 okay I have a genuine question that I need someone to answer for me so my very first boyfriend I don't even count him because we didn't date that long but you know I f*** with him I liked him he cheated on me and it wasn't until after he cheated on me where I was like oh my god like I like him you know I love him my second boyfriend was my longest relationship and my last relationship I remember somewhere in the middle he like texted his ex and I was like oh my god it wasn't after he texted his ex where I really started f***ing with him and then we broke up and it wasn't until he stopped giving me attention when I was like I love this man he was my first love but when I was in a relationship with him I didn't even see long term with him like I liked him but it wasn't like that so my question is what does that mean for me what is the underlying issue why don't we f*** with guys more when they do me so I did this thought experiment on what the opposite of a patriarchy would look like and came up with a really insidious thought experiment the first is I took away all genuinely effective birth control from men and then gave them no reproductive rights after conception gave them the bulk of the dull dirty and dangerous jobs and some ridiculous percentage of workplace deaths like 97% made them feel so disposable that four to five hundred percent more men would commit suicide than women and in the cases of divorce a thousand percent stigmatized their sexuality and their ability to express their emotions and then I gaslight him and say that any men who would speak out about this hates women or is a misogynist and it would wait wait a second oh my sugar daddy sports cars two years old so we decided to trade it in for a newer model just like he's going to do with me when I turn 30 when we arrived to the Porsche dealership he had his eyes set on the white car because it reminded him of my skin before I get a spray tan all pasty and pale though I had my eyes set on the bright orange car to represent the love I have for him until it burns out just like his money he saw no difference in the colors because he is colorblind so I went to the car to pout until I got what I wanted to make up for it he took me a laser hair removal so I could be a naked mole rat in March 2020 I broke up my partner and then two days later planned to go to Amsterdam with a girl from Tinder she said she went to the University of Leeds she said she was some Australian girl only here for a year or something like that and that she was going on holiday in Amsterdam I said it and I booked a ticket people wearing face masks and stuff even back then so I fly there by myself he's supposedly already out there when I land I message her and she's like yeah come and meet me and when I get to Amsterdam City she blocks me I've just flown to a different country to go on a date and I've been stood up not only did I get stood up right but I was staying in a hostel because I'm cheap bastard with a load of Italian people who all had very bad coughs and when I got back to the UK I also had a very bad cough I actually just killed my baby I'm popular opinion I got my master's last year I started paying on my student loans I consider myself to be a pretty ambitious person I don't have credit card debt my cards paid off I haven't bought a house yet but I am I don't think about the student loans I don't give them a second thought I make whatever the minimum monthly payment is and I live my life I feel like this is gonna come back to haunt me but I don't care I don't care at all sometimes I think it's just cuz I don't have the mental capacity to like process that I owe nearly a hundred thousand dollars in loans whatever it is I don't give a shit I don't I don't care guys I am blown away my buddy from high school sent me this on Facebook and this is literally my my 10th grade English high school teacher Mrs. Robinson is on TikTok and has an only fans are you kidding me I can make all of my my high school fantasies come true so let's talk about why this super straight nonsense is problematic first of all being super straight isn't really real like Antifa Cog said if you find women attractive then you probably also find trans women attractive and saying that you prefer someone assigned female at birth like this trans man or this trans man doesn't really make much sense if you're straight as someone who's attracted to men I've been attracted to trans men because they're men and Natalia preference is totally different you can prefer a kitty over a cucumber if you're attracted to a trans woman have sex with her and it's going really great you like her and then you find out that she's trans and that changes how you think of her that indicates you've some internalized transphobia that feeling alone does not make you a bad person but what you choose to do with that feeling can make you a bad person so working on yourself trying to figure out why you feel that way that's okay if you go back and harass that woman that makes you transphobic and a bad person and at the end of the day no one is forcing you to date trans women this whole super straight thing doesn't accomplish anything it's just a way of telling trans people that they're not wanted trans people have to go through so much you're telling me they can't just open this app without seeing an entire movement dedicated to shit on them we're gonna meet our people at a certain time in our lives this town is too small for us to meet our soulmates I'm sorry he might be one of them but like you have many soulmates throughout your whole life like that you never have one soulmate I don't care what anyone says you never have one soulmate I finally attract an alpha male who treats you like a queen before I tell you how to do this though let's talk about what you keep attracting boys here's the thing real men want to do things for you okay they want to plan the date pick up the bill call you an uber so if you start getting all defensive and being like no no no I can do that for myself then he's gonna feel like he adds no value into your life you're gonna end up attracting people who use you so instead what you need to do is stop resisting and start receiving it's as easy as saying thank you for the smile okay so is anyone single and free tomorrow night because I have two four if they're 14 or 16 ounce revise their bone in and then I have like I think a pound a pound and a half maybe of scallops and I'll go buy vegetables and buy me a bit of okra um do you want to have like a dinner date and maybe cuddle watch some Netflix I'm gonna cook it this is so hard to find here's why I am not paying my wedding off early so what I mean is that we are paying for our wedding in cash the first deposit is due today and the team emailed me and said hey do you want to just make the deposit amount that is due which is like five thousand dollars or do you want to make the full amount it might be easy to think well might as well I have the money might as well make the full amount might as well get it taken care of but but here's the reason why I'm not doing that the rest of the amount due is fifteen thousand dollars don't come at me for how much I'm spending my wedding mind your business if I were to pay that off today cool it's done with but the alternative option is to keep that money because it's not due until next year and put it into a high yield savings where I'm averaging about 1.9 percent let's round it up and say two percent so over the next year by holding on to that money before making that payment I'm making an extra 300 which is why you should open a high yield savings account if you are in a sexless marriage or relationship this is just a reminder that well yes you cannot force your significant other to sleep with you or be intimate with you nor should you course them into it because it's their body they have autonomy over it it goes both ways meaning if you are in a monogamous relationship and they're saying that you can't see other people but they're also not sleeping with you they are now also controlling your body so it's perfectly acceptable to leave the relationship if they're not willing to work on it