 Hi guys, I'm live. How are you doing good today? Excuse the glare in the back. Let me see if I can cover my big head like any clips. So how are y'all today? Are y'all doing good? Good morning. Hi Marla, or wait, I can't see. Okay, yeah, it's Marla. How are you? Hi Tamara, how are you? Okay, so we're gonna talk about how anyone can upgrade their partner or a, you know, in partner status, you know, you don't have to stay where you are, you don't have to stay stuck where you are, or, you know, deal with what you're dealing with, or feel like you can only attract a certain status of partner, okay? So when you're, you know, how you think is what you're gonna attract. So if you only think you deserve a type of partner that is going to treat you bad, not going to support you, broke, and all that kind of stuff, that's exactly what you're going to keep attracting to you because you don't feel like you deserve better. Okay, so if you get into the mindset first that you deserve better and you believe that, that's when people that are going to benefit your lifestyle are going to start coming into it, okay? So make sure if you feel like you deserve better to start acting like you deserve better and start doing, taking actions to let the world know that you know that you deserve better because people will treat you like you treat yourself, okay? For example, if you walk in and you're looking very homely and raggedy, and you sit down at a restaurant, the waitress, she's not going to treat you as good as a person who walks in, dressed nice, smelling good, walking confident, you know, she's going to treat that person better. Why? Because that person has standards that are visible, okay? And so she knows that if she does not treat her a certain way, that she's not going to get tipped because this lady's standards is high versus your standards, you know, if you walked into a place looking raggedy, oh, you're used to bad treatment. You don't even treat yourself right. So, you know, I don't really care because I don't think you're going to give me a tip. Anyway, so I'm not going to treat you as nice as this other person. Now, don't let money have anything to do with it because that lady who's dressed super nice, she could be like, you know, shopping at Goodwill, finding designer brands on sale, you know, making fashion out of thrift items, you know, but she has that mindset and that mentality and she treats herself better and feels better about herself. So therefore, that's what she's going to attract. The people are going to give her their A list treatment. So it's the same way with men, ladies, if you walk somewhere and you're in tight clothes, boobs all hanging out, everything showing, the man is going to pick up on that and say, OK, she's giving off a very sexual energy. So I don't think that she be wife, but maybe I could sleep with her, you know, so they're going to gravitate towards that and they're not even going to take anything you say seriously. They're not going to consider you a wife. They're not going to take you to meet their parents with stuff hanging out like that. OK, you're going to be put on a different shelf. Your shelf is I'll call you when I have urges. OK, now if he walks in, he sees a very classic lady who's well put together, who is very confident herself, who obviously looks like she loves herself and has high standards. You know, she's covered up. She's respectable, you know, he's going to treat her that way. He's going to approach her totally different. He's not going to come up and say, Hey, baby, how you doing? What's your name? You know, he's going to say you look very nice today, you know, things like that. He's not going to automatically try to sleep with her. He's going to try to get to know her, make friends with her and press her, you know, try to see how she responds to him. So he's going to be at her mercy. You know what I mean? So that would lead to a courtship. OK, so if it was with the other woman with all the things showing, that's going to lead to late night calls, you know, no commitment. That's going to lead to, you know, friends with benefits, but it's not going to lead to something serious, you know. And yes, these kind of men will have both type of women. OK, they're only going to wife one type, though. OK, so y'all remember that. Oh, and also like, OK, so ladies, I know a lot of y'all don't have a lot of money to work with. Y'all have expenses. And like I said, anyone can upgrade partners. But first, you got to upgrade yourself. OK, because that's how you attract the upgraded person. You got to upgrade your looks, your your speech, the places you hang out, your ideas. So, you know, if you don't have a lot of cash, go to one of those really nice resale shops, go to Goodwill Select and they have Michael Kors clothing. They have nice shoes. They have the designer rack and you're not going to pay that much. OK. So you can get cute for cheap these days. You can, you know, Target sells cute clothes. So it's just what you pick out. Don't pick a bunch of crazy looking patterns. OK, that screams out, you know, too much, too much, just too much. Try to stick with neutral colors. Try to stick with things that don't have a lot of pattern on them unless they're classic patterns like stripes or something and try to, you know, make pick out items that look classy, that can take you to any place. You know what I'm saying? Focus on how you speak, how you walk, because some people walk hunched down, hunched over like they, you know, they the world is on their shoulder. Stand up straight, you know, sticky boobs out, walk straight, you know, a lot of people will judge you by your posture as well. OK. Yeah, there's lots of videos on YouTube that will teach you how to dress and blah, blah, blah, blah, you know. So basically before you can upgrade partners, you got to upgrade yourself, upgrade your thinking too, you know, if you're going to try to upgrade a partner and you feel like you don't belong in certain environments, then how's that going to work? OK, so it's very you need to go into those environments alone and practice just feeling like you belong. You know what I'm saying? Go into environments that wealthy people are in and feel like you belong, dress like you belong, act like you belong. That's where you belong. OK. If that's where you see yourself in 10 years, married to some guy that is wealthy, then that's where you belong anyway. So get in there and start getting all that energy, you know, getting all that frequency of belonging there. So the next time you go, you just, oh, yes, I know where the bathroom is. Oh, yes, a bartender. I have my regular, then you belong. OK, a lot of people are scared to get out of their little box or their environment because they're afraid of rejection. OK, people do not reject the people. Do not reject confidence or money. OK. If you have confidence and enough money to buy your drink, you belong. OK. Um, I was in my Facebook group. Someone, I'm not going to name their name, but if you're in the group, you know, someone told me a story about how they just moved to New York. They told the group the story. But they just moved to New York and they didn't have a lot of money, but they wanted to get in that frequency of wealth. So, you know, they took out their clothes and, you know, they all matched. They were nice, but they were athletic. You know, it was athletic wear, but it was nice athletic wear. And they went into one of the nicest department stores in New York and walked around with confidence, you know, look at shoes, look at clothing, talk to the staff. And, you know, at first they felt like, you know, oh, I can do this, I'm confident, blah, blah, blah, blah. And before they knew it, the staff was like talking to them, giving them the inside scoops, you know, treating them as if they were already, you know, wealthy, a client that was wealthy, a customer that was wealthy. And, you know, that feels good, you know, it makes you feel like you belong. So the next time you walk in there and, you know, you're, you know, the staff, the people who are shopping who are obviously wealthy will see that, you know, the staff and that you're comfortable in there and they will associate you on their level. OK, so that's how you have to do stuff. You can't be afraid. Fear is the only thing that holds people back, you know, fear. What are you, what are you scared of? What's the worst they can do? Call security, you know? And, you know, they're not going to do that because that's going to cause a lot of attention and negative attention. So put on your best outfit, make sure you look good, don't smell good, you know, all that kind of stuff and go somewhere and sit there until you feel you belong. OK, and before you know it, people are going to start associating you and with being successful and prosperous and they're going to gravitate towards you. And that's how you attract your upgraded partner. OK. Right. Yes. People are attracted to confidence. OK, think about this. Have you ever seen a guy and they were just very confident and they were blah, blah, blah, blah. And everybody was attracted to them like. People were attracted to them like flies because of their confidence, right? They might not have had the best things in the world, the best cars, the nicest house, but their confidence is what attracted people, you know, and then opportunities came because of their energy. Opportunities came to them and eventually they did upgrade to those nice things that everyone else had because your confidence in yourself attracts other confident people, other successful people. OK, so that's how you have to get with yourself. A lot of a lot of people walk around feeling defeated like they'll never find someone better and that that's all they can get is was laying on their couch at home. And, you know, they don't even realize that there's somebody else out there looking for someone exactly like you. You know, I have all the money in the world. I just don't have the woman I want. You know, there are beautiful women, flawless women walking around with broke, bum, boyfriends who cheat on them and treat them like trash. OK, there's some guy out there with a wallet full of money, a bank account full of money, wishing he had someone that looked like you. OK, and guys don't don't even come because y'all don't even know half the stuff that goes on in the real world with women. OK, I think have y'all ever seen Nino Brown on Facebook? His videos are hilarious. OK? His videos are hilarious. He had a video and I put it up in my group talking about gold diggers are not for working men. And, you know, he was trying to be nice but you could tell he was kind of calling out men who are chasing after, you know, certain women that they can't have. And because they work a regular job and they'll never have the type of money that, you know, the gold digger really wants. So the gold digger will eventually stop messing with them and move on to something bigger because, you know, she starts to feel guilty about taking his little chick. So he was advising guys who work a nine to five to go get a woman that's working too and y'all build together. But he was like, these gold diggers are not for you. So basically what he was saying in a nutshell was stop chasing gold diggers. You're not going to ever catch one unless you're rich. OK? They're not even targeting you. You're targeting them. OK? So a lot of men say, oh, I don't want no gold digger. Oh, the gold diggers aren't targeting you. You're targeting them. You're approaching them. You're coming at them. You're maybe with your number. Let me take care of you. I've got this bill knowing that your car noticed two months behind. Gold diggers don't target broke men. So if y'all are mad at gold diggers, don't be mad at them. Be mad at yourself. You're the one that approach. You know, it's like no gold digger is going to go approach some man that drives an average car and works the average job. That ain't going to happen unless it's an emergency situation. OK? Emergency. OK. Now I'm not trying to put down people. I'm just being very honest. OK. OK. I don't know what eating disorder. Someone hasn't had sex and developed an eating disorder and had pre-enforment, for pharmacy anxiety. What do I do? Fix the problem, you know? If you haven't done that for three months, gain weight and feel like you can't do nothing because you feel uncomfortable in your body, then lose weight, you know? Or gain the confidence you need to go and get it just like you are. There's only two choices you got. That's the only two choices you got. Lose it or claim it. Inflant it. Either way, you got a choice. They make plus size lingerie. And no man ever turned down one for sex because they was fat. OK, believe me. Anyways, oh, were you a man? E.D. I thought E.D. was eating disorder. Somebody said erection, erectile dysfunction. Oh, OK. So if you're a man and you have erectile dysfunction and you gain weight and you have performance anxiety, then you can't take Viagra. Well, I feel like you will need to start making a lot of money. That might boost your confidence because if you can't motivate yourself and if you can't motivate yourself to lose weight and you can't get yourself up, you don't feel masculine. The only other way to feel masculine is to have something, is to be successful, is to have all the other things, all the other trappings of masculinity, success, wealth, blah, blah, blah, blah, you know what I'm saying? And women are automatically attracted to that. And maybe it will help your confidence and maybe it will help you lose the weight and maybe it will help you gain your confidence back. And then maybe if you're on some type of medication that causes the E.D., you could probably get off if you get healthier, you know what I'm saying? And there's lots of women who are gold diggers and they're with rich men who can't get it up. And that's why they're with them. That's the main reason they're with them because they don't want to have sex. They just want companionship and something. OK, y'all can't give me all these initials and stuff because I'm going to make up my own meaning for them. Y'all got to spill it out. OK, he has been losing weight slowly but he's still scared and can't stay. Maybe he's gay. You ever thought about that? Any man that can't do this either is not attracted to you or they're gay or they've got medication problems. You know what I'm saying? They could have high blood pressure because that's also cause of that. Bye-bye. Someone says bye. Kimberly says bye. Yeah, I'm not going to be on too long. Maybe 20 more minutes. OK, so men. I know a lot of men are watching. Not too many, but men. How can you upgrade on a woman? Let me give y'all the other side of the story. Men, if you're always attracting women who you don't feel motivated by, I'm going to be honest. The woman that will change your life, that will upgrade you as well just by dating her, is the type of woman that motivates you to want to be a better man. If you're dating a woman who does not make you feel like you want to go be a better person, make more money, accomplish more in life, then that's the wrong woman. If you're with a woman who makes you want to give up on life, quit your job, or not even want to be around her and embarrassed of her, that's not the woman for you. The woman for you is the one that makes you get up every morning and go get it and ask for promotions and think about starting your own business and imagining her as your wife. That's the right woman. If you're dating someone and you can't think about them like that, you're wasting your time. This is how women see men. This is why women always want this commitment real quick. This is why women are always serious about when they date and who they're dating because this is how we see y'all. We want to better ourselves and better our lives so we look for the man that can do that. And men just keep looking for sex and sex don't better nobody's life. It will cost you in the long run if you're not having sex with the right person. You know what I'm saying? If you're just having sex to have sex, you're losing energy, time, and money. If you're sleeping with a woman who motivates you to get up and become a millionaire, you're benefiting from that sex, okay? I'm not gonna lie. I motivated my husband into higher salaries, bigger houses, nicer cars, just by being me. Why? Because he knows my standards, what I expect, what I could have had, what I should have had, okay? So if you don't have that type of one, look at Steve Harvey, okay? And his new wife, what's her name? Marjorie, whatever. He went from country to Versace because this lady, she upgraded him. She told him how to dress, how to speak, cut that, take that wig off your head, cut that flat top off, upgrade, upgrade. I need this, I need that. And he blew up even more. Now he's a game show host, got his own show, books, all this stuff, you know? He woke up only wanting to please her. That's the kind of woman you need, man. Okay? If that's not the kind of woman you have, you are in that relationship and you settled, okay? You settled, you settled. You were looking for a mama and a free place to live and free sex. But when you wake up every morning, you don't feel a purpose, you don't feel a drive, you don't feel nothing because your woman is the wrong one, okay? Y'all remember that movie Scarface? When Al Pacino saw, what's her name? Michelle Pfeiffer, he was like, that's the one, that's gonna be my wife. And he pushed it to the limit. He pushed it to the limit until he got his wife, okay? He woke up every day, sold drugs, murdered people so he could get this woman, okay? That's a bad example. But that's what motivated, that's what pushed him. That's what pushed him, pushed him, pushed him. And he wouldn't ever got that successful if that woman wouldn't have disrespected him. In that car that day when he said, I don't fuck with the help, he said, okay, I'm gonna show you some help. So if y'all haven't seen Scarface, y'all go watch Scarface, okay? How are you today? What, okay? Oh, someone says, married men live longer than single men, that's true. My husband should have been dead, okay? If I wouldn't have married him, he'd be in the casket, okay? Because I changed his diet. I changed the way he eats, what he drinks, the type of food, all that, he used to be real bad. So I think his lifespan has gotten longer. Plus we had kids and now he has something to live for. How do you motivate a man by having high standards and making sure that they like you more than you like them because they're gonna do anything they need to do to please you? Which is impress you, compete with other men to keep you because it's always a competition, unless you're married and it's still a competition. But in order to keep you happy and not entertaining any other thoughts, a man has to be giving you exactly what you want. So someone keeps asking about piercings and stuff like that, blah, blah, blah, blah. I have facial piercings. Some people don't like what to say when they give a nasty comment about them. Okay, well if you have facial piercings and a lot of tattoos and things like that, you need to understand that not everybody finds that attractive. And then a lot of people do. So you just need to gravitate towards those people that do. There are a lot of successful alternative type guys out there, people that own tattoo shops, artists, things like that. So you have to kind of go towards that area of partners instead of the classic corporate boring people that don't like all of this. You're gonna have to go over here or take them out. I don't know, whatever you think is best, but not everyone is gonna accept that. That's why your mom always say, don't get a bunch of tattoos and piercings because when you get old, ain't nobody gonna wanna marry you. And that's true. I didn't have any tattoos when I got married. I only had my ears pierced, that's it. And that was a plus because my husband was like, you have any tattoos? I was like, nope. And I think that was something that a lot of men like, just depending on who they are, if they got tattoos, they don't want a bunch of tattoos all over their woman. Because sometimes it's like, okay, tattoos have meanings behind them. If you got a tattoo with your ex-boyfriend, that memory is always gonna be there and a reminder. If you got a tattoo with his name on it or some initials on it, he's always gonna be wondering what those initials mean. And if you lied to him about it, so it's kind of distracting. And it takes away from, if you're gonna get tattoos, get them after you're married, okay? That's my vibe. If you already have them, then that's fine. At these days, people know people have tattoos, but I'm saying if you don't have any yet, at least wait or get a classy one in a place where it doesn't show and it's not crazy-looking, unless that's the kind of man you want as well, you know what I'm saying? Okay, a guy that you've been dating with for the last two months will come up to every excuse to keep him from his apartment. What do you think? We spent a lot of time together, but he's excellent. Okay, so if somebody won't let you come over their house, that's a big red flag, okay? That's a big red flag. Either it's three things. Someone lives there with him. He ain't got no furniture. Or he has many girls that come over there and he don't want you bumping into none of them and popping up, okay? You're not welcome. So, I don't know, I would just ignore it. I would be like, oh, you know what? I would just start making fun of it. I would come to my own conclusion and joke with him about it and that way he'll finally let you see it if there's no problem. I would say, oh yeah, we can't go to his, like if you're out and about and you'll say, oh, you know what? I'm tired, you know, drive me all the way back home or I'm gonna go with my house because I know you won't let me in yours. You probably got roaches or something. Just have a little slide comment. Oh, you probably got roaches and rats or something. I understand. You know, they sell insect foggers at Walmart, you know? And then he'll be like, I ain't got no roaches. Okay, and then the next time, you'll say, oh, okay, well, you know, I don't want to, you know, I got to go home because I know you got people, you know, probably some type of roommate situation going on. You don't want me to know about. So, you know, I don't got no roommate, blah, blah, blah. Okay, so the next time you'll be like, okay, well, you know, I'm gonna go home since, you know, maybe you's probably still live with your mom. Eventually he's gonna get tired of his comments and take you to his house because you're already painting a picture in your head that might not even be true. But now he has to live with the fact that you feel like he has roaches and rats and roommates and still live with his mama. So he's got to, you know, he's, that's not impressive. So he's got to correct the situation. So whatever it is, he's gonna correct it within that time period and then you'll be invited over. But you've got to work on it. It can't just be instant because he needs time to fix whatever's going on over there. You know what I'm saying? Right. Okay. Roaches, I'm 25, my sugar daddy's 55. I use him to buy me things but now he wants to take it a step further. I don't know how to give him the run around nicely but I still want him to buy me things. This is the funny part. Okay, so you with someone you don't wanna have sex. Tell them you don't sleep with men outside of a committed relationship. And when you say committed, that means you have to, you know, treat me like, you know, we're going to be together. We're gonna be married, you know? And when I'm in a committed relationship, I have certain standards. You know, all bills have to be paid. You've got to pay my mortgage, my house, my lights, all these things because, you know, once I submit, use the word submit, once I submit to a man, I wanna feel comfortable and protected and, you know, I'm giving, you know, my body to someone and I expect to feel secure and protected in that relationship, you know? So if you want to sleep with me, we're gonna have to, you know, have some type of direct deposit situation going on, all my bills have to be paid, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, I take, you know, I take my body seriously. I don't just give it away to anyone and I feel it's really strongly about this and just like give them this whole speech and look sincere and be dressed really innocent and be like, yes, you know, you know, material things are nice. I love the security and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but if I'm gonna commit to a relationship with a mature, you know, gentleman, I really want to, you know, be in a relationship, you know, so he's gonna be like, if he commits to you and he says, I'm gonna pay everything, don't worry about it, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and he's gonna sign up for all that and you still don't want to sleep with him, then you just say, okay, well, I need, I'm gonna really think about it and I'm gonna consider if I, you know, am ready for a relationship right now and then he'll be like, okay. And that is when you're gonna get the most stuff because now he's trying to impress you and convince you to get in a relationship, a committed relationship with him, so he's gonna be buying you extra stuff and then you can use that time to go look for someone new and still get your stuff before you exit, okay. I know it's a trick, a tricky trick, but it works, okay, bye. Thanks for asking that question. I gotta go in 10 minutes, y'all. I have a consultation. Dating a man who's divorced isn't final yet. You're the rebound and don't take it seriously, okay. Just get what you can out of it. If you're dating a man who's not yet divorced, they're not trying to get right back into a relationship or a marriage, they're trying to have fun, they just got free. You're the rebound, okay, anyways. I've been seeing a man, he's married, although his marriage is on the rocks, he wants me to wait until he's divorced. It has been one year. Okay, again, if you're put on waiting list, that means you're not priority, so get some other options. How to exit the game when you're done using a man. A, get pregnant by someone else fictitiously. Oh, I'm pregnant by my ex-boyfriend. Then he's gonna say bye, Felicia. That's how you exit. Or you say I'm moving. No, I'm moving, or you say I'm getting back with my ex. Okay, what else? Thank you, thank you someone said my makeup is lovely. Okay, how do you make friendships when you're the only one married? I don't know, I don't have any single friends. Everybody, I know it was married, but I don't really have too many friends either. I actually, they're not gonna wanna hang around you cause you're not gonna be any fun anymore. So, only hang out with them when you're free of kids and husband and y'all can actually go and hang out together and don't talk about marriage and stuff while you're with them. Make it seem like old times. Thanks, anyone experience a millionaire dating site? Okay, I wonder how do you maintain, okay. I'm trying to read some of the questions before I go. Don't listen to the man in the comments, they're trying to get stuff free. Any man who's on here commenting is broke and trying to get stuff for free from women, okay. Don't listen to them. Okay, so I've seen this video of this one woman, someone posted in the group talking about how McDonald's is a date and talking in the car is a date and sitting on a stoop is a date and all this kind of crazy stuff and that it's okay. Now, first of all, that's okay for her, but it ain't okay for someone like me, okay. We two different people. We have two different sets of standards. And when someone tries to lower standards of women by the masses, what does that tell you? And someone purposely says, go take your butt to McDonald's on a date and love it, like the commercial says, and they're a female and they're standing up for men who want to take you to McDonald's. That should tell you something. I mean, what does that tell you? First of all, it tells me A, I don't think I'm worth anything but a happy meal or a number three. That's the value on me, okay. Second of all, I don't want a man to spend a lot of money on me because first of all, I already know that I have issues and I know he's gonna be mad if he spent, you know, $100 on dinner and he finds out A, B, C, D, G, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, and P about me. But if he takes me to McDonald's and have all these issues, he's gonna overlook them because I'm cheap. I'm a cheap date. So he can overlook all my issues. So when you agree to cheap dates is because you have low self-esteem, lots of issues, and you hope that by being cheap and lowering your standards, it's gonna get you a man. I'm here to tell you, you just work in your reverse. You have to fake it until you make it, okay. And you can eat good. You don't have to sit at McDonald's because you got bad credit, 10 kids and you know, live in the bad part of town. They don't have to know all of that, you know. So I'm sorry, you know. I can't agree with any woman that tells somebody to take date self to McDonald's on a date and be okay with it. Unless they're in junior high school and that is an appropriate junior high school meet and greet. I ain't gonna say date because I've seen junior high kids take people on movie dates or you know, dates to something that was way better, a carnival or something, right? Like why can't he take you to a carnival, okay? Why gotta be McDonald's, you know. She didn't even say Starbucks, y'all. She didn't even say coffee, you know. Because this costs the same thing as a supersized value bill. So you know what I'm saying? I don't know. You know what the sad thing is? There were so many women agreeing with her in the comments. I think you're right. I think you're true. Men don't need to spend a lot of money to get to know you. Men don't need to spend a lot of money to date. It's, you know, that takes the whole getting to know someone for themselves, you know, out of context. And I'm like, that's like, y'all ready to reception at McDonald's too? Or Burger King, which one? Horseback riding, yeah, that's a good date. Okay. Thing, I got two minutes left, y'all. Okay, you asked a friend to pay your bill that was like under $200 and they said they did not have it, the money until today. How do I drop him? Well, get the money first and foremost. And tell him this is gonna be a weekly or monthly thing. Will you be able to help me out next month too? And if he says no, then drop him. We'll get the money first. I'm talking to a doctor. He's doing quite well, but not particularly rich. He has said that he wants to settle down. So should I go for it? He is a good man, but I know that has, he has the potential to make money. Okay, doctors, they don't start making money until they're old, okay? If he's young, if he's a young doctor, it's gonna be a long time before he get paid, okay? Why? Because they got medical bills. I mean, the medical school bills, they have to do their internship. They have to build up their practice. They gotta work for the county or some little cheap clinic before they can start really getting paid. Most doctors don't start getting paid till they're like 40, 50, 60, okay? And if they're an eye doctor, you know, unless they sell designer glasses and have their own business, nope. Garbage men probably make the same as a doctor that's just coming out of school, okay? What do I consider a high six-figure salary? Well, it just depends on where you live because like I said, like some states, the cost of living is really high versus some states are really low. And the salary is different for each job in different states. So if you live in a state or a city where the cost of living is low, you could get away with like 200,000 a year. But if you live somewhere where it's really high, 500,000 plus is, you're gonna be good. You're gonna be able to have what you want, do what you want and not have to struggle or settle. And then if you have kids, that's not a problem. But if you're going for any type of six-figure man, make sure that they're in a career that will grow, okay? Because, or that they can advance in because that means it'll only grow and it won't shrink, you know what I'm saying? Okay, okay. So the troll guy is saying women have to have their own things going before anyone will take them seriously. Well, you know, most women do have things going. Like, you know, that's only a problem with men. Women have lots of ambition and careers. Like most of the people that I do consultations with and who are on this channel, they all have good jobs, you know, or they make money, you know, they're not broke, they're not homeless, they don't live with their mama most of them. I mean, some of them do, but there are probably more guys on my channel who live with their mom and make less money than the women on this channel, which is why I don't know why y'all here because they're not looking for y'all and they're not even talking about y'all. When I met my husband, I told y'all, I was a mortician, okay? I embalmed dead people, I drove herses, I worked in a funeral home, I worked around millionaires, politicians, surgeons, doctors, okay, that was my circle. But, you know, that doesn't mean that I didn't want a successful man to take care of me and take me away from it, okay? Oh, that brings me, I gotta go y'all, but that brings me to probably my next video topic. I actually have two video topics coming up. A lot of people think I'm a feminist and they probably don't know what that definition is because I am a total opposite of a feminist, okay? And then another video topic that's coming up is types of careers and jobs that will lead you to meeting wealthy men, okay? So, if you don't know what career direction you wanna go in or you don't know what to do with your life or you wanna switch up careers and put yourself in an environment around a lot of successful potential partners, I'm gonna go into that in one of my next videos, okay? So, leave y'all something to research and maybe y'all can comment on some other places that I might leave out that careers that will boost your chances of marrying or upgrading to a better partner, okay? What are my thoughts on marrying for money? Are you serious? Have you been watching my channel? My thoughts on marrying for money? It's smarter, wiser, more beneficial, more responsible to marry for money than it is to marry for love, can't argue with that, okay? I don't know, somebody in the group told me that their aunt was like, they married a bunch of times and a bunch of rich guys and all the rich guys left her their money when they died and like all her grandchildren are set for life because all the money, you know? Who you date and sleep with, if that can affect two generations from now and pay your grandkids way through life, you did good, you know, you're gold. So, if you married for love and y'all struggled and your grandkids struggled and they grandkids struggled and they didn't, what kind of love is that? What kind of love is that, okay? I married for the love of my seeds. I married for the love of my future generations. I married for the love of the last name that attaches itself to my children, okay? There you go. Okay, so women who think they're better than men and men who think they're better than women, okay, whatever. So a man think it so he is, so a woman think it so she is, you know? You probably are better than a lot of men and a lot of there are some men that are better than a lot of women, you know? No one's equal unless you're twins and then there's always the evil twin. So somebody's in here talking about the government backs up women for getting pregnant. Well, at least somebody do thank you government because you know, some of these men out there don't, you know, they think they could just get women pregnant and walk away free. So, you know, a will, wake up call, you know, if you lived in Canada, somebody told me this. In Canada, you gotta pay child support until that child is like 30 something or until they die or something, I don't even know. It's like, some guys say he's still paying child support and his son is 39, okay? So you look at you in America and on child support. Don't move to Canada. Oh, if I can notify you guys when I'm going live, I can do it like a pre-video. Say, hey, I'm going live tomorrow. That's the best I can do. Or you can click the bell on my subscriber button next to my subscriber button and it'll send something to your phone. Say, hey, something, something is live or something, something's uploaded a video. Okay, let's see. I'm trying to answer the last question then I really gotta go because I think somebody's waiting on me. Oh, there they are. And hi, how are, I'm gonna try to buy some time. Is it okay if we do it at 12 or to do it now? Let's see what they say. Okay, oh, so one PM my time? Is that okay? It's for a good cause, okay? My husband's downstairs working right now cause he can work from home like half the time and then he works in his office the other half. I was trying to get him to do a video with me but he says no, he's not, he's very camera shy. And it's like, you know, a man need to see a good example of how a real man operates because they need some mentors. They need to see what success looks like. They need to see what a man who provides and protects family and kids on purpose looks like. You know, and their reasoning behind it and how his woman has helped him reach new heights and new levels and new status. You know, you get a nice looking woman next to you, you're automatically upgraded. People automatically think you have more than what you have. You know, you see a guy with a woman, you automatically think, oh, he must be a millionaire, he got her, okay? So fake it till you make it, okay? He was faking it with me and I'm faking it with him and we're gonna, you know, I tell y'all and just a little while it's gonna happen. So, you know, a beautiful woman who you can fully take care of who's not out sleeping with everybody because are you taking care of all her needs including financial needs? She's gonna up your status. You know, she's gonna make people think you have more than what you have, you're more successful than you are, you're smarter than what you are, you're able to provide for this type of woman so that you're gonna get more respect, you're gonna get more, you know, potential raises, potential job offers and all this kind of stuff because you the man, you know what I'm saying? So it's just like, you know, when a woman wears a very nice handbag or a very nice jewelry, people automatically think, oh my God, she must have a rich boyfriend or she must have money or she must be classy and, you know, have very high standards and only date millionaires. Well, half the time that's stuff not even true but that's how you're gonna get treated, that's what you're gonna attract and eventually that's what you will be. So, men, if you want to go higher in life, get a woman that will motivate you to that level that will push you to that level because you can't fake it forever. That woman gonna get tired of you faking it, she's gonna be waiting and be like, okay, you got a nice six-figure salary but keep going, okay? And you're gonna keep going because you know this woman can go get a millionaire any time, any time, so that's gonna make you go work hard and become one yourself, okay? And most rich men who are very successful will tell you that if there wasn't the certain woman they were trying to impress or whatever, they wouldn't be where they are, they wouldn't get out the damn bed, you know? And that's really the truth, hold on. Okay, they said though, wait till 12. I'll say thank you. So, yes. Men, if you really want to, if you're happy at your mediocre state in life with your $40,000 a year and your nice apartment and your generic sports car, that's fine. Women are not impressed with that unless they have less than that or don't want more than that for themselves or their family. I'm not impressed with it because I can make that in my sleep. I was just talking to my husband right now how I can afford my dream car but I don't wanna get it. And he's like, you need to go ahead and get it, and you only live once. And I'm like, well, you're right, I might go get it. I'm thinking about it, I might go get it. But then I said once I get this dream car, then what am I gonna wake up for? What am I gonna want after that? Is it ever gonna be enough? And I'm like, let me move out of this mindset first before I go and get my dream car because I have to feel like I'm supposed to have it and it's supposed to be mine, I'm supposed to be driving it and I have to be comfortable in my mindset at that time. Even I have issues with progressing so fast that I feel like sometimes I need to slow down a little bit because it's almost like, once you have everything you want, what else is there to want? And that's one of the things that I'm always thinking about like once I have everything I want, then what? Then what? I got all these purses, all these nice car, all this jewelry, every type of makeup, all nice clothes. What's next? What else do I want? So after the novelty of having money wears off and having everything you want wears off, all you can do is upgrade the brand, upgrade the technology, go on vacations and stuff like that. You come out of the shopping phase because you have everything. So now you wanna travel, now you wanna buy second homes, now you wanna get luxury dream cars, now you wanna do this and that. And I don't feel like I want my kids to grow and understand that they don't come that easy. So I'm kinda slowing it down so I can teach them. I'm just doing this so I can teach them. But I really wanna go get my dream car and I wanna feel okay about it with my kids. Cause I don't want them to be asking for my dream car when they turn 16. Oh no, you got to work, okay? You got to go, you got to go get your own. I don't wanna spoil my kids, that's what I'm saying. Don't wanna think everything comes this easy. They don't see me putting in work, they don't see him putting in work. They just see us when we are off duty. How can you use alchemy in the process of finding a rich man? Okay, alchemy is, you know, spiritual alchemy is basically using universal laws to get what you want. Okay, so universal law, okay. The law of correspondence is the first law that you need. This is cause and effect, basically. Okay, so you have to cause yourself to meet a rich man. And how do you cause yourself to meet a rich man? How do you cause that? Okay, this is how you cause it. You go to places where they hang out. You sit there until one approaches. The effect is they will introduce themselves. You will meet a rich man. Now it's up to you to keep this going, okay? So once you cause the situation, the effect is automatically on the damn way, okay? So after you cause the situation and you get the effect you want, now you're moving into the law of rhythm. Okay, this means everything that goes up must come down. This means polarity, okay? This means if this man has every, if you give this man everything, eventually he's not gonna want it anymore because you have it all. Just like I explained, once the shopping novelty is gone, you want something else. So never give them your all. You will always keep the balance. He will never stop, he will never get bored of you. He will never seek something else because he's gotten everything because now the pendulum is swinging back and forth right here instead of here and then here. You're keeping it right here. You're keeping it in balance. You are a magnet, okay? So you're a magnet keeping it right here, okay? So another way that you can use alchemy is the law of gender. Stay in your gender role. Do not try to be the man and man do not try to be the woman. This is how you rich men like to be masculine and they like feminine women, okay? That's why a lot of successful women have a tough time meeting a partner that has money because they like ultra feminine. The law of the universe is that there's always a feminine energy and a masculine energy, okay? If you're super masculine, you don't want another masculine energy. You need a super feminine energy to balance you. So that's why it's important, okay? And another universal law that you can use is the law of vibration, okay? Now this is a really important one, okay? The law of vibration represents that everything is in motion, okay? Nothing is a solid. Everything is in motion. Everything is energy. Everything is a bunch of energy moving together, okay? This means that your energy and your focus and your words can affect a person. Just by talking to them, feeling something and being in their presence, you're gonna shift their vibration and their energy, okay? So if you're thinking, I'm gonna marry a rich man. I'm only supposed to marry rich men. I can't marry anyone but a rich man. You're vibrating that. That's your energy. Your energy is gonna be transferred to the man sitting next to you. And if he's rich, he's gonna feel like this is the type of woman that I'm supposed to marry. This is the type of woman that wants to marry me. This is the type of woman that I deserve. This is the type of woman who is supposed to be with someone like me because that's what you're vibrating. So the energy will, you know, become a thought and an idea and they're gonna respond to that, okay? Now if you're sitting over here broke, you know, with some sweat pants and a head wrap sitting next to this rich guy, you're vibrating. Oh, I feel really insecure. I don't belong here. I should have dressed better. I should have did ABC and D. And then this guy's over here. Why is she here? She should have put on some clothes. What's that thing on her head? Now you're sending that energy to him and he's gonna move away. Cause it ain't, you know, that's what you're sending out. But that's why it's important to look your best when you go out because of the law of vibration. You attract, you mirror the other person's energy, we'll mirror your energy. Okay, now that's some metaphysics and stuff but you can apply it to dating. Okay, Oprah style. Uh, don't ever, don't ever pay 50-50 on any dates. You don't pay on dates, ladies. If you're paying on dates, you're dating the wrong man. So if you can't do any better or you feel like you don't deserve any better, then this is not the channel for you. Okay, you don't date man who asks you to pay. Okay, that's just a no-no. Unless they're handicapped or you're a younger member of your family. That's male. You know, even handicapped people got money cause, you know, sometimes they got a huge settlement. You know, I saw this guy who was rolling around a wheelchair in a mall with this really pretty girl and she had about 10 shopping bags like from Michael Kors, Polo, Neiman Marquez Sacks and she was just walking right next to the wheelchair dude. And I know he had money cause he just took this girl shopping, you know. Gold diggers will stoop to the highest and to the lowest levels, but they gonna get what they want. I think she married him though. I told the whole story of my group, but for her time's sake, I can't really tell the whole story, but yeah. Let's see. Let's see. Okay. The group, if someone's asking about the group, I'm not letting a lot of guys in. There's only like two guys in the group and they're on our team. So if guys are trying to get in the group, I'm not letting y'all in. I'm so sorry about that. Y'all got y'all own groups. Y'all don't need to be up in here learning our secrets and tricks because they get more detailed in the group because, you know, there's more time spent there. But the group is called, let me tell y'all what it's called. It is called Shira Seven, two words, she, raw, seven, spelled out, seven, dating, relationships, advice. Okay. And it has Rihanna on the cover art going like this from the Bitch Better Have My Money video. That's how you know me. Okay. Sorry. So, yep. Like I said, oh, I got seven minutes left, y'all. Okay, so let me tell y'all a story about the life coach because somebody just mentioned the life coach. Okay, so there was a few people I had to kick out of the group because they were like going and snitching and telling all our business. And these were women. And they were, one of them was a life coach and another one didn't wanna be there because the group just wasn't for her. So she left on her own. But before you join this group, there are, this is not about finding true love. This group is not about finding true love, okay? It's about logic and strategy and to getting the lifestyle that you want, the type of partner that you want, the type of relationship that you want at this time. Okay, it's not about finding true love and happiness and struggle love. It's not about that. It's about, look, I wanna live good. What are the steps I need to take? Give me some advice, you know? That's what it's about. It's not about, you know, waiting on somebody to improve and marrying for potential or, you know, waiting on somebody to get divorced. It's about getting what you want right now, okay? So if you come in, if you come in to get, you know, some advice on love and struggle and stuff like that, don't come to this group. It's not for you, okay? This very cutthroat sharp to the point, like women will be dating an 80-year-old man up in this group if he has a couple million dollars, okay? Okay. So this is for the serious person that wants to change their life by upgrading who they're dating, okay? Now, everybody has their standards and their morals. Some people will date an 80-year-old man, some people won't, okay? But they're not afraid to tell you what they'll do. Some people will only date certain, you know, certain type of guys who make this amount of money. Some people will date lower, you know, level guys, but still get paid, you know? It all depends on your status and where you are in life right now. But nobody judges each other like, oh, are you with him? You could do, you know, you are where you are for now, and eventually you work your way up, okay? There's some women out there that got guys paying more money and buying them better stuff than my husband buying but, you know, we're all at different levels, you know? They might look 10 times better than me, you know? And that's what they deserve. So they might have 10 times better games than me and that's what they deserve, you know? But, you know, I feel like if you feel like you deserve it, that's what you're gonna get. You know, if you feel like you don't deserve it, you're not gonna get it. If you feel like you deserve it, you're gonna get it, okay? Everybody in the comments, all the guys telling me I don't deserve what I got. My husband is this, my husband is that. He gonna leave you one day, I don't feel that way. I feel like I deserve everything plus more and that's why I keep getting it. Because I feel it, I vibrate deserving more. I vibrate getting more, I vibrate this, okay? That's why you're there because you feel like any type of woman that will deal with you doesn't deserve anything. That's why you don't get no women. That's why all the women y'all mess with are low class and y'all can't get anywhere. Because you feel like she don't deserve nothing. Therefore, you feel like you don't deserve nothing. So I can't help y'all there, guys. It's all in here. Girls are never bums. What are you talking about? Girls are not bums, okay? We got money, okay? I got money, I got money. My own money, I have my own money. I'm not a bum. I'm just teaching women how to upgrade their relationships status, you know? And most of these women, like I said, they have good jobs. They have good careers. They're not just sitting at home in their mom's house on YouTube trolling men's videos. They actually have money already, you know? Every woman I've talked to, they're not broke, okay? Because they're just not. Like, the difference between men and women is that women have ambition, goals, drives, because we like comfort, we like things. We like to have stuff. We can't go without stuff, so we gotta go work, okay? We can't go without stuff. Y'all can't. All y'all need is a hair cut and some soap. And some of y'all don't even use the soap, okay? So women are always gonna do good, no matter what, because we like things. That's just it. So if you call a woman a bum, you need to look yourself in the mirror. Women are not bummed. We can get paid just to be a woman. We can get paid just to be a woman. We can get paid to just stand there naked, okay? We can get paid to talk on the phone to a man. We can get paid to do the simplest, stupidest, we can get paid to sprinkle glitter on a potato, okay? There are men out there who will click $50 to see a woman sprinkle some glitter on a potato. Why, I don't know, but we can get paid for it. Can you get paid for that? Women are not bummed. We are magical creatures that can get paid to sprinkle glitter on a potato, okay? So don't come up in here and talk about women are bummed. Women can make a job out of no job, okay? And they don't even have to look cute, okay? You can have messed up teeth and everything and still do good in life. I got one minute left, y'all. I'm having fun, but male strippers, yeah, but y'all gotta work. And y'all ain't gonna get them big bills. Y'all gonna go like $2, $1, and y'all gotta actually work out, sweat, put oil on your body, go to work. Being a male stripper is probably harder than being a female stripper, I think. Y'all gotta do some tricks and y'all gotta take Viagra and what else? Y'all gotta do a bunch of stuff, get some costumes and learn how to dance and have some type of gimmick. Y'all gotta work way harder. I've been to the female strip club and the male strip club. Female strip club, they just take off their clothes and go like this. And men, they have to do push-ups, dance, flip, swing from rope, yeah, I've been to the gym. They shave everybody part, every hair on their body. What else? They gotta get waxed, they gotta do a lot. The stuff that they wouldn't normally do, so, yeah. And then they still don't even get paid because women don't give male strippers that much money. That men do, okay? Okay, so I gotta go, y'all. My consultation is waiting for a bit. So I'll see y'all on the next one. Share this video, y'all know people need to hear this. Y'all know y'all got that one friend who entertained and that broke dude and making excuses for him instead of bragging on him. This is what they need to hear, all right? I'll see y'all later. Bye!