 Who do you feel a duty toward? Who is it your duty to support? Yes, some people it would be nobody just take care of themselves Some people don't even take care of themselves and for some people it just seems like They have so many people that they just they just want to take care of everybody. I think it can be useful to Be clear about this to decide who is it that I Really need to support that it is my duty and my pride and joy even to be able to support and Then other people It would be okay. I Still will have basic Treatment towards you as another being there are certain standards of how I will treat anybody But I don't have any specific duty to support people outside this List it's like we have a list of those people that we say, you know, I will support you and And then outside that it's just basic human Treatment, I think it's useful to have this distinction because Otherwise, it's easy to either just maybe not support those people enough and let those let that slide or Or What seems to be very common is to Just kind of feel pulled in so many different directions Because there are always people that Want something from us people are trying to take what they can and For people that have no defenses It's just like being energetically ripped to shreds there's this feeling of Responsibility that I have to make sure all these people are feeling okay Make sure that they're taking care of that and if They're disturbed or unhappy about something then I should somehow rectify this situation and I have to make sure everything's everything's okay with these people that can become a Default automatic way of operating with everybody or certainly with anybody in our circle and I can't it's It's often very well meaning Because it's the idea of you know, I really want to help people and I I wish them well and I hope and I want to do my best to Increase the happiness in the world and by helping all kinds of people and That is a good and Commendable Disposition to have towards people but it can so easily lead to this kind of overextension of becoming spread too thin so that I Can apply my energy to helping this person and that person and For one thing it leaves it leaves us open to those who will take advantage of that helping nature and will simply Parasitically attach to anybody that and just take what they can That has to be defended against And Even even if we're surrounded by all well-meaning people that don't mean to take advantage Still if we feel this duty to take care of everybody That can also to simply lead to having our energy just spread around too many people So that We will not have the energy and the focus to be able to help Those who need it most and those who most need us so I Can't say it's ideal to restrict it. It's still it's still a noble ideal to want to help everybody But I believe that it's not practical to Want to to feel this duty. It's not practical to feel a duty to support everybody it is better to Choose a list of This inner circle you could say of people that I will support them and Other people we can still try to help in some way But it's not a duty to support them. It's not that we have to Always be concerned about how they're feeling and reach out to make things better and Invest our energy directly in any specific person outside our circle You know, I have a hard time saying this because it's you know It is it does seem to be kind of going against that ideal, you know in principle We should help everybody, but we don't have the energy the time and energy and focus and commitment to be able to do that with everybody so It's it's like asking is it better to Spread a thin layer across everybody Or is it better to focus intensely on a few people? It seems like for the most part the best strategy is to focus intensely on a few people Still with a baseline of basic good treatment and goodwill and Basic kindness to all people But to actually invest our efforts in a concentrated way on The people closest to us That seems to be the better way We need to be very careful about making this list and Then I believe the best way is to have once somebody is on this list of people you take care of we you treat them with a very high standard and really do your best to take care of them and As much as it seems like Holding back from people outside that list. I believe overall It will make the world a better place if each of us has a handful of people that we've intensely and energetically support and help and Be there for then overall that's still if everybody in the world did this we would have everybody have a handful of people supporting them and That goes a long way So just like when it goes when it comes to friendship and family and the people close to us It's quality over quantity