 I'm an everyday woman, woman, woman In every way, yeah, yeah I'm living my life, life Living day by day Welcome to Every Way Woman, there are some major changes happening in the talk show world Live from Los Angeles, here's Every Way Woman There's the woman who just joined as one of the assistant coaches on a men's basketball team What do you think about that? If a woman's trying to be a coach on a man's basketball team, it's not that she isn't smart enough to understand strategy and all of that But there are physiological and psychological thought processes and things are going on in a man's body that a woman may not fully understand So yeah, I think you can cross boundaries sometimes where you take it too far, absolutely So do you think we've taken it too far? I think in some ways we have, not that because I'm saying women can't be everything they want to be, they're not smart enough It's just that sometimes it's like, no, actually you can't be a man, can you be a basketball player? Just be a proud woman, there's nothing about me that wants to be a man Why not coach women's basketball team? Why teach, you know, why go into men's sports? Why not teach, if you're a woman, why not coach women? There's so much work that needs to be done with women, I really wish that instead of competing to be a man We invested our time in supporting the growth and evolution of women I wish I could get up and kiss you right now because that's so true Because what happened to just being a plain old woman, sexy, vibrant, educated, nurturer of the family Why do we feel that? Because the man is moving here, we gotta do that because there's some reason we're gonna fall behind We're not equal, sorry people, men and women are not equal We're not equal We're not even designed the same way Yeah, well and on that note, I have friends who go to their jobs specifically not dressed feminine, not for practical reasons But because they feel in their office they won't earn the same respect as a man Yeah, that's true So they step into this role of almost dressing more manly Yeah, but you know, a little cleavage will get you a little... I want to wear a choo-choo in heels in between the same way, bring it on I don't want to have to do that and I think it's such a shame that so many women feel that way You know, instead of being dressed like this, they put on a suit to look like a man Look, if a man showed up in his Superman shirt, you know, and expected someone to take him seriously It would be hard to take him seriously There's a place for girl power and there's a place for man power It doesn't always cross I want to be girl power all the time and I know It doesn't work But when I was young, we come from a military background in history of military veterans in my family And I wanted to grow up and be in the military Right And I was going to be an officer in the military Were you trying to think like a man? You know, I didn't think of it that way But yes, I got out into the dirt and I did all the stuff with the boys I did what the boys did And I talked to a female officer and I'm trying to figure out where am I going to go Where am I going to go with this? And when I started talking to the female officers during that time They discouraged me from going into the military And I thought, well, are you jealous? I'm just younger. What's going on here? But the stories that they gave to me were like, no, that's not a place for women The type of abuse that we received during that time The type that you would be prepared to get defiled regularly Mentally, physically Sometimes it just doesn't make sense Why do we want to push ourselves to the point where we have to meet people? But I think there's a point in What does that look like? Think like a man Are we saying that women are subservient and they're thinking? Didn't What does that look like? Isn't there a book written by, I believe, Steve Harman that says Think like a man, act like a woman Exactly A lady Think like a man, act like a lady It's going to get you a lot farther If you understand the way a man thinks In the business world, in the romantic world You will get farther Because we're relating to men Because I didn't want to leave with women that We're sometimes, we're some dits because we don't think like men No, absolutely not No, but there is an art to being able to understand the mind of a man You can think like a woman and understand the mind of a man Okay, I have a question If there was a man sitting here talking to us about our menstrual cycle How real do you think that conversation would be? I can't stand that When you go to a gynecologist This is totally off topic No, but it's a man And he tries to tell you how it feels Right, yes, I understand It's like I don't Right, exactly So, yeah, there's that crossing where men at some point Are going to look at us and go Why am I having this conversation with you? Okay Because there are conversations that we don't have with men Because it doesn't make sense Not that a man can't be educated Right, I understand that Not that a man can't understand it I understand that But at some point we're like Do you bleed regularly? I don't know So you think we're disservicing women? I think that because women think with their hearts Men think more factual But if I begin to start thinking factual I don't want you to say that I'm doing that Because I'm trying to be like a man No, I am expanding my thought process That's why I don't want to necessarily leave That if you start thinking intelligently You're thinking like a man No, you're expanding your thoughts You're being a smart woman Yes You're being a smart woman Stay tuned Are you and everyone warm up? Ladies, should couples get married when they're broke? Is there a time financially when it's better to tie the knot? Broke is relative Right, yeah That's true That is so true I think it's good I think it's okay If a couple is ready to get married You don't have to have the big fancy Spend tens of thousand dollars on a wedding That's not why people get married It shouldn't be a reason why I don't think there should be some sort of financial stability Along with the emotional stability of the relationship Financial stability is something That you're always working towards Once you get to a place where you're comfortable You're always still looking to move to another place Where you can get more comfortable And look for a place So it's evolving You're financially I know my finances are evolving I don't know about evolving But to Madison's point I think in a marriage what happens You decide you should talk about it You should talk about Have that conversation before you get married Hey listen This is where we are financially Okay, yeah Enough with what you should What did you and your husband do? Tell me about that conversation We were broke We were broke We didn't have a house He was just getting out of graduate school I was working so he didn't have a job But we knew that picture going in So we got a little apartment Did he have a ring? When he pulled pearls to me We did not have a ring You did not afford to have a ring Really? Right So we didn't get one until 90 days Before we got married But we talked about it See that's the difference We knew our picture going in It wasn't like there was some expectation That he had a million dollars in the bank That he was hiding And I think that's what's missing People are not having the conversation But I think a lot of men Even you know guys I've been in relationships with them Past have said you know I love you But I've got to make a little more money Get myself financially stable Before we build a future And I'm wondering Is that an excuse Because he doesn't really Build a future Or is he really concerned About his finances I think for most men They are concerned about their finances Men think about it more than women do They want to see them They visualize and see themselves At least I think In a way where they are successful And they're doing this And then they got the ring And then they got the girl And so they have a different way Of visualizing what marriage Or weddings look like As opposed to women We'll just jump in Oh yeah It doesn't matter Where is my twisty tie For a ring I love my white men However I did meet a woman Who had said to A male friend of mine She pulled out this picture In Cosmopolitan Of this ring That was worth about $50,000 plus And she tore it out And she said Don't ask me to marry you Until you can get me this See There's a lot of women Out there who are like that Who want to make sure Their man can afford Their lifestyle That they want for themselves Absolutely Now at the time I was like Okay this is a bit shallow However at the same time Is it shallow Because she just knows What she wants Yes On the flip side She was honest She's honest She's honest I know This is the kind of life I want to live in If you can't give it to me Don't ask me to marry you That's true She should give it to herself Absolutely Well good that she was honest But also as women We have to identify potential Right Where my husband and I Are financially today We weren't 22 years ago But again We had the conversation Together Across the road So sometimes as women I'm a caution The $50,000 ring early Okay But also What your vision of marriage May be different From someone else's My vision of marriage When I got married Was and I remember saying This to my ex Saying you know what As long as we're happy I'm okay If we live in a In a trailer park Okay so Now years later I get that Repeated back to me As if I didn't know That you wanted me To buy the trailer park Well no I'm nervous I'm nervous to have That conversation About finances And Well I mean I really want to Share all of my secrets Well what My purchases are like I just For some reason It makes me very Very nervous And very hesitant To be quickly open No no Not necessarily secrets But I mean Debt I feel like a man Who wants to marry me Is like But I don't want to be Responsible for all Her baggage So you feel That he'll reach it Student loans Car payments Etc. Because I feel like That is Just kind of you are marrying. You're marrying. Yes, your financial life along with your emotional life. Okay, but speaking with your emotional life, then if you're not as financially stable, does that cause more problems in your relationship? But I think it's where you put the emphasis. No, it doesn't. You're right. It's where you put the emphasis. Again, you ask me and I'll go back to it. We didn't have a lot. We didn't have a lot. But what we had, and don't dismiss this, ladies, is we talked about what our future was gonna look like together. And we said we only make X amount of money, and we've worked in those means. And I know people. And I didn't put pressure on him. I know couples who have had a lot of money and they spent that money ignoring each other. Right. And it didn't help them in their marriage. That's powerful. It's really relative. And I think I love, it's really relative. You have a million dollars, you don't love each other. You have a dollar for- Yeah, you can afford to spend more time away from each other. You can ignore problems. You're gonna talk about a burrito, but you're happy because you're looking each other's eyes. Mm-hmm. I'm not, no, we'll be back with more Every Way Woman. Stay tuned. I can buy my own trailer park now. Absolutely. I'll put them in. Stay with us, we'll be right back. Are you an Every Way Woman? Have you ever thought about making a career out of your passion for makeup? Well, keep watching, because we're gonna talk to Anna about just that. Next up on Every Way Woman. Welcome to Every Way Woman. So women are launching themselves into entrepreneurship. And today we're talking to Anna about just that. She turned her passion for makeup into her career. So tell me, what does it like to be a makeup artist? Girl, it's not all glam as it looks in the social media. What do you mean by that? You know, honestly, if you look through the social media, all these people put up pictures, we only let you see what we want you to see. It is not all glam. You do put on a good face. It's long hours, a lot of driving. I mean, really my friends really know they hardly ever see me. And it's a workout. I don't have a life. I've seen the case. You are lugging. Yes. You're really in charge of all your own tools, your products. Yes, it's a lot of tools, a lot of products, you know. Searching for different type of brands that fit different types of people. Not the expensive kind too sometimes. So rewind. Take me back to the moment when you decided you wanted to become a makeup artist. Wow. Well, I never really wanted to become a makeup artist. It was more of a hobby. It just happened. You just what? It just happened. I mean, I literally had a full-time job. And doing makeup and hair was just a hobby. I would do it for prom. I started back when I was 16, girl. So how did you turn that into a business? It just naturally happened. People were calling me. I remember I ended up doing a friend that ended up with Gothic. And she ended up saying, you know, glamia for my wedding. She wore the whole red dress. No, she wore a red dress for her wedding with the YVL. But I ended up transforming her. It was a whole transformation that people were like, wow, you did that? And I think I was probably like 20 when I did that. How did that make you feel when you were able to transform someone? Well, in the beginning, it felt good. Now it's a different feeling because I end up helping organizations and our profits, where I end up transforming them, giving back. And it's different like cancer patients, you know, stuff like that. And to see them pretty much, you know, get teary eyed and stuff like, oh my god, I can't believe you're doing my makeup. It feels good. It feels good. It feels like I'm doing something. And even if it's for those couple of minutes that they're sitting in my chair, I'm happy that I touched a life in that way. To make someone feel beautiful is a true gift. And you really have it. Thank you. There must be a pressure to always feel beautiful yourself. Oh, to look beautiful. Oh, yeah. Every time I go into a job, I mean, all my ladies here probably know that when you go into a job, it's kind of hard to wake up every time, every morning, to put on your hair and put on your makeup. You know what I mean? So doing, being a makeup artist, you have to look presentable. You have to be the part. Oh, yeah. And especially me, I'm known for retro, so I've got to wear my red rose. But so how long have you been working as a makeup artist? 18 years. 18 years. You don't look old enough to do that. I hope nobody just said my age right now. Yeah. Nobody's doing math at home yet. I promise you that. So what's next for you as a makeup artist? Well, definitely, I want to do my own salon. I'm a type of person that anybody that knows me, I reach for the stars. And nothing's impossible for me. So right now, I have plans to be able to open up my own salon. But tell me about the networking. You have to network being a makeup artist. It's really important to network. A lot of people that I interact with, inspiring makeup artists, they always tell me, I don't like to work with other people or stuff like that. And I just look at them, and even though I shake my head, it's like, girl, you've got to learn to work with other people. It's all about networking. Well, yeah, what's the dynamic with your team? Oh, everybody in my team needs to know how to work with each other. That's why you're in my team. But definitely, when you network, you end up finding another job. A wedding could turn into a fashion show. The next person has maybe a connection to a celebrity. You know what I mean? It's all like, then you're working on movie sets. Then you're working, so it's impossible to do this. You're working on Everyway Woman, making us all look good and feel beautiful. Well, we're going to have more of your tips on a few more episodes of Everyway Woman. And of course, you can find tricks on everywaywoman.com more when we return. Stay tuned. Stay with us. We'll be right back. Are you an Everyway Woman? Up next, we have Manji from 88 Tequila, bringing you Slim 88. Salud. If you're already being naughty with a cocktail, then who needs all the calories? Manji is back, and she's talking about the Slim 88 today. But before we get to that, let's talk a little tequila. You are the tequila girl, aren't you? Yes. You're proud of that? Of course I am. Who's not proud of drinking tequila? No, but not only do you drink tequila, you work tequila. I mean, is your day ever not tequila? No, tequila is an everyday work. It's our brand. Because when my night is tequila, my morning hurts. Let's just put it that way. And how do you avoid that? Tequila has such this kind of stigma. It depends on what kind of tequila you drink and also how you drink them. So for instance, ours is 100% blue agave. It's the good stuff. Obviously that's high end. The more it costs the better it is for you is pretty much how it works. Isn't that the story about life? Tell this to my father. Exactly. So it has to do with what it's made with. It has to do with the process. And then also what you're mixing it with. If you're going to take tequila and pour a bunch of sweet syrupy products into it, it's going to give you a hangover because of all the sugar. Sugar and alcohol are typically what would cause you to not feel so good the next day. So those multiple margaritas hurt? Depending on how they're made. I mean, it depends. So like the one we're going to do. Do you know how that family secret? I mean, if your life is always tequila, what's the family secret? What's the hangover secret? Tell us. I drink a lot of water and an Advol before I go to bed. That seems to help me. OK, come on. All right. But is tequila typically like a skinny liquor? It is. It's lower in fat. It's lower in calories overall, as well as it's actually good for your digestive system. It helps to. Tell that to my doctor. Actually, it. Is it really? Yeah, it's a known fact that it helps with digestion. So I mean, obviously it's still alcohol. It's still in moderation. I'm not going to drink the whole bottle or anything like that. But definitely a little bit here and there. A little dose will do, yeah? Yeah. Absolutely. OK, so typically people think vodka is a skinny thing, but we can go to tequila as an option. And I love to host events. So having a non-margarita is thank you. Right, exactly. We like to do different things. So today, we're doing the Slim 88, which is lower in fat and lower in calories than your traditional margarita, because you're using all natural ingredients. And the first thing we're going to do is pour some tequila. Why the tequila? So this is the Blancone? Yes. So we use this one because you're using less intense flavors. And if you used a repulsador in Yeho, you could. You definitely could. But you're going to get more of the oakiness and the wood, whereas you want to enjoy the lemon and lime flavors with agave. Keep it light, fruity, eccentricity. Yeah, exactly. Keep it fresh. Sure. So let's do a shot. You could measure a two ounce shot, typically, in the shot glass. This is a test, so you don't measure. And I'll measure. You know what, bartenders usually do a three second pour. So I'll just go ahead. She's the pro here, obviously. And do that. And I'm just going to go ahead and. So let's hope I'm right. Yeah, I was going to say, let's see how good you are. Oh my gosh. See, now I just. OK, see, you just lost. That was my fault. That was my fault. All right, I'm just going to free pour it into your juice. Pour yours back in there. Pretend that you ever have it. And three, got it. OK, what's next? All right, so we're going to go ahead and do the agave nectar. I want to, you know, I always see people sniffing their liquor. What is what's that about? It's just like it's just like when you go wine tasting, you want to definitely smell it. You want to you want to inhale all the different ingredients and just enjoy it. And when you taste it, you'll be able to taste everything. It's important that you smell before you taste, isn't it? So then you taste more. If you actually you pick up on more of the flavor. OK, absolutely. What's next? So we're going to do agave nectar. And we'll just go ahead and squeeze a little bit in there. Agave nectar is very thick and very sweet. It's kind of like honey. Kind of like honey. Kind of like honey. But I personally think it's a little bit sweeter. Other people might. I mean, how much am I going? I would stop right there. I would just put a little bit. And then we're going to go ahead and squeeze some fresh lemon juice into this. And how fun are these glasses, too? I mean, one lady doesn't like a martini glass. It seems very sophisticado, if you will. OK, so we're going to go ahead and just squeeze the lemon. Talk about fresh lemon juice. Look at that. I love that. What is this? Lemon squeezer, I guess. I don't know what it technically called. Because this is how I usually squeeze my lemons. Let me show you. And then I get to squeeze. And you're more than welcome to. Yeah, well, but then I get to seeds. Exactly. And you get a lot more juice this way. OK, well, that's good to know. OK, yours is always going to be prettier than mine. That's just how it is. Now we've got some lime, too. Now we're going to do the lime as well. All right, I'm just free pouring free hand in this one. All right, that's fine. And most bartenders would make it that way. Sure, sure, sure. What else do we have? And then you can add a little ice if you want. Sure, sure, sure. Just to chill it a little bit. And then what we like to do to spice it up sometimes is just toss a few jalapenos in there. Well, talk about the jalapenos. Well, I don't know if I can handle those. I'm going to let Patsy try mine. And for this information, you can go to everywaywoman.com. Thanks so much, Maggie. Cheers. Salute. Everyway Woman gives back to the community. Go to everywaywoman.com to find out how you can match our donations of undergarments for needy kids. Thanks for getting to know Everyway Woman. This has been an Everyway Woman production. I'm an everyday woman, woman, woman, in every way, yeah, yeah. I'm living my life, life, life, living day by day, yeah. You in every way, woman.