 Hey guys, welcome back to my YouTube channel. This is Daniel Rosal here. Please excuse my my sniffles of a little I have a cold yet again somehow But this is an important video to make because I know a lot of people suffering from narcissistic abuse emotional abuse verbal abuse are looking for resources and the first ones that I came across many years ago now were on reddit and reddit has You know garnered a well-deserved reputation as being an excellent resource for People in this space and I think that's because Reddit as opposed to other social network has had anonymity baked into it from pretty much day one So people in the early stages of narcissistic abuse need a safe split and safe space to talk online where you know, they're not going to be doxed or discovered by their abusers and reddit is perfect for that now at this particular reddit I want to start with RBN raised by narcissists has actually Become quite famous even outside of reddit. There's been CNN articles and mass media articles written just about this subreddit I am convinced that this subreddit provides a lifeline out of abuse For countless people now by the way, I've had many criticisms of reddit There is a lot of toxicity on that on there but when it comes to this particular aspect of reddit the communities for helping survivors And those entangled in abuse situations. It's just a Unbelievably healing and helpful place. So let me show you guys some of the community So if you're currently experiencing narcissistic abuse, this one the RBN is a really really good community it's raised by narcissists and This is when I first began posting here years ago Was when I began realizing and a lot of people have had this eureka moment that hey all our experiences are So similar we're talking by people in different countries different religious backgrounds different sexual orientations And yet the common threads that unite people sharing their stories of abuse here are It's impossible to ignore now when you post in here You're gonna it's a pretty well organized sub generally the bigger subreddits are The more regimented they get in terms of rules So that's can be a little bit intimidating at first But it's important that these rules exist because otherwise it's just gonna be derailed So you can see as I'm creating a post in raised by narcissists I can go for a support advice request. Happy funny progress rent rent vent question media RBN now Trigger warnings are there as well and urgent one thing to say is well this Subreddit so big right? 789,000 members 200 people online currently Because it's so big there's a high likelihood that your topics being covered before So what you can do I'm gonna open it up in a new tab is you can just search for a topic by By you know adding a few words after this and it'll search within raised by narcissists For post that match that description. So and there's also reddit advanced searches I've done a video about that separately So I'm just speaking to the perspective of someone who's totally new to reddit because a lot of people have never posted on it before This is where you'll find the rules you can see here raised by narcissists rules And there is 15 of them no personal attacks always is always this one's really important always assume a context of abuse the bigger subreddits have wikis so you can see the wiki for For raised by narcissists it links off to it links off from the rules and you can get the rules on a separate page And this is this is the book. It's not as It's a friendly community so long as you stick to the rules basically So that's the first one and the first thing to say another thing to say about raised by narcissists I'm gonna go back to it here is that it's actually a whole network of subreddits So you can see where are we? They have also a glossary now the first thing you might notice if you're posting in these is there's a lot of Jargon being thrown around there's NC VLC gaslighting flying monkeys Lots and lots of lingo that for someone posting for the first time might be confusing Therefore they have two useful things. They have this RBN acronym and terms And this is just basically like a glossary of all the terms and acronyms You'll see thrown about on the subreddit family of origin FOO. They also have a Multi, so this is a bunch of different subreddits put together 17 subreddits to be exact and if you want to get a You can click on you and this way you're going to be finding posts across not just raised by narcissists, but a bunch of a Bunch of different related subreddits So I mentioned that there was a network of subreddits here and this can be found at this part of the sidebar It's called RBN network and allies So raised by narcissists life after narcissism RBN best of shit and say Narcissist ends being narcissists RBN life skills managed by narcissists I believe is for people who have narcissistic bosses if I'm not mistaken guessing. I haven't actually Come across this may as well sign up to that RBN book club, this is actually also sounds super useful Because I'm always trying to Read up more about this RBN movie night spices relation spices might be useful for the collateral People who have to put up with their partner to suffer from it The one I'd like to highlight though is life after narcissism. Okay, so this is I've been down voted Unfortunately, this is how reddit works. Sometimes you have reddit stalkers who just Downvote everything you do spitefully this happens to me sometimes But this is an important subreddit. This is raised by narcissists for a lot of people who are you know Discovering for the first time what narcissistic abuse even means what it looks like what gas lighting is what flying monkeys are what? Deflection is projection all these complicated terms and you're just kind of coming You know something's not right, but you're just coming to understand it Then there's another point that people get past sometimes after participating in that subreddit Sometimes after going to therapy and it's a point where you're like, okay now what I want to I've set up boundaries Or I've got no contact. What happens next? How do I begin to heal all the damage and that's really the distinction between RBN meaning raised by narcissists and L.A. N standing for life after narcissism In fact it says here a place for those who have survived a narcissist relationship and now have the needed boundaries in place for safety and sanity This is a group for people who are no longer engaging with abusers This does not necessarily mean no contact It means that you know that you longer that you longer and think this should be no longer engage in the toxic dynamics with abusers This group is meant as a next step after raised by narcissists. It's very important. So Yeah, this is basically and it has its own set of rules and it also links to the other the other RBN network as well as allies So let me close down that tab and this tab to show you some more subreddits Okay, this one I discovered late in my in my reddit career and it's very very useful something that you know people who break out from narcissistic abuse and Eventually, you know after it's very common that after many attempts to set boundaries grey rock Establish protection it just you go no contact and then you find yourself if especially if you've no other living parent as a estranged adult child and This subreddit is particularly especially to fulfill that need therefore. I think it's also a super important subreddit It's our estranged adult child 24.3 thousand subscribers 61 net 61 here now a community for adult children were a conscious decision to estranged from one or both of their parents has been made Estrangement primarily occurs when there is physical emotional abuse differing expectations about family roles neglect Clashes based on personalities or value systems parents of estranged adult children are not welcome to participate in the subs So just to say it's a safe place. In other words, the parents try to stalk you in here They will be hopefully detected and banned by the moderator And yeah, so again, you can see here this when you when you talk about abuse There's a lot of different types of abuse so we can that's an also important Remember we can be talking about secular be sexual abuse as well So I think there's a place for both subreddits In other words, you know the narcissistic abuse emotional abuse focused ones and also these estranged adult child which doesn't necessarily focus just on Narcissistic or emotional abuse. It can also be a place for people who sadly had sexual abuse from their parents and Now they find themselves in this unwanted club of estranged children I did a search on reddit just to try find any other ones. I was missing so there is an emotional abuse subreddit I'm not quite sure. This is smaller than rbn and the other ones is 23k But you know, I think these all have value and I just can't Personally don't have bandwidth to participate in every subreddit that might be relevant You have abusive relationships Finally, there's one for narcissistic abuse and it's got a hundred and eighteen thousand members So this is Again on the larger side not quite as big as rbn and its affiliates Not quite sure what the difference is to be honest. I've never really posted in this one But just to let you know that it's here. So those those are to the best of my knowledge the main subreddits out there I'm sure there's also Facebook groups. I'm sure there's for internet for as well But that's what I like about reddit is that as opposed to being a member of different web for bulletin boards you can come to one website and Jump between different subreddits and engage in different communities If you know of any useful subs that I missed in this overview, please feel free to drop a comment But for anyone just starting to connect with other people Online about their experiences with narcissistic verbal or emotional abuse I highly recommend all of these as a way to get started. Thanks for watching. Have a great day