 Hi y'all, she was seven. Okay, so I had a video request from a lady and she asked me to give some tips and pointers on how to go out by yourself alone without looking, you know, nervous or desperate or something like that in order to put yourself in a situation and an environment to meet a nice guy. Well, I used to go out by myself all the time. In fact, I prefer to go out by myself. Why? Because I was in control of when we leave, who I talk to, who I associate with, you know, the place that I went, you know, there's no compromise there. And also because there's no distractions and I can actually look around, pay attention to what's really going on, the type of guys that were there. And then also it makes you more easily to approach because guys don't like to approach large crowd, a group of women and, you know, they will, but they prefer like to approach someone who's alone because it's more personal, okay? So what I would do when I went out alone, I would go, I wouldn't go to like a club or like a bar, I would go to like a lounge where they had like live music and a bar and food. So it would be like you're going out to dinner. And I would always order something to drink or like a little appetizer or whatever, a glass of wine, I wouldn't recommend ordering something like, because your drink says a lot about you. So choose a drink that you think reflects your, you know, personality or that will attract a certain type of man. Like, you know, if you're drinking like cheap beer or something, that's not, that's not cute. If you're drinking like wine or a certain type of wine or a mixed drink or something like that, that's fine, but don't drink anything that will probably either scare him away or show that you're, you know, only worth a beer or something like that, okay? Because if he, when he comes to buy your drink, if it's a cheap drink, you know, that's easy. He can sit there and buy your drinks all night and you'll be impressed by that. But if you get something kind of expensive and he knows that that's like the first clue to, you know, to say, you know, she has, you know, she has expensive tastes. She, this is the kind of drink she ordered. She doesn't get that cheap vodka. She gets the name brand vodka, da, da, da, da, da, da. Okay, so anyway, because a lot of times when a guy purchases you and he offers to buy you a drink, he'll just tell the bartender can get her another one of what she's having. And if you've got premium liquor up in there and you have Patron shots and Grand Monnier and all, you know, high-priced premium liquor, and then on his bill, it says your drink was $15, you know, he's gonna say, okay, well, I've invested $15 for one drink with this lady. I might as well get to know her, you know? So he's gonna sit there and talk to you for a while. Before they approach you and you don't wanna seem nervous and like desperate and like looking around like, oh my God, look at me, look at me, come over to talk to me. Be in your own world. Act as if you already have a man, okay? Because that's what guys approach. They approach the confidence, the fact that you're not desperate or thirsty or needy and that you're not there just to meet guys. If you act like you already have a man and you're not even worried about all these, you know, professional, wealthy guys around here and you're not even paying attention to them, that's gonna make you more attractive, okay? If you're, you know, a lot of people will get on their phone and that's the most annoying thing like a guy can see when he's interested in a girl because he doesn't know who you're texting. You could be texting your man, your ex, you know, somebody that he doesn't know. And you might be texting your boyfriend, your husband. So I suggest bringing something to write with or to occupy your attention when you start to feel, you know, awkward. I used to carry a notebook or like a little journal or like a little drawing pad that I would write my ideas down in. And don't bring a book to read because that's like, they will feel like they're disturbing you. But if you like just sitting back, you have a little notebook, it doesn't have to be a big one. It can be like a little purse size notebook and you're writing something down and you look up like you're getting ideas like you're thinking and then you look up and you're like, okay, that's gonna intrigue a lot of people because first of all, it's mysterious. You're gonna be like, what is she writing? Is she a poet? Is she an artist? What does she do for a living? You know, what kind of, why is she gathering ideas? Da, da, da, da, you know. So that's gonna intrigue them. And so they're probably gonna come over and like, hi, my name is such and such. How are you? Oh, what are you doing there? It's, you know, that's a conversation starter, you know. Don't use your phone unless, you know, unless you really, really have to and somebody calls you but keep your phone in your purse, okay? A person that's always on their phone is always distracted and they miss a lot of things, okay? So, and don't put your lipstick or makeup on or check your makeup unless you are in the restroom. Don't do that in public. It's really unclassy, okay? Don't do it. And don't play with your hair and stuff too much. I know I used to have a nervous habit of playing with my hair and someone told me one time, do you know that you touched your hair 57 times since you've been in here? I'm like, what? You sitting there watching me. Okay, that's creepy, but okay. So, note taken, don't, you know, a person that touches themselves too much and, you know, this, this, and that while they're out, you know, that's a sign of nervousness or, you know, insecurity. So, keep your hands busy with something, you know, writing, put your drink, keep your hand on your drink or something like that. But yeah, so be comfortable in the moment. Use that time to manifest. Use that time to, you know, write out a list of things that you want in your mind. And, you know, while you're sitting there vibrating in this manifestation of what you really want, you know, you could also be attracting it because you're sending out that vibe. And if you're writing down, I wanna attract this type of man. If that type of man is in there and you're vibrating that vibe, you know, that vibration, he's gonna stick out to you. You're gonna notice him and he's gonna notice you because now you are vibrating on the level and the frequency of this type of man. So, I suggest like the best time to manifest is when you're out. You know, they don't have to know what you're doing. You can just write it really small and your little books with the page when they come and like make some silly notes or something. But yeah, you're gonna be able to attract it faster in the environment while you're manifesting the perfect mate or the guy you want. And they're gonna pick up on that vibration as well because you're so close in the proximity. They're gonna feel it, okay? And a lot of women say, you know, the kind of guys that they really like don't approach them. Well, you have to understand, you have to get into their mind. What kind of women do the guys that you like like? How do they dress? How do they wear their hair? What does their makeup look like? If you have on a ton of makeup and the type of guy you like is very conservative and has lots of colleagues and has to introduce you to a lot of people that are elite and stuff like that, you can't have on fuchsia lipstick and pointy eyebrows that are just like in your face. You have to tone down your look. You gotta tone down your look or get a more professional look that, you know, if like say, a judge, an attorney, a doctor introduces you to their colleagues and you're looking like, you know, you just stepped off the street corner. It's not gonna work, okay? So you have to adjust the way you dress and the way you look for the type of man you want. They're not gonna come up to you if you're not fitting in their image of what their wife or a woman should look like that they're gonna be with. So, you know, lots of guys like women in softer colors. Harsh tones are like very masculine. So you should dress like in blues, like soft blues, pinks, creams, you know, I wouldn't, I'm red is okay, but, you know, that's like a signal for like six and oh, look at me. So subtle, you know, nudes, naturals, grays, pinks, blues, soft lavenders. This shows that you're feminine and they treat you feminine. They treat you like a lady if you are reflecting lady-like colors and qualities. They treat you how you dress. And that's crazy, it's true. Like if you're dressed super trendy and have like, you know, all this stuff going on, they're gonna treat you that way. They're gonna treat you like you're a follower, your focus is on, you know, trivial things. They're gonna treat you like that. They're not gonna think you're very smart. But if you dress classic, classy, even interesting, you don't have to be like conservative. You can just have like a different type of style that's not following trend. Or you can just like do, if you're gonna do the trend, don't overdo it. Just have like one piece here, one piece there and that's it, you know. But they treat you how you dress. And the more feminine colors you wear, the more they will treat you like a lady. They're not going to ask you to, you know, come out of your pocket if you have on like a pink, a really soft pink shirt, pink lipstick, your pink nails, not hot pink, but like soft pink. And you talk like, you know, really girly feminine and you smile and laugh. They're not gonna ask a woman like that to pay. The woman that they're gonna ask to pay is like, okay, so what do you do? And yeah, I gotta get back to work. I have, you know, the more you act like a man, the more they're gonna treat you like a man. So if you act really feminine and stupid not stupid, but like, you know, soft and how are you? Oh, that's so sweet. You know, they're gonna pay because now they feel like the man because you're the exact opposite of them. You know, now they feel like, oh, I got a man. I forgot this lady is so ladylike and feminine. And if I don't pay, she's gonna think I'm, you know, then they're gonna start feeling more manly. So when you can make a man feel more manly by acting extra feminine, then that's how you get stuff. That's how you get the attention. That's how you get things paid for. That's how you get stuff. Now, there's a lot of women who will brag about themselves, have big egos and be like, well, you know, those are the kind of women that are asked to pay. That's why in one of my videos, I call it playing dumb. When you play dumb and you don't tell everything, it's not really playing dumb. It's just don't tell everything, you know? Keep up mystery about yourself, you know? Don't tell them what you can do, how many degrees you have, what kind of job you have. You can take care of yourself, da-da-da. Don't tell them all that. They don't need to know that. Because most guys really don't ask unless that's what they're really interested in. Like, if you don't wanna tell somebody what you do for a living, this is how you deflect the question. So what do you do for a living? Oh, I do so many things. Oh my goodness, you would not believe all the things that I do. But I really am here to relax right now. And let's just say that I love what I do. Leave it at that. That does not intimidate them. Because if you have a better job than them, they're gonna be intimidated. And if you don't have a job, they're gonna be like, this is, you know, she's a gold digger. She just want my money. But they don't know what you do. And they don't have to know what you do. Leave that to mystery, you know? Just say, I don't really like talk too much about things when I'm out. But I just, I'll just tell you, I really enjoy what I do for a living, okay? They're not gonna know what that means. You know, that can be some crazy stuff left up to the imagination. And that is what keeps them interested. The wonder, okay? So then they're gonna say, well, I'm gonna find out what you do for a living. That's very intriguing. You're like, oh, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you later. I don't want a second to know you. I'll let you in on my passion. And just leave it like that. Now they're intrigued. Now they want to get to know you because there's something that you're withholding from them. And, you know, it's interesting. So you got their mental attention, you got their visual attention, and you got them feeling all masculine and manly. So now they're gonna want to get your number. You know, you don't have a bunch of cackling women in your ear telling you, ooh girl, no, ooh girl, yeah, ooh girl. I think he's trying to steal them behind your back. Go out alone. Bring your paper and pencil and pen and manifest and put off that vibrational frequency and attract that man and keep him intrigued and act feminine so that he can feel masculine. So that he can reclaim his masculine role as provider and protector for you. You know, it's all mental y'all. It's all mental. So I'm gonna leave it at that and please comment below what you think and if you go out alone and if you're gonna tip to go out alone, especially during the holiday season, very good time, okay? So I'll see y'all later, bye.