 Okay And we should be going live Hi, everyone. This is Chicho. Welcome to my channel and welcome to another live stream Today is August 17 2020 and what a year it is and Today we're doing an open discussion on relationships the do's and don'ts of human interaction Okay, and we've done Couple of these minimum probably more Young bollocks. How are you doing test test? Hey, Chicho, how are you doing? Hope you're doing well. Were you waiting I usually come on there and do a little test Make sure the chat's working fine While we wait for notifications to go out. I'm just gonna do my little intro Sometimes twitch is slow on the notifications. I was Fun it is fun sort of chill relax get prepared doona You know get into a nice little discussion and see where it takes us, right? So today's live stream relationships the doons it do's and don'ts of human human interaction I've done a few of these At least two three four maybe over the last year or two years or so and the discussion is always interesting and all kinds of questions discussions and Suggestions advice regarding different types of relationship are always shared which is Always appreciate it now as far as we are What we're up to what we're doing if you want to follow this work if you want to support this work We're on patreon patreon.com forward slash Chicho CHY CH O I don't put anything behind paywalls Everything's creative commons share and share alike you can follow this work and After a while of tracking what it is that we do if you do have the funds and if you Think it appropriate you can always support this work through patreon to make sure that we continue With this project the holy Spider-man and ground. How are you guys doing? I'm so excited for this. Whoo-hoo. Yeah, relationships is a kicker man That's everything that we're seeing right now happen in the world taking place in the world is because of People not really appreciating what a relationship how we relate to others really means Right if you want to participate in these live streams in the chat as it's happening Twitch is where you want to be at. That's twitch.tv forward slash Chicho live CHY CHO L I V E Okay, and for those of you who are here will be coming here once the notifications goes out and people start rolling in Thank you for being here. Thank you for discussions mod. Thank you for taking care of business. Thank you for the subs Thank you for the follows. Thank you for the bits. Anna. Hey Chicho making chicken in the pressure cooker. Nice with BBQ sauce Hoping it will turn out while still learning the thing nice nice pressure cookers are awesome, especially for cooking beans, right? Liam six seven eight nine. Hey just in time for bed. What a treat much love brother lots of love right back cyberpunk Chicho, are you Sicilian? No, but I have I have Italian friends or should I say Sicilian friends one of them being a Guido Ground I feel like I have a lot to say about relationships. I think everybody does right now ground There's a lot of deep emotions and relationships involved in teaching huge huge huge Cheryl. How are you doing? Hi all hello Chicho lonely piggy. How's it going? I'm assuming notifications went out because people are rolling in Chicho. How's life brother been keeping super busy with the streams I see awesome. Yeah. Yeah, I'm loving it man it's What's going on in the world is fuel to the fire for me because it's really sort of encompasses everything that I've been doing for the last 15 years or so online so It's interesting it's interesting cyberpunk Okay, cuz Chicho is a nickname for Sicilian is it she chose a nickname for Sicilian you gotta be kidding me I think in Bulgarian Chicho means uncle some people been saying that already 20 people here. That's awesome. Awesome. Awesome Anna When do you release the valve on the pressure cooker? after all it depends on the it depends on the meat Anna like What did you have chicken in there? I've actually never cooked chicken in a pressure cooker I cook things in a pressure cooker that require higher pressure With chicken it'd be nice to be juicy as long as you have enough liquid in there to Put it in Roast as well is really good in a pressure cooker, but chickpeas like Certain Persian dishes pressure cooker beans pressure cooker. It really depends like for example If something you're gonna cook in a normal pot Under medium, you know get it to a boil to and put it down to medium or low heat For about hour and a half pressure cooker would be about 25 minutes, right? So cut cuts back your cooking time by about two-thirds Okay, just keep that ratio in mind. It's a nickname for the name Francis Francis really Chicho Francis. That's cool, man Mr. Nobi one love each other be honest in the face of failure Otherwise, what are we doing on this planet when I got sober? I gave up on the lies in relationship. Peace and love everyone. Peace and love brother. That's a nice highlighted message Almost at a hundred thousand K channel points. Nice spider-man Dax Decker, I'm not sure really what that means, but nice I teach on chat. Hope you're doing well teach. Oh good morning. Pleased to be here. Nice Jack How are you doing and max welcome to now live stream? 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P and blessings of course Dragons how's life? What up? What up? and We will be uploading this video this live stream to YouTube and bit shoot if you want to follow this work Bit shoot you get everything that we do YouTube is a censored version of What we do spider-man. Thank you for hosting of course as always Right, and if you want to support this work if you're on YouTube joining YouTube membership is also fantastically support this project JJC you're currently building a PC man I've I've bought the PC the my editing soft my editing computer I bought all the parts But I was a little sketchy on putting it together So I hired a company gave it to a company to put it all together and it's been a great PC man It's been going hard for like good almost 10 years Lot of these videos that we've edited I'm gonna take these things down, but it is having hiccups now I need to build another PC, but we'll deal with that when hopefully sooner rather than later Anyway, lonely piggy funny how the world works been playing some world of warcraft more than ever especially given the social distancing measures Which makes gaming all the more perfect met someone talk with them a while and we eventually met up in person Wow, I'm in Montreal. She's an Ottawa. Wow. Wow. Wow weeks later. We're dating. Wow. Wow. Wow Lucky me for finding someone perfect like that and so close on a game with millions of plays crazy crazy awesome lonely piggy congrats congrats That's great you met one on a world of warcraft. That's fantastic man. That's the first stuff. I haven't heard that one before. That's great That's great praise be spider-man Haha Nice build one on stream When the time comes I'm gonna ask, you know people's feedback on discord Maybe we'll do a live stream and go online and pick what we what I need to put together in an order it, right? build one on stream Yeah, oh, that's what you mean build one. I read that a steam or something build one on stream Yeah, we maybe we do that right we build one During a live stream. Yeah, that'd be great actually That'd be great. I thought discord but in the back of my mind was thinking stream, but it would be super cool Nate, please watch the beavis and butthead episode but nicks. They do poetry Nice One hey chicho, what do you think the importance of open discussion is in a relationship? Not making a joke, but you are just a little older than me Just a little like that me So in your experience, what what I uh, what what I'd better stating Stating what you need Or opening a dialogue as to what the relationship needs first of all honesty is huge, right When whatever you do if you're in an intimate relationship, I'm assuming this is more intimate or it couldn't be not intimate You got to be honest If you find if you're in a relationship with anyone that lies That relationship do not let it get too close to you Okay, if you're in a relationship where the other party is lying to you That is not a constructive relationship Eliminate that Okay, or reduce that type of relationship to a bare minimum. That's one thing I learned over the years really It took me a long time Don't have an intimate relationship may it be physical intimacy personal intimacy work Intimacy, right Don't let anyone that lies too close to you. Keep them always at an arm's length. That would be I think one of the main things. I'm not sure if that answer your question or not Shoot here players. I literally just did a bunch of updates to my rig last year. Nice Mick lonely piggy. You need to change You need to change your twitch name. You're not lonely anymore. Ah good catch, Mick Good catch New egg has a part picker Superzy. I think that's where we got my computer last time. That was like 10 years ago And amazing a new egg still around Okay, sleepy waves. How you doing? What's up chichou? Just trying for a bit Tying for a bit the stream is so late eastern. Yeah, I know it's eight o'clock I Should lonely piggy says Cyberpunk, how do you have so much patience? Were you always like this? No, or did you learn to become patient? I just decided to incorporate it into my life I don't know if it's a learning thing. I think we all have the ability to be patient, right when you're young You might be impatient with things that Bug you things you don't want to do school Family and stuff like this, but you're very patient with things that you care about right So being patient. I think it's part of us. We have to be patient to learn Right when you learn how to walk you were patient. It took you a long time Right as a child as an infant you did that. You don't know you weren't aware of it But it was a part of you right Being patient To a level it comes with age through experience for me. Anyway, that's what it's how well That's that's the way it's worked and being patient One of the reasons is Because I've decided to be that way the other reason is I've eliminated things in my life that made me impatient Right, so if I have friends that were Bugging a crap out of me or associate that were bugging a crap out of me that Introduced an element into my life that I wasn't it wasn't bringing out the best of me Right, or it was highlighting the worst of me. I slowly stopped interacting in those relationships, right So experience is huge JJC Is a great place you can't post links JJC only mods and myself can place links Your parts but on discord you can so you can definitely share that stuff on discord Okay It makes sure all of your parts are compatible with each other cool Lots of videos on how to build a pc and what parts you pick. Yeah, awesome I had I got a friend of mine to do it to pick the parts for me actually at that time, right? We just went bop bop bop bop and it came out good he was uh he was a Computer, uh, he was a teacher. He taught computer science in a school. So he knew all the stuff and I'm not in contact with them anymore Lying by emotion is also a thing lying by omission is also a thing deception Right in the beginning we have to lie or well Will scare people away? Uh Nate I disagree Okay, it depends where you are, right If they outright if someone comes out to you and outright asks you something and you lie That's on you right If your relationship isn't at a point where you can share deep intimate Personal information then sure you haven't reached that point yet But if a person that you want to start a relationship asks your question and you Out like right lie Then you've started off that relationship on the wrong foot, right? You could say you don't have to answer the question You could say i'm not comfortable answering that question right now and move on If that person's wise enough, they'll go okay. Let's go a little slower, right? Nate I think there's a Graham says Nate. I think there's a fair point and a distinction worth exploring I Can't tell a new mate all yours. No, and you why should you? I I have friends That they still don't know certain aspects of my life I've been streaming here sharing as much as I can for two two and a half years now, right There's a lot about me that you guys don't know right So you don't have to go out and Spill the beans and share everything one of the things that keeps keeps relationships hot is Is the unknown right you don't have to sit there and just Talk about everything you've done in your life. Let the relationship grow Right because there's going to be things you're going to do together that are going to be part of your life You don't have to hold on to everything you've done before they don't it doesn't have to be an open book going in right As long as the person is willing to read a book you can read it slowly savor the moment right teacher what keeps things exciting relationship Many things experimentation Right willing to do things your partner wants to do that. You're not really having experience Making sure your partner is aware of that not lying Uh separation Right make sure you have a long time Make sure you have interest that your partner is not necessarily interested in and vice versa Make sure You you or your partner if they need that time to spend with other people they have enough time to spend with other people Giving your partner space is very important Right to grow as long as you're growing together right experimentation is one thing honesty is another thing um So far anyway Relationships are scary when something crazy happens that stuff often leads to you being scared of it or trauma. Yeah Trauma Breaks apart many relationships right i'm going to say lying. Okay of the other person isn't worth your Yeah, we're just avoidance Right Zoot, how are you doing? Hi cutie. Not sure if I could be with a guy that keeps me at arm's length Guys are like video game controllers Guys are like video game controllers. How so? They have a stick Thank you for explanation cyberpunk says that helps me My pleasure if it was me my pleasure if someone else. Thank you for the reply to cyberpunk I lose the name sometimes knit. What if they aren't worth your truth then? Don't interact with them. I've look i've gone to Bars clubs social gatherings and stuff like this when someone comes to me and asks me a question And maybe i've seen them before maybe i know them maybe i don't feel like interacting with them I go dude i'm not into this i'm not into talking to you right And i just sometimes i'm just short with them. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, sorry got to go If you're not into it, you're not into it. It's your life. You choose who you let into your life or not Hello, mario. Oh my god. Where's aldergod? Is aldergod here? Aldergod. How you doing? Many people equate that to a lie. Nate says What you know a lie is an out lie lie like Here for someone comes up to me and says hey Chicho, do you do you stream online? I'm not gonna go no Right Like that's a lie Do you chicho? Do you have a website? No No, that's a lie. Right if they say chicho, do you have a website and say well I I play around online a little bit Right what you guys guys italian Chicho that is an astute response. I like that. I'm not comfortable sharing that obviously not deceptive. It's not deceptive. No Then you're lying to us Mick openness was key for me in my relationship The ability to take a step back and discuss a tricky situation One or both of you are uncomfortable with is key as long as it is conducted in a calm yet expressive manner that makes sure make sure that the Uncomfort is Untangled and solved. Yeah, I agree with Mick. Right and One thing you have to appreciate you have to let the other person be who they are Right or who they want to be Who they want to work towards being right making sure you don't Forbid A partner from doing something They need to talk it out. Right I think we should all keep some things to ourselves. I agree with a young polax, right? Chicho is a mystery. Chicho is a mystery. That's what keeps us going back One you answered my question very well. He says It's my fault didn't explain the question better There have been times in my life where I thought I had a relationship figured out But it wasn't until the other party explained to me what my importance Was to them. So the question really is should we lead With this honesty or get it or get to it at a later day It it's a stepwise situation, right? Like for example, if someone if you want to get into a relationship With someone for Physical intimacy, right? Just physical intimacy. Be honest straight up. Look man I'm not interested in a You know, I don't know if anything long term. I don't have that perspective in mind But I do want to be physically intimate with one person if you're into one person If you want to be multiple people you say, hey, I'm open But I'm really attracted to you. I want to be physically intimate with you Same matter as if you go if you like playing pool, for example, right? I don't know if any of you guys play game Well, of course you guys play games about pool or any other types of games really in person, right? You can join a pool club To play pool There's a little bit of interaction there social and you ask questions Sometimes people hit it off and they go out outside of the pool Group, right pool games on a weekly basis or every second week or whatnot Right, but for me, I've been into pool groups, right playing billiards and nine ball and eight ball and whatnot, right? Well, where I kept those relationships mainly At the club at the pool table, right? So you can have relationships with different people on different levels So it really depends on the level you want to go to Right, if we're talking about intimate living together and stuff like this, you better be honest, right? You can figure stuff out later Right, but some of the core things you need to be honest about That is a great advice. I never thought that not sharing sometimes is a good thing. Yeah That is another example of patience patience Gang I'm going to scroll down Because it seems like there's a lot of chat. Is there oh, there's something I'm going to hit up the The ones that say chicho, okay Lark, how are you doing a low in the evening? Coolio, I'm almost at the end. So I'm going to read these ones. Uh, hold on any long ones here? Coolio I've uh, I've asked them nicely. I've asked them sternly and they keep not listening They keep having one to multiple friends over every other day. No mask. No anything Coolio You can't change them. Is it time to move? Sometimes in a relationship you just need to Part ways right never try to hold on. I know moving is goddamn right now very very difficult very very difficult, right? so Is that a possibility? Is that a possibility? right Coolio, one of my roommates have has had bad asthma too. So it's endangering his actual life Is he the one bringing the friends over? If he's willing to endanger his life, it's on him Really, you have no control over that you can't control people from Risking their life. I left a note for them on our kitchen whiteboard saying if they keep doing It I may resort to getting landlord involved. It's so frustrating because now I'm Going to be seen as the bad guy. Yeah, you're going to be seen as the bad guy The other choice Coolio if you can If you feel that stressed out because if they decide so for example, let's say they're not bringing people over to your apartment anymore Right. Well, they're going to hold that against you. So that relationship is already poisoned to a certain degree There's going to be animosity there. You guys are going to clash again, right? So We're how far are you going to are you willing to go down that road? Right? I Don't do relationship. I'd like to keep it simple. How the god says nine ball is my life Nice nine ball is amazing, man Nine ball is man. I miss hardcore nine ball Really? I'm an american and I'm swearing off dating americans. They're doing title I don't know coolio. I don't know. I don't know if you can Put 330 million people in one basket, right? Shoot your players. Isn't that in and of itself slightly entitled English girls are very flexible in relationship. How the gods We're entitled to having our own privacy. Yeah, for sure Moving is not in the cars right now. Yeah, I figured it'd be very difficult coolio Right. I literally just moved the main. Oh, you moved in and made Cooper scooper My bad Step one when she doesn't put her headphones back In after answering your questions with a short one two word. Yes You just look the first you just took the first time. Hold on. What is this zoot? Let me read this step one When she doesn't put her headphones back in after answering your question with a short one to two word answer You just took the first step. Ah is this uh Giving advice someone zoot Black 98 in for black lady and laughter. I never had a girlfriend and a weirdo only girlfriend. I have I never paid attention to her. She ended up leaving. Yeah You got to pay attention to your partner being in a relationship is hard work Right, but it's rewarding Right, it's like working out working out is hard work, but it's rewarding Right cooking amazing food sometimes takes a while, but it's rewarding Right, so you're mentioning patience and savoring relationships But I've also remembered your advice about short and intense relationships at the same time for sure Of course, that's why I say it's on a spectrum. Right. That's why I say, what do you want out of it? Right, I've had very short very intense relationships Which are amazing, right? Uh Yeah, some just lasted days Right and we moved on coolio chicho the roommate with asma isn't the one bringing friends over I am not even uh stingy. I don't care what they do outside the house That's their choice but bringing me a needless risk to our house So you guys need to get together. So how many how many of you is there coolio? So so far there's three of you guys, right? Well, you guys need to sit down and put on some ground rules, right? If you and your friend that has asthma if there's three of you Tell this third roommate. Hey, listen, buddy There's a pandemic going around the numbers going through the roof. We really don't know what this thing is I don't care what your political views are. You must understand. There's something going on Stop bringing people in if not get the f out, right Democracy rules if there's three of you have a sit-down if there's four of you have a sit-down if there's five of you have a sit-down If it's just two of you It's one or the other, right? But if there's odd people even if there's even people have a sit-down coolio, why not? You should move move if you can't communicate About this sleepy wave says COVID ain't going anywhere. Yes not going anywhere It's fucked up if you have someone Vulnerable living with you, but if the roommate that has people over doesn't care at home They probably don't care what they do outside either meaning you will always be sick or have the potential, right? I have a romantic issue. I often think I like certain people But I cool on them pretty quickly. Well, that's okay There's nothing wrong with that Ah grab check and look watermelon some toast and feta cheese Okay That's what I got as snacks. It's crazy hot here right now This is gonna focus. Look at that. Oh, is it gonna focus? Is it gonna focus? Is it gonna focus? Is it gonna focus? It's not gonna focus. Oh, is it is it? Look at that It doesn't know what to focus on Watermelon feta cheese because watermelon gives you gas so feta cheese is salty And the bread is volume and it's crazy delicious And you can take them both at the same time All right Very delicious Coolio, it is just three and sleepways moving isn't financially in the cars right now I'm saving for multiple reasons right now and rent is affordable because we're in okay cool coolio There's three of you guys sit down and talk before you contact the landlord There's three of you guys Sit down and talk between each other if you can't Come to a resolution Right if two of you want to tell this one person not to bring friends over or Reduce the number of friends or if they're bringing friends over make sure they go to their room And if the third roommate is not willing And you can't compromise Then you can talk to the landlord or bring the outside party in but there's three of you guys You should be able to resolve the situation, right? I'm going to scroll down again zoot woman are socialized to be accommodating to the point of literally putting Ourselves in danger If you see fear annoyance in her eyes, you screwed up that I agree if you see fear You screwed up huge huge annoyance You could be playful in annoying them and by the way, zoot. I'm sorry if I'm Deleting one of your things, but I don't think I'm not really deleting it. I'm specifying it because sometimes I'm annoying, right, but then People know who I am and they come to love me again All right, but uh, yeah fear no If you scare someone you really cross the line, right? Unless you're meant to scare them That's my my take on it. COVID-19 is no joke. Nope. Jeez Graham, what's your definition of crazy hot? What's my definition of crazy hot? Oh, there's multiple definitions Um, island king divinity chicho me and my it depends on the mood. I mean Me and my post most recent ex-girlfriend went on break after a few months because the timing was really bad With all the stuff we had going on plus COVID-19 I think the timing of your current life situation and your partner's matters heavily for a relationship to be stable 100% agree divinity Right. It really depends where you are in your life I I've been in relationships that Unfortunately, they were at the wrong time Strawberry liqueur is ready. And oh my god. This is so Good So amazingly good Really the strawberry liqueur Like so yummy so yummy It's disappearing insanely fast Cheryl agrees with zoot. So I'm going to read zoot comment again. Okay Zoot, let's check this out Recommendation gang regarding relationships quote Women are socialized to be accommodating to the point of literally putting ourselves in danger If you see fear annoyance in her eyes You screwed up End quote. This is advice from Two women coming to you Uh, because I'm assuming most of you guys here are guys, right? Take these words to heart Okay, me being chicho. I sort of said annoyance. I've annoyed people before and then in the future We build an amazing relationship Right sometimes you build an amazing relationship and then I started annoying them, right? But if you're starting out, uh Fear and annoyance you screwed up gang. Okay, take those words to heart Cool, I will try to talk to them about it about it after work tomorrow. It's three 11 30 p.m. Here right now But yeah, I've just been stressed due to my mom being a teacher and school starting back up soon Her distinct Her this district still hasn't come up with a game plan yet. Yeah a lot of school districts haven't and by the way coolio you're Understanding accepting that you're in a stressed out situation, right? So that is really making you impatient sharp most likely, right? Make sure you chew your words before you speak and keep in mind if the Friend with asthma is okay with this friend bringing other friends over right Then you've been outvoted. So be willing to take Accept the outcome of the discussion, but talk about it. And if the outcome is that Then you can't push them anymore, right? Because it was decided that it was okay to bring friends over You have to live with it. You have to deal with it until you're willing to move out, right? You can't keep on saying I don't agree with the decision. Okay, and you have to make that clear From the onset really because it could go in your favor as well. It really depends on the asthma guy Right, I'm assuming and if he has asthma and if he's okay with a lot of people coming over Then he's a dingling anyway. So you really don't want to live in a house over with a couple of dinglings Right because the the guy who's bringing friends over even though he doesn't know what it is Right, he's willing to put the other friend that has asthma's life at risk And the guy with asthma Is stupid enough to be willing to put it to put his life at risk to accommodate another dingling So you're living in a house with two dinglings if it goes against you I don't know. I've done that before myself too, right? But at some point you got a clean house Yummy food I'm going back some dairy and food not looking for a partner right now But sometimes I get lonely and I miss having someone uh young uh pollocks I think everybody's been in that situation. I know I have right and you get frustrated sometimes You're too eager to hook up with someone or Make new friends. You just have to chill. Usually when you chill What you want comes your way I've never really liked feta though. Oh Watermelon feta is amazing chichu. You always have the best food You got to eat healthy man. You want to live healthy? You got to eat healthy. I'm in Sleepy waves. I'm in five months in a new relationship, and I'm so in love I hope this isn't intense and short though. It doesn't seem like it. Okay good on you sleepy waves Spider-man zoo that's 100 correct. So spider-man agrees with zoo. Cheryl agrees with you got to agree with you there. Nice. Oh my god Toes, how are you doing chicho being annoying? That's impossible. Oh spider-man indeed Toes chicho is live chicho is live I'm scrolling down gangs I'm gonna do strawberry or watermelon legs. Oh the strawberry is ridiculously good Ridiculously like seriously and there's a couple of strawberries in this I put as well Check it out I want to pop this one. Here's a strawberry Right and the strawberry gets the liqueur flavor the alcohol flavor This is gonna focus. I don't think it's gonna focus Too dark very yummy Very yummy Divinity chicho. Do you have videos on making the strawberry liqueur? Yeah. Yeah, check our liqueur Videos, it's the same recipe really I check out the last one. This is the batch from the last one which was like a month ago Right the last liqueur video will have the strawberries in there Coolio chicho getting back to the stream topic a little more. Well your your discussion is stream topic I'd say relationship with oneself is underrated in our society. I agree with you 100 percent I've learned a lot about myself After several good and several bad relationships But I've learned most from being single and learning to enjoy my life My own company when I needed to any advice on loving yourself Any advice on loving yourself spend time alone solo For me gang I don't know if I'm the best person to give relationship advice with but I can Let you know like what coolio brings up here. I agree with 100 percent for me up to my Early 30s most of my life. I spent single Right, I didn't get into long-term relationships. Not often not Often often is not even the right word, right The relationships I was in were very short term and most of my most of my life was single right It was amazing I couldn't I couldn't grasp the concept where I had friends that jump from one relationship to another relationship to another relationship to another relationship And whenever I wanted to do something with them, they're like, oh, I got to check with my partner or their partner will come There's is a dynamic of two people So how could you get to know yourself when you're always in a relationship? The dynamic is two people if you want to get to know yourself you have to be alone By yourself Right as soon as you introduce one other person The dynamic totally changes right so I agree. I think like I tell you truth. I don't even think Anybody in high school should be dating anyone else in high school on a long-term basis Right they got friends in high school that dated each other for three years. Oh my god Great in high school here is grade eight nine ten eleven twelve for three years That were together three out of five years of high school life when you're going through puberty and you're you were with someone Now, you know, I'm pretty sure there's some of you who've done that but for me that was just and in high school Everybody's going through puberty. So everything's chaotic and everybody's crazy. All right, so all of them. I don't remember any One of my friends that were in relationships long term Not fighting like I remember them not fighting, but I there was there was always fighting involved They'd be yelling and screaming. I'm like Jesus Christ like Wow, like this is what you guys choose to be You know, I I we'd be going to parties. I say hey gang, let's go to a party and they're like, oh, I don't feel like One of them would really want to go the other one wouldn't so the one that really wouldn't want to go wouldn't go And if they went, you know, there's a little argument. It's just like, oh my god too much drama Mr. Hezekiah, how are you doing? Hello? Hello? My advice on loving yourself is do what you love and get it 100% and don't give a f what other people say Yeah, that's a pretty good advice, but be be kind be courteous, right? Don't Mess around with other people's ride, right? Just because you're on your ride, right? Ahakulio says to sleepy way saw your comment about your relationship. Congrats. Enjoy every moment indeed Yeah, I should have said that as well. Good job, Kulio Mr. Hezekiah, I went down a succulent rabbit of all recently. I have a problem And a and a growl lit light Cannabis Taha succulents are cool Is aloe a type of succulent? I don't know Aloe is a succulent. Aloe is a succulent Thoughts so yeah, so they have medicinal properties too Yeah, aloe is really amazing if you burn yourself You break aloe leaves and rub it on your Burnt areas is very cooling and you hold it and then you can use multiple leaves I highly recommend having aloes Aloe is one of the most important medicinal plants ever, Graham says Have you ever read, heard of the book, the subtle art of not giving a Not giving an F Not giving an F I haven't heard it Kulio to young polax. I don't like that book at all. Well, Graham says you've read it, Graham I have but I don't like reading books Young polax you need to start reading some books anyway This one is short and sweet and the author has a good sense of humor Mr. Hezekiah I like succulents that look like they belong In alien world. Yeah, indeed succulents are amazing and they're so easy to take care of so easy to take care of watermelon cheese Right And a piece of toast Black 98 I'm in the same time zone as you are It's 8 50 here as well 8 50 p.m. I hope you're having a fantastic Monday evening And this is so addictive Polax 5 40 45 a.m. Here. Wow. Wow. Wow You're in the uk europe more moonflower It blooms and night nice So it's a nightshade Spider-man. Yeah Okay, I gotta stop eating the watermelon and cheese Yeah 8 45 8 46 belgium It also climbs cool moonfires a variety of morning glory. Oh morning glory Morning glories are um From what understand psychoactive anthogens, right? Morning glories are cool. Very cool. There are um The nightshades are amazing as well the tours they are psychoactive for sure psychedelic The tours You don't want to mess around with that My mom used to grow moonflowers growing up. I once stayed up Until the bloom and it was like during a full is moonflower the one with the flat leaves And then the the stems that come out and it looks like a like a head of a Snake and then all I have those those are amazing It opens up in the like around 12 or 1 o'clock in the morning. It looks like a damn alien the aroma is Absolutely wild Right and then come morning. It just dies down That's the one I've had and I've and I've stayed up all night There's a couple of times where they were flowering. I would stay up all night and wash them bloom and just spend the night with them and When they closed off and died I would uh go to bed Amazing experience The chicken turned out amazing gonna smoke some herb as well tonight nice ana enjoy enjoy Way easier ways to get hot the morning glories. Yes indeed It is different though. That's the one. But yeah, I haven't done personally I'm very very In very large doses morning glory seeds produce an lst type effect. Yeah, but they are dangerous as well. You have to Make sure your diet is certain certain right What are those flowers called in mario with those teeth in mario? They were calling them piranha flowers piranha plants, but I don't I don't think they're called their their uh venus fly traps I think I'm not sure If piranha plants is really a thing in nature No, they're not in the same family as poppy seeds as far as I know the morning the night shades or what did you call them? moonflowers Chicho I'm curious to hear your thoughts on ask versus guess culture communication styles as in As it pertains to relationship Ask versus guess culture Communication ask versus guess communication I think there's I'm not familiar with this. I'm just trying to figure out what what it entails but For me, there's always going to be guessing when you're getting into a relationship at first even in long-term relationship sometimes I assume my partner is thinking something and Then it comes out that I was wrong and vice versa Right and then there's times where I just straight out have to ask what they're thinking I think all relationship has to have both elements in them uh I don't I don't think either one was absolute. I think it's uh again. It's a spectrum All right, so go go back on relationships. Have I ever told you the story behind me and my wife? No spider-man you haven't Tell us about it spider do your first kiss better Have been upside down in the rain. Nice with the wife with the wife That's good spider-man says spider-wife, uh-huh It was in an airport really, but we've definitely done the spider-man kiss since then. Ah, have you guys done the upside down kiss? Nice Who's hanging? Most important quality in a man You're not the overly emotional and hotheaded type We are going to piss you off Things don't always go your way. Listen to mr. Chico So zoots zoots advice Most important quality in a man You're not the overly emotional and hotheaded type We are going to piss you off Things don't always go your way And listen to mr. Chico Funny Coolio. She's here. It's what chicho We can have a live couple discussion with spider-man and his wife on your relationship stream Sure What do you guys want to talk about she comes in clutch Got to go to bed more work to do gram the sweet dreams brother sweet dreams. Thank you for popping in I hope you have a fantastic day tomorrow Okay, and the whole week really your school work has started so Uh, I hope you guys are getting enough rest and everything's being managed properly tell the story spider-man wife Because i'm lazy Spider-man says Oh, thank god to zoot today. I'm too old for you Too too bad for you too old too bad. Oh, no 100 correct spider-man So The man the legend smith, how are you doing spider-man? But spider spider wife mj. Mary jane states We met on facebook in the asmr community We were friends online and started texting talking a lot playing video games together, etc And kind of just fell in love But he lived in new york and I lived in washington state at the time. Wow. Wow. Wow On the facebook asmr community facebook Facebook asmr community very cool very cool I'm playing video start playing video games together So That's great She was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar name that song Is it the eagles is something from an eagles Are you older than mr. Chicho the zoo that's asking elder god I call him cutie all the time elder god is a younger cutie than Menchicho I sure am sending some love to spider wipe No, a few years younger human league Don't you want me baby? Don't you want me? Who says that wait a second. She was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar Don't you want me baby? Don't you want me? Oh, I have no idea who that is. Who is that cool? Spider-man facebook asmr community in like 2011 2012 people have facebook profiles For their asmr youtube channels since it was such a small niche So you could say uh, we were asmr hipsters nice spider-man Nice spider-man already said it elder god already said it who's what did elder god say elder god What did elder god say? What did elder god say? Who was it? Who was it? Damn I missed it human league Human league i'm not familiar with human league human league cool spider-man wife But we started long distance dating anyway We dated long distance for six months and then I went to visit him for two weeks Wow first time seeing him in person you visited him Like in real life On the day I had to leave it was one of the hardest days of my life spider wife says I was crying in in a sandwich in the airport We decided we didn't want to do long distance anymore So we saved up money and three weeks later I moved to new york. Wow three weeks Three weeks later. That's like speedy gonzala style Mr. Hezekiah, can I post a picture of my Grow room to your discord? It doesn't contain anything legal. Sure. Uh, mr. Hezekiah Yeah, why not? elder god human league. He was a big fan in the 1980s It's a one hit wonder song from the 80s. Is it one hit wonder? I don't remember it at all. I must know it We've been together ever since got married three years ago. Wow. Wow. So you You were dating for six months in 2011 2012 and then you went and visited for a couple of weeks That's you're married for three years Uh, so you guys were dating for a board living together for about five years before you got married All right And I became the luckiest man on the planet spider man steps in Spider man steps in and says I came the luckiest man on the planet spider my wife. Oh big love heart eyes spider man crack response Right Gina, how are you doing? Can someone post post it in the music channel in discord? Yeah, please post it in the music channel I want to hear it You two are sweet Cheryl says Ha ha Yes, first time seeing him. I was there for two weeks. Wow. That's why our first kiss was in an airport He was picking me up at the airport. Nice We actually started dating in 2014. Wow. Wow. Wow. Oh, yeah, that's right So you were in the ASMR community for like two three years Before you started dating and you married three years ago. Cool. Cool No, human league were part of the new romantics They had a few hits did they? Okay, cool. Is she a mary jane or a gwyn stacey? She's an mj 100% Stacey was uh, you know didn't then while In this universe anyway Is she definitely mary jane definitely mary jane. She's asian fun. Nice. Nice. Nice Hilarious fun. Salute everyone. Salute Spider-man and spider-man wife strawberry liqueur salute to you guys Delicious So good and by the way gang The strawberries this the season are insane We already took two flats and eight whatever's left was left over and those two flats That we cleaned I made jam out of them and tomorrow we're getting another flat coming in and I'm going to make more strawberry liqueur This thing's too sweet too delicious. Uh, this year's strawberries are insane So we're gonna have another strawberry liqueur going. I gotta go to the store and get uh more vodka Um spider-man says I'm very lucky to have her. Thanks for telling the story wifey Thanks for the love guys. Ah for sure spider-man. I'll drink to that. He says nice. Nice. Nice I'm restocking all my liqueurs this weekend and getting a bigger mason jar container Just go Slowly bigger and more. He's like, oh my god. You gotta have gotta have as soon as you run out of one of your favorite liqueurs They're like, oh I ran out, right Spider-man says definitely not Gwen Stacy. I really don't want my best friend dad to throw her off a bridge Indeed Gonna make a big one with a fruit. I haven't decided yet. Maybe peach or kiwi nice I would say peach would be more delicious than kiwi Kiwi might have a little bit of sharpness to it, which if you like would be cool All right Smith says how much do you want for a bottle? The cure stream Gina. Maybe we got to go blackberry picking, right? But I'm going to get the strawberries tomorrow So the odds are I'm going to make the strawberry liqueur In the next couple of days and I'm not going to go blackberry picking the next couple of days We're trying we try to go blackberry picking, but they weren't ready The area we go to some other parts were but We couldn't get enough. So we're waiting for our little Place where we picked blackberries for them to be ready. I hope we hit it on time My stash is getting to be ridiculous time to start sampling Cheryl What what I plan on doing at some point hopefully this year if things calm down a little bit is to have a liqueur party Invite some friends over as a liqueur sampling and set things up and People can sample liqueurs and eat little bits of food, I guess Is there a way to make liqueur without alcohol? Uh For strawberries one thing I've done before which you can do Do the same thing Take out the green and I would cut them up and I would put them in a bowl Okay, and I would put sugar on top right mix it all up right so The sugar gets all over the strawberries and then put it in the fridge What happens is the strawberries Sort of liquid comes out and you get a liquid sweet liquid Little bit you don't get as much as just adding vodka to it, of course, right? You get sweet liquid syrup at the bottom of the bowl Right, you can eat the strawberries save the syrup and make like Use it to make soda with soda water and stuff like this and you get a strawberry flavor, right? But I've done it. It's not the same as this It really isn't I haven't tried with anything else If you try if it works, let us know I'd like to try as well Smith said I'll buy your bootleg island grown strawberry cherry island grown organic strawberry liqueur, right Sherry sorry sherry not sherry sherry How hard is the lemon one? Does it taste like uh lemonade? Um lemon you need to age as is aging you can sample I've been doing a little bit It's sharp, but once it starts aging nicely It's uh taste more medicinal coolio is very good I remember picking blackberries in the early 2000s. I had a 9 9 0 0 The battery life was great I don't know what that is nine thousand nine hundred Coolio Cheryl I had a stash built up But I gave one jar away and drank up almost all the rest of the others They're too tempting once they're all ready the pineapple one was so good pineapple was so good so good coolio Coolio all this talk of human relationships and no talk of plant relationships. When are we doing a plant relationship stream? Uh, you mean entheogens We could I just want to make sure we don't get deep platform off twitch, right? We've done three of them and we talked a lot about entheogens, right? We only loaded one on youtube all three are available on bitshoot Um, so we can definitely do another one on entheogens or plant relationships in general, right? And one thing we haven't really talked about is your relationship with your government Your relationship with your with corporations. They're different, right? Like for me when I My relationships I have categories of relationships just like anyone else, right for me. It's been seldom that I go out and Party with people I work with I usually in general keep my work Friends as work friends, which I really don't have very many now because I've been privately working doing my own thing Without really being within a community of teachers or geophysicists and stuff like this, right? But in general I kept my work friends separate. I kept my Pool club friends and friends like that separate. I had certain types of friends that I did certain things with I had different types of friends that I did different things with Sometimes these friends over here, they could have been some of my best friends And they are some of my best friends and these friends over here They're some of my best friends and they have never ever met, right? Because they live totally different lives, right? So the relationship is so huge so huge, right? Spiderman speaking of relationships, I'm very grateful for all of the friends I've made through the chichu community And your friendships, especially chichu. We are all fun. We are all a fun bunch indeed and thank you guys as well I feel exactly the same way as spider-man, right? What an amazing experience Decentralizing our minds reading comics talking about life and drinking liqour couldn't be better. Couldn't be better I agree. I agree. I sort of when I started doing this. I sort of I'm open You know, I take the words of Bruce Lee to heart, right? And he was quoting someone else and be like water my friend, right? So let life take you on that ride and I learned that through Emptyogens for the most part, right? Because if you try to control your ride You might have a very very bad trip, right? So just go with the ride go with the flow And that's that's a bit of advice I can give you guys in life Make sure you cover your ass and land on your feet and whatnot and you're wise enough to know where It is you're going and who you're going there with and what type of situation you put yourself in Sometimes going with the flow can really mess up your life. So be aware. Be cautious, right? But don't try to control everything in your life It doesn't work Relationship with our government is just terrible. I feel yeah, I think that's the majority of humanity Their relationship with the government is miserable, right? Unless You're part of the government, right? Smith wait, what's a plant relationship? I don't like dating a plant Gardening yeah perps could be gardening growing food and definitely entheogens entheogens is a relationship if you're If you've go down that route shaman Have a relationship with nature with plants with entheogens with fungi, right? With shaman and a tribe their relationship is much more powerful between their allies and in general in the shamanistic world you Western terminology anyway, you call them allies if you've experimented with entheogens Enough then you have certain allies, right? Or a certain ally that is a relationship Right for me. I have certain allies and my relationship with those entities those plants In general is much stronger than my relationship with most of Other human beings that I know Okay, very powerful very powerful Coolio the u.s. Government and I are taking a hiatus from each other And I'm going to seek other governments for a while in a year or so Love out love zuchicho moonshine but lots of Mocktail recipes out there Just as yummy as a traditional cocktail. Yeah Maybe just one and a half four and a half months elder god says Don't remind me coolio says elder god coolio the woman is a crazy bee Spider-man taking a break nice. I'm going to eat some more. I want the bottom of chat gang I'm going to eat some more cheese watermelon Feta watermelon Very delicious by the way gang. Thank you for the follows. Thank you for the subs. I appreciate them And thank you for the conversations and the love right and the advice Pop a little bread Usually flat bread is the best for this okay but I haven't found a good flat bread source here Feather cheese and watermelon And this one has a little bit of season right nice Coolio chicho when I'm president of the united states In a decade or two from now What movie would you like to watch on the on the white house lawn while you eat dolmas and drink fruit liquor? What movie politics on another string coolio But i'm assuming if you become president then the united states is in good hands, right? And there'd be good people there So What movie On the lawn and the white house What movie What movie you want to see on the lawn of the white house? Good question Oh my god, I'm dating a girl who's 28 years younger than me Is age a consideration in relationships? I've never really thought about it that way 28 is Getting up there, but good on you brother Staying in shape healthy and relevant Uh is paying off right And obviously being smart about things right, uh, I don't think so personally like 10 years difference is not a big deal as far as i'm concerned right When you're getting into 20 Could be depends on The mentality right 28 why not Right, if you guys are enjoying each other company, I'd be Why not Fantastic, I hope the ride is sweet They isn't confused Smith says It's a consideration coolio says coolio to elder god. It's a consideration if there's legal it. Yeah, for sure We're not going there with it right Uh, if there are legal issues, but I dated one 15 years older than me before cool Women tend to mature faster than men in my experience too. Yeah, I think everybody's experienced coolio, right? Everybody's experience and in a huge way it's When they when women go through puberty their experience, you know For men for males It is traumatic as well. It is heavy and Sends you on a loop, but for women It's a lot more man Like we have to build a really huge appreciation for What women go through when they go through puberty how traumatic that is and if they don't have the right support system and whatnot, right? Every 28 days You're reminded Of what's going on. There's something going on. Something's changed, right? There's crabs pain It's huge. It's huge. It's huge. It's something that didn't have an appreciation for for the longest longest time, right? Smith I've never met someone older than me Smith, how old are you? 110 years old Divinity Alligat That's uh That's all a little weird What is legal? So I guess it's fine. Yeah I wouldn't I don't have any problems with it. She's 19. Oh elder god. There is she is 19 But with the brain of a 40 year old hell, yeah, and the spirit matters as well, right? Awesome elder god I'm very happy for you brother If you found someone that you want to spend a lot of time with and you guys are enjoying each other Why not? Why not? Oh, there's little moth here Are you still in school? Turn right I'm three days older than god Smith says Older than the dirt I sleep in that's for sure You might be a vampire, but the vampire has run around so you have to be like Three three how old? How many volts? Three what? Three days, so you're 14.75 billion years old My oh my If you aren't in college yet, you'll meet lots of people your age and above and below. Yeah And even in high school you must you must know people You must know people Cheese and watermelon Can't mess with this like so good No, right Super delicious Yeah, cool. Yeah I think I think everybody in general has broken hearts So coldest question is chicho. Have you broken any hearts any marriage proposals you have to turn down? Yeah And I've had my heart broken as well That is part of the experience If you have your heart broken, you're a lucky human being because you love someone On a level that you could have your heart broken right And if you're broken someone's heart You're a lucky person because you had someone love you to a level That you could break their heart That's amazing. There are some people that never experienced that right It's difficult. It's difficult He had to tell surge that he was his father Weaselbees 2020 That means I fathered surge when I was like six months old I don't think I don't think I hit puberty that early man Oh god, if I did that The guy would have to be 56 I think my parents would have a Big issue with me doing that And I have three older brothers But sure why not sure why not? I think the most important thing in a relationship is mutual ground I have been with a lot of women, but I have never loved. Oh, you haven't loved Do you love This um your partner right now elder god Getting your heart broken leaves you with some scars. Sure is growing pains. Why not? Right. Have you ever played sports? Do you love playing sports? Did you learn a lot from those sports? Have you ever had an injury from a sport? It's part of the game if you if you're afraid to get scars You're not living Right. Have you ever tried running a business? Have you experimented with anything? There's always pain and growth Always always even physically there's pain and growth, right when you're growing up when you're going through puberty when you get growth spurs, there's physical pain Right. Coolio sometimes as cliche as it sounds you have to stumble into love It always seems to come around when you stop looking for it That doesn't mean you can't stay active. I personally don't like that term if you if you're coolio If you're chasing it if you're trying to force it Yeah, I don't think you'll find love But if you're open to receiving it if you reach out Then you will encounter it right without being aggressive with it right, so some people take That what you just said Uh, it always seems to come around when you stop looking for it. Some people take that advice and They don't even participate if you don't even participate then You're a nihilist So you have to participate Okay. Oh elder god the zoot. I have met her father. He was okay with me. Cool That's cool Coolio, that's what I was trying to say be open to it But don't let it consume your whole life. Yeah, if it becomes an obsession Man, you're gonna have a bad time Kelator It is better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all Agreed agreed agreed And that that phrase has been used in many Movies music and all kinds of things unless someone Kick blocks you happens to me a lot Oh What dude perps you got to hang out with the wrong different people and when you're younger growing up I've had that happen too, right when you're interested and then your friends step in and do this your life, dude That's part of youth. That's part of Desperation from their part. That's part of Moving around in a crowd, right your group you move together and becomes more difficult if you want to get Find a really intimate relationship intense relationship Stop traveling in a pack Right, that's one bit of advice. I can give you if you want to find someone new someone unique someone different someone that you can Share things with outside of your world, right? Because that's what really intimacy is. It's not the public Face of you. It's the not public face of you, right then start Don't stop traveling in packs Right, like really that's huge like I've been interested. I can honestly tell you I've been interested in People to get to know them more and stuff, right and they always travel in a pack They always had friends around right after hanging with them for a little bit and interacting this this this For me. Anyway, I wasn't into being with a crowd. I already have my crowd. I got You know, there's a lot of people I know I don't even have time To hang around the people that I really care about like very close to me, right? No, we don't even email them but I'm not interested in if I want to find intimacy traveling in a pack To find one person and then convince them not to travel in that pack. So we could just be together I think that's one mistake a lot of people do they you know, when they go out they always go out in groups Stop going out in groups. I know there's safety factor there and stuff like this, especially for women, right? That you need you can't go somewhere by yourself To meet new people if you don't have a little bit of protection that goes with guys as well by the way, right? Some people make things just because we're guys we have it easier Not necessarily, okay But we have a lot we have it a lot easier than most women out there Most women have to consider many many things Okay Before they can venture out or go to new places. I know this because of Being around long enough to see what takes place, right? There's some bad people out there Okay, you have to be aware of that right Coolio, how do you think? The internet has changed modern dating relationship. Do you think it's more good or bad overall in terms of human? human connections I think it's You know, I don't know the stats if more people are Staying married or longer term or stuff. I don't know the internet is just a tool Right look at spider-man and spider-wife. They met online Right, so it does open up your world a lot more So it makes it global in large part, but people make mistakes, right? So I don't know I think it's just a tool use use your tools As best as you can I guess Elder god, I'm not sure I am capable of my intellect is more important than My emotions. It wasn't a choice. It just is Understandable right, but I'm pretty sure elder god you care deeply for many people Right and I'm positive you love your family. So we're talking about intimate love The other loving the other making them a part of you. Is that what we're talking about? Baby bear incel echo chambers versus online dating What about them Friends co-workers family acquaintances perps says Jaded mass. Thank you very much for the tier one sub. Appreciate it Coolio elder god, have you considered that those two things don't have to be mutually exclusive? You can have both. Ah, very well put coolio. Yeah, you can have both right Baby bear I wonder how much of that Is just deeply closeted homosexuality constantly being on the boys and all Well, the girls do it too, but I don't think it's uh Has to do with homosexuality. I traveled with a pack for a certain period, right? That's what I wanted to do and there were times where I really wanted to wanted to Get to know someone more, but I'm with a pack and the pack does what pack does Right and then later on you're like, man, I should have shouldn't have been there with a pack I should have been there solo Right, and then you start introducing solo encounters into your life gaming anarchism How are you doing? Does anyone ever does anyone else feel that human relationships have become more difficult with the way Society has isolated us and chained us to work Um an online consumption There's no more public forums and community gathering places that aren't centered around alcohol. Um gaming anarchism I don't think that has to do with What do you call it human relationships have more difficult in the society has been isolated Agreed in the western world alcohol A lot of things revolve around alcohol, but those are restaurants clubs bars and whatnot and You can build some amazing relationships in those places centered around alcohol, but you can't just Some people can I guess but you can't just Have that type of relationship It's not a if you hang around a bar long enough or a club long enough It gets a little depressing if you see the Waves of people coming in especially bars when there's barflies and stuff like this, right? It gets sort of heavy and it goes through waves sometimes. It's very light. It's amazing. It goes through waves just like life But I don't I don't consider it more difficult like right now. We're having amazing discussions of You know, we've built amazing friends on this community, right? People are sharing things and we care about each other. There's advice being shared and whatnot Is it on a level where you know, you might have known someone in person for 20 years? No, not yet. We've only been here for two years a year max So I disagree. I don't I think amazing relationships can still be built and are still built, right? Infra-black infra-black 98 my dream is is travel to india when I reach 30 and learn the secrets of meditation and religion Uh, why do you have to go to india to learn those secrets? You can learn those secret secrets anywhere You can go to on top of the mountain and live in the mountain for five years in isolation and learn meditation and religion right Beans, how are you doing so my significant other and I fell in love unintentionally after meeting on tinder Such a unique experience to create a relationship with someone you've never met before cool Awesome beans, and I know a few people that I've met online And they're they've been together for a very very long time right Coolio to gaming anarchism. They do exist. You're uh, are you sure you've looked in the right places? There are communities for everything. Yeah But I agree with gaming anarchism alcohol is a central focal point for many people in the western world but that being said There are different types of clubs groups that you can join to go participate in a certain activity And if you meet someone there that interests you you can pursue it outside of that club right Killatour I feel too that in order to find happiness and happiness and love One must find happiness alone because you will rely on that love for happiness And will not function correctly when it is not there or around I think you have to be able to come to be able to Be comfortable being completely by yourself Before you'll find success and love the love should enhance the self not absolutely Define it Agreed with you very much Killatour now One other addition to this I would make Sometimes you stumble into relationships And it's by circumstance And you're in that relationship because the person you're in a relationship with Might be so different than what you're used to Cherish those relationships because you're in that relationship For a reason maybe because You're intrigued by it You want to know what that mindset entails And all of that really is about you growing Learning from your partner. I think what happens is A relationship has matured Where Or coming to its end when you're not Surprised by your partner when you're not growing When you're not learning new things from your partner when they're not challenging you in terms of The way you are right Not in a bad way by the way But if you do something they're not always yes men or yes women yes partners to say yeah, yeah, yeah They go hey wait a second. Maybe you were in the wrong there, right? In that sense So We need to grow with our relationships gaming anarchism online dating functions too much like becoming a salesman And the product is yourself. How do you find romance in that process? Online relationship is not the end all and be all of a relationship online relationship It's just the way to open the door And i'm totally okay with it Because the way our society is structured Sometimes it's difficult to figure out what people are all about if you only encounter them in person and you don't have enough Time To get to know them better So it's sort of a filter mechanism, right? For example gaming anarchism online dating, right? Let's say you create your profile You come across a profile Let's say you're interested in this person and this person says I don't want to be in a relationship with a smoker that's The end of it and you're a smoker Well, you got two choices. You can just move on or you can contact that person say listen I'm a smoker, but I love Your profile. I love what you're about And I'm in a state in my mind right now that I'm in the process of reconsidering my choices regarding smoking Are you into just getting together for a little bit or talking a little bit online? To see if you might even be interested in who I am And maybe we can pursue this further, right? It's the honesty aspect of it, right? Online dating. There's a lot of profiles that Are garbage and stuff like this people are Fooling themselves, right? There are a lot of profiles that are 100% exactly what that person is looking for. There are profiles out there. Let's say specifically look man I'm just I'm just into this for the physical If you got hang ups about being physical with someone that you might become intimately attached to someone Move along, right? And if a person decides to hook up with this person and gets Attached emotionally to this person and this person says, you know, man, I I told you where I was at You need to move along and this person gets hurt. They learn the lesson Right take it for what it is, right? And if they're not able to deal with that then too bad You were Fooling yourself if you thought you could change this person first of all, so one thing Always remember never get into a long-term relationship If your plan is to change that person if your plan is to change a person you're an idiot Right, you're controlling you're living a bubble and it's going to burst on you in such a way that it's going to Maybe knock you out, right? So one bit of advice never get into a relationship trying to change a person Except who they are not necessarily what they do, but they're they're they're right To choose to do what it is that they want to do, right? Don't try to control anyone's life It is their ride. You're just there To enjoy their ride, right? If you start messing around with their ride, they have the right to kick you out Okay, okay. I'm going to scroll down a little bit killer We are so socialized through capitalist Marketing media that we are shown that love is and should be So we have this fanciful idea and expectation of what it is supposed to be So when we experience it it does not equate to that ideal We don't accept it Killa, I 100% agree with you people go into these relationships with this preconceived notion of what it should be Right, which is insane Right, which is absolutely insane to me, right when I was younger. I was insane. That's what I thought as well Right, and as you grow older you realize man, I was duped Corporations did this to me and I willingly participated in that Garbage right and then you grow older and wiser and you realize man Life is much grander than airbrushed pictures, right Just some badge for something twitch is promoting coolio says I missed the two spider-match Coolio to kill a 100% agree a lot of people set their expectations and relationships to what they see in movies and tv shows And it's ridiculous and leads to poor relationships. Yeah Yeah, I agree to agree to agree Coolio adventure is a focal point for me if a girl I'm interested in is spontaneous It's an instant attraction for me. Very cool. Yeah, and everybody has different attractions, right? Spontaneity is fantastic Black 98 to be happy in love just find one person that likes the same stuff that you like I don't know about that black 98 Find one person that appreciates the stuff that you love They don't necessarily have to like the stuff that you like but They appreciate that you have a passion for certain things Right, that's what you think anyway. It's a good start I'm being critical here, but yeah for sure. Why not? Find stuff that you both like right Coolio, I'm not much into that type of thing, but I'll give it a look some things in life You just got to find through good old trial and error trial and error is always good Maddie gg. How you doing? How's it life? Hope you're doing well. Ah more more watermelon and cheese game delicious Hope you guys have good snacks. What are you guys eating tonight or today? We're this morning. All of this came out chaotic elder god What is all that you paste it So coolio said oh, it's like Myers Briggs I have no idea what Myers Briggs is Night off work maddie g says This thing's so addictive crazy My cheese and watermelon Okay, that's enough It's gotten so crazy hot here that we're just consuming a lot of fruits and water and Well, the cure dehydrates, but there's what it is Salute gang Here's a second strawberry Is it gonna focus is it gonna focus? Look at that I got a mosquito kicking around here Maddie g I live alone work second shift 3 p.m. To 11 p.m. I find I am comfortable alone Yeah, I might be happier in a relationship, but dating is weird in 2020 If you're not a bar goer, it's like more difficult to meet someone in real life versus a mundane dating app Yeah, the bar thing is Man, I've I've I've made some amazing friends through the bar scene through the club scene. I really have right So it's not all bad It's not all bad. It's just Sometimes it's Takes a lot of energy and a lot of money sometimes right Watermelon is so good on hot weather like 107 Fahrenheit today. I was eating watermelon all day. It's so refreshed so refreshing black 98. I've been eating watermelon This is like my third bowl of watermelon today this this much Zarre, how you doing yo chicho? How's the weather up there hot? Hot it's like It was like 30 31 degrees Celsius here, which is pretty hot for these parts, right? I know in LA it's probably not that hard Coolio, do you think there are things worth fighting over? Sure Like if you love someone a lot and they want kids, but you don't should you fight to stay in the relationship? Or is that a good enough? Pretends to live leave the relationship this scenario is hypothetical brother Coolio Having kids is a big deal Right if there is a partner that wants kids and the other one that doesn't want kids And they've been straight up from the beginning. This partner says they want kids. This partner says they don't want kids You can be together for a little bit of time, right? But there's a clock for women and for men as well really, right? There's a clock ticking So after a certain amount of time if There is no compromiser and seriously if the person that wants to have kids has has to compromise That deep down desire to want to have kids to be with this person That's a huge sacrifice, right? And vice versa if the person doesn't want to have kids Ends up having kids because of this person The kids might suffer Right the family suffers the relationship suffers For me wanting to have kids and not wanting to have kids is a big deal It's a big deal Okay Spider-man watermelons are perfect summer food indeed Madi gigi in my late 20s. I feel like That's the only way to meet someone the whole swipe left or right is Really surface level in my opinion Sometimes you need a door open Madi, right? And maybe you're not there, but it is a tool. Don't just dismiss it right off the bat, right? You can say oh, it's a tool that I don't want to use Right, so for example for someone that's not into going to clubs Clubs it doesn't mean clubs aren't a good place to meet people It's not a great place to meet people. Well, you can still meet people in clubs, right? So it is still A place where you can meet people, right? But if you don't want to use that tool don't Killa, what about the monogamy? Can we talk about that? Sure perhaps Perhaps is monogamy Just the socialized norm that we've been taught is supposed to be just like the capitalist media We were talking about earlier just the thought I am married and faithful But it's food for thought that said I suppose someone could say That almost anything is merely just a social construct killer I agree. There's a huge social element to it. I'm on the same mindset as wilhelm reik and Terrence mccanon whatnot, right? I think The marriage thing the monogamy thing has been overblown. However I think personally Monogamy is An amazing state of being right So I think it's a personal choice. I think the taboo on Having multiple partners is dissipating slowly, right? However having multiple partners Can be exhausting can be draining right and can be noisy Where it becomes difficult to Make the right choices So I think it's very much personal, but I think people should always Remember there and this goes for if you're You know a person wants to have a kid not have a kid if one person doesn't want to be monogamous And the other one does and you get together and the person that doesn't want to be monogamous just keeps on saying Listen, I don't want to be monogamous. I want multiple partners and you say no, no, no, no, no, no That relationship is doomed right There has to be some kind of compromise right and is the compromise worth it Black 98, but I never tried watermelon with cheese. Oh, what kind of cheese are you eating? I'm eating feta Cheese and watermelon. They were they were made to be eaten together really Watermelon is gassy. So you need something salty and feta is a fantastic thing As a salty food and chunks of feta Words of advice don't eat too much watermelon late at night. You have to get up in the middle of the night to go pee and bread The moment Young pollack says the moment you have kids your life is over And he's laughing right however He is 100 correct the moment you have kids Your selfish nature that your life is about you is over your life Your central focal point should be about raising kids Okay Your life is over once you become a parent because it's not your life anymore It's yours as a collective as a family Okay, very important People can say that ha ha your life is over, but your life is over. It's not your life anymore your solo life you have other People that really are going to depend on you For not a week a month a year 10 years, but for a lifetime Okay Those I'm more pumped than all you. Oh, we're almost at the end those I like kids, but raising one is so expensive and hard. You need to work so much and so much responsibility For me, it's not the expense part of it. For me, it's the responsibility part of it. My god I will never have kids. I have two nieces perfect blend of family and freedom. Oh my god Tick tick Agulia I personally don't want kids Uh currently but as uh as I've gotten older I'm more open to the idea down the road, but it depends largely on where I am and the state of the world kids kids kids those says I'm with I'm I'm a south park thing. What do you do with the with the with the baby? You kick the baby That was a huge part of south park for the longest period of time The baby baby goats were also called kids Fun fact, are they baby goats are called kids I didn't know that Have you ever tried peanut butter and bacon? Peanut butter and bacon. I don't think I've tried peanut butter and bacon, but that sounds fantastic Bacon with anything sounds fantastic, bro. I'm but uh Uh Got no so Drink some water and have a lie down drink some water and have a lie down Toes are you are you going crazy on us? Best advice I got dog people should be with dog people and cat people should be with cat people Know if you're a dog or a cat person or no animal person Right, but yeah uh Maladras In agreed, but there are people out of dog and cat people together, right? What the gist is there, right? Dog people and cat people they give you advice the rest is up to Yeah Gang we're almost at the end Should we call the stream? Let's call the stream gang How's our This recording going good good good. I always check the recorder here just to see where the Battery thing is I'll have to change the batteries on it Live and learn tools live and learn no toes Has just lifted some weight Loader dip. What were you doing? Gang thank you for being here. 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