrorism and that? So anyway, they said, what will you have? And I said, oh, I'm fasting, right? And then I noticed that the CFO, because he was Jewish, he took out his crackers, right? Because it was Passover. So he can't eat, you know, he can't eat certain types of food. So there's a sort of partial fast that he was doing. So he said, oh, you're fasting. So we just started talking, me and the CFO. And it turned into an incredible friendship. And every so often the CFO would call me into his office and we just talk about like football or something. And the other accountants were so jealous of me. And then he just, you know, give me a raise, you know, pay raise every so often. So I had this incredible relationship with them because I took a stand and I said, look, I'm Muslim and I'm fasting. So don't forget, a law is in charge of everything. A law is in charge of everything, right? So a law tells us to do something, we do something. We don't say, well, you know, what if this person is going to make fun of me or something? A law is in charge of everything. So there's a Quranic verse that says, if you give victory to God, meaning follow what God tells you to do, he will give you victory, right? Intansurullah yad surukum yuthabbit akdamakum. And he will plant your feet firmly, meaning that he'll give you strong principles and give you courage, right? So don't be afraid, you know, if you're praying and say, oh, you pray, there was a high school student one time. He said, he was on the football team, Muslim, on the high school football team, the only Muslim on the high school football team. And he said, you know, at that high school, all the high school football players, they wear their jerseys on Friday and they all sit together for lunch. And he said there was a lunch line in front of him and there was a girl with hijab who was standing in the lunch line. He said, another football player went up behind her and started tugging the back of her hijab. And she kept going like this. And she was just like terrified look on her face. Like someone's gonna pull off my hijab just to kind of, you know, mess with her a little bit. So this brother, I said, what did you do? He said, I didn't do anything. I did nothing. I let it happen. Because I didn't want him to know I was also Muslim. And I said, you failed. You failed. So you should find her and apologize to her. And that's what he did. He went up to her a few days later and he said, you know, I saw what happened to you at lunch and I'm sorry I didn't intervene. I promise it'll never happen again. You know, so we have to protect each other. Be principled. Don't worry about what this guy's gonna think about you. When you're talking about man, she's a terrorist. Oh yeah, she's a terrorist. I'm Muslim too. Oh you are. Sorry Abdul, yes, ING, yeah. Of course, yeah. I think ing.org, the two Muslim sisters that run the organization are Mahal and Adi and Mina Jandali. So they do presentations all around the country. And I'll tell you, it's really incredible the response they get. I mean, it just turns people 180 degrees. It'll make a big difference. And they're not afraid to tackle issues. Like they'll engage the students and they'll talk about important issues that are on students' minds. So they don't sugarcoat anything. It's not boring. It's very engaging. It's very relevant. How do you recommend that? Huh? I think ing.org is a Spanish class. It's a great class. Maybe there's a chapter on this in their jobs. Like it was a basic Muslim guard that was bearing the job. And it's a lot of work to take it off because they didn't want to accept them for what they needed to do at school. And then they're all teaching college graduate. Since you've been doing the job all the time, I have to ask you that if you don't mind, you're strictly against your job. And you played it in the class and they're teaching so many different things that are not acceptable by the way. And they're not acceptable by the students' school or the government. Yeah. Well, we should make the assertive that the hijab is not cultural, it's religious. And you have religious freedom. That's number one. And if that doesn't fly, go to a different school. You know, it's difficult sometimes. You know, just go to a different school. If you feel that your dean is in danger in America, make hijab. And that's always an option. Seriously, it's an option. You know, but try the best you can. But that's how we should frame the argument. And it's not a lie, it is a religious symbol. It's not a cultural, so for some people it is cultural. Right? But the reason that you're doing it is for religious reason. So make that point. So you can demand, if I have to take off my hijab, then no Christian can wear a cross, no Jews can wear yarmulkes, it's a religious symbol. It's not my culture. ING, Islamic Networks Group. Islamic Networks Group. I have a lot of them, especially in teenagers, because sometimes my car or this car, you cannot hear because you're living this thing when you're hired. So the essential. Yeah, I said, do you wear them the shower? Or sometimes they come to my wife. A lot of people assume my wife doesn't speak English. So we're at a restaurant and the waiter will say, what would you like, sir? And I order and she'll go, okay, what does she want? So why don't you ask her, oh, okay. I say, believe me, she speaks English. I know firsthand. Yes. What do you do? Like, this one's happened to me. What do you do when someone is like bullying you? And then like, there's a lot of people that's like coming up to you and standing with you. Standing with him? Yeah. Just try to get out of that situation. Keep moving. Don't let yourself get cornered, because that's what a bully does. People like, unfortunately, especially children, but people in general, they like to see a conflict. People love fights. They wanna see a fight. That's why, you know, these, the hockey game. Yeah, that's the best part of the hockey game. Or you know, these, the UFC, when I was a kid, UFC was, you had to pay to watch UFC. Now it's everywhere. You can watch you on regular television because it's so popular. People love to see fights, right? So people start taking out their phones and recording you. So if you're like someone's bullying you, you get away from that situation and move away as far as you can. Don't let it sort of turn into a scene. Even if the person like pushing you, just run. Run away. And I think that you're a scary person. Then you, that's what I'm saying. If you're being bullied by this person, tell an administrator, run to the principal and tell them what's happening and then go home and tell your parents. So don't run away, but don't let it go. But first you have to tell your teacher. How about if the teacher doesn't let you go to them? You know, go ahead. Go tell your parents. So your parents should take it seriously. And this is a situation of you're being bullied outside. Obviously there's a situation of boys bonding and boys are rambunctious. But this is a different situation. This is when you're being pursued and there's a threat on your physical person. So tell the teacher and then tell your parents and let your parents do with the school. Yes? Let's say, like, you know the glass, like a patch or something like that. It looks like the glass pet is blowing you when you go to the teacher. Like you say, the pet, no, whatever. Like, the teacher's problem. The teacher's pet is doing what? It's like blowing you. What's the teacher? Yeah. When you have the teacher like a lot and then you tell the teacher, but then the teacher is like, no, this kid is really nice. You wouldn't do that sort of thing. You wouldn't apply or something. Yeah. I can see it's a teacher's pet. Yeah. Well, again, you can just tell your parents about that. Let your parents handle that situation. It might be nothing. It just might be a lot, oftentimes. What's that? Yeah, again, that's sort of, that could be just boy behavior, boys do things like that. Yeah, yeah, that's happening. Tell your parents. So your parents go contact a school and get down to the bottom of why he's doing that. Yeah, but just that, it's possible. Not necessarily. You know, if a teacher is dealing with a parent, they have to be very careful and they know they have to be very careful. But if they're dealing with you, they can sort of brush you off a little bit. But always have, again, it's very important. Listen up, children. Having a very open line of communication with your parents is extremely important, you know? So when you're eating dinner, eat dinner with your parents. Don't go upstairs and TV, nothing. You're dealing with your parents and your parents ask you, how was your day? Tell them what happened during school. Tell them these things. Let them know. It's only for your benefit. Your parents will never try to hurt you. It's only trying to benefit you, only trying to help you. Yes, you get what? Ah. Dua. Yes. So, it's called on Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Say, ya qawwi, ya qawwi. Learn these names of Allah. Ya qawwi means, oh strong one. Oh, ya qadir, oh omnipotent one. You know, the one who's all powerful. So we should always be speaking to God. When we feel weak and vulnerable, call on Allah's names of power and ask Allah, give me strength. And if there's like a disaster happening or something, call on Allah's names of gentle, ya laqif, oh gentle one, make this easy. So we should know these names of God. So be in a state of dua. Everyone has anxiety. It's a normal thing. Whenever I speak, I get anxiety. And people think, well, no, you seem like you're so comfortable. My heart starts racing. And I think, what if I forget what to say? What if they make fun of me? What if I trip? What if my zipper's down? You know, what if I start spitting all over the place? All these kind of thoughts go through your mind, right? So that's normal. But then you have to remember that you're Muslim. And, you know, dua is speaking with Allah. And dua is very powerful. You know, so take a moment and take a deep breath. Call on Allah and do what you think is right. You know, and as you get older, you'll notice that it becomes easier. You know, but that's normal. Everyone gets anxiety. You know, it's a, it's a good thing. It actually helps us focus more. What is the best answer when they ask Allah? Wasn't so. Oh, is it? What is the best answer when they ask Allah? What is the best answer when they ask Allah? What is the best answer when they ask Allah? What is the best answer when they ask Allah? Yeah, you can say that I dress modestly because I want to be a modest person, you know? So, deal with me intellectually. Don't worry about my physicality. What does it matter what I look like physically? You know, it's, it's, it's a principle of being an American. That we don't discriminate based on race and creed and physical appearance. So make it clear that this is how I choose to dress. So don't worry about me physically. Deal with my mind. Let's see if you can engage my mind, right? And modesty is a very beautiful thing. And I'll tell you this. This is my experience. I've taught undergraduate students in college and I've taught graduate students and I've been in PhD seminars. The, the younger students are, the more immodest they dress. The younger they are, the more in, is that the word, immodest, the less modestly they dress. But the older they are, the more educated they are, suddenly they get more covered. That's just what I noticed. Like, you know, being an undergraduate class with non-Muslim women and everyone's half naked. And then in a PhD seminar, they're almost all completely covered. And the men are like that too. What does that happen? It seems like there's a correlation in my mind between education and modesty. That's just what I've noticed, you know. So people will eventually get to that, inshallah, when they get older. But you can say, you know, I choose to dress modestly. This is my right. This is what my personal preference. You don't even have to bring religion into it. This is my personal preference, you know. And so deal with my mind. Don't deal with my body. How about if you're like, like small? Like, if you're like in third, second grade, and there's like this tall guy. Yeah. He's like fifth grade or something. How about if he starts bullying you and like goes unnecessary roughness on you? Unnecessary roughness? I don't know. Whatever it's called. Yeah, again, just let your teacher know. And then let your parents know. Tell your parents all about all these things. Keep telling your parents, remember, the takeaways from tonight, have dinner with your parents every night. And when your parents ask you about school, tell them everything. Everything happened to you. Okay. Stay off social networks until you're in college. I know it's a tough one. That's just my advice. You don't need that stuff in high school. There's too much to worry about. And it's not a big issue. You don't need it, you know. You can go online and get the news if you want. You can go to your friends' houses and things like that. You can text people if you want. And then have an open line of communication with your parents and you have to know your parents only want to help you. They're not trying to harm you. Even if they disagree with you, their intention is never to harm you. Okay. So that's very, very important. So learn that lesson now. Because oftentimes they're young people, they're children who clash with their parents and they say, my dad just doesn't understand me and he's wrong and he's trying to do this and that. And then later on in life, when he's 30 years old, he'll look back and say, God bless my father. He only tried to, now I understand. And now my dad's, they said, my dad already passed away but he tried to help me and I didn't realize it back then. Right? So when you get older, you start to realize that your parents have wisdom. There's a difference between knowledge and wisdom. Even if you study and you're a genius and you're 15 years old, that knowledge is nowhere near the wisdom of your parents. Wisdom comes with age. You can't get wisdom through study, only through age. So wisdom trumps knowledge. So listen to the parents. This is very important. How many times in the Quran and hadith does the Prophet say, Salaam and Allah SWT, how many times they say, be kind to your parents, listen to your parents, obey your parents, there's a reason for that. Because your parents are really the only ones that really care about you. Nobody else really cares about you. Your parents are the only ones that really care about you. Yes. Some of the teenagers, as I said, when you talk about the 15 years and knowledge and you look to continue to celebrate some more teenage problems because they have a lot of questions with their child loss. Like for example, the friend doesn't have a relationship with teenagers, here's the third. And she wanted to be like, she wanted to celebrate more problems on how teenage replaces these days according to Islam. So they were really shy. Yeah, if there's, I would always recommend for high school students to have a Muslim club. You can go to the administrators of the school and they'll allow you to do that. I mean, they're Jewish clubs, there's Christian clubs. There should be a Muslim club. There should be a place where high school students that are Muslim can meet for Juma prayer or for a club meeting where there's interaction between them. There's social interaction. So there's that sense of comfort, leaning on each other, strengthening each other. I think that has to be there in high school. There also has to be intellectual engagement with non-Muslims in high school. It has to start in high school. It has to start earlier, but officially sort of in high school. So that you're actually putting on events in high school and inviting non-Muslims and engaging them. When atheists come, you should learn the arguments, the counter-arguments of atheism. Christians will come, how to engage with Christians, with Adab, whoever, the young Republicans on campus come, how to engage with them. You'll be surprised how much we have in common with them, highlight those commonalities. So high school, you should have a club, a Muslim club. There should be at least one time weekly meeting. And there should be intellectual engagement, official intellectual engagement, with non-Muslims on campus. Sometimes in the park, we see people, like you, discuss with your parents about you. And if you don't discuss with your parents, they'll get a lot more. That's, yeah, the parents have to be, we have to be very careful. Yeah, that's just that, like if I'm telling them, I did this thing, and I said sometimes, it's wrong, but the parents can understand me, and they can like relate to me. So what should I do about, how to communicate with my parents about, I'm trying my best, but sometimes Westerns doesn't come up with teachings, like how to help with their parents. They are moved, especially U.S. TV viewers, like here is, they are like, yeah, whatever. So that's the question, how she can be more handled and communicated. Be able to communicate to them. You know, oftentimes, like I said earlier, youth at high school or junior high level, they should have some sort of mentor in their life as well. You know, there should be someone in the community who's closer to their age, or they can, someone that they can confide in, if they feel uncomfortable speaking to their parents, or they're impatient when speaking to their parents. So this community should have someone like that. But I would, again, just advise people to strive against those inclinations and do the best you can. Kind of like parents and their son, and their son will come out of there, so they'll say, I'll stop praying, and I'll be lying about keeping and so forth. So there's a comment about, or a request for advice regarding someone, a son, an adult son who has stopped praying, and he is lying about keeping his prayers. You know, he's an adult, so you know, you have to obviously keep advising him, you know, and deal with the sikhah. So, and it's unfortunate that that happened. You know, so it doesn't seem like he maybe had a strong foundation. But you know, it's not, at this point, it's no longer useful to play the blame game, and you know, it was because the parents, they didn't, you know, they, oftentimes what happens though, to be honest with you, is that young people, they want to actually start praying and going to the masjid, and then the parents, they say, no, you have to finish school first. Get your degree before you can pray. What? Before you can pray five times a day, you have to have your bachelor's degree. She doesn't make any sense, because the parents are like, you know, I don't want it to become an extremist, and that's a good intention. We shouldn't want our children to become extremists, right, obviously. But, you know, praying five times a day is not extreme. So let your children, if they have an inclination to pray, that's a beautiful thing. We have to trust Allah and His messenger, and you know, the prophet says to them, he said, children at 10 years old, they should be, you know, they should be expected to start praying at that age, so that when they're, you know, 15, 16, then it's just part of their daily practice, you know. So I would give him just gentle reminders, that this is a good thing, and then often times also what happens is, you have parents giving advice to their children, but parents don't take that advice, you know. So like, you know, you should pray, son, and that child is thinking, you don't pray. I should pray, you don't pray, or you know, the father's smoking a cigarette, never smoke, this is terrible, you know. So that doesn't mean that the advice is not good, it is good advice. Again, parents, they give good advice, right? And their intentions are always good, right? The urlama say, the intention of a believer is always better than his action. He intends good things, but the actions sometimes fall short. And they say that the action of the hypocrite is always better than his intention. So hypocrite is doing great things outwardly, but the intention is wrong. So believers are going to fall short in their actions, in other words. But we have to be very careful as parents that we practice what we're preaching, right? So, and if you want to, you know, request or recommend to the adults on certain scholars that they can listen to, then maybe you think they'll find sort of beneficial or, what's the word? Someone that they can relate to, someone who's relevant, you know, you see a speech or a lecture on the internet, forward it to them, you know. Someone, she's going like this. Uh-huh, go ahead. What was the question? How do you stay away from people? Don't hang around them. Just don't hang around them. Everyone has bad influences. It might be your cousin, right? So maybe you're like, well, I have to see them once a week, they come over to my house. Okay, see them, be kind, you know, engage with them, have a hamburger, and then that's it, you know. So I have a lot of relatives that are extremely anti-Muslim. And, you know, my engagement with them is minimal, but it's courteous. You don't have to make them your best friend. Just don't hang around them. Mm-hmm. Yeah, again, I mean, I think I covered that earlier. Try to ignore it as much as possible, and if it can persist and analyze what they're saying and respond to them intellectually, make them think about what they're saying, have them justify what they're saying, and that's it. I think we have to stop now because it's almost the right time. So thank you for your questions, and we'll see you soon, insha'Allah. Jazak'Allah Khair. As-salamu alaykum.