 Hey psyched goers welcome back to another video. Thank you all so much for being here with your help and support We're able to succeed in our mission to make mental health and psychology more accessible to everyone. So thank you now Let's begin What do you think it takes to be irresistible is it a kindness that shines a giving heart and happily volunteering in your free time or is it buying fancy cars Following the latest trends and dating the most popular person in school Whichever way most suits you there are actually some very simple habits that can help make you irresistible to others You'll appear more likable friendly and people will want to be around you when you incorporate these 10 habits That'll make you irresistible Number one instill some quiet confidence. What's the difference between confidence and cockiness? Acting cocky is more of a boastful show of mock confidence Confidence is when you're self-assured with who you are and are secure in your own decisions When you hold your head up with confidence with clear eyes and a clear heart, you can go far in life When you're confident and believe in who you are as a person. That's a very attractive trait number two R-E-S-P-E-C-T Goes a long way There is a school of thought that those who want respect should give respect and that's not wrong If you want proper respect and recognition from others you have to give some first Respect courtesy and basic human decency can do a lot to make a good first impression on those around you Number three implement the golden rule The golden rule states that you should do on to others like you would have them do on to you This means to treat others how you would ideally want to be treated if you want to be treated with kindness Dignity and respect then you should treat others that way as well Number four don't engage in gossip. Do you think people who gossip and spread rumors can get far in life? Generally people who participate in the rumor mill aren't that popular because they can't be trusted Spreading around someone's private information and are casting supposedly negative judgment on others is painful for those involved Acting this way also reflects poorly on the gossiper because of this Gossiping is not recommended if you want to be as irresistible as possible to others Honesty and integrity are much more desirable traits that will draw good people to you Number five you can't please everyone Do you try to please everyone at your own expense? Do you tire yourself out trying to make everyone around you happy when you use up all of your energy on other people? That leaves you very little energy for yourself or other loved ones who may really need it being a people Pleaser also isn't seen as a very attractive trait because it gives the impression that you are insecure and lacking in self-esteem Nobody can please everybody after all we aren't pizza Number six be yourself How are you your most authentic self? How are you living out your personal truth? One of the best traits to have is to simply be who you are and to own that When you are genuine and true to yourself, you'll attract others who are genuine too Like-minded individuals will be attracted to you because they recognize that you're confident in who you are number seven Radiate positive energy Don't you feel warmed by someone when they give you a genuine smile as they pass by? It stops you for a second and you feel a little lighter All it took for you was a genuine kind happy smile You can do that for others too When you radiate positive energy it makes other people feel better as well and that can attract a lot of people to you eight Real kindness is what matters Real genuine kindness is very important to foster in your own life, but can also make you irresistible to others Do you like to volunteer? Do you help out at a soup kitchen or help raise funds for charities when you show off your kind giving heart? People will respond to that and readily accept that about you They'll like to be around you because you show them genuine kindness and acceptance Number nine have a good listening ear. Have you heard of the term active listening? Active listening is when you properly respond and reciprocate to what someone's saying to you You aren't distracted looking at your phone or interrupting whoever is speaking when you engage in active listening Having a good listening ear is an irresistible trait to have because people will want to talk with you more and Be more inclined to open up to you since you're such a good listener and number ten Offer your support Everyone has things they need to get off their chest and is in need of someone to talk to at times If someone comes to you and chooses to confide in you don't take that for granted Even if you don't have much to offer in the way of advice or problem-solving You'll instill a trusted bond with this person when they know that they can come to you with their problems Just listening to them and being there for them and letting them know that they are heard Respected and supported can go a long way with their impression of you when you tell them that you're there for them So what habits will you use to make yourself irresistible to others? 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