 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel? My name is Lloyd. I had a question from this guy I need basically writes Lloyd. I need some help Okay I'm able to get a phone number pretty easily. In fact, I've gotten 10 phone numbers in the last week and a half Okay, but of those phone numbers only two of them have messaged me back and of those two Basically both of them ghosted me within three days. So none of these phone numbers have panned out for him He writes Lloyd, I don't know what to do. Please help me out. Here's some of the messages that I'm sending these girls Please tell me why they aren't messaging me back Okay, cool Well, I'm not gonna go over the messages that he sends to be honest. I think they're fine I'm not even sure if it's the message. That's the problem here. Probably not But basically I can relate to this problem, man You know, I used to have this problem pretty badly when I was first putting myself out there first talking to people You know, I would get a girl's phone number I would think it would go well and then you know, I try and messenger and then nothing, you know And this happened to me again and again and again And it took me some time to learn why this wasn't happening and this is Extremely super common problem with a lot of the students that I have but we're able to work through it pretty well And I'm gonna go over how we're able to work through it in this video So I'm gonna cover why these girls aren't messaging him back and why they're not messaging you back If this is a problem with you And also to how to make sure to get these girls to message you back and not only message you back But want to go out on a date with you hang out with you in real life Which hopefully is why you got the number in the first place So before I get into this if you guys are wondering about how to get coached by me in person I just had some spots open up So there's one or two spots that are open in my coaching program If you guys want to get on that Fill out the form down below if we think you're a good fit. We'll get back to you Okay, cool. So why aren't these girls messaging him back? Well, dude, like in what I had to learn and this is kind of a harsh truth Is that the reason why they're not messaging you back is not because of the messages you're sending The messages you're sending are fine And I'm sure they're fine for a lot of you guys The message doesn't really matter that much But what does matter is having a solid interaction Before you ask for that phone number before you messenger You should have had a solid interaction, you know, you can only do so much over text In fact, if you have a bad interaction, it doesn't matter how good you are at texting How funny, smart, clever or whatever, you know She's probably not going to message you back if you don't have a solid interaction ahead of time So it becomes paramount to have a solid interaction because the truth is getting a phone number is pretty cheap It's pretty easy In fact, a lot of women will give you their phone number just so they don't have to talk to you anymore Or maybe they gave you their phone number thinking at the time. Oh, this guy's kind of cute Like I'm having a lot of fun. They're feeling good But then later on they start to think about it and they start to think oh like I'm gonna have to go on a date with this guy I'm going to be messaging him back and forth and going on the date or hanging out with a dude that she doesn't really know that well Is a pretty big deal for a girl, you know, sometimes they can get pretty nervous and scared So she has to be pretty sure and if she's not sure then a lot of times they're going to go to or they're just not going to message you at all Okay, so it's pretty important to have a solid interaction before you get that phone number Now, how do you have a solid interaction? Well, I'm going to be covering the steps in this video So I'm going to give you guys a you know Uh more of a guideline to make sure that you're having a solid interaction solid enough that she's going to want to go out with You again Okay, so the first thing that I would say is you have to make sure that she's interested in you She wants to go out with you but a lot of you guys Reading women is pretty tough Especially if you're first starting out and sometimes it could be tough for me too You know, I've been doing this for a really long time So one thing that you can start doing is to talk with her for longer Okay, make sure that you talk with her for longer than just like 30 seconds If you just walk up to her say, hey, I think you're cute. What's your phone number? Like she's probably not going to message you back Even if she does think you're cute, even if she does think, hey, you know, this guy's kind of cool Maybe I'll hang out with him for a little bit. No, she's probably not going to message you You know talk with her for a little bit longer Ask her some questions Now if you guys are wondering what to talk about how to keep that conversation going I have tons of videos on the subject I recommend watching my five questions I ask every girl when I'm out Basically, these are five questions that you can turn to your oh shit questions If I can't think of anything to talk about They're simple easy relaxed questions to keep the conversation going And they're at questions I still use to this day You can also check out my video on how to never run a thing to say that's a good one too but basically Ask these questions like where are you from? What do you do? You know who you hear with like what are you up to those types of questions are pretty easy to keep going Like if I just start talking to a girl on the street or something like that I'm like cool. So what are you up to? Are you walking to work or something like that? Oh, okay. Nice. Cool. Well, I'm walking that way too. Let's walk. So, you know, something like that can happen Okay, cool. So Talk longer remember to ask those five questions to keep the conversation going now once you've built up a little bit of Report then you can start getting into the man-to-woman connection where you start teasing her a little bit You start playing around having some playful banter between the two of you have some good positive man-to-woman energy um And then from there, you know, keep the conversation going for as long as she feels comfortable Honestly, like the longer you have a conversation the better your chances are Okay So if it seems like she wants to leave or I got to go for some reason Well, then it becomes time to ask for their phone number So basically what I'll do is I'll have a reason to ask for the phone number. Okay So this is the way I'll usually ask for it. If I can't think of anything decent to say I'll just be like, uh Hey, listen, I got a run right now, but I'd love to continue this conversation Do you have whatsapp or an instagram or something like that? Then that's the way I'll ask for it. Okay I typically like to get their phone number and not their instagram or a social media or something like that because um, I don't want to be Scrambled in a bunch of dms with other dudes You know, I want to get her phone number if I can so I'll usually just ask for that But again, that's a pretty good reason to ask for it. Okay. She knows why I asked for the phone number She knows what I'm going to do once I've gotten her phone number She knows I'm going to message her because I want to continue the conversation And it's enough of a commitment all she's committing to at that point is just to continue the conversation She hasn't committed to a day yet. She's not thinking too far in the future where she can psych herself out She's just saying hey, this is a cool guy. You know, I'd love to continue this conversation with him too Now after I get the phone number a lot of times what I'll do is I'll talk to them for a little bit longer after that Okay, so too many guys once they get the phone number, they just take it and run Okay, that's not a good way to end the interaction. You want to end it on a high note End it on a note where she's starting to feel good and comfortable with you So even then I'll even if I say what I just said where I got her run But I'd love to continue this conversation. I'll talk to them for a little bit after I'll be like, so what's going on with you this week? Can you do anything fun? Okay, cool. Yeah, I was actually thinking of doing something there, too You know this they got this cool salsa event Do you like salsa and then I'll just maybe I'll talk about a salsa event And then I can that's another reason for me to get her phone numbers to text her about the salsa event She if she likes salsa But I'm going to continue the conversation maybe ask her a few more questions and then I'll be like, oh, shit I actually I really got to go Anyway, it was great meeting you give her a little hug You know wish her well and then I'll probably start texting you're like pretty soon after that. Okay That's a more solid interaction Then what I see a lot of my students doing and a lot of other guys doing and what I was doing before previously So hopefully this helps you guys if you made it and consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week and guys before you leave before you go Okay, if you're wondering what to text the girl after you get her phone number Take stay tuned for my next video because that's exactly the subject that I'm going to be covering And guys if you're wondering about how to get coached by me in person too I have a live training schedule that you can view down below I'm going to be doing an american tour january february march So take a look at that again guys keep the conversation going for longer Make sure you establish a firm solid connection with her before you get the phone number That's the most important part 90 of the work is done before you send that first message Although once you send that message, there's still a high likelihood that you can fuck it up So if you want to learn how to do it the correct way stay tuned for this next video Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there