 My name is Cash. I live in Long Beach, California and I'm a physician. I took the Art of Charm program because I'd been listening to the Art of Charm for a couple of months and found a lot of incredibly valuable information that just overall increased my level of happiness and gave me insight in myself and other people and allowed me to interact them with them more. But I felt I needed to actually get into a situation where I was pushed a little bit where I could kind of use some of the skills that I've been learning about in paper and on the audio but actually put them into practice and I felt actually going to the boot camp would kind of push me to do that and has. I chose the Art of Charm because I trusted in the product and I trusted in where the information and where the teaching was coming from. I'd been listening to Jordan's podcast for months like I said and every podcast was just a jam. There was tons of value there that was just given for free and I felt I didn't need to seek out this and in fact I never really even thought about going to a boot camp to increase my and improve my social skills and be able to interact with other people. I never even conceived of the idea but after learning about the Art of Charm and then listening to the podcast implementing those things I knew that doing something like this in a small environment would really augment my life and it has. It's always sort of skeptical when you haven't done anything like this and you're shelling out decent money to be able to participate in a group like this. My wife was definitely telling me to just look into it and make sure it's all okay and is there a money back guarantee and all the things that a partner wants to protect you with but I think a healthy dose of skepticism is really important and yeah so I was a little skeptical but in the end I had already been sort of exposed to a lot of the teaching over the last couple of months so I knew it was coming from a place of genuineness and of sincerity so I really wasn't concerned I was going to get the wool pulls over my eyes. From the first day I met first of all the guys that at the program who I've still remained in touch with and just starting off with AJ and Justin and Johnny and really interacting with them plus all the other assistant coaches from day one it was just put your feet to the fire teach you things really delve deep into what makes me tick and what makes other people tick and really coming from a place of how can you give value to people when you go through medical school and pre-med and the residency and fellowship if anybody's like me you're really just working or studying and kind of going home but this was the first time in my life that I had actually gone out and almost just tore the night up with a bunch of great guys and did it in a way that was just so fun and enjoyable and exhilarating and scary and every night and we went out five nights in a row got home one two in the morning and was just excited to do it the next day rather just being exhausted yeah it was I miss it I you know I I really look forward to you know doing it again with my AOC buddies that I met unfortunately on the east coast but say at least incredible just what a great fun awesome experience I think the video session was great it was painful to watch but I learned a lot by looking at my body language and how I was in terms of how I came off in terms of nervousness and anxiety so being able to get more grounded and more situated and more calm and relaxed is really helpful I thought the day sessions were great because it forced you to go out meet multiple different kinds of people and really shit that fear about initiating conversations with random strangers and I thought the scavenger hunt was fantastic as well and the nighttime stuff was scary but in the end it was just absolutely amazing well so I'm thinking about what I could have gotten out of the program what I got out of the program which I could not have gotten out on my own and that is being in a situation where I'm with people who are encouraging me and pushing me and supporting me to really go beyond my comfort and being and letting myself come out and totally be comfortable with it I think I have the tendency to want to read books and listen to podcasts and live vicariously through other people's experiences but this was actually me getting my experiences on my own and there was no other way to really push that rubber band of comfort to the point where it snapped unless I was actually there myself doing what other people have done such as this program so this training program for married guys I think have provided a really great framework for kind of interacting and valuing your partner and seeing places where you could really add value to your partner and to your relationship and by doing that you actually wind up getting value back so really trying to listen and see for example what my spouse preferred or what her subtle cues were when she communicated about what's important to her you know and being just a better listener and actually then having the courage to do some of the things which I'd maybe been scared to do so for a married guy I think it will make the relationship with your partner much closer hopefully they'll celebrate in your growth and be able to grow as well I found that my wife has grown as well and learned from me and she has started to take in some of the teachings about positivity about basic human need of acceptance appreciation and acknowledgement and some people may realize that they may not have chosen this great but in the end I feel like it gave tremendous value to your to my close relationships