 So where can one go to find nice women here? Oh you got to get out and look into every bar in Queens. Well that's where you messed up son. You can't go to no bar to find a nice woman. You got to go to a nice place. A quiet place like a library. There's a good woman there. And a church is good girls. Let me just say this. That a lot of you good Christian, you good clean Christian, I don't think you're telling the truth. Here's what I mean. I'm looking at our poll. The poll question was are or as Christians do you ever dress sexy? That's for men and women. Male and female. That was a question. The first selection you could have chosen was yes. Or next sometimes third one only for my spouse. And then the last one no my sexy left long ago. This is why this is this is the problem we have. You guys aren't telling the truth because we got 6% that only check yes often. And 15% that said sometimes. I don't know you guys where you live and so forth. I don't see where you where you know where you where you go to work and so forth. I don't see what you wear in church or to school or to wherever. But I know some of you guys a lot more of you guys than 23% should have checked the box for yes or sometimes. But you know what? Maybe this is the more godlier section of heaven possibly possibly but for you 23% that were totally honest. God bless you. God bless you. I want to read definition. I just want to look on the on the on the internet and get a definition for sexy. And here's the definition I found a few of them. Sexually attractive or sexually exciting. Another one is sexually aroused. Another one kind of exciting or appealing. Now, I don't know that a Christian could fit definitely the first. But then again, it really is from the eye of the person watching you. Because if someone watches you and looks at you and think that the hey that person sexy. Well, that's not really on you. You know, if you if you are a lady and you're wearing a burlap bag and the person thinks, Hey, she sure looks sexy in that burlap bag. Well, then that's not your fault or the burlap bags fault. That's really other person's fault. And we'll deal with more of what's on your plate in just a little bit person that's and that will really deal with the person that sexually aroused. That's that person. Some people just waking up. They are, you know, if they hear the if they hear the toilet flush, they just they're ready. Right. There are some people that are like that. That's not on you. But if it's if it's you that's causing them to think that if you want them to see that if you want them to see something. If you're trying to be a sexy Christian. And unfortunately, we've got a lot of people out there today who really want to be sexy, who want to come off sexy, who want their sex appeal to ooze. If it's just natural. If you are, let's say Sarah, you remember Sarah, Sarah, Abraham's wife, who was just apparently dropped dead gorgeous. Here she is 75 years old and men are still just going crazy over her. I guess so. Or maybe maybe Eve, who knows what she looks like, but she was the first woman. So I imagine I would imagine that God would have made her looking pretty nice or someone like Esther or Vashti whom she replaced. You know, there are some people in the Bible who we just we're just told of their beauty, their beauty tends to be immense. Okay, I get that. There's nothing you can do about it. Nothing you can do about it. It's like me walking around with my coffee cup. Listen, this coffee cup is without question, without a doubt, a sexy coffee cup. Now, I don't know what your cup looks like, but this happens to be a sexy coffee cup. Now me on the other hand, not so much. But this cup, when I walk in the room with this cup and my wife's there, I got to beat her up with a stick off me. It's the cup. She can't do anything about that because it's the cup. If you are, and let's just say this, let's be honest, guys, let's be honest. Everybody ain't sexy. Everybody is not 20 years old again. Everybody's not 30. All right. There comes a point in time where you have run your course. It just is what it is. But if you're out there trying to look a certain way, we've got a really strong biblical warning for you. I want you guys to hear what I'm going to say. Now, before we leave, I'm going to tell, especially all the singles, how to become more attractive. That's different. How to become more attractive, maybe even more appealing, but not sexually appealing. Now, all you can do is all you can do. If some goofball on the corners is just gawking at you because that's what it does with everybody. That's not on you. That's on him. But the problem we have, though, today, though, is we have it in our minds that we should be sexy. We should let our sex appeal show even in the church, even amongst believers. We see certain people, even people who are in leadership roles. I won't get into the whole issue of women being pastors, but have you ever noticed that a lot of the women who are women pastors, prophetesses and apostles and so forth, they tend to dress pretty sexy, right? Revealing tight things and so forth, like Sarah, not Abraham's wife, but TV Jake's daughter, Sarah. It's hard to catch her in something that's not tight or form-fitting. And the message that she sends, especially to women, is that you ought to look like how I'm looking. You may want to dress like how I'm dressing because here she is on stage, and so somebody might admire her. And what happens is when you're on stage and someone admires you, well, then they want to be more like you. They want to have more of what you have. Some of y'all saw the video where I guess her wig was coming off, and then she said, you know what, just take it all off. And then you saw other women following suit. Well, any other time those women would not have taken their weaves or wigs off, that wouldn't happen. But they see her doing it, and so they'll do it too. You know what, me too. Well, if she's dressing that way, well, then guess what? Others are going to want to dress that way too. But it's not just her. If you look at a lot of our female singers, whether it be contemporary Christian, whether it be gospel, what have you, the way they dress is, you can't even say leaves a lot for the imagination because they just, they aren't leaving very much for the imagination. Now, two thoughts ran through your mind. Two thoughts. One thought was that, man, she looks like a picnic table, or that's pretty tight what she's wearing. She has no business, that's Jacqueline Carr, and she has no business, no business wearing that tight fitting outfit. And nowadays it really, it used to be that when a woman wore something tight that she tended to be on the smaller size. And that didn't matter, that didn't matter the size. Doesn't matter the size. I want this thing sticking to me. I want it sticking to me to where you have to pull it off. You have to peel it off. Now, it's not just a female who are in leadership. It's not those that are out there singing before us, but it's just in the congregation as well, the people in the audience. And y'all, I've shown this clip before, I'll show it again because applicable here about these two ladies who are in the spirit, so to speak. And you don't, them praising or shouting or stomping or dancing is not what catches your attention. As a matter of fact, ask a guy, what's the first thing that catches your attention? Yeah, and so can you imagine what the guys are thinking? First of all, can you imagine what went through her head or the other girl's head when they put the clothes on? I'll never forget, I told you all this story one time before that we was in church and my wife hit me in church. It wasn't my fault, but I learned a lesson. I found out something. I didn't know this. I did not know this. I didn't know this was almost 30 years ago, as a matter of fact. This was 1990, I don't know, seven or eight. And there was a lady, a young lady in the church who was sitting in, who was in front of us. She turned around and she was getting something out of her purse. I promise you guys, I promise you, I was not looking. I happened to be right in front of the preacher in my line of sight. And I didn't want to look like I was being rude or whatever, trying to look around her or whatever. I didn't feel like she was going to be up there that long. But she was bent over and my wife was right. She said that that girl knew exactly what she was doing. Sometimes it's not the tight stuff that you wear. Sometimes it's stuff that is just entirely too loose. Ladies, you know what I'm talking about. You've got this top on that's a bit loose. It's not tight and you bend over and if you bend over, stuff starts showing. And you know when your stuff is showing. Because if you find a mature woman, if it's too loose, what will she do? She'll hold on to it. She'll make sure that when she bends over, and guys, this is a little bit of adult conversation, but we're going somewhere with this, she holds to make sure that no one can look down to see what you can see. And she said there's no woman in the right mind that doesn't know. And they do. Women are programmed, I think, now I'm not a woman, but ladies tell me if I'm wrong. But women care about what they look like. From the time they were little girls, my daughter would say, how do I look that? How do I look pretty? They're in the mirror. Girls will go in the bathroom and you will think that they died in there. I don't know what happens in there. I don't know what is going on in the bathroom. I ought to put homework in there. I ought to put some chores in there. As long as young ladies are in the bathroom because they've got their makeup stuff in there. There's mirrors in there. They're looking. It's like, wow, listen, I gotta use the bathroom. But they're in there forever. If we've got to go somewhere and we're in a hurry, we're going to be late because I don't care if we've got to be in there in 10 minutes. If we've got to be somewhere 10 minutes and they have to stop in the bathroom, we're going to be at least 30 minutes late. It's just how it is. So girls care about how they look, which is fine. And so they know what they're wearing, what they're doing. I didn't quite know that at the time. But I know that now. And you ladies will vouch for it. But now, let me just say this also. It ain't just girls. Guys care about how they look. But problem is more so today than ever before. It is my, not my pet peeve, but it's up there. It is up there with these men who wear these clothes. I don't know what they were. I would like to know what some of their father figures, if they had any look like, I would love to know what daddy taught them. Because some of the stuff that they're wearing. Y'all know what I'm talking about. If you're a grown man and you're grown man and your pants are this tight. You're grown man and your pants are this fitting. We got a problem. What is it like Robin Hood men in tights? What is it? What is he wearing? What is this? You might as well just put some tights on, put some leggings on. This is it. That's not even comfortable. I'm bothered for him. That's just not, now, less you all think is me. Let me just look at the chats from the men. Men? Is it just me? Maybe it's just me. Maybe it's just me. But no, that is, that is horrible. That is, can I tell you something? When I, when I went on my federal tour and I came back from my federal tour. Before I went, we didn't have this. Not, not like that. I just thought it was just me and, you know, there were baggy and their stuff would just be sagging and pants are sagging. Now they're tight and ooh, here's the worst one, tight and saggy. Ultra disgusting, but this is what's happening in the church because even men want to be sexy. That is a problem guys. Now we're making fun. We haven't, we're having fun. We're having fun. But by the same token, it's ungodly because of what can happen. Let me, let me just say this. There are people out there. Let's just be honest. There are women out there. There are men out there. Some young, some old, young women, young men, older women, older men who are single and don't want to be single and would like to find a good godly mate. Can I tell you what you shouldn't do? Let me tell you what you shouldn't do. You shouldn't use ungodly means to attempt to attract someone godly. Did you understand? You should not use ungodly means to attempt to attempt to attract someone or something godly. Now that's a, that's, that works all the way around with everything. But in this, in this case, because when we dress sexy, we dress sexy because we want someone to notice us. Now what should never happen is this. It should never be the case where if you are married, that you are dressing for the appeal of someone else. I'm not saying not, don't look nice. That is not what I'm saying. I'm not saying don't make sure your hair is nice and so forth and make sure your fingernails are done and so forth or make sure your clothes or whatever. I'm not saying that. But I'm saying if your goal is to look special to the world, then we've got a problem when you've got someone at home. By the way, Corinthians, thank you for the super chat. Thank you. Ciao, young cat. Your beauty should come not from outward adornments such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold, jewelry or fine cold clothes. Okay, you did two part. Rather, it should be that of your inner self. Amen. The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God. Amen. Also for the super chat, I appreciate as well. The problem is, guys, you get so frustrated that you think that, well, if I can't beat them, let me join them. But you do realize what the world is getting when the world is dressing a certain way. You all see what's happening with relationships, married and non married relationships. And so I wouldn't go after doing what they're doing. I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't try to emulate them. No. No. What I would suggest is, and this is what I've said before, what I would suggest is be godly. I would suggest be godly. Now I'll get there in a second. I'll get there in a second because I'm going to do my very best to help some people get married. Yep. Me and my cup. We're going to help you out. Men and women, old and young, going to help you out. Going to give you some wonderful nuggets from the scriptures that you can take and apply. So me and my sexy cup and my bald head, we're going to walk with the scriptures and we're going to find something to bless you guys. But now it's being put in our face to such degree. And now it's at a point where no one can. People put it in your face and dare you to say something about it. As a matter of fact, flaunt it like it's what we should be doing. We talked about good old Dietrich Haddon and his wife. What, two, three weeks ago? Four weeks ago? I'm not sure when it was. By the way, Dietrich did actually reach out to me to ask to have a conversation. I gave him the information he had and responded back. So maybe he thought better of it. Maybe someone said, look, brother, don't do that. Don't do that because you're not going to win it. There's no way that you can go on and defend your behavior and your wife's behavior. But what he did in allowing his wife and partaking in his wife to be sexy was to put her on display forever. Now everybody's going to be able to see her forever. As long as they've got a copy of this video, they'll be able to see it, but he didn't care. Now that's just not golly. No matter what you say, that is not what a good Christian ought to be doing. Or to set an example. Matter of fact, let's just put it this way. The Bible tells us, Paul says this. He says that I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly, and discreetly. How about discreetly? How about being discreet? There's a word, guys, discreet. Does anyone know what it means to be discreet? I'm not giving the Webster's Dictionary definition, but discreet means that I've got some things hidden. I'm not almost secretly. I'm being secretive about what's under, in this case, clothing, what's underneath these clothing. Listen, I understand that some folks, you can't hide what you got. I get that. Some folks are built a certain way that you're going to be able to see it. That's not the point I'm bringing up. I'm talking about when you are doing your best to make sure everybody can see it. That's a problem. He says that you should dress with proper clothing modestly and discreetly. Now, the modestly and discreetly is just overall. Not that the clothing ought to be modestly and discreet, but the overall of the woman should be modestly and discreetly. That's her whole appeal, her dressing. Proper clothing modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or cost of garments. In other words, it's not that if you've got some gold on your braided, your hair is braided. That's not his point. His point is that you're not trying to attract someone, seduce someone, be seductive in that, because in this case, that's how women would show themselves off to be prostitutes. Jesus makes a statement in Matthew 11.7. He says, as these men were going away, he brings up this issue about John and about how John was clothed. He says, what did you go out into the wilderness to see? A reed shaken by the wind. Verse eight, but what did you go out to see? A man dressed in soft clothing. Well, soft clothing. This word soft is the Greek word, Malakois, which is the same word in 1 Corinthians 6 that speaks about a man who is this, this effeminate man. And I don't care what you say, guys. I don't care what you say to me. This is effeminate. That is effeminate. Those tight pants. I'm sorry. I could be wrong. I could be out of step with time. I could be on the wrong side of history, as they say, but not me. I'm sorry. I just, it's bothersome. And then it would be, it would probably be a sin not to bring up this young man who's in the, I shouldn't say the young man. He's actually, he's actually about a year or two, maybe older. He's older than me. Maybe two or three years older than me. He's trying to hold on to every part of his youth that he can. That's a good friend, Kurt Franklin, or as they call him, dirty Kirk in the South. That is, that's sexual acceleration. And then you look at the young lady who comes behind her. Let's just be honest. What she's got on, honestly, isn't that much better. Now what he's wearing, it's not so much what he's wearing. It's really how he's dancing, but the young lady and other ladies. Listen, ladies, you wear a form fitting shirt or sweater or turtleneck and then tight pants. I can promise you, I can promise you, I don't care what church you in or what concert you're at, the men are going to be looking. That's an issue. And we're going to talk about that in a second, but the men are going to be looking. And so this lady is now going to be an object. Now let me go back to Kurt. Kurt likes to dance. I think he's dancing a little bit on the questionable side, but you know, Kurt wants to just be out. This is Kurt. This ain't good. And then here we go again. Kirk, you missed your calling. You missed your calling. You want to be a dancer. You want to be a video vixen. Kurt wants to be a video vixen, apparently. He just wants to dance. He wants to be Michael Jackson. I don't know what this is, but Kurt, you wow. And then of course he comes back and says, I don't care what Christian folks think really about that and about his show. You should care. You should care what people think. We've covered this before. Every Christian who loves the Lord will love their fellow man. If you don't love them, you can't say you love him. And so that means you should care about what they think. In other words, let your light so shine that folks can see your good works and then glorify God. So that way you do care about what they think. You have magic, Mike. Magic Kurt. Crystal Kirk. Anyway, I didn't want to really cover too much of that particular. I didn't really want to cover Kurt, but I had to. Because he speaks to the point. As I was getting ready for this, I said, well, it'd be kind of hard not to deal with this man. This man wants to be as sexy as possible. And here's the sad part about it. Here's the sad part about it. I'll never forget. I used to go to the same trip that Kirk went to. And Kirk said, got up and said one time about his struggle with, maybe he's mentioned about it too publicly, his struggle with pornography, sexual addiction and so forth. Well, Kirk, you're not helping it out. You're not helping out what you're trying to overcome. And oh, by the way, you or any other woman, you're not helping anyone else out as well. Let me go ahead and go to a passage though. When you go out shopping, make sure you buy clothes that won't lead to sin. When you go out looking for stuff for your hair, this is going to sound funny, but I'll tell you what I mean in a second. Make sure you're not getting things for your hair that won't lead to sin. When you're going to the makeup counter, whatever you call it, whatever you ladies call that stuff, or I guess nowadays some of you men, the little makeup counter, make sure you're not getting makeup that will lead to sin. When you're getting shoes, make sure you're not getting shoes that will lead to sin. How in the world can shoes lead to sin? Well, if there's trying to lift your little calf muscles up or whatever and make your legs be accentuated. Don't do those things that will lead to sin. As a matter of fact, let's give it to Paul. Paul says in Romans 13-14, but put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh. Some verses may say for sin, make no provision for the flesh in regards to its lust. Don't do things that will make it easier to sin. For example, I'm at the grocery store and I'm single. I've got a girlfriend. I want to invite her over. Well, first of all, that's the first mistake. Don't invite her over. But then, you know what, just in case, just in case, let me get some breath mints. And then, well, let's see, there's some condoms right there. So what are you doing? You're making a provision for sin. You are making it once that if it happens, hey, at least I'm covered. But then, too, you're kind of egging it on. And then when you wear these clothes to make yourself look good, make your chest area stand off with some of your guys, make your arms show out a little bit of what have you. Tight. I still don't get men in the tight pants, but okay, whatever. To me, that sounds like another part of town that you men ought to go to, but maybe you are. Make no provision for sin. Make no, matter of fact, look what he says. Whether you eat or drink, whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God. So if you got to eat to the glory of God and you got to drink to the glory of God, things that we take for granted, well, then certainly how you dress, you ought to address how? To the glory of God. Not that you want man, some man, because you're lonely and the first 12 guys that you've been with haven't done you right, which might be an issue. The first 10 or 15 girls that you've been with haven't worked out, which might be an issue. If eating, you ought to do so to the glory of God, and drinking, because how do you do that? Well, however you can. Certainly the clothes you put on put them on to the glory of God. What does that mean? Well, I'm not putting my clothes on so that he can see me. I'm putting my clothes on such a way because I know that he sees me. It's somebody with me. I care about how I look. Don't just go to the mirror and look at yourself to see how you look. Well, then stop and let him get a good gander at you. Let him get a good gander at you, let him see. Lord, how does this? Do I look well? When you look at the mirror, is this something that is befitting of a man or woman in Christ? I don't care how single you've been. I don't care how long it's been. Does this look like a good, godly woman? I'm going to tell you why you have been single for so long or why your attempts have been striking out. I'm going to get to that in a second. But again, give him glory first. Give him glory first. Make sure that he's pleased that that's my baby going out. Now, when my daughters go out, I give them the once over and I give them a hard time too. And I go out like, let's say if my daughter has some friends or someone of them happens to be a male, I have to go out there and just look at them. I have to go out there and look at them. I want them to know I'll kill you just because. But two, just so you can see me, hey, he needs to know that there's a daddy at the house. Not like one of them regular daddies. And so, and they asked, somebody asked, one of them asked me, I think it was last, no, two weeks ago, three weeks ago, when can Bailey, the 16 year old, start dating? Never. No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. But that's my job as a father. Certainly that's my job as a father. What is his job? But if you, if you take that away from him, if you take that provision away from him, then don't be surprised when, when he was supposed to guard and protect you up front, that it doesn't happen on the, on the, at the end. Are you with me? No, I didn't get my wife before finding Christ. I found my wife as a Christian. Matter of fact, matter of fact, she was actually passing out Christian tracks. She was passing out Christian tracks and another buddy, I don't remember the guy's name. He saw her and thought she was cute. I thought she was cute. And I said, well, go talk to her, you big chicken. I'm, I'm, I'm egging them on. I'm pushing them on and he was scared. He had no, he had no rap game. He had no rap game, which was good for me. His loss, my game. So he said, well, why don't you go talk to her? Watch me. Next thing you know, it's my baby now. Amen. Amen. Anyway, but let him be the one that provides for you. Here is what the, what the Bible says. Where are we at? The Bible says delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your life. You think God doesn't know that you want a man or do you think that God doesn't know that you want a woman? Do you think God don't know that you're tired of picking the wrong ones or being picked by the wrong ones? Do you think God doesn't know that? Yeah, he does. Why don't you just delight yourself in him for a while? I don't mean to like yourself in him for a hot second. You read your Bible for a good five minutes. Okay, Lord, now give me what I want. Give me, give me, give me this. And maybe it is you have seen what the perfect man is. You got your eyes set on that. What fire? Listen, I'm never going to be one to tell you to, you know, lower your standards. No, don't lower your standards. Raise your own standards up. Raise yourself up to a standard. Raise yourself up to a standard. Be the person that someone else looks for. In other words, if you're a man, be a godly man. Your first focus, first and foremost is going to be God. Same thing for a woman. I told you guys and this is where I'm going to help you out. This is where me and my cup are going to help you out. This is where me and my cup are going to help some folks out. So y'all get ready. Before I do though, I've got to give you the danger and I've got to give you where the sin comes in. This is where the sin comes in. This is where the sin comes in. Couple passages. One, Luke 17.1. Single people. Single men. And I know it's unfair. Listen, I know it's unfair. But single ladies. Pay attention. This ball is more in your court than men. But same for men too. Same for men too. I shouldn't say that. Same for men too. Luke 17.1. Look, this is Jesus. He said to his disciples, it is inevitable that stumbling blocks come. But woe to him through whom they come. In other words, people are going to sin. People are going to fall. But don't let it be because of you. Help a brother out, ladies. You ain't got to wear the stuff that's showing everything. Don't go to the stores with tights on. Don't go to church with tights on. Don't go if your dress barely fits. Get rid of it. Get you some stuff that will not cause another person to sin. Men too. Some of you guys, if you happen to be built real well or whatever, or you look nice or what have you, don't be out there where you're causing some other woman. Listen, we did this little example. This was when I was a youth pastor. And I had the kids. I had a few girls come up and I said, listen, ladies, the way we are built, God has built us a certain way, male and female, and certain stimuli work for women or females, and certain things work for men. I'm going to tell you what works for a male, and I'm going to tell you what works for a woman. Flattery gets you everywhere with a woman. It gets you everywhere with a woman. So here I've got this one young lady who is not at all interested in me. I asked her in front of the crowd, hey, do you think I'm an attractive man? She said, ew, yuck, right? Okay, fine. No problem. That's what I wanted to hear. So I'm talking to her, and she's already made her mind that, yeah, yuck, you're too old and whatever. So I just said just some, I forgot what I said, just some nice words. What does she do? Giggle, do one of these little things, and you know, turn to her friend. That works. That works. And so guys would do that to try to, you know, set up something. But if you know if that's going to cause her to sin, I can promise you, the Bible, let's put it on the screen. Oh, it's still on the screen. It says, woe to you, mister. You got all of these different numbers and so forth. You're a little player, or as Jerome from Martin says, you're a mat from way back. Okay, fine. You cause these ladies to stumble, woe to you. Woe to you. Now, ladies, let's be clear also, men love compliments as well. They love compliments as well. And so you give a man a compliment, bat your eyes or what have you. You're making it harder for him. You're causing him to stumble, but especially with the clothes, especially with the clothes. Let me put a few more first Corinthians. Let me let this sink in. Eight and I think it's nine. But take care that this liberty of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the week. So there's some things that you can do that may not necessarily be sin. But if you know it's going to cause someone to stumble, well then don't go on it. Think about your fellow man. Oops. Think about your fellow man. Or, therefore, if food causes my brother to stumble, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause my brother to stumble. So if eating meat causes him to stumble, I won't eat meat in front of him. If wearing his dress or wearing these pants or wearing this or doing that is going to cause somebody to stumble, I won't do that. Now, if I'm married, all bets are off. Matter of fact, if that makes him do something, well then do it. Ladies, gentlemen, if that makes your spouse do it, then do it. Again, I'm not saying that you have to walk out the house with a potato sack on, cardboard box, no, no, no. Because there are some guys out there that are going to find that sexy. There's nothing you can do about that. But I'm saying your intention should not be that way. Now, here's where I'm going to... I might have to start another channel after I give you guys this advice. I might have to start another channel after I give you guys this advice. Because this is awesome. I told you before that you really don't have to do a lot to find somebody in this world. You really don't. I know that goes against conventional wisdom. I know it does. I know there are all these dating guys and all this stuff like this about how to catch a man, how to catch a woman, what was the old statement, how to be a high value man, how did it work for him. How do you be the right kind of... Okay. You're playing the same game that everybody else is playing and it's a losing game. Don't play a loser's game. Let me help you out with the Bible. All you got to do, if you want to stand out, if you want some... Because if you are single... By the way, can I just ask... Let me just go ahead and ask. I might as well. Might as well. But in the chat, can you all just put an S beside your name, male or female, young or old, if you happen to be single? I just want to know who I'm preaching to for a second. And then now you folks that are married, you can take this and use it for your single friends or for your children. But I just want to put a lot of S's. Why? It's a whole lot of S's. Okay. I'm through with my coffee. So let me go ahead and drink some Red Bull. I'm gonna need some Red Bull on this one. There's a whole lot of S's in there. S's in there. Wow. Hey, Carol, did you happen? Did you notice there was this many S's? Amen. Amen. I am going to... Matter of fact, if I bless you, if this is beneficial, if it's beneficial, share this video. I never asked you guys... I don't think I ever... Maybe I have. I really asked you to share. Share this video. Because I think more folks need to see this. Here's the rule. It's really only one rule. It's really only one rule. In a world full of trash, you don't have to look like a diamond. You have to be a diamond. All you have to do is not be trash. I told the guys in prison, if you want to stand out, it should be easy. Because just about everybody here is just at the bottom of the barrel. So all you have to be is just a little bit above the bottom of the barrel. A little bit above the soot and the gunk and the grime. Now, more so in you being the kind of person that God wants to bring someone to. And he does. He's the one that says it's not good that man should be alone. And he says that it's better for you to get married than to burn. We don't want you to burn. Whether we're thinking figurative or literal. So, here it is. I want to go to the Old Testament. And I want to use an example from our good sister Ruth. Remember Ruth? Ruth, her husband is dead. Her mother-in-law's husband is dead also. And she says, I'm not going back to my people. I'm going with you. And so she goes with her mother Naomi. Let's go to Ruth 2 verse 1. He says, now Naomi had a kinsman of her husband, a man of great wealth, of the family of Emilec, whose name was Boaz. And Ruth, the Moabitis, said to Naomi, please let me go to the field and glean among the ears of the grain, after one in whose sight I may find favor. Now, she's going to do so. Why? She's going to do so not because she's looking for somebody. She loves her mother-in-law, or really her mother now. She loves her and she wants to help. She is being godly. She is doing what she should do. The mother-in-law is older obviously. And so all she's doing is trying to help provide for her house. That's it. Not looking for anything else. And so she says, let me go and glean from the field among the ears of the grain, after one in whose sight I might find favor. In other words, maybe somebody will let me glean after them. And by the way, there's a rule that say that people that are poor in Israel, they can come after you and pick up basically the scraps. So I won't go too far into it. And she said to her, go my daughter. Verse 3. So she departed and went and gleaned in the field after the reapers. And she happened to come across or come to the portion of the field belonging to Boaz, who was of the family of Elimelech. Now behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem and said to the reapers, by the way, there's something more. We get the Bible study to go over this part. There's some shouting right here. May the Lord be with you. And they said to him, may the Lord bless you. Then Boaz said to his servants. Interesting guys, who was in charge or servant who was in charge of the reapers? Whose young woman is this? The servant in charge of the reapers replied, she is the young Moabite woman who returned with Naomi from the land of Moab. Now this is not a Jewish person. There's no real need for Boaz to even give her a second thought, but there's something about her that's sticking out. And she said, please, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. She's a young Moabite woman who returned with Naomi from the land of Moab. And she said, please, let me glean and gather from the reapers among the sheaves. Thus she came and has remained from the morning until now. She has been sitting in the house for a little while. Then Boaz said to Ruth, listen carefully, my daughter, do not go to glean in another field. Furthermore, do not go on from this one, but stay here with my maids. Let your eyes be on the field in which they reap and go after them. Indeed, I have commanded the servants not to touch you. When you are thirsty, go to the water jars and drink from what the servants draw. In other words, you don't have to be out here with the rest of them. You can go and drink with my servants who I'm taking care of. Then she fell in her face, bowing to the ground, and said to him, why have I found favor in your sight that you should take notice of me since I am a foreigner? Boaz replied to her, listen, ladies, gentlemen, all you with the S's besides your name. Look what he says. All that you have done for your mother-in-law after the death of your husband has been fully reported to me and how you left your father and your mother and the land of your birth and came to a people that did not previously know you. May the Lord reward your work and your wages be full from the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to seek refuge. I wish I had a choir behind me. I wish I had an organ. I wish I had that so I can just preach. Let me do the best I can right here now. If, notice what he says, all that you have done and you weren't doing it for the sake of getting a man or anything, but just for the sake of you being a godly woman, taking care of your mother-in-law, all that you have done has been reported. You do realize that there's always somebody paying attention to what you do, either for the good or to the bad, but even more to the point, more to the point, God is. He says, May the Lord reward your work. In other words, can you be rewarded? You will be rewarded for what you have done. May the Lord reward you. So I said this before again, ladies and gentlemen, if you just simply be godly, if you just simply be holy, if you simply focus on, if you just simply go to the hymn, if you draw close to the hymn, if you simply, what does the Bible say? What did Jesus say to Matthew 6? Seek first the kingdom of God in all his righteousness, in everything, whatever you need, and sometimes want, will be added to you. But don't do the wrong thing and go kind of backdoor. Don't go to this guy or that guy, this girl and that girl and then say God bless me. Know why? Because you're in the wrong field. You're with people who are not of God. So what you need to do, ladies and gentlemen, I don't care if you're 24, 34, 44, or 84. This works. Here is a woman who noticed her situation. Here is a woman who was not divorced. Her husband was gone, dead, and she's with foreign people. Y'all do realize that Jews and the Moabites weren't buddies. They weren't cool. But here it is this stranger who God shows favor on. So much so that y'all do realize that when you look through Jesus' genealogy, Ruth's name is there. Ruth and another lady who also took notice of God's good. But in this case, all she did was be holy, be godly, and be humble. And she got not only the recognition of God, but also some man. If the men are looking for a story, you can go and just think about Moses. Here Moses is who he does something good for those women who came to draw their water and he drove away those riders, those marauders. And so his future wife, Zipporah, her father says, bring that man to me. And he gives her to Moses. You've got one job. One job. And it ain't to worry about your future. It ain't to worry about your future mate. It's to please God. And then watch God do what he did to Ruth or to Moses or what he's always done. God will take care of you. He will bless you. Now, not necessarily as quickly as you think he should, because maybe you're not as godly as he wants you to be when you think you are. The point is, guys, if you want to stick out in the world, if you want to make yourself attractive, I'm not necessarily saying sexy, but somebody might find that sexy. I don't know. That's not on you. That's on them. But if you want to find yourself to be suitable for somebody, make yourself suitable for God. Give all you can to him. God will take care of that. But don't do this. Don't give God this time. And then, well, God, I've been with you today. Let me go out here and search for a man. No, don't be on... Don't make... That's not being faithful to God. That's not trusting in him. That is you trying to figure out a way to help God out. And God, I need you to help him out. You need him to help you out. And so just sit back, relax. I promise you that if he has designs on you having a spouse, let him do it. Let him bring the man. I believe... I believe the Lord still moves. I believe that we have a king on a throne who's still yet alive, who still intervenes in the lives of his people. And so you don't have to put on tight clothes. You don't have to wear revealing stuff. You don't have to be up to date with the hip language and have the good... the best game in town and so forth. No, you don't have to do all that stuff because everyone else is doing it. Everyone else is doing it. And I've told you ladies before that if you ask... If you had two twin girls, two twins, meaning they look the same, two identical twins, one of them wears something tight and revealing and she looks like she's headed for the club. Jeans fitting and so forth and breasts are all out. And the other twin is... she dressed modestly. Her clothes are loose. You can tell she's a woman, but you can't tell that she's a woman of the night. She's a good godly woman. She looks the part. Go and ask the men. Go and ask the men who they want to be with tonight and who they want to be with forever. Two different people. The one that they want to be with forever is the one who looks like... who looks like she should be with... She looks like she's got his back. She looks like whatever. She looks like she'd just go with whomever. That's not what you want, fellas. And ladies, you don't want to be that woman. I promise you, I promise you, it works. It works. As a matter of fact, go and find some woman who's been married for 20 years, 30 years, 40 years, 50 years. Of course, 50 years ago, they weren't really dressing the way we dress nowadays. They weren't really dressing the same way. You'll stand out. Your light will shine in such a way that guys and gals will look at you like... What? Wow. Who is this? Just like Boas. Not only will he eventually take notice, someone else is going to notice. Hey, man, listen. There's a young lady over here. Hey, hey, sister. Look, there's a fellow over here. I promise you, God has a better way of getting your name out than you. Now, you get it out. You might do it the wrong way. Swipe right, swipe left, swipe up, swipe up, swipe down, whatever those things are. God has something better for you. And so if you want to be a person who sticks out because there's nothing wrong with you wanting a husband or wife, you should want one. You should want one. June Cleaver versus Beyoncé. I take... I would rather June Cleaver. I would rather June Cleaver. Pearls and all. Because I could... Beyoncé would be a headache. She would be a headache. And you couldn't trust her. You couldn't trust her. Or some of you ladies want these guys who are competing with you in the mirror. If the guy is competing with you in the mirror, let him go. If he's all about how pretty he is if he's pretty wild. Or how he looks. Old man is telling you, let him go. Don't even... Don't... A guy asked... I thought it was good. I don't know if he's going to ask again. If he does, then fine. But a guy asked me. I got to say it kind of quiet. I don't want her to hear it. Ask me if he could date my daughter. What did I say? Nope. Nope. No why? You going to ask me again? That's it? If she ain't worth you asking a second time, well then heck no. And then we're going to have some rules. We're going to have some rules. We want to date her for her. What's going to happen while you date her? What's the difference between you dating her and you being friends? What changes? That's what I want to know. You can't tell me but then no. But if you can, then they may. You may be a keeper. Find you a man. I don't care if you're 40 years old. Find you an older man, a big brother, or your brother, or your father, or your uncle. Someone that you can point this guy to. Trust me. I don't care what you think you know. You don't know men like another man. Find some men. Find a brother. Your own brother, your cousins, uncle, your father. Ask them to vet these men. Men do the same thing. Take that girl to your mama. Your sisters. Your mom will definitely like them. Take them to your aunt. Take them to your grandmother. Get some help. Do you know what we already know? We already have verified that you're not good at this. And none of us are. None of us are. So get some help in this. Get some help in this. But all you got to do is seek God. Be godly. Delight yourself in Him. And then He'll do the rest. Amen. Amen.