 Ladies and gentlemen, I just finished teaching class For the growth club Those y'all who not in the growth growth club you missing out But I didn't get to do a video today. So it's before midnight on my side So I say I got a pop on here cuz I can't be selling the consistency the consistency Hoodies, and I got me some new consistency shirts and not being consistent Ain't draw the yet, but you see that quality They got a little patch on them. This old dick. It's a oversized Oversized shirt, but you see that quality and see I made these I made these clothes because what I call motivation wear You just remind me of what I got to do That's all it is. It's just a personal thing, but I figured if it's for me I share with the world. So y'all be ready now now it should be just the members in here if it worked and We're gonna put this here shot out on there. God bless you. God bless you So we have people who was on the growth club to our chat that came on here Y'all built different now Y'all built different Now somebody said a notification Haven't been getting notifications see how see how YouTube gonna hate It probably just too much bandwidth for them and they like man We ain't gonna be wasting up this bandwidth to notify people about your raggedy live That's a shame YouTube got the notification bill that don't even send notification That is absolutely so what you may have to do is hit the unsubscribe Then hit subscribe again Then hit notifications again That's a shame Yes, this is a Q&A try to only do by the hour. I'm still at the office. I Have been with my family a little earlier than a day So sometimes I be family early in the day and then working later than sometimes if I'm working early Than I'm family at later. So we ain't grind season right now Purpose base And I'm trying to step my wife hair cuz I get on her nerves every now and then So we're gonna go through some questions on here tonight on the growth club we talked about spiritual warfare and It's being saved right now I'm gonna put that in there for those y'all who missed it and we're gonna be on here about an hour and then I'm gonna go I'm gonna get into a bed a little answer Saturday training the life coaches for the current life coaches and aspiring life coaches so there's 250 for current life coaches who have taken my training and then a Thousand for those who are new coaches So you might have a few seats left. I need to check But I'll be there In a line of Saturday If a guy asked to pursue you should he make it clear from the beginning what his intentions are I don't want to be pursued by anyone that is pursuing me to figure out what he wants Yes, he should and any man that's intentional. He will let you know that Is greeting a shy man the same as shooting your shot greeting is not the same as shooting your shot So saying hello Is not the same as shooting your shot saying hi How are you? My name is Courtney? What is your name? Are you single? That's shooting your shot, but just hey, how you doing? I'm Courtney. How are you? That's not shooting shot. Why are you? Hey, God bless you. I'm only a full hour. I Got to get sleep how to co-parent when you are not overpass hurt Baby is too Now y'all make sure y'all put my mentor got life My mentor got life. I had it on the wall and my home office is on the wall But up here at my office office. It ain't on the wall yet waiting. I'm still waiting on my panel to get put up here but We have co-parents and coaches on my mentor got life I have not had to co-parent and so I try to stay within Things mostly I have some type of experience. Welcome to the new members Got some new members popping in y'all see the join button for the membership under the thing In order to be in the chat and ask questions. You got to be a member But go to my mentor got life a lot of people get that confused maybe Caramel kisses if you could put my mentor got life in the chat for the folks a lot of times I'd rather you work with a co-parent and coach on that But you also need to do some life coaching to to heal So I want you to think about that. I'm gonna probably set these shirts up These are spencer night. Hey, it's quality Hey, these are spencer night So I'm gonna set those up probably next week. I was gonna do me a little photo shoot in But I don't take good photo I have 4k saved and I have 4k left to pay on my car Should I pay my car off even though I'm trying to move and I want at least 10k save before I move out of state That's a tough one now and you know because I'm bad with money and you know What the financial people gonna tell you? Yeah, pay your car. So you get out of debt And that is a safe thing because you really ain't got 4k if you still owe 4k But at the end of the day, too, it's like Okay, the point of financing is to finance So if you can afford to pay the monthly payment and continue building that relationship with the bank that gave you that money once you Pay that off and you can maybe pay a little more each month to get on down to it Then you got a relationship with that bank So when you go back to them and now you want to you want a house loan or you want a small business loan Or you want a personal loan or what have you now they could see that you Legitimate that you handle your business So it's really based on your appetite me personally I'm not paying it off. Just because I have a high-risk appetite For people who more scary and kind of scarcity mindset And thinking like oh, what if tomorrow my lead fall off then those individuals they gonna pay it Me personally also, I'm not scared of no repossession because and I've Bigger out there credit is just a game. It's all a game. I Don't win and got G wagon with a 500 credits goal and they try to tell you got to have a 750 800 It's just a game and these people know They they know when you go to buy some they know everybody's struggling with credit because the person that's underwriting sitting there with a 550 and underwriting your loan. So it's based on your personal tolerance I like using other people money So I finance and then I take and invest my money This this a thing if I owe 4k and I'm paying a little interest rate when I invest that 4k I'm gonna turn my 4k in the 8k. So now they had me a hundred percent return, but that's 4k that I owe I'm only paying three four five six seven percent whatever it is, but I don't flip my money so That's why I can afford that I don't try to Bite the hand that feed because that's why banks going out of business not because everybody trying to you know, cut them out the business Is a god telling you he loves you on the first date a red flag absolutely got to run But if you was on the if you was at the date with that shirt on Probably what instigator that Is it possible for a 20 year age difference to work? Both been married before been building Family listen anything is possible. That's not that's not recommended though That is not recommended at all 20. See just the thing when you got to think about 20 your age difference One of y'all gonna be geriatric One of y'all gonna be going to travel to see the world I don't even know a geriatric mean but it sounds good. We're gonna use it right there So I wouldn't recommend it. You got to think about 80 and 60 180 70 and 50 50 and 30 It just don't go together and and the way I always look at age differences is a 20 year old with a new bar It just it just nasty to me That's a 20 year old with a new bar It just nasty It just not and essentially Even though you are older that's still the difference the person that's 20 years older got 20 more years a game Got 20 more years of bodies Got 20 more years of experience got 20 more years of lives got 20 more years of trauma got 20 more years of mileage And it just it's going to be hard to match up I've been working on myself physically spiritually and financially How do I prepare myself for marriage? What's the steps to becoming a white doing exactly what you're doing? Now y'all market calendar is january. I thank the second week of january second friday y'all have to take off Because we're trying to use the off day. So it's a little cheaper fight me We're doing the three bees conference. It's gonna be a full day. It's gonna be that's we're looking at hoping that second friday So y'all market calendar is because i'm gonna release the tickets here soon So we could sell it out give us enough time to sell it. I ain't no refunds either. That's january 12 january 12 ain't gonna be no refund now Because because the ticket's going to pay for the venue So y'all be ready now three bees conference. We going in all day I got a lot to talk about In-depth and some Q&A. How do I not become so insecure with the guy i'm dating? When he gives me no reason to think he's cheating You have to become secure with yourself And I struggle with the same thing. I've been married 16 years and still Insecure still be around here Wondering, but you know what? What we have to do Is we got to become the greatest gift to anybody's life So that we no longer care If they cheat because if they cheat It's their loss That's what we got to get to To where you love yourself so much and you know what you bring to the table that you ain't trying to check On what he got going on Guy is nine years younger Don't ask me for anything has been consistent for eight months In everyday communication have it been on my back. Could he be mature and ready? I'm gonna tell you just me personally. I know a lot of people with age difference relationships I personally am not a fan of it Yeah over five years once you cross five years You're getting the dangers on 10 years when you cross 10 years you really in the things all but You know you under 10 years so it's not the end of the world but Typically the man should be older Because women are already more mature than men So when you get a man nine years younger than you He's not even that age. So let's say you Let's say you 30 And the guy 21 he 21 21 year old man is almost the equivalent In the maturity continuum is almost the equivalent of a 11 year old girl And so let's say you 40 and he 31 31 year old man is really like A 20 year old woman So when you've got a younger guy Then just what a lot of women don't understand about men and I and I actually DM the celebrity about this the other day because She had they had a quote an old quote from about younger guys liking her The reason why younger men like older women it is not because the women his age is immature That's what they would try to say but ain't nobody that mature That much older like nine years the reason why is Number one. It's a notch in the belt. You want you something that And y'all forgive my French that old Cougar loving that's a notch in the belt. It's an experience So a man will play the role and do everything and say everything right to see what that old But j is hidden on And that's the honest to god truth the number one thing Nine out of ten times when a man get with an older woman It's just a notch in the belt number two The reason why men like older women Is security You bring more to the table than these young women. He could get with you He could get a cosine from you. You got a savings. You got good credit You might already have a house. You might already have a car You might be vested on your job. You got a Pension you got a full 1k You got life insurance. So if you mess around and push in you slip and fall and At like it was an accident and hit your husband. You got that life insurance You you are and then number three the third reason why a man like Older women is for Mothering the nurturing You're going to be in your name in your nature to try to raise him To try to help him to try to baby him. So men who are Underdeveloped they really are looking for a mom that they can sleep with That's what it is And so that's what you got to understand How much healing I need to do before meeting a new man What my daddy told me he said son you got to Love like you've never been hurt before So when you get ready When you get ready And you feel like you can love like you've never been hurt and that's when you ready Enjoy the grow club tonight on youtube shorts. What app can we use to create subtitles The youtube shorts It most likely do the subtitles itself and you click on them little buttons on the side You click on one of them and then see captions type captions And then i'll put it on there So a lot of the all them reels ticked off. You got the captions already built in you just got to click on them Little icons that's on the side Now if you want to put the captions if they don't have it on shorts, then they got a thing on here which You need to ask that question in the grow club. Actually I can't be giving up gems for the whole world. Why well Because y'all remember this ain't just blessed tribe this anybody could watch this only blessed tribe could ask questions I just got done paying my braces off tired of having a cardinal. I put down extra every month. You're doing good Pay the cardinal off just like you said you say you tired of having a cardinal Pay the cardinal off. That means your person tap your personality type Get stressed with having dead Me I got eight cars All of them got a cardinal It don't bother me That's just how I live I live not no financial coach. That's why I tell y'all ain't no financial coach Don't ask me about the financial cause living The bank you call it Now this account in the negative you know what I tell them listen, you're gonna get it when you get it Huh You're not gonna be able to sell this up today Let me ask you this question Can I go to jail? No, we can't put you in the jail for this Insufficient fund. I said, okay, you're gonna get it when you get it like I told you. All right. Have a nice day I've been one time the student loan man called Uh, excuse me, sir, this black guy Uh, yes, sir. I'm calling about your student loans that uh, you missed some payments and uh, we just try We're trying to collect on that I'll say sir. I ain't got it right now. I ain't gonna be able to get it to you And then he said, huh, you're not gonna be able to get to him. I said, no, I ain't got it right now I said, let me ask you a question. Can you put me in jail for them student loan late? No, we can't put you in jail The next thing he said, sir, if you're gonna get it, people need money or what? I say why didn't I put this man? With the ptsd Collecting this money. I have never in my life Been yelled at by a debt collector That man literally said to me, sir, are you gonna give me people? I say, do he Get a commission And he finna get this like the bonus he need and his daughter can't eat I have never I'm like, sir. Do you work for nail? I'm like, if you park on a nail net I say, sir, don't call me hollering at me like that. I said just for that. Yeah, you're nothing. Bye So that's what I try to tell y'all don't ask me a financial question. Okay, you got financial coaches out here But I get it y'all get comfortable with people and you want to ask somebody everything But it's just like this y'all ain't gonna go to the old financial coach and say, hey, you know how to love your wife Y'all gonna ask him. Hey, do I pay it? So y'all y'all keep me in my lane I don't y'all don't y'all scratch me too far This guy I'm dating gives me the silent treatment every time something doesn't go his way with us Or life in general should I just walk away? Well, see, that's a thing Now people gonna tell you Therapists and all that gonna say silent treatment is narcissistic silent treatment is manipulation And all of that and while that could be true for some people The silent treatment also may not be a silent treatment. It may be a cool down technique There may be somebody who is used to strangling people When stuff don't go their way and they trying to change their ways So because I'm like that if I'm upset or I'm bothered by something I'm gonna be quiet And I'm gonna be quiet and there ain't no silent treatment I'm just being quiet because if I talk What I say is gonna filet you Like a fish So I'm gonna be quiet until I could and that's behavioral science to wait 24 hours To wait 24 hours before addressing the issue Now if he going silent meaning it's radio silence, you don't hear from him For days on end, then that is manipulation. That's Well, he really but if you still like seeing him or you know, what have you he just ain't as talkative Or something like that then a little different I've been working on myself physically, spiritually and financially out of the premise of a marriage was still Okay, I answered this one earlier when it was up there Guy says he's not ready to commit because he was fresh out of a relationship But y'all still were talking then you went back to your ex And he did two later Can this work later when both are single? That's actually what happened with me and my wife And remember what y'all got to realize anything is possible But not everything is probable And I'm the only one to be saying that and I've seen this this young White lady who do a relationship. She's gonna use my life And it's possible, but that's not probable. Man. Don't be over here watching my channel. They use it by stuff Let me use possible, but not probable by myself I don't even know where I started from so it was with me But that is possible, but it just It's gonna be some trouble with it now Because that means y'all got soul ties and y'all soul ties hook y'all and y'all don't heal before you deal Tony are you giving away free shirts? I need a consistent shirt and sweatshirt. Denise That's a good way to get blocked on here now That's a good way to get blocked on here. He'll call them by the free I got a free course for you. You got no free merchandise. You got no free merchandise Know that three bees conference will be in Atlanta. It's gonna be in Atlanta. Listen, Florida we got Ron DeSantis You can't do nothing productive hill You got to get out of this state. I don't know who Georgia got but I know he ain't worse than Ron DeSantis, but Ron DeSantis I don't know how long they're gonna keep renewing that man. He's gonna be the star saying black people can't even go to school So if y'all ready saying he can't he can't learn black history Can't learn critical race theory Can't learn nothing in school He bought the start he been next he gonna say black people y'all can't even go to school no more So listen, I only ain't doing nothing in Florida y'all where you got to travel. I'm traveling out of Florida y'all got travel out into Florida backwards Florida backwards Kendra, I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. Okay Uh keep the sneak I don't know what your shirt all hanging out now. It's a married man on here now. You're gonna hear all kind of chest out I can't even keep you on the screen How quick is quick to make things official with someone should I Been alarm only been talking for a week have not been on my back Okay Meet the sneak Okay Okay, oh you join you join the bless try tonight didn't you? God bless you Need to sneak out a bit of too long I'm gonna just skip over the equation. Just listen. Just listen to night. Okay Just listen in the night and just get some of the other answers because I you just joined the bless try tonight and listen tonight Because i'm too tired. I've been said some too real and raw And I don't want to hurt nobody feeling but uh A man not gonna make you the one in one week Not especially not with that shirt on now Now three months that's really when a man start to when a man knows if he you could be his girlfriend He's feeling you like that by the three month mark It's typically when it's gonna come now stand off your back For those of y'all that must be on your back on christian. I don't condone for indication People fall short. I ain't judging you but I don't condone it So what I recommend is stand off your back If you know for a fact you're going to get on your bike Then you should not get on your bike inside of six months Inside of six months I created the 90 day rule Two years before steve harvey Put it in his book I put it in my book It was not saying to sleep with somebody on day 91 It was saying that that is long as a man is going to wait to sleep with you That's the longest he gonna wait to sleep with you And I said that because I wrote the book at 22 years old and I come from being a womanizer and a player And I had never waited more than three months to sleep with a woman if I was serious about and so That's why I put that in the book That's why you have to remember people speak from where they are People took the 90 day rule and they think that on day 91 you need to be spread evil Because people perceived it as that Everybody is sleeping together on day 91 then get left on day 92 so You need at least six months Without the person knowing what your timeline is In order so you can see the real true colors And then around that six-month mark you'll kind of know But guess what some men also Watch these videos and they use what They learn here to play the game So that's why you can't even put no timeline on that type of stuff Be just on here comment Oh, she talking about the mtv show the reason why I did it is just new territory you got the in larger territory and Just to it's going to be people who would never who don't know who I am They won't see me on youtube, but they'll see me on that show then they'll come find me on youtube Neat sneak might have saw me on the mtv show to the night because she joined the the bless try tonight Or she could have been here Is it wrong to require my future husband to be a good step dad to my young daughter? No, that ain't that ain't wrong now. That's no that's a given up. That ain't wrong. That's a given now But I'm gonna tell you something don't be in no rush Find no step daddy That step that'll be doing ungodly things I'm gonna tell you one thing you can't you can't trust a man You can't trust a man The only way you could trust a man is if you could tell 100 he trusts God if that man Do not give you the chills from the Holy Spirit like I told y'all last night You can't trust him you can only trust him as far as you can see him and guess what you can't trust a woman either You can't trust a human You hear what i'm telling you you cannot trust a human You can't trust your mama You can't trust your daddy You can't trust your sister your brother your husband your wife your son your daughter Humans cannot be trusted The only way a human could be trusted is if they is all the way locked in with a creator To where you could feel it on their spirit to where it's to where it's helping you They so tap in with a creator I have been dating a guy for four weeks and it's been going well. Now y'all see what i'm doing right here This is what kind of show I want you to give me And i'ma tell them y'all can put me on at 11 30 p.m to midnight But just let me sit down in a chill How the questions come in and let me answer the questions run y'all up ads And stop feeling like that black people got to be monkeys They got to be flipping all around and do all it is if y'all had a show like this on mtv Would y'all watch it? Absolutely And if it's a way you could type in while it's recorded and your question get put up Anybody watch that well for some reason These networks think that black people can only get views if you i can a monkey And that's the sad thing about it. That's the sad thing about it and oprah tried to Is that her name oprah? Yeah oprah. Oh, it's late. I forgot the woman name. I'm like this oprah I'm about to call her oprah I'm not an orphan It's late. I'm tired. It's been a long day But she tried changing and you see how boring on is Because she went the wrong way instead of just giving personalities With some substance shows they they want to run dateline And want to show, you know different little stuff. I mean some documentaries are right, but we need substance on tv What people can learn or heal grow Get some wisdom I've been dating the guy for For four weeks and it's been going well This morning he calls me sister in a text message I question him about it. He said it was a mistake. Why would he call me? You might be sister in his phone for his woman Because that's not a mistake that you make unless he in the church real heavy and everybody is sister, but That's a real red flag right there. That's a red flag right there That's a red flag right there. I call every woman sister. Just so she know ain't no no funny business Hey, sis Hey, sis. How you doing? Every woman I say sis just so she know ain't no funny business because when you say sister that take you out the romantic box No No I'm hip and you ain't put hashtag cute, but I've seen young young Hip and chick. I don't know if that's one of you and your picture. You don't look 50 if that's the end of picture I'm 50 and only 30 years Oh talk to me. They think I'm younger older men can't hang Where are the 40 to 50 healthy active men that aren't tired after work? See, that's what right there What the other lady was saying And that's what gets y'all That's what gets y'all see if you 50 and that's you in that picture You definitely don't look no 50 So that's why 30 year olds talking to you because they think you 30 But then when they find you out when they find you 50 That just increased the curiosity. So you out here like, uh Jada pink and smilk mama You're gonna be looking like jada pink and smilk mama And so and i'ma tell you it ain't a 20 year old man that won't climb up jada pink and smilk mama It ain't a it ain't a 19 year old It ain't an 18 year old that won't why because it's a notch in the belt It's a not it's just curiosity. Like they say curiosity kill cat. It don't see this thing Don't know 30 year old won't somebody finna go through mental pause That it don't that's not it's not even logical. I'ma tell you the truth. I'ma tell you the truth. I was 30 I was 30 I could have went out and got me a young 50 yo When I was 20 I was talking to a 41 yo I honestly just as a man is curious. You want to see do it got wrinkles Do it have gray house? Do it work the same? As that it's curiosity. I'm telling you it is dangerous. It is not smart. It is not smart. That is not genuine Because you got to ask yourself this Why would a 30 year old? want a 50 year old When 50 yo's won't 30 yo's When 50 yo man won't them a 30 yo man So it's kind of like this right here Men are not organically and naturally genuinely attracted to women who are way older Meaning 10 or more years. It could be attracted sexually It could be attracted lustfully But not naturally Not Authentically it's not real. It's not real and for those that it is it's an exception to the rule and they already with a Woman that's old enough to be their mama. You literally old enough to be My wife had our first son when she was 20 you old enough to be his mama My mama had me when she was 20 You old enough to be his mama and I'm telling you as a man and I'm trying to be real with you I'm trying to be honest with you. It's nasty It is nasty And it is dangerous Because that 30 yo will take you for your social security Five years you was a senior citizen So I know they try to say 50 is the new 40 no 50 is 50 And five years you was a senior citizen So listen the 50 old men that's out there that's active they out there Let me tell you what you got to do You got to join the country club the men that's in they 40s the 50s 40 to 65 40 to 70 at the country club They doing tennis They doing golf They doing pickleball They are lawyers. They are doctors. They dentists They real estate developers They have made millions of dollars They got divorced From their first wife because they became a jerk And disrespectful like we all do when we come into money Their wife realized they had no pre note. She could get half She's not putting up with this foolishness. She left for he learned his lesson And that's why he's spending all this time on the golf course So you got to go get golf lessons. You got to go get tennis lessons You got to go get pickleball lessons And that's what you're going to meet men in your age range at the country club They is at the country club. They at the rotary club They at the chamber of commerce They at the small business They have a small business association in your city And you got to leave these young men alone. I'm telling you I got to leave these men going to be put some of that Demon D on you and you're going to be walking around here spitting out your ear And next thing you know, you locked up Didn't live your whole life And now at 50 years old you locked up because you even got some of that demon D Put on you and you walk around here Head spinning on the thing like your tails of the crib head doing cold 360 Don't I'm telling you sister Telling you don't play with yourself now When dealing with spiritual warfare not giving in to lust addictions. Does things get easier? I was introduced to 19 by X on 27 now this week the flesh was strong, but I didn't break I'm glad you ain't break And yes, it'll get easier as the word say Resist the devil and heal flea it'll get easier now. They don't mean you can't relapse later So you got to have other things that you do like right now. You won't hear you won't hear you learning I'ma tell y'all everybody that's on that weed get off that weed Like steven a smell say stay off the weed Get off that weed man. I'm telling you Which I've got to understand it's a concept that I teach my sons Where god plan to see the devil plan a weed and for a lot of people The weed that the devil planted is weed And the reason why I'm telling you this is because I used to sell weed And I have never once in my life tried to smoke weed Because I have never seen somebody smoke weed and they life get better I ain't never seen somebody smoke weed and not change I ain't never seen somebody smoke weed and not become a dick So for that very reason I have never had no puff a noun joint blunt pen hooker black and mild cigarette Nothing well, I had me one puff for a cigarette when I was seven come on grandma used to send me to get her new pork sailor with two dollars from the corner man from the man with a stove in his house I tried to hit that cigarette ain't ain't no smoke come by. I'm like man, it's what the real We have a smoke come out. I don't Say something on the thing and ain't got no smoke coming out. What's going on? But I probably ain't hit it good enough. I ain't know I thought it I probably ain't had a long power at seven years old But other than that, I ain't never try to smoke nothing. You know why cuz everything anything you smoke is a gateway It's a gateway to living a hell on earth Your breath finna be stank and we already got stank breath I'm sitting here hot mouth right now your breath finna be stank your teeth finna be yellow Your long finna be black your skin your pores finna be clogged It's finna ruin your life Do not smoke anything and I'm gonna tell you the ugliest thing to a man that is a real man That's a whole man That's a man. It's gonna be faithful. That's a man. It's gonna be God fearing The ugliest thing in the world is a smoking woman And that's and guess what grown boys is telling y'all that that's attractive and then women talking about they don't care What no man think Well, you ain't got to kill what I think what do God think the reason why you smoke Anytime we smoking anybody who's smoking is because you're not addressing your pain You're not addressing your depression. You're not addressing your child lord trauma You're not addressing the root. It's your other problem If I mess around to become president I'm banning smoking Hey up up in the real be the christian country I'm banning smoking They're gonna be to try to take me out man. He's a bad script club. He's a bad pornography He's a brand vape. He's a bad vaping He's a bad. I might run from president just to take people off. I'm trying to ban everything And guess what even if it don't get passed at least I'm gonna get credit with the lord lord I tried to make the world a better place Hey Know how you feel about online dating? However, is there ever an exception to the rule or maybe a good site that is trustworthy this ain't no site trustworthy There's no certain thing as a trustworthy dating site. There are exceptions to the rule typically The only time I'm making exceptions to the rule when I'm talking to a client is when she overfitted And the reason why I say overfitted because you know being around here long enough and y'all know better Didn't fall for games And the other thing is when You're in a po-dunk city When you're in a po-dunk city where you're not really going to meet anybody and everybody you meet You already know you're in there. They cousin They daddy or they brother So that's the only time I have accepted to the rule. But if you're going to online date Do not sleep with the man And do not give him no money And don't even give him too many details about yourself to where he could look you up and hack you How do you avoid getting stuck in the talking phase? And we got about 20 about 18 more minutes on him Here they hurt so bad my brain feel like about to drop out my head How do you avoid getting stuck in the talking phase telling me not trying to rush things but don't want to fall into a forever talking thing You really don't have control over that So The only way you don't get stuck is if if it don't move along in a decent time frame You call it quits you're saying, you know, we're not really on the same page And I don't want to you know, I'm dating intentionally and it kind of seemed like you're not really sure what you want And so I think we probably should go our separate ways And that might be the thing that make him say no, I'm ready. Like I thought we was together I ain't know I had to formally say this 2023 I ain't know I had to say will you be my girlfriend? I thought you was already that he might pull that on you If that's the case, okay, y'all talk about it Can we go to houston or something not a lot of listen, I don't want to do a lot either I don't be out switching I might call them people and tell them not a lot of I don't know, you know why I said a lot of I just trying to say because it's closer to me You know what? Invent planets that paint the houston Change the houston you just gave a lamb so nasty If you walk if I be walking through Lennis mall, the men be down on heels Hey man, if you don't Shut up Knock your head off your shoulder. What don't howl at me That's the one time I get to see what it feels like to be a woman. I'm like, oh, this is what women feel like This is disrespectful I'm like, man, no, man, you better not ever look at me like that again, man I'm right here with a booty hole and you right here to my With them heels on boy, you don't knock you out the hill with a uppercut Ever try to howl at me Yeah, you Atlanta that you right by the land. I you know what houston We finna solve a problem So I got to tell you that plan up is to switch it. We go on to houston I ain't even take Atlanta. No business with all that sin up there Is a man having an occasional cigar the same as smoking cigarettes? What is the difference in the behavior? No, it's not the same when you say occasional. It's like a celebratory thing Now if he's smoking a cigar every day there, he's just smoking a big cigarette It's really all it is. They try to act like, you know, they inhale and it ain't it ain't inhale and it's like, okay Then what's the purpose of it? And what do you really want to be doing with your mouth wrap around that thing? It's like me personally, I can't smoke no cigar Sonnet like come on, man I'm not open to my mouth that why In no circular to be Slabbing all on something I I don't like cigar smoking Either but it's a lot of guys smoke cigars. I got a lot of friends smoke cigars. I don't understand it. I just think it's a To me it seemed like a weed head off day Like it's what you do when you can't smoke weed. You want to smoke your cigar It's guys who brag about not smoking weed, but they smoke cigars But they smoke a cigar like a chimney It just it can't be good for you It can't be good for you, but I mean if it's occasional I sent your video of married men are not corny to a male friend of many years and he did a bait switch on me on a apartment rental deal He offered me Do you think your video offended him? A bait swing It I don't think it offended me it could have just it could have had nothing to do with that He could have was about to do that anyways, but you know It could have offended them, but You know a bait switch on apartment It just it could have been anything. I wasn't associated with that It could have just been he really had no apartment the rent And got caught up with trying to act like a boss And you ain't got caught on that flaws After three days too soon um The thing is is it could be too soon If you if you if you don't feel comfortable if you don't feel like You know I'm enough or you got a good enough feel for them. Then yes, it's too soon But if you feel like you could see and tell his characters his character and then No, sometimes a ready man is ready and he know what he want and he know he read it, but At the same time too It's like if you think you like him like that then it'll be good to say yes Because if you say no and then you say yeah later a lot of times a man make you pay for that But not one for a time around But here's the key If it's been three days and you say yes, the thing is you cannot sleep with him You cannot let him move in with you. You cannot loan him no money A lot of times a man will move very fast with a woman Because he's falling on hard luck or he has fallen on hard luck And he needs somewhere to stay He needs somewhere to stay So he want to pretend like he's so into you or he want to be around you every second But it's really because he does not have anywhere to lay his head The other reason is because he needs some money And so he will come and play on your insecurity and play on your loneliness and give you an amazing money making opportunity Just so he can get your money and take care of one of his other women That he owes some money and then he's gonna run off you after you start saying no He's gonna run off on you. I think I missed it. Oh lord, and then it's on the dance round I've been trying to get that little nap all day Them things so fast. It's like a Spawn of a fly You know what? I'm gonna have to get one of them little traps for it with a little I just had a door open the day at all of them Look at that He's just your poli in here. So it's been in here all day looking for I got the door wide open He's gonna sit in here. We got about 10 more minutes He didn't put a cue on now Nine days of maximum wait time for a man. Now remember I told you I wrote it when I was 22 So that don't apply to today Should a woman hold a man accountable if he seeks bedtime elsewhere That's if if she's holding out for six months or does it count until They've committed Yet you should you should hold him accountable because If the man like you And you're not ready to sleep with him. He's going to wait. He's gonna wait. That is that's something that women don't Realize now he might deal with Angela He might if he watched him a little little nasty movie He might be that type of guy to do that a little bit every night in on the side But if a man is into a woman, he is going to wait. He don't want to jeopardize getting caught sleeping with another woman A man gonna wait if he's into the woman like if he feels you or his wife He can wait And this day and age a lot of men not even all that into you know in the bedroom as much just because social media You'd be talked about so easy So it's a little different Men tend to have so much courage through the deals, but live men don't approach me often Just will stare from afar. How do you make it known to a man to approach without shooting your shot? You don't you don't make it known the only thing you should do As a woman if you see a man you want him to shoot this shot is look him in the eyes You look him in the eye for one second Smile and nod keep going about your business. That's the only thing you should do There are people teaching women to shoot they shot and that is the dumbest thing in the world It's the dumbest thing in the world And the only women who teaching that is loose booty women desperate women aggressive women lonely women And then men who are grown boys Teaching women to shoot a shot. I'm telling you from a former player From a former dog from a man who was out here dealing flipping and tossing The worst thing a woman could do is shoot her shot. It is disgusting It's disgusting because the woman is the one who says yes when the man get on the knee The man is expected to provide To be the head to be the lead to be the provider to be the protector So if he want to lead in a household And be the head of the household that he got to initiate The contact he got to initiate the engagement The woman can't take it initiate and then want to flip roles You don't do it like that. So if if you as a woman you want to You know be the breadwinner you want to take care of man you want to protect and provide for him then shoot your shot But if you don't want to be in that position then Don't go shoot no shot About seven minutes. Now y'all get on in their growth group It's on toner gaskins Academy.com all the question now. Thank you for knowing you gotta have your picture to be making these kind of claims now You can't be on here with these little pearls making these kind of claims Whether whether that read I've had men telling me they love me after only Talking for about two weeks. It doesn't seem normal and pushing me away freaks me out. Is this normal? It's it's normal for a player. It's normal for a player. It don't necessarily mean he's a terrible guy It don't necessarily mean that he's gonna ruin your life. It just means he's a player and what I mean by a player just means he's very Confident he's very forward. He's very He's just comfortable around women. That's all it means And he could be ready to settle down He could be ready to settle down and he's not really saying I love you like I'm in love with you He could be saying I love you like a you the one like you the one and it's just like a figure of speech so you have to be able to you know use inference and read between the lines When a man address you as a queen is it disrespectful that I don't call him king? Instead I address him by his first name. This was someone who slid in DM No, that's not disrespectful. That's understandable and you should be using terms of endearment like that If it's not comfortable for you and you ain't you ain't used to it and you know all of that. Yeah Hey, I might run for president now, but like like rock said you get it now You ain't got no power. You just a puppet. He said that so many words But that's basically what he was saying without trying to say that Um y'all playing god bless it. We don't see a lot of men Unless there's a woman with a with a husband a boyfriend picture whether this this a guy We don't see a lot of men coming over here. You get to hear Talks that we be having over here So y'all give him a round of applause You know round of applause Thank for is she talking about the chronic pain patients people see medical Kill him in the back side of it. That's the thing y'all ain't spoken medical So that ain't what we talking about y'all smoking stuff all kind of strands you smoking You got demons in that in that weed. You got parasites in it. You got worms in it Got all kind of strands in the stuff that people smoking today Nobody's smoking. None pure It's great from god's green earth untainted untouched Hey god bless you now. That's a super sticker there. God bless you And real god bless you got about four minutes. Hey, so end of the question. We're gonna go Wrap it on up Chill on the question. I got a headache if I had to pop on here. I had to be consistent now That's why I got these shirts consistent see That pop on here I wanted that in cursive, but they didn't change it a million times. So the next the next one is It's gonna be my consistency in cursive with black fun. Oh boy. That's a good old t-shirt I love it. Y'all can see me start wearing and I might wear the same one every day I might be the took all the largest for myself. Well, that's a medium in this because they oversized So y'all stay tuned to that and listen to me one of the things I want you to think about You got to be ready for when you look around in this here world Your world is lost This world is lost Do not get tricked. Do not get fooled. Do not get talked off your stoop Do not get dog died ran through flipped and tossed Mistreated and led us straight by this here world That is selling you all kind of stuff that ain't got nothing to do with god You got to wake up smell the forges in the morning and make sure that you're keeping your morals and your values Because I'm here to tell you we about to go through I'm seeing a man who had his and he treated me well in relationship But then say he wasn't ready for relationship. I treat my queen but not commit He double practicing He double practicing It's just sometimes man They put a woman on the practice squad just so they get ready for the for the game It's unfortunate, but You just got to understand it take for what it was worth the the free meals the conversation Learn from it and then the next time you still go with pure good energy But you just know don't get your hopes up Don't get your hopes up and that's why I tell women a lot of people like when I say that But when I tell women a man has done nothing for you Until he walks you down the aisle There's so many women that praise boyfriends and get so happy about a boyfriend Don't get happy about a boyfriend I'm assuming I have to make an official I mean, you don't have to be official except a little kiss if that's what you want to kiss But you got to be the way I look at it is you got to ask yourself Am I willing to catch mono? For this person am I willing to get Herpes simple as one on the mouth for this person When you like them that much then that's when you should accept the kiss because that's what you could be getting yourself into Logan Logan of Got a man Logan a woman always look like a man That's another man. Well, we just set a record two men in the flesh trial welcome Logan if you're a guy God bless you If you're a woman God bless you too, but it looked like a man picture, but different pictures on them. So I can't really see Okay, we had this hill y'all let me grab this right here. Don't y'all send them more questions all right How much should we share with our friends and family about arguments with a partner? His mom dislikes me Because he tell half the story. We really shouldn't share anything if we got that type of person Like I'm okay. Logan Logan say he a man. Hey God bless you Welcome. Hey, we make it so we make him wait and Logan 27 years old we make him wait And I'm gonna answer Logan question because I see you put a question in the chat We really shouldn't share anything. We're not supposed to share anything especially with family that don't know how to Understand and respect boundaries and know that a relationship gonna have issues And so he wrong for telling his mama if his mama gonna care feelings like one thing about me I could go talk to my daddy And my daddy he and it don't matter what I said what I did With my wife to my wife. He gonna shoot it to me straight He gonna get to me blood raw, but he's still gonna love me and he gonna change the way you see my wife He gonna change the way because he understand love relationships My wife can't do the same thing. You know, she they Jamaican She go tell her mama something her mama gonna look at me like i'm crazy the next time she sees me She go tell her daddy something They gonna Unfollow me on instagram Or whatever and it'd be normal stuff that you're going through but everybody family ain't like that Everybody can't can't handle it So when when you know your family like that, you shouldn't be telling your family and your friends Nathan Keep your business in-house and the only time you tell somebody is when you finna leave Because otherwise you go tell somebody you make that person not like the person you with And then you ain't going no well and now you've made it awkward for everybody And so that's the mistake that people make that's the mistake. He made and he telling half the story And that's a lot of time men and women do that and it just it ain't What it ought to be V say why the moderate put me in time out you probably talk too much V or you might say it's disrespectful Or Joe was out there talk too much It could have been an accident, but I doubt it They told him a 27 year old man I really desire to marry a Christian woman that is black Pretty and trustworthy. Is that too much to ask for? Almost but I'm gonna tell you right here now You got to trust God And you got to understand she might be all those things now She might be all those things But it's saying at the end of the day me ain't gonna be human women gonna be human So you got to ask yourself Can you be those things? blight handsome and trustworthy And if you could be that Then you know it's possible But at the end of the day human gonna be human Human is gonna be humans because listen We all go through it. We all go through it. We do all do some things that ain't trustworthy but uh Ladies got us a fella in the blast tribe got us another fella in the blast tribe We're making some just the place to be you want to meet your wife now. We've got some 27 year old Christians who take care of themselves in here Just the place you want to be I hope you meet your wife if you do then i'm gonna give him a little 15 minute Minutes to license online so I could fish eight when Hey, god bless y'all. I got to go with the window four minutes. Guess what we went over four minutes on my two hour call Before this with the growth club and the growth club is for those individuals who want to do monthly growth sessions with a group of like-minded people who may be Not be in a position to afford one-on-one coaching at the time But you still want to be in an environment of growth With q&a and connections and all those things Danny D god bless you appreciate you god bless you Hey god bless y'all those y'all coming out for the life coach training Saturday. I see y'all It ain't cheap. It is a sacrifice So it'll be a small little group of us 20 30 of us And now god bless you see you then london next month june 11 Full-day training in london while i'm over there with my son. He playing soccer So i'm just throwing a little training and then we really over there for my son. He trained in london and you know Like they're trying to showcase a few skills in london Now what i'm gonna have to do I might have to if my son get picked up over there in london. He can't live over there unless we move over there so We have to move over there. So I have to give a job over there in london Working at the grocery stores to get citizenship Blank god bless you now god bless you And me god bless you I didn't expect those to come in Hey god bless y'all. We'll talk soon. Take care