 you ever heard this myth everything happens for a reason so just accept it well there's kind of truth to that if i jump off a building and break my legs yes everything happened for a reason the reason was gravity like that's why you break your legs and physics legs brittle it's concrete not brutal so people interpret everything happens for a reason be like well i was meant to learn from that thing and then bs read richard dockins the selfish gene one of the most important books written in the last century he says organisms that only learn through trial and error lose to organisms that can learn through other people's and trial and error is anybody here we got a little live audience anybody here ever had to be hit by a car to learn to look both ways i did it i kind of learned from just somebody telling me big car two tons velocity smash dead and i now always look both ways