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It's Isaac again and welcome back to the Daily Disciple channel Today we're gonna be talking about four things to look for in a potential spouse Now, disclaimer, nobody does any of these things perfectly You're not gonna find a perfect person so by me telling you these things to look for I'm not saying that you need to find a person that meets every single character quality on this list Or maybe even a character quality on your list It's important to have those things in mind that we're saying okay, you know what I'm looking for a person that kind of meets these kind of character qualities But it's also important to have in mind that you're not gonna meet somebody that fits those perfectly That's a just a small disclaimer as we're going into this topic Anyway, let's get into it Now the first thing is to look for someone who doesn't depend on you for their self-worth Now what is self-worth? It's our worth that is intrinsic that is given to us by God God places worth on us And we each have that individually But all of a sudden when they start, when people start kind of becoming clingy or needy Of someone they're in a relationship with That self-worth you kind of you need that other person to constantly affirm you Constantly help you constantly You know it's this kind of what you might put in terms of a co-dependent relationship And that's not a healthy thing That's not something that we should be looking for And it's not biblical too We ought to have a distinct and biblical sense of our self-worth as individuals Not that we're getting that from other people but that we can get that from God And that's one thing that I think you should keep in mind Now on to number two Now number two is look for someone who sees a relationship as an avenue to love you Not control you Some people just go into relationships with this idea that Oh this is gonna be fun to kind of be together and be in a relationship But also there's just kind of a sense that Hey look I have some say in how you live your life I have control over you and a lot of guys honestly can get into this kind of unhealthy relationships Where they just are either bossing around their girlfriends or girlfriends bossing around their boyfriends It's not a healthy thing to have this controlling nature as opposed to wanting the best of them And love, right? Having that love and everything pour out of that kind of Hey look I want what's best for you because I love you instead of I want to control you Because that's gonna fuel what I want the most There's a difference there and I think it's important that we watch out for Not entering a relationship with someone who just wants to control us Rather look for someone that wants to love in the midst of that relationship That's number two Number three is look for someone who is committed to the relationship With the potential of marriage Not just someone who's trying to get into a relationship to get rid of loneliness And I think this can be a real tendency to jump into a relationship when you're not ready When you're not not ready emotionally, spiritually, financially There's a lot of things that need to come into place before you're ready to enter a relationship And a lot of people don't because don't don't get ready Don't aren't prepared when they enter a relationship just because they want to escape this loneliness And if you're with somebody that just wants to escape loneliness but really has no mindset of looking forward to marriage It can be a tough thing because one person's just about hey let's hang out Let's have all the fun stuff associated with a relationship And that you know it quenches this loneliness But yet it's not really heading towards anything And it's important that we keep our eyes open for that And look for someone that is committed to the relationship as possibly heading towards marriage As opposed to just you know just something to quench temporal loneliness It's important that we do that Number four and what I think is most important is look for someone who loves God more than you And you're like what the what why would I want that I want them to love me I want them to love me so much when our spouse or our girlfriend or whatever When they're depending on us when they love us the most And they put that kind of they see us as the top right if we're on the top They love us the most It's not a healthy place to be for them because then they have their priorities mixed up God should be at the top of all our priorities And our love because our love for others is that which flows out of our love for God We can only love other people we can only love our spouse or potential spouse Based on the love that we have for God it flows out of that into loving other people And if you have that the wrong way you're not going to be able to love well A Christ like love comes out of a love for Christ So you should be looking for someone who wants to fulfill God's desires as opposed to fulfilling your desires Because God's desires are so much better so much higher so much wiser so much properly oriented than yours If your spouse is just all about pleasing you doing everything for you That's not going to be beneficial to you because your desires may be messed up But if the person that we're in a relationship with is committed to loving God the most And doing what God wants that ultimately is going to be the best thing not only for our relationship But for her relationship with God and mine as well these two things work in tandem And that's why I think it's very important that you find someone that loves God more than they love you That doesn't mean they don't like you that doesn't mean they don't love you But it's about where our priorities are and God should always be on the top of our priorities Thanks for watching guys I hope you kind of maybe you gained something from this video These are just some of my thoughts I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments down below If you're interested in more videos like this be sure to subscribe If you like this video give it a like and I guess I'll see you guys next week See you later