 hello everyone another nark survivor live video i'm on the top floor just checked in another place another city you know how i do but yes let me just close the door no easy out there yes in this one we're going to be talking about what you can do to have the narcissist come running back to you because those of you who are watching this right now yes that may be what you'd like them to do you went through all of these things with them they devalued you they put you down they made you feel like you're nothing like you had no meaning or purpose to them like you were insignificant beneath their consideration they didn't pay you enough attention they just weren't really that interested in you and yet they moved on and it seemed like they were so happy so excited to find someone else that person was not you but you wish it was you you wish you were the one that they looked at with those feelings of desire you wish you were the one who they wanted and craved and i get that i understand you just want to be the one that they want and i know at times it may seem like there's nothing you can do to get them to notice you to get them to really want you and the truth is they're never really going to want you or anyone else as a person they objectify people they see them as objects objects that exist to meet their needs which means that at times you may be overlooked you may be mistreated you may not be given the recognition that you feel that you deserve but in fact there is a way that you can have the narcissist running back to you there is a way that you can do that of course i must say i must advise against it i don't record i i don't recommend bringing these types of people back into your life because they will harm you they will crush you emotionally they will break your heart and especially in situations where they have been abusive where they have harmed you you should never want someone like that back but maybe for you if you're watching this video you may have just dealt with a player type narcissist the one who is very popular socially they may be very physically attractive you wanted them you desired them you wanted nothing more than for them to want you even if it's just so you can reject them so you feel like you finally got the advantage when the reality is you will never have the advantage over them because they're operating from this alternate reality this fake world that exists inside their heads they're never going to connect to you or want you for real but by knowing that it can help you to avoid the emotional pain but yes i am going to get into it i am going to reveal to you what you can do to have the narcissist running back to you and it all starts by realizing this truth because you've got to look at it like this narcissist did not target you for no reason of course there was a reason why they targeted you i mean especially with the type of narcissist that you were dealing with they could have had anyone they could have had their choice of any other man or woman so why did they pick you what made you so special and that is what you have to realize because in fact in a way when they targeted you you were special to them at that time they held you up on a pedestal they idealized you they had these fantasies about you inside their minds they were thinking about you in all sorts of ways that you may not even be able to imagine they had all of these ideas inside their heads the problem is and i don't want to blame you or hold you accountable but you did not fulfill their expectations you did not satisfy the fantasies that they had inside their heads because if you did they would likely still be around and they may have even developed an addiction to you because they had these fantasies about you when they targeted you they were thinking about you in all sorts of ways and then it gradually dwindled it gradually faded away as they began to realize that this mental snapshot this image that they had of you in their heads was maybe not valid it didn't line up with who you actually are in reality but of course they never accept that they've made a mistake they look at it as though you've tricked them you made them look like a fool as though you displayed some false character to them when in actuality you didn't even know anything about it you didn't know what they were expecting you to participate in but that is just it because when you're dealing with a narcissist especially the player type of narcissist they are expecting you to read their minds they're expecting you to know exactly what they want when they want it and exactly in the way that they desire it you're meant to objectify yourself to satisfy them is how they see it and if you can't do that then you have failed you've disappointed them and then in their minds they just forget about you and then it's on to the next I know it doesn't sound nice and I don't like to sugarcoat things but this is just what you get when you're dealing with a narcissist you are either exactly what they want how they want and when they want it or you're nothing you're garbage they have no use for you you're a lost cause which again is why I advise against trying to get these types of people back because it's never going to be about your needs it's always going to be about how you can satisfy them but if you do want to get them back if you want them to come running back to you first you have to realize that they likely have other supplies and you need to do something that's going to make you stand out you need to do something that other people are not willing to do you need to objectify yourself and play out this fantasy that they imagined in their heads you need to be their doormat their fool whatever they need you to be you need to be all of that and more and you need to be at whatever they want it and however they want it and at times you may even need to suppress your own desires and needs and just focus on them like they're the king or the queen because that's just the only way that it can be with a narcissist and even then they're just going to see it was an object they're not just going to have this epiphany and suddenly recognize you as someone who is a separate person with your own feelings and needs they're never going to give you recognition they're never going to appreciate you that is just not going to happen especially with these player types of narcissists they're very attractive they have other sources of supply or even in some cases maybe supply sex it doesn't even cross their minds maybe they're more focused on their work their image their reputation and honestly if you're dealing with someone like that the best thing that you can do is leave them alone because you cannot satisfy that type of person a sociopath a psychopath you're gonna have a very difficult time pleasing them you're better off just leaving them alone but a narcissist who does have other sources or supply with them you have a fair chance you could seduce them you could get them coming back if you just be what they want you objectify yourself to fulfill their desires you be their doormat their fool even at times maybe they're punching bag so that's what you have to do if you want them to come running back to you but i can tell you that it isn't worth it you deserve far better treatment you deserve to be recognized as a separate person with your own feelings and needs you deserve to be treated with love and respect rather than being objectified rather than being used like an object and then toss the side as soon as the next thing comes along because there's always something better there's always something more and even if you manage to manipulate them in a moment that's only going to last for a short time and then before you know it their mind is going to be on something else some other fantasy because they get bored very easily it is quite honestly impossible to satisfy them and you will lose yourself trying to do that some of you you may just end up diluting yourself into thinking that you could be everything that this person wants because the reality is that you are never going to make them happy you're never going to be able to turn things around they're not just going to wake up one day and realize that you are everything they ever needed in their lives that you are this amazing person and they need you they love you they can't live without you they recognize you they appreciate you if you are dealing with a narcissist that is never going to happen in some extremely rare situations some of you may know already yes it does appear as though there are these self-aware narcissists you may see them on youtube i haven't spoken too much about them but these types of narcissists are extremely rare i'm not even sure what the numbers are but i haven't even seen any studies that suggest that any narcissist has even begun to heal or recover from their disorder they're always self-absorbed lacking empathy and seeking new supply or focusing on their false image and their reputation that is all they're ever thinking about and yet somehow some narcissist they experience a crisis from my research that is how it begins they're isolated they're left alone to themselves somehow i mean of course these are extremely rare situations because we all know what narcissists are like they are very charming and charismatic they're generally very attractive people so the odds of them being left alone isolated for any moment of time of course that is extremely rare but in the cases where this does somehow happen they either go insane or they try to lash out at someone or they may even be suicidal somehow they turn inwards and it's confusing because this information kind of conflicts with what is already known about the disorder but somehow it's like they look within they self-reflect there's no one around them they can blame and the shame is eating them alive and i would assume that in that moment they're left with two choices it's either they just continue to focus on the shame that is coming up inside of them or they just have to take accountability and look at themselves and assume that they did something wrong because otherwise they might think if they didn't do anything wrong then how are they alone how are they by themselves because as we know narcissists they need supply they can't be alone but if in that situation there's nothing they can do they're completely isolated i guess they do just turn inwards and something happens inside of them where they do then begin the process of healing from the disorder but again to make it very clear this is extremely rare i mean if all the narcissists in the world there's probably not even a percentage that anyone could give of those who heal from the disorder that's how rare it is and the odds are that anyone who is watching my videos you will probably never see that i mean it would definitely be an incredible sight to witness in that moment they would likely be very vulnerable but i can't really say too much about it up until this point i don't think i've done enough research on it myself and i can't say that it's something i've ever seen or experienced in my entire life in most situations even when you think you're seeing that when they come back with these epiphanies and apologies it is still a part of the manipulation nothing has actually changed inside of them i mean most people in the world even aside from narcissists they tend to continue with the same personality for the rest of their lives they don't change to improve anything significantly and then continue with it for a sustainable amount of time that just doesn't happen so do not even expect that from the narcissist and assume that yes they are going to be the same even if they do come running back to you it is still just going to be a fantasy it's just a dream that you share with them it is not going to manifest into reality no matter how bad you may want it no matter how much you may wish that it would and honestly you've got to look at it like even if they did manage to go within and self-reflect and heal from the disorder would you even want them would you even be attracted to them anymore because by that point the dynamic would change we're drawn to narcissists because we're attracted to that type of personality so if it was to change and they began to heal and love themselves for real that might just repel you away unless you have healed as well healed people are attracted to each other just as unhealed people are attracted to each other as well so think about that even if they did change you may just lose attraction for them unless you have healed yourself and then I don't know about you those of you how far along you are on your healing journey but at this point and all of the time that I've spent by myself I've had a few years now of the last few years where I was pretty much completely alone and that definitely was the turning point for me it changed everything it's like I just became a completely different person and then I started to research about narcissism and the disorder and I made the youtube channel to help people and that's really what did it for me it changed everything and now all I want is to find someone else who is healed another empath someone who I can love and someone who can love me because I know that up until this point I have not felt loved or appreciated by anyone I used to feel like I was not good enough I was undeserving but I believe that I have become a lot better now and I can become a lot more in the future as well I'm not perfect but I am trying the best that I can and that's really all that we can do that needs to be our mission in life instead of constantly chasing after other people who don't even really appreciate us they don't really care about us instead of doing that and getting nowhere we do need to look within and take accountability and just become the best versions of ourselves because that's what will change everything instead of chasing people who aren't going to lead you anywhere heal yourself and then you will attract someone to you who does see you someone who does appreciate you someone who does love you for you even though you may not be perfect you may not be everything that the narcissist want to do to be but you can still be everything for someone else and that is what I advise you to do I don't want people to go chasing after the narcissist because by doing that it's just like a dog chasing its tail it's not going to go anywhere all that's going to happen is you're going to be manipulated you're going to be sharing the psychosis it's going to be a shared fantasy and it's never going to manifest into reality so it is just a waste of your time it is much better to invest that time into yourself and that is exactly what I have been doing and I have found that it has changed me on a very deep level and most definitely not the same person that I was before and I know many of you will see it if you've watched my videos you've seen the change in me over the past few years I am a completely different person now to who I was back then in the beginning when I began the channel I was unaware I didn't really know who I was or what I wanted out of life I didn't really have any purpose or direction but things began to change when I began to look outside of myself in how I could improve other people's lives and that's really what we need to do we need to be of service to other people that is what life is really about uplifting other people raising the vibes and I never really used to think like that before it's only really the last three or four years maybe five years everything changed for me then when I was about 30 years old I just started thinking differently and what really did that for me was being alone when you go and you spend some time by yourself and I don't just mean for a few days this has to be for a long time six months one year maybe you see family or friends a few times a week but not for too long you spend most of your time alone developing yourself or in nature when you do that everything will begin to change for you you will begin to connect to your higher powers to a higher force and you will find your purpose and direction you will realize what should be more important to you rather than just chasing these narcissists because that is not going to lead you anywhere good when you do that you will notice a shift in your energy and it's something that you will be able to change at will you will be in complete control of your energy and emotions you will be able to transfer it to other people and heal them as well I'm not saying that you'll be able to heal a narcissist but you will be able to heal certain ailments in some people and it all comes from being alone for a long period of time where you then connect to this higher power it's difficult to explain or to describe in words it's something you really have to experience for yourself but I'm sure those of you as I said if you look back through my videos you will begin to see the change in my live videos especially it changed everything for me I developed this emotional control and I just became a real man when I wasn't that before I was a boy but now I'm strong mentally and it all comes from not constantly reacting to the things around you because that's what a lot of us do we're always in reaction to things outside of us instead of channeling this energy from within so when you get away from these narcissists who are always causing you to react to insignificant things when you get away from that you find your true power from within and that is really what I advise you to do instead of chasing after the narcissist trying to get their attention and validation that is never going to help you it's never going to make things better for you you need to generate your power and energy from within and then share it with the right people people who are also able to give that to you they can reciprocate value I know it's pretty deep higher powers higher forces discovering this spiritual energy raising the vibes all of these things are most definitely possible and I have noticed the shift in energy in myself and when you have that you have more to give it's more beneficial for other people that you love and care about instead of just relying and depending on the narcissist who as we know is very unreliable you never know where they're going to be you never know what they're going to do next which is why we do need to develop more control over ourselves we do need to return to the power that we have within and that power comes from your heart the heart is thousands of times electro magnetically stronger than the brain so feel it in your heart not so much for the narcissist because that's not going to do too much for them but just feel it for the world around you if you have children or pets and don't forget to feel it for yourself as well I don't know what that light is in the sky I thought it was a plane but it has been there for a while now it seems quite strange I was thinking maybe it's a satellite but it is quite cloudy as you can see who knows what it is if anyone has any ideas let me know down below I'm just enjoying the view as you probably noticed I do enjoy a good view I just like to be high up far away from everything I do enjoy being alone it's very rare that I spend any time with anyone and that's exactly how I like it I just enjoy traveling going to rural areas working on my channel of course and as you can see I'm definitely more invested in the channel these days spending a lot more hours on you every day I've always got to put another video out it just feels good to know that I'm sharing this valuable information and I'm helping millions of people around the world to realize their power over the narcissist because of course as we know they can't be alone they have to get their power from us and I know sometimes being an empath it can feel like a curse but just think about it like this it's really a blessing imagine being emotionally dead I mean what is the point in living if you can't even feel anything you're not even connected to your own emotions you can't even connect to someone else but for you of course highly sensitive highly connected aware and responsive to other people at least you can feel things they cannot do that and you should already know that yes they are completely insensitive emotionally physically and mentally they're of a low consciousness they don't feel what you feel of course you should know that by now because if they had any feeling of any feeling at all they would feel bad for you they wouldn't have left you for dead they wouldn't have left you high and dry they wouldn't have done any of that so just imagine that for them how they are how they have to live what kind of a life is that but you can't even feel anything no emotions for yourself or anyone else I'd rather have that feeling even if at times it feels like a curse at least I can feel something inside of me and I can feel things for other people as well and of course as we know that is something that a narcissist cannot do and most of them they're never going to be able to do that they don't even know what they're missing they don't even know that there is so much more to life than what they are experiencing and most of them never will know they might get a glimpse of the light inside of you and then try to destroy it but that is really all they can do that's why it triggers them it's like it provokes them it initiates this response this reaction because I know at one point in their lives that is exactly what they wanted they wanted to feel good about themselves they wanted to have some form of connection with someone usually it's with their parents but they were invalidated they were denied of that and I look back in my life and I'm just so thankful so grateful that I didn't have to go through that I was loved maybe not by my parents but by someone else I was given the love that I needed as a child for me to grow and that is why when I was a child I tended to spend a lot of time alone and I enjoyed doing that as well something that most children do not do and they end up just becoming another person in the crowd they just adopt the same ideas and beliefs as everyone else and yet they think that it's right but if you want to know what is really right and connect to your internal compass all you have to do is spend a lot of your time alone it's funny but it makes perfect sense if we all went away we isolated ourselves we spent all of our time alone for one year and then we all came back we reunited together I'm sure we would all share the exact same values and beliefs it's only because so many people are stuck in this society and under social conditioning that a lot of times they can't even see what is right in front of their eyes and I know a lot of you who are watching this can relate to it as an empath you've probably spent a lot of your time alone as you may feel like you just don't fit in in this world empaths it's like we're very different from other people but yet as empaths we are all the same I always knew I was a star I knew I was born to lead to motivate and inspire I can honestly say that I knew that from the very beginning I always knew that about myself I wasn't really given the tools that I needed when I was younger so that I could be able to do that but yes I always knew that I was meant to be a leader and I do believe as well that pretty much all empaths are meant to be leaders so all of you who are watching this if you identify as an empath you are meant to be leading the people around you you do have a duty to do that to inspire people to be more empathic because it's not that everyone doesn't have any empathy at all even narcissists they do have some empathy it's mainly cognitive empathy but any feelings that they have for you or to be there for you it's overwritten by their envy we can't really control the people around us you can't control another person's actions they're gonna do what they're going to do but we can control ourselves and our emotions we can choose to be more empathic and that's just it you need to have something to give something so if you're giving empathy to other people maybe then they will have more empathy to give to someone else and this is my concept this is my idea my belief and it's why I do what I do I feel for the victims I feel for you I hope that I'm giving you what you need right now I hope I'm giving you love empathy and I hope that it inspires you to give that to someone else because I genuinely believe that is what we're here to do I believe that is our purpose as empaths in this life so yeah that's really the message that I want to finish with on this one give love spread love receive love I think we can't go too wrong if we do that but then of course be careful who you're sharing it with some people you need to love them from afar be compassionate from a distance or else they will suck you dry they will drain you and impair your ability to save the people who really need you the most because of course they don't care about them they only care about themselves but yes that's it that's the message that I want to finish with today we do have 85 live viewers right now and yet only 44 thumbs ups let's get those thumbs ups down below so we can share this message with other people and support this wonderful community and let me know what you think about this video and the comments down below I appreciate it I do read your comments every day share and subscribe and as always I will talk to you in another video very soon