 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel so today I'm gonna be talking about a subject that a lot of you guys probably need and that signs of male insecurity that women hate Okay, a lot of people watch my channel a lot of my students and clients and dude I used to be like this too man. I used to suffer from a lot of these things I used to do a lot of these things that women hate in fact if you do a couple of these They're probably never gonna call you back. They're probably gonna ghost you sometimes even one Is what is gonna kill her attraction for you? Okay, so in this video I'm gonna give you ten things that guys commonly do that cause women to lose attraction for them like that So if you don't do these things you're gonna have a lot better chance of getting the girls that you want Okay, so before I even get to the first one guys if you were looking to get a free call with me There's a survey down below if you fill out that survey. It's gonna really help out with the channel Basically, I'm trying to get information about what you guys want to see more of and what really What really makes you guys Nervous or insecure and it's really gonna help you out with women So if you fill out that survey, it's gonna really help out with the channel And you'll also have a chance to get a free call with me where you can literally ask me whatever you want Okay, so if you want some help in your dating life, there'll be a great place to start Okay, cool So the first thing that I'm going to give you when it comes to signs of male insecurity and I see this all the time And something that I used to do is when you say things you're ending things with an upward inflection So you sound like it's a question and every time you say this it makes you sound insecure It makes you sound like you don't know what you're talking about or you're unsure about what you're talking about women Do not want this. Okay, they want a guy who says what he means and is sure about what he means Okay, they weren't a confident guy, but you don't sound confident if you're ending things upward and you have a little bit Of a shaky tone. Okay, so when you say things make it sound definite Now if you have a high-pitched voice, obviously if there are ways there are exercises that you can do that I've talked about on this channel to lower your voice and lower tone of voice is generally better for women But it's pay special attention to if you're ending things higher. Okay, and you can end them lower or you can end them like this That is gonna sound a lot more secure than ending upward. Okay, so the second one after that is going to be Maintaining eye contact. Okay, so a lot of guys have trouble maintaining eye contact when they're talking to somebody Okay, see I'm looking at the camera right now When guys look at a girl they tend to look up they tend to look down or they tend to not or their eye contact Sometimes and I've seen this before sometimes when they have really good eye contact and they look like they're looking at the camera Their eyes are shifting There it's very quick, but that little bit Shows you're not confident shows that you're kind of insecure about what you're doing And I actually used to do that too because of when I would look at a girl sometimes my eyes would shift So I had to consciously Make myself not do that sort of stuff. Okay, so when you're looking at a girl maintain eye contact It's totally fine. You're supposed to maintain eye contact around like 72% So be looking at them for 72% maybe 28% you're kind of looking around I say it's a aim for 80 to 90% because you'll usually end out about right So but make sure you have a good eye contact when you're talking to girls. Otherwise, you look kind of insecure Okay, the next one that we're gonna cover after that is assuming she's saying no I see this happen with a lot of dudes when they're talking to a girl or when they're texting them as well too like the Classic example is when a guy is gonna ask out a girl and he says hey, you want to come do this It's totally okay. If you don't want to look why would you add that the end dude? Like you're already assuming that she's not gonna go out with you not gonna go out with you She's gonna say no. So if you put those little things in there Oh, it's totally okay. If you don't if you don't want to totally chill like you're already assuming that she's gonna say no Or maybe when she says one thing like Like I don't know Maybe maybe she says oh, I don't know if I can do that you're in their head They're already thinking that the girls gonna say no So when women see this it makes them less likely to want to actually meet up with a guy because if he doesn't feel Confident that they're gonna meet up with them. It probably means she's not he's not a very good match for them So make sure that whenever you're talking to a girl always assume the attraction Okay, I say this again and again dudes like even if you're not sure always go for the positive Okay, because that's gonna give you the most likely chance of you being able to get this girl Okay, you basically with this like your whole hat your whole Attitude when it comes to women is that you have to assume the attraction But be okay if she's not attracted like you're totally fine with that Like that's the kind of attitude that you should have and if you show signs that you don't don't believe that It's less likely she's gonna want to go out with you Okay, cool, and this comes down to my next point which is Hesitating hesitating is huge again if you're saying things like oh, I don't know if you you can make it But if you can like those kinds of things but also to when guys are walking up and talking to women This is when I see it the most when like if you're gonna go in for a kiss or if you're gonna go in for a hug And you hesitate before you're going in She's not gonna want to do it. She's gonna get creeped out Okay, so if you're gonna go do something go a hundred percent dude don't go 99 don't go 98 Hey, how's it going? I'm Lloyd. No. Hey, how's it going? I'm Lloyd That's a lot better. Okay coming in with a hundred percent confidence and security like if you can't believe 100% that she's gonna like you believe 100% that you're gonna put your best out there Okay, believe 100% in yourself to do the right things you if you can't you can't always control how she reacts But you can control how you do things and going in with a hundred percent is what you should be doing. Don't hesitate Okay Unable to make a decision Unable to make a decision you guys this comes down to when you're planning the day when you're playing to go out with a girl If you're like well, I don't know what do you want? Dude, it's your job Okay. Hey, what's the plan tonight? Dude? Never ask a girl that you're the guy you're supposed to be making the plan Okay, so if you're a guy you can't make a decision and stick to it. Oh, but it's okay if we go here I'm fine with it. Yeah, let's go over here. Fuck that shit, dude Make your own decision and stick to it. I found myself encountering this problem, you know Even if it's subconsciously I'll do this. It's okay to be flexible But what it's not okay to do is it's not okay to be wish-washy about the decisions that you make Okay, because what if you make the decision to stay with her and you're wish-washy about that? Why would she want to get with that guy? Okay Next thing Bragging and insulting others. Okay. This is a big sign of male insecurity If you're bragging all the time you say, oh, I had dinner on this yacht I hang out with these so-and-so people. There's a small subset of the female population That are probably young dumb girls who will be impressed by that. Okay, these are not the women You want to spend a lot of time with okay? But usually what it sounds like is it sounds like you're trying to compensate for something like like if you think about a truly confident person like think about I Don't know Really confident person like Brad Pitt, okay Just Brad Pitt have to brag about all the people that he's hanging out with no no he doesn't okay We already know that he's Brad Pitt now imagine if you were someone in Brad Pitt shoes would you really be wasting your time telling everybody about how like what a great dinner you had with Angelina Jolie or whoever know you wouldn't do that. Okay, but an insecure person would say stuff like that because they're trying to convince you That they're legit Okay, so it's a lot of women a lot of pretty much all the smart women will get put off by this So don't brag Necessarily or insult others if you're putting other people down to make yourself feel better That's another huge sign of male insecurity and a lot of times it comes off as really douchey and and not that funny Okay Next one is fidgeting if you're fidgeting a lot while you talk to her like you're moving around You're adjusting things I notice when people are standing and they're kind of like swaying from side to side or they're tapping their feet Or they're like they're messing with something in their hand. Okay, this all shows that you're that you're nervous What you want to do is you want to move a lot slower and more deliberately moving is fine Actually, I actually move my upper body a lot when I talk But if you notice my feet are planted the whole time and that if your core is centered a lot of times That's going to indicate to her that you're a very confident person But if it's moving around all the time that means you don't know what you're doing Okay, that means you're unsure about your position. So move around a lot less Or not move around a lot less, but don't fidget Okay, cool being small a lot of times I see guys doing this with their gestures Okay, I use big gestures when I'm talking. Okay, I take up space a lot of guys Who are I'm confident they don't like doing that. They'll sit like this. They'll kind of have their legs together Okay, dude be confident take up space man lean back That's more masculine. That's a lot more attractive Um You buying into her you buying into her bullshit emotions. This is another one that I see a lot Okay, so a lot of times girls are gonna tell you stuff when you talk to them and like that Like that doesn't mean anything. Okay, so maybe you'll say You'll say hey, let's go get a drink or let's go do that She'll be like, oh, I don't know like I'm kind of tired like my cat needs to be fed or something like that and The guy will be like, oh, okay. Oh, sorry. I hope you feel better. I hope your cat gets fed like dude You bet by saying that you basically just like put yourself into the box of total pussy Never gonna have sex with this guy. Okay, the reason why you did that is because you bought you bought into her bullshit statements Okay, women know that sometimes that they're they're being irrational. They're being stupid But if you don't have a code of conduct and you don't have anything to stand up for yourself Well, then you're gonna buy into all that bullshit. Okay, and if you buy into it She's gonna think she's gonna look back later at that message She's gonna look later back at that statement that she made to you and the fact that you bought into it That shows that you're not a real man that shows you that you're insecure and you don't stand up for yourself Okay, if she's being unreasonable if she's saying something that's sick Like don't be scared to call her out on it No, don't call people out on everything like there's a limit to it And maybe if you have to call her out at so many times It's probably not the girl you should be hanging out with but if she's saying something that's irrational or Or that's you know to total nonsense. Oh, yeah, don't be scared to stand up for yourself, dude Okay Sometimes women will say that intentionally to see if you react, you know Okay, and the final this is number 10. This is the last one you put her first Okay, that's a huge sign of male insecurity What you're basically telling her is you're telling her that my life isn't cool enough For me to put as number one your life your your job is to make my life great because my life isn't that great right now She doesn't want to get with a guy like that. That's a really insecure guy who doesn't think his life is cool He's not confident. Okay, you should never ever put a girl that you were pursuing first You shouldn't even put her when she's your girlfriend first You shouldn't even put her as a number one when she's your wife, you know It should come first before all of those things you should put yourself first You should put your career first before then and then put your family and then That's where your girl comes in. Okay. You should never put her first and if you put her first That's one of the fastest ways to lose her Okay, cool. So this is the 10 signs of male insecurity you guys you may tell you consider subscribing dudes I'm going to be in Toronto very soon. I'm gonna be doing a free seminar there So if you guys are interested in that you want to see me speak want to meet me personally we can talk I will be there on January 17th, and if you want details of that, please email me the single guy 2017 gmail.com I'll probably put some information about that in the description and comments below. Thanks a lot for watching you guys Good luck out there