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I shall sample your feedback towards the end of this particular morning conversation. This is part of and part of starts now. Let me start with you Edwin. How do you create a successful new year plan? How have you done it even as an individual? As an individual level it's important to know that at the beginning of the year is what we refer to as a strategic point. Because you have refreshed, you feel everything is new and therefore you need to begin afresh. We have things you failed in the past years or in the past time then you feel it's time to make things to be straight. So the first thing to tell yourself is that your expectations must match your efforts. Do not expect too much while your efforts are less. I love that. Your expectations must match your efforts. So if you are not willing to put an effort to it, don't expect anything. Yes, many people are expecting much but they are not putting effort into whatever they are expecting. So that is number one. Ensure that you have positioned yourself in a place you have a vista to know where you want to go. You set your vision for the entire year. You plan and you tell yourself this is what I want to achieve in the long term and in the short term. Ensure that you have your long term plan and your short term plan. So I believe that is a good point to start with. Ensure that you have a long term plan and a short term plan and your expectations should match your efforts. Ruth, how can someone plan a successful plan for a year and how have you done it even as an individual? Personally, this year I have planned to take my life as a business. Whatever I do, I do it like a business. What do you mean? As a business, meaning investments? Not necessarily investments but whatever I do, I make it. Do you know how a CEO takes seriousness in the business? The same way I have taken my life so serious and I have taken seven steps for this year. Seven? Seven steps. Okay. One, you need to have a mission and a vision for this year. You have to have a strategic plan. You need to use the smart goals. S for strategic. M for measurable. A for attainable. R for relevant. S is R. T is for time bound. Everything has to have time bound. I'll do this at this time and it will take this time. Okay. So you have seven steps? Seven steps, yes. The first one is? First of all, you need to know where financially you stand so that you can take a step. Then the second one, you need to have a mission and a vision. Third, you have to have a strategic plan. You have to have a measurable plan as well. You have to have an accountable body as well. Somebody who you ask, who needs to put you on your toes. That is six. Seven? That's seven. That's six, yes. Duable and attainable goals. Don't just put things there. If you have so many things to attain this year, just make sure you categorize them. First of all, take three. Attain the first three so that you can focus on the three. Then after that, go to the next. Yes. I want us to start with financial stability. This has been an issue for so many people. Considering the fact that we have come from a period where COVID struck and many are still recovering, there are some who are hit hard and have not managed to come up to get on both feet. But there are many who are looking into financial stability this particular year. How can someone attain financial stability? Let me start with you Ruth and then I'll come to you. I remember the last time that you were here we talked about you can borrow from the next year. Maybe there are people who borrowed from this month. We had this conversation here last year. Actually we had this conversation on how to prepare for the festive season with you. Yes, we did. It's interesting because you're just coming after the season to talk about now that the season is over. What do you move on? How do you move on? So you need to borrow from the previous year? If there is somebody who borrowed from December, remember if they borrowed from January so that they can maybe attain some things in December. Now in January they have to stick to the plan. You can't keep borrowing from the next month. You just can't. So you have to stick to the plan. You have to stick with whatever is left. So if you borrowed in December? If you borrowed January's salary on December. Now stick to whatever has been left. Don't borrow now again from February. So you can't keep borrowing from February? Yes, you can't keep borrowing from February. Yes, what she is saying is you ensure that you are leaving within your means. What if your means is too high? It's higher than your money. That is where you need to regulate. One of the lessons that was greatly learned from COVID-19 is that we need to have multiple sources of income which many people do not have. Many people have only one source of income. Yet you can have multiple sources of income whereby your cash flow is well established. What many young people lack what many people lack is a cash flow. Whereby you are spending, yet you are not earning. And the first step is to earn before you spend. You cannot spend what you do not earn. So when you have established a good cash flow then be sure that you will be stable financially. This means any idea that can bring you something any idea that can put a coin in your pocket is something that you need to embrace. For instance, there is a lot that is happening online at this particular moment. You can make a lot of money online. There is content creation. There is writing. There are a lot of people who are writing for online and they are making a lot of money. So you do not need to have hard cash in itself for you to make money. The richest person who lives on the face of the earth is not the one who has liquid cash but the one who has an idea for you to ensure that you are turning your idea into liquid cash. I believe that way you can make yourself to be financially stable. But many people do not have a second source of income. Most people have one source of income. And what you are saying, from this conversation, it is difficult to have financial stability through one source of income. That is the point. Now, when it comes to these debts that we have, you took a loan for the holidays but now you need to pay them back. You borrowed a bank. You borrowed an individual. And some of these people we borrow from, what are they called? Shainox. Yes, Shainox. Shainox. Mobile money has become a bond for many people. Shainox. Very dangerous. Now you are stuck in January as you all know has a thousand days. How do you come out of that? One run, it is important to know what you are borrowing for. One you say that you borrowed for the first season. But what is it that you are borrowing for? Many times we borrow to spend money on clothes, to spend money on a new piece of furniture, probably something that cannot add value to your life. When you borrow, you need to borrow for an investment. For that money, it is like a seed, you are planting, you are putting it in an investment. That way it will increase and it will give you a life that you desire later on. Don't borrow to go to KFC. I don't want to go to KFC because I don't have money. When you borrow to put into an investment. But you see, when you are borrowing for the holidays, this lady is putting you on the spot. Babe, you don't love me so much. Everyone is going out, it's the December holidays, it's Christmas, it's New Year, you've not taken me out the whole year. At least you don't love me so much. That's what I want. I think there needs to be an understanding of both of you. If I don't have, I don't have. But I can tell you, baby, I'll take you, maybe at this time, I'll push myself, get this finances and take you for a holiday. There has to be an understanding. But now you're stuck. There is something that was borrowed for December. And now they're stuck, they don't know how they'll recover and they're looking into financial stability. Are they doomed? They're not doomed. Let it be a lesson, let it not be a condemnation, let it be a lesson for you that there is a better way I can move on. Correct. And there is a better thing that I can be able to do. So that if you borrowed for December, because there is another December which is coming. What is the best thing for you to do? It is for you to plan now. There are a lot of saving plans which have been given to people which they do not adhere to most of the times. So that is why you find yourself in the same situation over, red over, again. But you can begin on the right foot this year and say, if at all there is a holiday which is coming, let me plan for that particular holiday. So do not do something which you did not plan. You've given an example where probably you need to take your spouse or your girlfriend out and you do not have money. Why don't you look for an option which can favor your situation at that particular moment. That you're not going overboard and then at the end of the day you'll be crying. If you have somebody, they need to add value to your life. So kama hauna, they need to understand at that particular moment. It is for the better. It is for us to be able, let us not eat our future today. Yeah. Somebody said somewhere, don't wear your tomorrow's clothes today. Tomorrow you will work naked. You will not have anything to wear. I wish I had a believer. Don't wear your tomorrow's clothes today. Otherwise you will work naked tomorrow. And also Ram, I think people need to have an income statement and a balance sheet. Income statement is the income that you get minus the expenses. And the balance sheet is your liabilities and your assets. I remember doing a balance sheet when I was in high school. That's the last time I did a balance sheet. So it is applicable in the world of today. It is very applicable. And that is the only way you can track. Let me tell you, I think we are very rich. It's just that we don't know how to use it. I'm hearing some believers. They are saying they don't understand what do you mean when you say balance sheet. Let's define what a balance sheet is. And of course, if you don't know how to use it, you will get a lot of money. So you can work naked. You can work naked. So what is a balance sheet? And how do you do that? Of course, in my head, I can remember we have two sites. We have the assets, site and the liabilities. So for the balance sheet, it's in the computer. So there's this site where you put your assets. Asset is anything that brings in money. And liabilities is anything that takes out money. So you take out the assets and the liabilities, you subtract. And just check. Let's say, for example, this month there's rents. You got your income, but that now is an income statement. Because now the income statement is whatever you got at the end of the month. Then now your expenses are the rents, fuel, clothes, shoes. Those are the expenses. And then now... I think umelia wa balance sheets. I think umelia wa balance sheets. Pesambayana ingia na pesambayana toka. Do they balance or are the liabilities more than the assets? Yes, now that's where the liabilities come to be more than the assets. They should not be? Yes. In simple terms, it's a track record of your spending. The money which comes in and the money which goes out. And the truth of the matter is many people spend, but they do not have a track of how they spend. That is the tragedy of most of the people. Is it not why we need bank statements and M-Pesa statements? But do people even take time to check their bank statements and M-Pesa statements? When did last... When last did you check your name? I only check animal. Many people, there is a time I updated the status and I said, you are very rich. It is only that you do not know. Because many people do not check their M-Pesa statements. I checked mine and I realized that I am very rich. You are a millionaire. The amount of money that I spent last year did we analyze that when the customer is. And what are you doing about it this year? That is a question. What are we doing about it? Kenyans need to rise up and do something. I always check my money. They always send it to my email. After every month, every month they do so. And they are very consistent. I like that. So everyone needs to go home, check how much money you have spent and how much money comes in and then see how you can balance. And what did you spend on it? Yes. What did you spend on? Yes. Because we have said if at all we need to be financially stable, your spending behavior should be on a sport check each and every moment. What am I spending on? I am on a ribu pesa. You think you are a moka. And there is an app for M-Pesa. It checks everything. The money that comes in and the money that goes out. And also there are people who write learning linoa chingama at this. Let's talk about smoke as fast. Do you count those small things that you buy? It's very ideal to use. I think it's very ideal to use. I think it's very ideal to use. I think it's very ideal to use. I think it's very ideal to use. For those who like mutura, you bought a... A kaboilo. Yes, a kaboilo. Do you keep track of that? This year I am keeping track of that. You are saying about smoking? What about smoking? He used a lot of money when he used to smoke. Smoking is a habit. You have to use that money every single minute when you have the edge of smoking. And those little money where the small money trust you me Ram that is a lot of money if you agree with me. That is a lot of money. So if you track the small things that you do the small money that you spend you'll see you have a lot of money. If you have a lot of money you'll see that you have a lot of money if you buy 5 of them or 10 of them and you keep them in the car. So it is true. I realised that I was a little bit too much. I said no. Now Najadzee is a way it is so interesting because we have a lot of money in the kwaqa. We have a lot of money. We have a lot of money. I like it. I like it because I have a lot of money. Because if you go to Kijuku you can't get it. So it is a pange. A pange. Let's move on. Because we are talking about how to successfully plan for the year 2021 creating a successful new year plan. We have talked about finances. Financial stability. I want to talk about relationships. We need stability even in our relationships. Do relationships also need planning? Do they need to be planned for so that you say that this year this is how I want to plan myself at this time I want to get into a relationship or I should be out of a relationship at this time how do you plan it? And for those who are married how should they plan their relationship so that this year they have a solid foundation for their children? That is one key aspect of life. Life depends on relationships. And Ram, in life your relationships must not just be any relationship. It must be strategic and align bold capital letters. Relationships must be strategic. We need strategic relationships. Not everybody that you meet on the road is meant to be your friend. I like it. Coach Robert Burare mentioned that and he said the other day that there are people whom when you meet it should end at the parking lot. Don't bring them to your sitting room. Don't take them to your bedroom. Why? They are not meant for those places. So as you're planning for this year relationships ensure the people you are meeting in life are only people who can add value to you. Yes. Wow. Yes. I agree with him. Make sure any person that comes in your life adds value. If he or she is draining your energy cut off that person. It's not worth it. I want to take a short break and then we'll be back on this particular issue here. How can you plan for your relationship? You said that relationships need to be strategic. What is this strategic relationship that we're talking about here? And I'm also considering the fact that there is somebody who has been single for a long time and they have no clue about how they are going to do it next. I'm also considering the fact that there is somebody who is in a relationship and they feel they need to come out of it. How can they do that this year? So they have come out of toxic relationships. We need to talk about that. Toxic relationships. And is it possible for somebody to come out of toxic relationships? We need to talk about that later. Can I comment on that before we go on the break? Maybe I just leave it so that we can begin. You can comment. Relationship is in three dimensions. It is social, it is spiritual and economic. Social, spiritual and economic. We need to talk about this particular issue because you need to know about it. Engage with us at Y254 channel. Let's take a short break and we'll be back in a bit. This is Power Talk. Y254. Imagine. And as always, value your feedback. Thank you so much for being part of this morning conversation right here on Y254. Thank you so much for being part of this morning conversation right here on Y254. Thank you so much for being part of this morning conversation right here on Y254. This is Power Talk. My name is Ram Maguko and if at all you are just joining us you are just in time for the next part of this conversation. Remember we are talking about creating a successful year, a successful new year plan. How can you do it? Let me just sample a few of your feedback and what people are saying on our social media handles. Remember the hashtag is Power Talk show at Ram Maguko at Y254 channel. You can head over to Facebook on our Facebook page that is at Y254. You can head over to Facebook on our particular poster here that we posted. Interestingly, I never knew until I saw this photo that we are all in blue. So I've just seen it. We are all in blue. Blue, blue, blue skirt, blue dress, blue blue skirt, blue dress, blue blue you. Blue you. And blue tie. And blue tie. Alright. Now let me read a few of your comments there. Dogosamuni Sende sana dogosamuni Racha Jose Sende sana piako tuned in Sende sana Sam Otis Senge Sende sana piako apoko nyumtenda Enoch Madegwa Sende sana That is my mentor Pastor Edwin Tiego. Alright. Sende sana keep talking to us Let us know also where you are watching us from We shall be able to recognize and appreciate you. Now ladies and gentlemen, let's proceed with the next part of this conversation and we are talking about stability in our relationships. How can we attain stability? And you said that there are three three parts. Spiritual Social and economic parts of our relationship. And you will start on that in a bit. Let me start with you Ruth. Many want to be stable in their relationships but there is this baggage from the previous experiences that they have had in their previous relationships. How can they gain stability regardless of their past? Maybe for example maybe you are in a toxic relationship or there are things that you went through your past's relationship that makes you feel as if you are not comfortable going to another relationship. So I think you need to give yourself time to heal and then after that after getting... and then time somebody who told me a friend of mine needs to give themselves time to heal and I don't think time is one year or two years but it's accepting. You only heal when you accept. You are wound but what do you mean by accepting? How long does it take for you to accept because for some people it takes time for them to accept that something actually happened. Remember Ram we talked about you cannot move until you know your mistakes. You can't move. So you have to accept whatever had already happened and you can't be blamed. If you don't accept it you blame the other person that you meet because of somebody... What am I saying? Whatever you went through if you don't get to heal you tend to put the emotions to the next person that you meet. So you first of all get to accept you get to heal and start afresh just like the new year. We've started a new year. It's a new year, new things. In terms of toxic relationships it is what do we mean by toxic? It all drips down to the different expectations that people had in relationships. Is the time you are here and we say that it is always good to know what you expect from a relationship or what you want in a relationship. For it not to turn to be toxic. And from the past relationships it is just good to be a good person that you know that whoever you are in a relationship with is not a bad person. It is only that it could not work between you two. It did not suit you too but it is not a bad person. So don't demonize them. Don't see them as evil people. Be human enough also just to accept that it did not work but let me move forward to the next stage. I may find someone who suits me I will find somebody better. That person did not deserve you and probably you did not deserve them. There is one thing that I really need to understand. When you say that you need to understand where you are heading to for you to not have a toxic relationship. For some people they find themselves in it. And actually they need somebody else to let them know that you are actually in a toxic relationship. And for others they have just realized that this thing has actually turned toxic and I did not expect this in a person. Now they need stability in their relationship. Should they break up? Should they get a divorce? Should they leave? How can you gain stability because it's a new year, want new things, want peace? I say the other time it's good to have a checklist and it's good always to believe in yourself. The reason as to why somebody is in a relationship and they need someone else to tell them that the relationship you are in is toxic. It is because there are some who have not believed enough in themselves and they feel I need this person to make me to be complete, to make me to be who I am. Therefore do an analysis by yourself. Before you get into anything know what is it that you want in life. Do you have the same goals? Are we going to the same destination? Now speaking of same goals, same destination, can a toxic partner hinder you from achieving your goals? Of course yes. Yes. But how? How do you separate? Because this is your partner. This is somebody that you love or loves you. And that is why I said relationships are strategic. From the spiritual point of view no relationship is an accident. Before you go there. Before you go there. Relationships, toxicity and your goals you want to do something before they prevent you from doing it. Yes they can. In one way or another maybe they do not want you to do that thing. That whatever. I feel as if, I don't know but pastor you can do that. What do you feel as if what? I feel as if if you are not comfortable just leave. Your mental health is more important as that gives you so much peace in your hearts when you are at your mental peace. Your mentality. Your mental peace is at peace. Okay. I get you. You said that there are three parts. And I remember spiritual, economic social parts of our relationship. Let's demissify these three. Let's start with the spiritual aspect. You are saying no relationship is an accident. No relationship is an accident. Women imagine part of our relationship. I just realize I am dating. The way we are made nothing happens by coincidence. There is nobody you meet by that it is an accident. They must have a role which they will play in your life. As you are moving on you will get to know why is it that I met this person. You may not know it today but as you are moving it is a discovery that you will get to make. I did not know that I met Ram for this to happen. So it is something that you realize as you are moving on with the journey. So as you are meeting people in life no that no you do not meet somebody by accident it is somehow designed. So this character development it is designed. Somebody plan to develop you. Yes. Social. As human beings we are social beings. Sometime you want to be close to somebody you want somebody to share with you want somebody to pour out your heart to somebody to listen to you in one word. So life is it is social. Now we move it from the social aspect to the economic aspect. Many a times when you do research people who begin business whom do they begin to share the business with? They share the business with the people who are close to them. You realize if at all you are doing a business your clients are not people who are far off they are people who are on your phone. Unless you do not understand that you need to begin with those ones you will not know that life is economic. So you are selling something and you never sold it to those ones whom you are working close to. So just know that life it is spiritual, it is social and it is also economical. At one point who do you run to first? When you do not have money you run to somebody you know you run to somebody you have a relationship before you call anybody else first of all probably you call your brother your sister because they are close to you. Then you go to friends then you go to bank. Now now now now there is there are so many questions I have about what on the same name we are going to delete people's numbers now if you never talk to me in the previous year this year delete if you are like this this year delete if you are hazardous this year I am deleting people are deleting people's their friends numbers on the same name this year we are cutting off we are sharing off unnecessary links we do not need such kind of friends it makes me wonder because we are now moving on to social stability how we relate with our friends how can you create a plan for yourself to successfully socialize with people in a way that is good and healthy for you and for them because we keep on talking about you relating with people who can help you that you need to relate with people who can be of benefit to you but then at the end of the day everyone can be of benefit to you they are somewhere lower than you and those who are upper how can you create this good social space for yourself I am still on you Diego you say there are people who are saying they are going to delete people delete delete delete one do a self reflection we attract whom we are if you tend to help people more so don't just go on a deleting spree yet you are the problem but still on that there are people who help others they help so much so that they never ask for anything but on the day they ask for help nobody can help them yet the ones who always give if you need money they give you money if you close they give you close if you need food they give you food nobody is there to help them we can just call that unfortunate but I believe the way life is there is no way somebody can help you any time you help somebody ram they will feel indebted they will feel indebted even if you do not have an intention of helping them so that they can help they can help you because many times I advise people even when you are doing it do not do it so that somebody can do it for you but life has a natural way of giving back that if I give you a gift you will feel indebted that next time at least I also need to give this guy a gift so I began from there that let it be a self reflection that are you the one who is the problem that you do not have this machismo to be able to attract as well because you attract what you are so in doing so you do an evaluation whereby you know whom do I need to help because you say you have one person who can help and one person who can help in this case Ram when you help you need to know the kind of help you need from them because they are them who give you material help they are them who will give you canceled But they can give you an idea, they can give you a council that will take you to your next level, that will make you to be the next big thing. Umedelit nambaya wa tii mwaka. Sijadelit, but I wanted to know, watu anadelit mbona? I have never understood mbona unasema ati nita, delits nambaya huyu na huyu na huyu. Even if you delete, you still remember them. You still have their names, the talks in your mind. So there's no, it doesn't make sense when you say al delits. And speaking personally on the lady's side, you'll find that we mostly delete digits or numbers because how to decide you are financially. Lakin you are still not, you still don't delete numbers as much as I do. Kwa sababu? You will call them and ask them to name you. I have so many friends when you delete numbers as much as I do. Now listen, mbona na delete onasema huyu ati nita to turn the club. But when I need something, hata ni, hata ni piya pesa, hata ni fanya hivi. But ye ya kitaka, if they want my time, they want me to give them my time. But wewe, if I want you to help me in any way, you won't. So that's why they're deleting and speaking for the ladies. Which refers me to what Tiago said earlier on, that you give something, expect something in return. So you give them the time, expect something in return. What if you don't expect it? You don't get it. It's not that you're expecting, it's just the way he said, you feel accountable. You feel indebted. Yes, you feel indebted. It's not that you have to. Why do ladies delete numbers? It is because they first of all did not understand why they saved it in the first place. Why are you becoming personal? I don't know if there is anybody who can testify today. I've been in charge for so long. I don't know if there is anybody who can actually say that I know you are not going to be deleted. They are not seeing us. It is because they deleted it. It was deleted. But it's good to cut off people. It is good to cut off people. It is. To cut off people, friends, lovers, exes. It is. After a very deep consideration, I say you do an analysis. A careful analysis. Don't just cut off. You do a careful analysis on whom do I need to move on with this year. That one, it is true and it is very, very needful. You need to ask yourself whom do I need to move on with this year. To move on with this year. Once you have analysed these are the quality of people that I want to work with this year. Then your life will also be quality. Let me ask you, let me ask the both of you. These year there are people who need to really change their circle. And I'm saying this with a very small mind. I know there are people who need to change their circle this year because it is their circle that has affected their previous year. It is because of their circle that maybe they did not achieve one or two things and it is because if you change your circle, you can be able to achieve something. Absolutely. Now I want to ask the both of you to give me your opinion. Who is a friend? How can we define who a friend is? Because this is where the problem is. We don't know who a friend is. And because we don't know who a friend is, everyone is our friend. And those who don't have friends and they say I only have one friend. So what is a friend by definition? A friend is somebody who is close to you, who understands you and who has accepted you as you are. These are not people who will just shower you with praise. These are people who will also critic you when you go wrong because most of the times we draw close to people who favor whom we feel they favor us in one way or another. So you are in the wrong and this person still favors you. You need somebody who can tell you to soba up when they feel that you have gone overboard. There are people who can calm you down when you beat yourself too much and tell you this time round you beat yourself too much. So the friendship is also in levels. We have confidence, we have constituents and we have comrades. So I believe in this case, the ones you are asking about are who is your confident, whom have you built confidence in that to this point they can tell you this one you are wrong, this one you are right. You know when you have a friend who is always a yes man or an yes lady, anything you say yes. That one is not a friend. That one is escorting you to your fate. I don't like such people, yes man. So a confident is somebody you've built confidence in and you can tell them you can and they will judge you. They keep you accountable. But you see even as you do that and you share stories doesn't it mean that that person who you share a lot is now your friend? That's because we talked too much. That's why I was very careful to say the one you've built confidence in because you don't just find, confidence are not just found anywhere. Confidence are built, you build a confident. By the experiences you have had with this person that is how you build confidence in them and then you are sure that this one can be my confident, can be my friend. Now still on Utego, there are people who because of a particular experience you became close. Maybe something happened last year and now because this person was there to help you through that season you became close because of them. For example somebody is having a problem at work and now because of that issue at work they became close to a particular colleague. Maybe somebody has a problem and they called a particular friend and because of the issue in that particular scenario that person became close to them. Does it mean that they are now friends? Because now after that particular season after that problem is over story na jia kupiga kuna? It is an element because there are factors which build up friendships and one of the factors are situations. You understand? They are situations. So when you find there is a situation that came up and that situation brought somebody into your life I believe there is a common video that is making rounds on social media when Jalango said let's situation let's circumstances introduce friends or introduce families to you. So to me it is an element and it is a factor to consider. Now the only thing is that probably both of them did not know how to relate after that situation but it is something that has introduced somebody your thoughts. What is a friend to you and how can we distinguish between these different types of people in our lives so that we don't get mixed up and call everybody a friend. That is true. I think a friend is anybody who has good intentions for your life somebody who can tell you the truth and tell you as it is that is a friend be it a good thing or a bad thing that person will tell you as it is. Also I think friends for me the people I feel are safe you need to cut off the people who remind you of your past ati o paster atu kwa na pesa atu kwa na kula smuki don't remind me of my past we are moving forward we are moving forward we are moving forward we are moving forward this is what we are doing this is what I want us to accomplish by this type that is a friend it's a drinking partner friend if you have time you can call this person you will have a good time I think there are categories of friends as paster saying kuna weni weni weni we are moving forward we are moving forward kuna weni weni I am pretty sure kuna weni uta pigenu na joa uiwa nikimuita tutera kuhunya but after that there is nothing else kuna kusum na somebody it is in the bar that you find good real friends no it is not you see somebody used to give that particular testimony and I said no I go to a place and I said no that is not what it is anyone who helping you to destroy Sii menedag deaths in this year my friends need to be focussed How? Habits They are good habits and they are bad habits So it means if you want to stop a habit It is a bad habit Those who have studied psychology will say it has become a addiction It is classified as a habit One, you need to first of all highlight it as a bad habit. Highlight it as something which is not adding value to your life. Two, you accept that it is a problem or it is an issue to you because if you've not accepted it as an issue, then it is very, very difficult for you to stop. Three, look for somebody who will hold you accountable because a habit has been built over time. A habit is not something that you've done today and then you say it's a habit. So you find somebody who will hold you accountable on what you're doing for that habit to fade away. So this year there are some ladies out there who need to stop partying because they need to be serious. And you've seen these things trend on social media where there are some men who say that there are women who belong in the streets and there are women who belong in the home. We change this particular habit for women. Since Pasta has already defined it well, the first question I think I'd love to ask them when you open your window, I know I might sound a bit rude but the moment that you open your window, what do you see? Where you live, when you open your window, what do you see? Is it a comfortable place where you want to continue living? Is it somewhere kuna kani sapam, tuto ezi lala ama family, you're not even at peace, kelele wizi nini, what do you see when you open your window? That needs to motivate you to change your habit so that you can now put more energy to where you're supposed to be. Ramuki fungo, if you want, what do you see? That is not what you want to see. Is that where you want to stay for the rest of your life? Do you want to stay there? So you have to change your habits, you have to make wise decisions so that you can get what you want. Wow. And I'm looking at a particular scenario. I had this example last week between a zebra and a donkey, which one is the best? Which one do you think you'd go for? I think a donkey is a dragon and a zebra is beautiful. It is in... Don't answer quickly. Between a zebra and a donkey, which one would you go for? Let me say, should I go for? That one requires critical thinking. A zebra is so beauty and a donkey is for strength. So if you need beauty, then you'll go for the zebra. If you need strength, then you'll go for the donkey. I would say the same. A donkey is... it really works hard. If you even look at the donkeys in the roads, they carry so many things. And I think I'd prefer being a donkey than a zebra You just sit pretty. You'd prefer being a donkey than a zebra. Would you prefer being a donkey or a zebra? You don't know what to say. I would prefer being a zebra. Why a zebra? Now, why a zebra? The value is on the look. But you can be beautiful with nothing. You can be beautiful and not hardworking. You'd rather be hardworking than be beautiful. You can be beautiful and you also attract... A zebra has tourists who come to see it. And those tourists also have value. That is why I said one has beauty and the other one has strength. Both can be valuable. This is what I read somewhere. And that's why I asked this particular question. Because this is how you need to... what you need to plan for the year. Between a zebra and a donkey, a zebra is more beautiful than a donkey. But a donkey is more hardworking than a zebra. But if you look at both of these particular animals, one stays at home, the other stays in the bush. A zebra stays in the bush, no matter how beautiful it is. And a donkey stays in the home, no matter how ugly it is. It stays in the home. This is how you take a wife and just think about it. And if you try to bring the zebra to your home, it will bring people tourists to your home. The tourists will come to your home. Do you need tourists in your home? That's why I said it depends on what's going on. I've been caged today. I've been caged today. You've made it in that one. I want us to bring this conversation to a close. It's all about creating a new year plan. And I want to give you time to have a final word in regards to this. Talk to people who are watching it today within just 30 seconds a final word on how to create a new year plan. This year we need a change. This year we need something different. This year we don't want to start and end at the same way. This year we need a difference. Which is my camera? No, that is your camera. Ya, for this year I have had one message for everyone that is out there. That the greatest thing that you can do to yourself is that you add value. Ensure whatever you will do, you will add value. Anything that derails you, anything that will make you not to amount to what you're supposed to become, leave it behind and just ensure that you are adding value. Ensure you are reading books, you are listening to inspirational messages and ensure that you are scheduling yourself well. Don't be found everywhere at any given time. Don't be too available. When you are too available then it means that your value is also not adding up. Thank you so much. Alright Ruth, final word. This year you need to, not only this year, from today since you are already here, change your mindsets. At least learn even 4 words every day. 2 hours to this year. Learn 4 words every day. Read books as Pasta has said. And make sure you are going to the right direction. Let me talk about Mark in the Bible, Mark 4. There is a verse where the disciples went with Jesus to the sea and they were so scared because the sea, they wanted Jesus to wake up. He was asleep. So they woke him up and told him there is a storm. You need to calm the storm. And that's, I'm talking, I'm saying that in consideration about God already knows what you want. God is ready for whatever you want. So you need to push yourself and pray, believe and trust in God. Alright. Thank you so much Ruth. Thank you so much Tiago. I want us to bring this conversation to a close and I'd like as always to end with a quote. Bring it up Timo. I don't really do new years resolutions because I don't think you should have to wait until December to start working on how to change yourself. I think if you've got a problem, you need to fix it now. That is a quote by Clay Iken. That is his belief. If you've got a problem, fix it now. Sure. Do you agree? Sure. Do you agree? Yes, I do. Ladies and gentlemen, that means us to the end of this morning's conversation on power talk and as always my own take home for the day that what I believe should be there is that you need to stand out. Happy new year and I wish you the best this particular year 2022. Big thanks to Tiago and Ruth for being a part of this morning's conversation. This is power talk. I repeat of this show as again tonight at 10 p.m. My name is Ram Aguko. This is power talk. Happy new year.