 Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast. I'm your host Rob dial today. I'm gonna be talking about motivation I'm gonna be telling you why you don't want to be motivated. There's too many people that message me and say hey Rob, how do I become more motivated? What do I do to get more motivation? I am actually on the side of I don't actually care if you're motivated or not It doesn't matter to me at all because everyone thinks that you want to be motivated. Oh, I want I want to be motivated I don't want to listen to a motivational speaker and all of that is okay But it's actually not what's going to help you be successful You don't want to be motivated if you're thinking that you need to be motivated Before you go out and actually take some action. You will not get what you want to in this world Let me say that again If you think that you want to be motivated before you actually go and take action You will not get what you want to in this world if you're searching for motivation You will be searching for a very long time But you're not really searching for motivation. You're searching for something else and that's what I want to dive into and talk to you with today What you really want and what you want to build into yourself is not to be a motivated person What you want to build into yourself is to be a consistent person Consistency always wins. I'm not a betting man. I don't really care to bet I don't like gambling any of that But if I had money that I had to bet and it's like hey, here's a consistent person on one side And there's a motivated person on the other side Which one do you want to place your money on which will be the most successful and get what they want to out of life? Which one do you think it's going to be? I will always take my money and put it on the person who has decided that they are going to be the most consistent Consistency is a decision because motivation is fleeting Motivation is a fleeting feeling. It is a feeling inside of you. I don't know about you I don't really wake up motivated like some people wake up and they're like, hey, I got it. I'm gonna go conquer today I've never really been that person. I've never really been the person just I mean it takes it takes effort to get out of bed for me I'm not a person who just jumps out of bed and I'm super excited But consistency on the other side Consistency is a character trait. It is a character trait that can be It doesn't really come wired into you. It's not like it's you know, somebody's pre-wired to be consistent Consistency is a part of someone that they decide to develop So I expect most days that I'm not going to be motivated. So if you go into every day Wanting to be motivated in waiting for motivation in order to take the action that you want You're gonna be waiting for a very long time But if you go into every single day saying I don't care what happens I'm going to be consistent and I'm going to get it done You're gonna get what you want. So just expect that most days You're not really gonna be the most motivated person. You may be if you are hey That would be awesome if you wake up and you happen to be motivated today But if you wake up today and you're not motivated I Want you to focus on being consistent when you're consistent Day in day out day in day out You will win and whatever it is you're trying to get for in life when you hope for motivation though You lose when you focus on consistency you will win when you hope for motivation You'll lose. You know if I am on a weight loss journey And I know like I use weight loss and I use Fitness as an example and the reason why I use these things as an example so often is because of the fact that That's something physical that you can see like when I talk about making mindset changes That's not something that you can physically see in someone's body But if someone decides they want to go on a weight loss journey and over time they are consistent You will start to see changes in that person's body. It's physical You can see it when you look in the mirror if you decide that you are a skinny person You want to build more muscle if you go and you be consistent for a while 60 days from today you will see a difference when you look in the mirror and so if I'm on a weight loss journey I Can work out when I'm motivated and I can go you know what I'll just I wanted to work out today, but Let's just wait and see if some motivation just decides to come on in I Don't want to do that. I want to be consistent because consistency says I will work out No matter what I will do this because I said I was going to Consistency is I said I was committed to working out today, and I'm not going to go to bed until it is done Not oh oops oops. I just ran out of time. Maybe tomorrow. I'll get my workout in I forgot to plan it into my schedule. Maybe tomorrow. I can get it done Maybe tomorrow I have some motivation to go to the gym Maybe tomorrow have some motivation to do what I said I was going to do right consistently said I'm going to do it and I'm going to do it. I'm committed to getting it done Consistency says I'm committed and I'm going to get it done today consistency says I'm committed to making a hundred calls today consistency says I I am committed to posting a post on my Instagram to get leads for my business Consistency says I am committed to shooting in editing a YouTube video and posting it today Consistency is I said I was going to do it and no matter what happens My ass is getting it done today And I will not go to bed. I will not go to sleep. My head will not hit the pillow Until it's done That's the type of person. She want to be you don't want to be a motivated person You don't want to be a hey rah rah. We can do it. I feel great now I'm going to get my my I've got my motivation now I can go ahead and start actually taking the action I want to because when you're consistent And you get things done no matter how you feel you actually become more motivated Because motivation is not something motivation is not a prerequisite to action Motivation there's actually been studies that have found people who are consistent versus motivation versus motivated is people who are consistent and take action is Instead of motivation coming before action Motivation actually follows action most people hope for motivation and then they take action What needs to happen though is You need to take action to give yourself a chance at being motivated Why because when your physical body starts moving You actually get more energy you get more motivation you get more drive to get done whatever it is you need to get done And so that's what we're going to talk about today is how to be More consistent with everything as you want to do if you have goals for this year If you have goals for this quarter whatever it might be Don't hope that you're gonna have motivation every single day and man You know what if I wake up with motivation then I'll take action things that I want no no no It's like I don't care what happens. I don't care what the what the world throws at me I don't care what shit hits the fan I'm going to get it done today because I said I was going to get it done today And what I always tell people is when I when I look at their goals And I used to say it's all the time I work with my one-on-one clients When I look at your goals, and you're like that This is what I want to do over the week what I say them is I say if you get hit by a truck Is this going to be done? That's what I want to know if you get hit by a truck Which means doesn't matter what the time is doesn't matter how I feel doesn't matter at all. This thing is going to be done So how do you be more consistent? Let me give you a really really? Simple but extremely important tip Start small. I know it's not like the biggest Sexiest tip I can give you about mindset techniques to try to get yourself motivated But you start small and how do you start small you pick one thing and one thing? Only that you're going to do for the next 100 days now are you going to do other things of the next 100 days? Yeah, of course you are but what you want to do is you want to find one thing that you can do Consistently day in day out for the next 100 days Why do I say 100 days because it takes anywhere between 21 to 100 days to create a new habit? And so what I want you to do is instead of trying to focus on a bunch of things I want you to focus on one thing and listen you're You're here. You're listening to this podcast. So inherently you are probably a Overachiever or someone who wants to be an overachiever. Don't be that person in this situation Don't do more than one thing because there's so many times where people will join and they're like, you know what I was so I was so excited after I heard Rob's podcast I decided to revamp my entire life and go I'm gonna do this thing and I'm gonna do this thing and I'm gonna do this This thing and this thing and this thing and this thing That's how many here people do a morning routine and they have like seven things on the first morning of their morning routine I'm like that's not gonna stick. It's gonna be really hard for that thing to stick They have like six seven things it's like so instead of waking up and actually being excited to go through the morning routine They feel like they have to wake up and go through a checklist Everybody wants to wake up and go we already have to-do list We already have all these other checklists we got to go through and so listen to me You find one thing And you tell yourself I'm going to this one thing no matter what for the next 100 days in a row Next 100 days in a row and if I miss a day I start back at day one so if I get to day 43 of working out I said I was gonna work out for a hundred days and I get to day 43 That's what I gotta do. I gotta start back at day one if I miss day 43 And so listen to me do one thing in one thing only because most people want to add Five things to their schedule and what happens is it's so far out of their comfort zone that their ego their subconscious Ends up self-sabotaging so if you've ever self-sabotaged people always like well Why do I always self-sabotage? Probably because you're trying to do too many things that are outside of your comfort zone versus just one thing outside of your comfort zone Each day and what happens is your old self Comes up and starts actually trying to battle the new self that you're trying to build yourself into so Listen, you're you're probably an overachiever or you want to be an overachiever That's why you listening to this podcast the non-overachievers are not listening to this podcast If you do too much it will be too much and then you will probably stop following through and so what I want you Is I want you to start small the next thing I want you to do is I want you to track it I want you to literally have a calendar. Just go get it 15 bucks on Amazon or you can wonder Walgreens or CVS and get one for like 10 bucks And it's just a monthly calendar and all you're going to do is every day that you complete this task You're just going to put an X on that day so that you know you completed it And when you start seeing a few of them in a row you start getting Motivated quote-unquote motivated to continue it because you don't want to break that streak now And what you want to find is what what's called a keystone habit? So a keystone to give you an idea when you look at a Roman arch, right? You go over to Rome and Italy and you look at the arches that the entire Coliseum is built off of they're all these Roman arches and In the arch there's a keystone the keystone is the one that is at the very center And what happens is when it's put into place it locks all of the other stones into place in that arch And what happens is the most important part of that entire arch is the keystone because it locks all the other Stones into place and so a keystone habit is one thing that you focus on and by focusing on that one thing It actually changes other parts of your life like so your life has changed by doing this one thing So let me give you a couple examples of keystone habits You could take any of these and you could actually create your own if you wanted to a Keystone habit that I found for a lot of people one of them is working out Because all you have to do is just check off the box of working out and I always say don't focus on changing anything else in your life Except for working out it would ends up happening Slowly, but surely you start changing other parts of your life naturally that one thing that keystone habit working out Changes other parts of your life So you start working out, you know, and you don't change any other part of your life You still eat the same you still drink the same all of those things But eventually what happens is you work out you work out you work out you're putting so much effort into working out you go You know what I? Mean I'm working out Am I as well like I don't know eat a little bit healthier And it starts to change your life in the way that you eat. You know what I'm working out I might as well drink. I need to drink some more water. There's so many dehydrated people in this world Right. We're like 60 to 70% water and so many people are dehydrated I don't know why they have energy why their brain doesn't work enough. You're not drinking enough water Why your skin doesn't look good why your digestion isn't good. You're not drinking enough water So you're working out and they're like, you know what? I'm gonna drink a little bit more water You know what? I've been working out so hard I'm gonna get a little bit more sleep because my body needs some rest and I know that muscle growth ends up happening in Recovery is usually what I'm sleeping. So I've been working out. I'm gonna get a little bit of sleep. You know what? Damn, I drink I eat a lot of sugar Well, don't you know I'm gonna do I've been working out so much. I'm gonna eat a little bit less sugar. I saw a Doctor the other day was talking. It was a YouTube video and he was saying a hundred years ago The average person ate half a pound of sugar per year Fast forward to today. The average person. This is a crazy statistic The average person eats a half a pound of sugar per day A hundred years ago people used to eat a half pound of sugar per year processed like, you know, white sugar now We eat about a half a pound of sugar per day So maybe I've been working out so much. I'm gonna need a little bit less sugar So I don't get you know, but don't get that that inside of my body and it's not necessary And when you have to excess sugar you get excess fat from it. Okay, you know what? I've been working out so much. Maybe I'm gonna drink a little bit less drink a little bit less alcohol Little bit less alcohol a little bit more water. And so what happens is the only thing that you focus on The only thing that I care about you being consistent The only thing that needs to change in your life is the working out every single day for a hundred days and Then what happens all the other stones in your life start changing a little bit You work out and now working out turned into eating healthier It turned out drinking more water turned out turned into getting more sleep It turned into having less sugar it turned into drinking less alcohol That one thing starts to change other parts of your life What's another keystone habit waking up early waking up early is a great keystone habit and I don't what I mean by waking up early I didn't say anything about a morning routine, right? Do I think morning routines are important? Yes. Do I have a morning routine? Yes, but I don't care about any of that I know that if your feet hit the floor an Hour earlier than it normally does that's a win that you can check off that box as long as your feet hit the floor You don't get back in bed. Why because if you're up an hour earlier You're gonna sit there and you're gonna be sitting on your couch. You're gonna go. Well, I mean, I'm awake. I might as well do something, right? Yeah, what should I do? Well, I mean I got a little bit of energy today Maybe we could chug a coffee. Maybe we could go for a run. They could work out work out a little bit Next day you wake up a little bit early and you're like what I want to do today. Hmm. I mean I could journal Yeah, journaling sounds pretty good I'm gonna do some journaling today next day you wake up and you got an hour to kill and you're like You know what I should do kind of want to read that new book I just bought and then you just had to read a book and you wake up a little bit early the next day and you're like You know what? I want to develop my calmness. So I'm just gonna start to meditate today I didn't wake up the next day and you're like, you know what? I got an hour an hour to kill I'm gonna go for a walk. I'm gonna go for a walk with my dog I'm gonna go for a walk with my children go for a walk with my spouse All you did was focus on one thing which was waking up your feet hitting the floor That is the win if you do it an hour early But that feet hitting the floor turned into doing a workout one day doing journaling one day doing reading one day doing Meditating one day going for a walk another day and I'm not saying focus on any of those other things I'm just saying focus on the one thing for a hundred days. You're feet hitting the floor feet hit the floor early. Boom That's a win What's another one eating healthy is another great one so eating healthy could be a great keystone habit where you decide You know what? I'm just gonna eat healthier. Whatever that means to you You're gonna stick to a specific diet. Whatever that diet is. I don't know. You could do Whole30 you could do Vegetarian vegan you could do carnivore diet. You could do fruit Italian diet I don't care what the diet is you figure out what eating healthy means to you because that's subjective everyone's Eating healthy is different than another person's but you're like next hundred days I'm only going to do this thing this diet this eating quote-unquote eating healthy Whatever that means to you because everyone's body is different and you're like, okay That's the one thing I'm gonna do and then what happens it starts affecting other areas of your life You know what? I mean, I've been eating so healthy. I don't really feel like having a drink tonight Next day. You're like, you know what? I've been eating so healthy But do a little bit yoga Next day. You're like I've been eating healthy I'm gonna drink a little bit more water and what happens is these keystone habits these things that are planted into your day that you're Focusing on just being consistent on that one thing not searching for motivation not I hope that I can find time to work out today I hope I can find some time to wake up today. I hope I can find time to eat healthy today It is my fucking head will not hit the bed until this thing has been done and That's the commitment that you have to have and when you have that commitment to consistency and you do it for a hundred days It actually starts to become who you are and when you become that type of person your life starts to change And think about this if you just focus on one thing for a hundred days and once those hundred days is up And you're at a hundred days you can say is this built into me? Yeah, it feels pretty built into me like if you've ever worked out for a hundred days It feels pretty built into you to work out like it feels not it feels weird to not work out if you've been working out for a hundred days If you've been eating healthy for a hundred days, it feels weird not To do that if you've been waking up early for a hundred days It feels weird not to do that and so we're trying to do is trying to build this habit into who you are And if you do a hundred days and then you focus on something different the next hundred days Then you focus on something different the next hundred days. There's 365 days in a year that means that over the course of a year you could develop three really big Keystone habits into who you are Think about how different you would be 365 days from today if you develop three really big big old lever moving Keystone habits into yourself over the next 365 days And you'd have an extra 65 days to figure out what the next thing is and again almost halfway through the next thing So instead of saying I'm gonna focus on doing all three of these things at one time It's like I'm gonna do this thing for a hundred days Then after those hundred days, I'm gonna do this thing for a hundred days and after those hundred days I'm gonna do this thing for a hundred days What happens is you actually start to slowly but surely build these habits these actions into your life That actually starts to change you but what it comes down to is not wanting to be motivated Not hoping for some fleeting emotion to come inside of you and go oh, I'm excited to do this today It is I said I was going to do it and I'm going to do it no matter what that is who you want to be Because consistency Becoming a consistent person is a character trait that can be built into you I want you to build a consistent character trait into yourself instead of trying to hope that a fleeting emotion called Motivation just magically comes into your body each day and so focus on being consistent and you will win Focus on being consistent in your life will change if you focus on being consistent with these little small things every single day You'll be a completely different person 365 days from today So that's what I got for you for today's episode if you love this episode Please share it on the Instagram stories and tag me at Rob dial junior R. 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