 And it's real interesting because I see a lot of information like that out on the internet where the advice is to just turn the guy that you're with into the right guy, you know. Don't go out and screen anybody, make sure, you know, make him into fit the mold of who you want to be. So why do you think it's so important to screen out men? What would this help women do? Well you know man, really, I'm a simpleton, I like to break things down into simplest, easiest components and to me it really comes down to do you want to be happy? Do you want a relationship that is easy that you don't have to turn somebody to make him into who you want him to be but who is naturally that person that you're looking for from the get-go? And so I believe that there's one person on this earth, at least one person that can naturally give you what it is you're looking for and you know you and I have spoken before and that it really is this fear that I'm never going to find what I really want so I'm going to have to take this guy, this square peg and make him fit in the round hole where and that's why you know the majority of people struggle in their relationships because they don't believe there's that one guy out there or you know they want the guy that's really hot that makes them feel special in the bedroom but who makes them makes them miserable outside. So it's really about getting clear and focusing on finding that one guy and I believe and I've learned is that when you operate from that place and you're not afraid and you're willing to give up the good to go for the great that the universe kind of takes care of the detail and that guy will show up however he's meant to show up in your life. Yeah so one of the big concerns that I get from a lot of women is that they really don't think that there's a great guy out there for them and that every man that they meet is a commitment foe or that every you know when he when he says something to her like he wants to be with her and gets really excited and you know talks about marriage and then all of a sudden he disappears on her. Are men really all commitment foes? Well first of all what we need to do is we need to differentiate because I believe that there's a difference between men and boys so the way I explain that is boys are the ones I have three boys you know they're eleven nine and seven and you know they want what they want what they want when they want it that's kind of what boys do and ultimately there's a maturation process and it's my job as their father to teach them that's not how it worked that your choices and decisions ultimately affect other people so there's some guys who never get the message and they live the rest of their life that way you know it's all about what they want on their terms and a lot of these guys quite simply you know you're a guy are just looking to get late and so those are the kind of guys they could be amazing the chemistry can be awesome they can be great lovers not the best relationship partners so you got to realize if you want to have some fun go ahead knock yourself out but if you think you're going to turn one of those guys into a relationship material you're wasting your time and I know a lot of people listen this and you have been there done that so you got to start off with that and then differentiate that they're also men who get those are the guys who are emotionally available who are responsible who are unselfish who know how to be good relationship partners and who are willing to do so so you've got to be able to quite quickly be able to differentiate look and at this stage of the game every woman should know that a guy is going to some guys the boys are going to tell you what you want to hear and they might even think that their relationship material but ultimately their actions are going to show you that they're not so the beauty of life in screening you just have to sit back and allow them to show you one of the biggest mistakes women make is they jump into relationships and they get involved with these guys who say and do all the right things in the beginning and then as you say they disappear and the women like you know what the hell he said all the right things in the beginning yes just because he said it doesn't mean he's going to live up to it