 Just waking up, but I decided to do a video now with this Beautiful view here. It's very early here. It's about 7 a.m. I'm actually On the top floor of The tallest building in the city is the highest point by far in the entire city You can see everything top floor on the highest building in the city 7 a.m. I've never actually done a live video in the morning. So this might Show another side of me A different perspective or something, but yeah, that's what it's like mornings for me. I Usually wake up maybe in some High rise apartment with a nice view and Then I start my day then I just have a shower and I Take care of my cat Nala Prepare her food and then I get ready to start work. I make the videos Read all of your comments every morning This is what I do, but yeah, check out that view This is The best view and it's so peaceful at this time of day There's not many cars on the road as you can see Everything's closed People are still sleeping, but yeah, I'm sure if you have been discarded by a narcissist And you're watching this right now and I'm sure it's probably late at night where you are and You're probably finding it hard to sleep Well, I was gonna fall through that It's strange noise. I don't want to fall down 40 floors. But yeah If you've been discarded by the narcissist it's You may have difficulty sleeping and It can be hard. I know you you may have a lot of anxiety You may get that Sinking feeling in your chest It can be really hard for victims You feel like you've lost a part of yourself Because in many ways you have I don't want to go too much into detail on it, but When they first targeted you they mirrored you They reflected things back to you about yourself and That's actually what attracted you to them It's when they mirrored your likes and interests and your characteristics That's what drew you to them in the first place and Yeah, it's like they were so familiar you fell in love with yourself And that's why at the end you become a shell of who you used to be And you feel that you have lost a part of yourself because you have So it's like you're dying. It's really how it feels You feel like you're dying But if you've been through this more than once Two three times You do build up some resilience If you've done the work, you will be a lot stronger the second or third time around but Hopefully if you've watched my videos and ever comes to that But yeah, it's always that first time that it happens It can be very painful it can and You know what you really got to do In that situation when you're laying in your bed at night alone and They're not responding to you they're not answering your calls With they are they're just telling you Forget about them leave them alone after everything You thought you had And then they just go and leave you like that, you know when that happens You need to remind yourself that this is not love love does not hurt Love is not pain Love is not games love is happiness and joy it's Acceptance and understanding The exact opposite of what you're dealing with a person who loves you would never treat you that way they would protect Your feelings They would care about how you feel And they wouldn't do certain things that might hurt you well, that's what they do everything they do It's a manipulation It's a game Decide to hurt you because they really only care about themselves They don't care about anyone else and that's really what you need to understand with These narcissists you need to pay attention to the feelings that you have when you're Discarded because that's That's really gonna help you to grow when you pay attention to those feelings and Yeah, you realize this person Did not have my best interest in mind Because if they did why would they treat me that way? Why would they do those things to me? someone loves you They can review they're gonna do a lot of things that clearly show That they do love you and Yeah Not only that you have to think that Everything they did was just for their own benefit. I Mean narcissists They come in With nothing or very little They leave with everything They leave with everything that you have And you're left with nothing and most of the time they have conned you And to give it to them or they Go on and stolen from you. I really don't know which one's worse But yeah, that's typically what they do and How can someone like that care about you that that really just shows What their motive was all along if they had come in with The motive of giving to you Building you up and making your life better There's no way that you would have left With less than what you came in with that never would have happened that happened because their motive Was to come in and take What you have Without replenishing you so naturally at the end of it, of course You're gonna have a sunken feeling in your heart like you have lost something Of course your bank account is going to be drained Things are gonna go missing stolen of course These things are gonna happen because when they came into it It was never about building anything with you Building you up It was just about taking for themselves So inevitably you will be left with a loss. That's how it works for those of you who have just joined me. I Just woke up and decided to do this video. It's about 7 a.m. Here. I'm on the Top floor of the tallest building in the city. It's a nice Two bedroom apartment here. This is where I'm gonna sit now in about 30 minutes after I've had a shower Gonna start on the videos Read all of your comments And here's the view Let's open this up I'm gonna make sure you all have a good view here. I might sit down here too Maybe while I'm reading The comments I'll just be sitting here Hear the birds It's just a really great view. I love it Lylans down there. It's very dark here at night though Because it's so high up and it's almost like just outside of the City or it appears that way from this angle So yeah, it's very dark up here at night But then you can see the city's all lit up I'll have to do a video at night as well So you can see But then you can't see this Which is quite nice as well. It looks like it could be a Nature reserve or something. I could hear a lot of birds. I think they come from down here As many of you know, I love nature so This is perfect for me Stay here for a little while Before I move on to something else But yeah, you really need to understand these things in the beginning Beginning of the discard They didn't have your best interest in mind. I think many of us, you know, we're in paths We want to think that everyone is good That everyone wants to help us People want to Build us up make us happy because that's what we want to do for everyone. So we think Maybe they want to do the same for us we're very innocent in that sense We're naive we're over trusting because The truth is a lot of people you meet Will not have your best interest in mind They will not be thinking about Building you up making your life better No, they're just looking at you and what you've got and They want to take that away from you to just Make their own lives better and Then they just want to walk away And move on with their lives, maybe maybe find someone else and Yeah, it's sad, but that's What they're thinking of doing and many of them know it from the very first day they meet you They already know it's not gonna last It's just gonna leech off you For as long as they can and then when you start to catch on or you stop providing to them Then they'll just find another fresh Unsuspecting target and it doesn't matter How long you've been with them? It doesn't matter if it's one year two years Ten years It doesn't matter Doesn't make any difference They'll still just treat you like you're nothing They're not gonna think to help you. It was all about helping themselves To what you got and that's why many of you You may have been in a marriage you may have had children and When you look back, it's like you did everything to keep that together like And that's really that's your closure there All you have to do is just think back But imagine if you Were not a part of that situation What would have happened? What would they have done? That's when you know just how bad they needed you and many of you see that when you walk away When you discard them that's when you see I mean they they acted like you were nothing but Just remember the times when you walked away When you couldn't take it anymore Because I know many of you experienced that Remember how they reacted and that's how you know it's not always so easy for them Even it even though it may seem like they've moved on I mean, you know, they move on without any feelings They never felt anything For you it was all about the feelings that you were given to them. You stabilized them You gave them security you gave them love And they took that But they couldn't reciprocate it. But yeah, these are the things That they will miss and it may be the reason Why they Hoover you Why they decide to keep you around Sometimes they do desire your love and affection Validation security security and stability Predictability your tolerance of the abuse Your susceptibility to them at ablation Money a place to stay expensive gifts and trips These are the things that they will miss these are the things that they desire in a source and Many of you who are watching this But probably provide in every single one of those things as an empath gave it all You gave your life and Yeah, the odds are they're not gonna find that again There's no way you just have to think think about everything you gave to them everything you put up with There's no way that someone else could tolerate that maybe someone who is unaware Very naive They're not very smart and the narcissist may think oh, I don't need you anymore. I Found someone who hasn't figured out the game Someone who I can play with But what they don't think about is What happens when that person whizes up what are they gonna do then after they've planned out this Future maybe they've got married and have children They've bought a house together but then some of them they do think of that that the person is eventually going to wise up and leave and The narcissist doesn't really care Remember they were never emotionally invested in you They never loved you as long as they have a suitable replacement And many of you you've seen it. They downgrade a lot of times They move on to people who aren't as attractive as you are. They're not as successful But as long as they've got someone fresh and new In their minds that person is better than you Even if they're not as attractive as you Even if they don't have as much money That person is still better than you Because they're new They haven't learned them and that's why you just you cannot compete with New supply Not for the first couple of weeks or a couple of months at least after that then You're seen as more valuable then Especially once they've spent some time away from you because if you're not involved with them If you have nothing to do with them, then you're you're instantly seen as more valuable and more attractive Anything that's around them for too long they know it can't be good and They're right. I mean If you're around them for too long You've already just lowered yourself down To be able to exist around them And that's why when you do leave you notice that Your health and energy goes up You just start doing better overall in your life There's a reason for that You lowered yourself To be able to coexist with them And they brought you down and Yeah, that's why they lose Attraction and interest for you It's because they brought you down anyway, they brought you down to a Level where you were not as attractive or interesting Not like you used to be but then when you get from around them That's when you're able to reestablish Your value and attractiveness and then some of them will want you back Others will be So full of pride and arrogance that Even though they may want you back they're never gonna tell you but either way you shouldn't worry about it I mean even if the narcissist Came back into your life You already know what you're gonna get You're gonna get a bunch of lies and manipulation Abuse they're gonna call you names. They're gonna put you down They're gonna triangulate you compare you to other people They're gonna make you feel like what you're doing is never good enough They'll make you feel like you're always doing something wrong Spend all of your money waste all of your time and Sometimes they'll pretend like you have this relationship, but you're happy and you're in love And they want to be with you And then you find out they're messaging or calling other people behind your back That's what's in store for you So, you know what? You've been discarded by the narcissist Let's throw a party Let's celebrate Trust me That is a blessing in disguise after everything that you had to go through Everything you had to put up with Nothing good Comes out of being around a narcissist It's an illusion of something good. You're being sold a dream of fantasy But that's about it There's nothing outside of that and that's why many of you You wake up from the matrix You start to look around and think Why did I? Stay around this person for so long. It's like the Wizard of Oz You start to realize it's just some old man behind behind the curtain and Yeah You know you thought it was this big powerful God Was controlling everything Was very intimidating But no that was just a front for some frightened Little old man behind the curtain and yeah You know, that's how you've got to look at the relationship. It was meant to be all of this like something magical and You know all of these things But it was it was all fake and when they couldn't keep you under their spell They intimidated you Just like the man in the Wizard of Oz When they can't control you when you're not under their spell they go straight to the intimidation They devalue you Put you down all of these things It's because you've woken up You've seen through the curtain you've seen through the illusion you know what's going on and You're reflecting that back to them and they don't like it They don't want to see that reflection of themselves So they run away They're gone they're out of there, but think about that They're not even running from you They're running from themselves They're running from that reflection of themselves Because you now see who they are You've seen through the curtain You're no longer under their spell So it has nothing to do with you a long time ago Chose to discard themselves Before they discarded anyone else they discarded themselves and Since then they came across various people and every time It's like they were being hoovered by themselves by who they discarded a long time ago and When that happens they Discard themselves again and again every time that they find someone And that person gets to know who they really are You see under the mask You see through the curtain Because you're no longer under their spell whenever it gets to that point They have to run away They have to discard you but it's not really you that they're running away from or discarding You've seen through the mask You're given them a reflection of themselves Which causes them to feel shame That is the shame from their childhood As I've said in my videos, they are shame-based individuals Doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame So they're running from the shame that run from themselves and that's what they're Trying to discard and it's only when they think that Some time has passed and you don't really know who they are Maybe they switched into a different character And they're expecting you to validate that Then maybe they can come back and feel comfortable around you Because it has nothing to do with who they really are They've given a false character that they're not attached to and that is why they were never emotionally invested in you anyway because You have to connect to the real character for there to be any real emotional investment But they're just given a false character, which is detached from who they really are So yeah This is it they discarded themselves and that's really what you need to Tell yourself to move on from this They have discarded themselves They're running away from themselves It has nothing to do with you When did they ever sit down and take the time to get to know you and that's how you should know Had nothing to do with you. They discarded themselves start my day Have a shower really nice shower and bath in here great view from the bath Just lay here the city the top floor and the tallest Building in the city and it's the tallest by far. There's no building that even Comes close to the height of this one Two bedroom. Just keep all my stuff in here. Okay That's it for this video, but I've enjoyed doing this first thing in the morning Before I've even had a shower I've never done this before But it was interesting and I'm surprised I was able to Talk about so much and keep a video going for 40 minutes just after waking up normally I Thought I don't really think clearly in the morning, but I wanted to see if I can And I I think I have Done a good job on this topic really explains What's going on in the narcissist minds and How you should see it what you should do? So yeah, I hope it benefits you and There's always please leave your comments below. Thank you all for joining me and There may be another live video Later today in a few hours, so I hope to see you there