 9 signs you're still suffering from unhealed trauma 1. You resist positive change. You have a hard time accepting positive change and may even try to resist it at first. You feel like you don't deserve to be happy. 2. You need to plan for everything. Your need for control is most likely rooted in a traumatic experience that left you feeling helpless and vulnerable. 3. You have a strong fear of failure. It might be instilled in you by unresolved trauma that causes you to have a negative belief in yourself and internalize your shortcomings. 4. You have a strong fear of success. You're afraid of losing what you'll have even before you achieve it. 5. You have difficulty concentrating. If you've been having gaps in your memory, lacking out often, and finding it hard to keep your train of thought, it might be your mind crying out to you for help, asking you to work through your trauma.