 everyone needs to know this about the narcissist you want to help the narcissist you want to save them you showed compassion towards them and they took advantage of that they will leech off you they will drain you and then they will break you down and it is often our lack of awareness and experience that enables this to happen that is how they are able to get in and deceive us which is why this video is about spreading awareness of what they do so that we can better protect ourselves because you're investing your time energy and money into the narcissist you're losing things that hold great value and you're hoping to receive something in return to replenish yourself to sustain the relationship because if you're rowing a boat in one direction and they're rowing the opposite way you're not going to get anywhere you're not going to achieve anything there's not going to be a positive outcome or results but a relationship is meant to be reciprocal there's meant to be an equal exchange but when you're involved with a narcissist and you're expecting something in return you end up feeling selfish and as though something is wrong with you you assume that you haven't done enough of them so you do more and more because it makes you feel worthless you feel like you've been treated unfairly like you've been forced to accept something you don't like because you're expecting something in return from the narcissist you're expecting them to love you and be a supporting partner which is something they're never going to do because they don't care about you they see you as an object that exists to meet their needs they see it as though they're meant to consume from you not the other way around and you may want to help them you may want to teach them the value of giving and being there for someone so that they can experience the same warmth and joy that you experience from giving to them but you cannot save them you cannot get them to see the errors of their ways because they don't believe anything is wrong with them or their outlook on life they believe they've got it all figured out and you're just meant to do what they need you to do and not have any needs of your own they don't think things need to change because they're quite comfortable with how things are they get in what they need from you and as long as you keep quiet about your needs everything will be okay that's how they see it they don't want your help they don't want to change anything about themselves they don't want to fix anything and you can't make them you can't force someone to do something that they don't want to do and you shouldn't see it as your problem they have to figure things out on their own they don't think how normal people think they're not going to do what most people would do they're very unpredictable which means that anything could happen there's no foreseeable outcome or result it's just their magical thinking they feel superior they act arrogant and entitled so they believe that they're always going to get what they want actions and decisions are based on the benefits and conveniences that they can receive which is why they're always looking for the bigger better deal they're always looking for the next shiny new toy but it's all a fantasy thank you for watching i hope this video resonates with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my paypal link is in a video description coachingquires you can email me at coaching at narksafiver.co.uk thank you for watching and i'll talk to you soon