 Next question is from one corner. How do you deal with someone who is very harsh on themselves? My friend has an amazing physique, especially for a teenager yet He is constantly comparing himself to others lots of times They don't even look as good as him, but he is still jealous and not happy with himself Yeah, this is you know when you identify so strongly With your body your net this is where you're always gonna be you will never be out of fall Short constantly you will never be happy when you identify strongly with your body and it's look even if you you can be fit ripped Look perfect at some point if you're lucky you're gonna get older And you're gonna get old and your body's gonna change and if you identify so strongly with your body That's gonna be a very scary time for you know being like all these celebrities That's yeah with a plastic surgery after plastic surgery and hormones and they just because they identified so much with with how they look You know your body can definitely reflect your health So it's also important to pay attention to that But if you identify so strongly with your body that you just you're unhappy all the time There's there's no way out of that you're always gonna be unhappy and this is look it's funny You'll you'll how many times have you guys had a client or a friend where they're just so critical of their bodies Oh my god It looks so terrible and you're at the beach and maybe someone takes a picture and then 15 years later Old pictures surface and they're like wow Man look how fit I used to be and you look at them and you go. Do you remember what you used to say back then? Yeah used to think that you look terrible now. You're looking back and you're wishing you could look like that again It's all it's all your own perception So, you know, how can you help them? Well the first thing I would say is take his take his His focus off of the way he looks the most effective that's step one The most effective way I've ever found this with the client is to change it from looks to performance Yeah, not that that you want to stay on performance because you feel identified with that too much You can have problems too, but it's an easy. It's an easier switch. So I'd say, okay This person is you know, whether it's the girl who is never skinny enough or the guy who doesn't have enough muscle I would say, okay, we're gonna don't weigh yourself. Don't look in the mirror We're gonna see how strong we can get you and it would just shift their their perspective just long enough to where then we can Talk about this a little bit, but I have to move them to it's real It's real easy for a bunch of old guys like us to sit here and say this But I'd tell you something right now like man, you're a teenager. You're a ball of fucking insecurities You know and I was too like and I don't know I don't even know if you know old Adam could come back and talk to 17-year-old Adam and say, hey, bro Stop worrying about how skinny you are, you know, I don't know because you at that age We all do we all do at all ages But at that age in particular you are just loaded full of all these insecurities and you're trying to figure that out It's tough to try you to try and tell someone someone else You can't do it head-on because they won't believe you I didn't when I was a teenager if someone told me No, you look fine, man. I'd be like he's just saying that because I'm you're nice This guy already is way nicer than I would have been at his age. Yeah. Oh, you mean on a self Oh, yeah, if my friend was like all neurotic about that. I just would have probably made fun of them Wow, and then he would have made fun of me. It was like this back-and-forth thing So I don't know man. You're already you're already winning by caring about your friend You're right, right. This is what I'm saying. You can just exaggerate his insecurities even more, right? I was actually his friend. Yeah, but it's like I don't know man I that was a hard thing for me that I actually had to now I realized like I should probably be nicer To my friend. He's looking in the mirror. He's like, oh man. I don't look good. I'm skinny Bro, yeah, you're right. I look like shit and whatever and Justin goes. Hey, buddy puts his arm around Hey, man, yeah, you gotta look at the bright side. He's like, well, what's that? Yeah, you got good eyesight Your perception is accurate. Yeah, look at the bright side Shake them out of it. Yeah, that's a good point though. Justin. I mean you're already a good friend because you care, right? You're already a better friend because I would I would have a bunch so many insecurities myself that you would push I know what I would know what would have helped me as a teenager and there's no way you could have talked me out of it But I think if you did it kind of sneakily by changing my foot I swear to God if I had if I was training me as a teenager, I know exactly what I do I wouldn't be like, you're not skinny. You're not whatever never would have worked out of my like I listen, let's let's let's worry about something else Let's see how strong you can get just change the change the focus a little bit on performer just long enough to where the person's not Thinking so much about how they look they're thinking more about how they perform Then you might be able to start making some some headway But if you don't change that focus ain't nothing you could do Doug is is sneakily another chaperism I don't know. It might be real It feels like a real word. I feel like all the ones I say are real words, too We have a new Webster. Well, let's see if Doug just looked it up. Yeah, it's an adverb Electronical Listen, we're only what 1200 episodes. 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