 I always say excuses are like buttholes everyone's got one and they all stink Today we're gonna be talking about the BS excuses that you tell yourself that's holding you back from the success that you want and the success that you Absolutely deserve. Here's the thing that I'll say before we dive into it in your life You can either find an excuse or you can find a way Life is is literally that simple if you wanted to you could find a million excuses why you're not succeeding You could and you can legitimate you can make all of those seem as legitimate as possible Or you can just stop making excuse you can find a way and I want to dive into one specific excuse that I hear quite often and As I'm talking about I want to talk about other excuses and one of those excuses that I hear So much. It's almost sickening is that people will use their children as an excuse as to why they are not where they want to be Now this is just one example But if you don't have any children, this will definitely relate to you as well. So keep listening, right? And it's actually quite sickening how often I hear people use their children as the excuse as To why they're not at succeeding at the level that they want to succeed at It's actually insane because they use their children as the excuse and I always say excuses are like buttholes Everyone's got one and they all stink But you can make the decision of just letting go of your excuse if you fully want to and the reason why I Hate this excuse and I hear it too often Is because it's not the children's fault like if you have children and you say oh, I wish I'd if I Didn't have kids anymore I would definitely be able to succeed if I didn't have to feed my children I would definitely able to do this if I didn't have to wake up early In take care of the kids I would definitely have time for myself and the reason why I hate this excuse is because it's not your children's fault to to blame someone else outside of yourself Especially if it's your children is absolutely ridiculous. So let's dive into it and talk about it because number one Your children need to be relieved from the burden that you've put on to them And number two all of you guys who don't have children are still putting your excuses somewhere And that's the thing that you have to rise either you make excuses or you find a way That's all that you really need to know and I will say this if you do have kids Could it be harder to succeed? Probably yes, I will admit that is it impossible to succeed? No I Will admit that when you don't have children to take care of that are taking your time You have more time to invest into your future more time to invest into your business more time to invest into your own personal growth But it doesn't mean that it's impossible Because if you have let's say you have four kids, right? You have four kids and you know, they're all under the age of 10 and you're like man I I really wish I could succeed, but I just don't get enough sleep. I don't get enough time to myself I don't get enough this and this and this Has there ever been Somebody who has a very similar situation to you like four kids under the age of 10 Home school all of them and they still succeeded ever in the history of mankind has there ever been somebody? It's in a very similar situation to you, but they succeeded and what you want to succeed at There's a pretty good chance to answer that question is yes And if they can do it, why can't you do it? What is the difference between you and between them? Because you can either figure out a way to get it done or you can fall back on your excuses and say oh, yeah It's it's because I have children. It's because I don't get enough sleep It's because you know my children wake up at an early time So I can't get time for my own meditation my personal growth even if it's not success It can literally just be your own personal growth. I've heard people say yeah I would meditate more, but I don't have time because I have children Okay, we'll just wake up earlier and just do that Figure out a way to get your children to bed at a time that would be reasonable And then find time for yourself. There's always a way If there's a will there's a way the thing about it is that if it's important to you you'll figure it out So one of the things that I would I would have you start start saying is that just start saying it's not important to me Don't say it's my children's fault. Don't say it's my spouse's fault Don't say that it's this person's fault or the government or the president or Whatever it is that that you're blaming at this point in time for whatever it is you're blaming Just say I don't care say I don't give a damn say I just don't care enough and see if your Mindset starts to change around it. So instead of saying I don't have time to meditate because I have children Why don't you just say I don't care to meditate? It's not a priority for me See if that starts to change the way that you view it instead of putting the blame outside of yourself Why don't you start taking the blame and putting it inside of yourself? Because one of the things that I found is that most people whenever they're trying to find an excuse They always externalize their excuses and they blame something outside of them because when you blame something outside of out of sight of yourself You can't control most things outside of yourself. So it makes you feel like oh, I'm free because I the blame is put outside of me What in reality if you're starting to notice That you're putting all of your blame and all of your excuses on something outside of you Turn that around and put all the blame on something that is just you. It's not a priority for me I'm not waking up early enough I'm not putting it as the top of my list and start blaming yourself and what you'll notice is when you blame yourself You actually start to take full control of it and when you take full control of it is when you actually start to make changes And so if I were to give you 30 seconds as to why you're not where you want to be why your business is not where you want to be why you're Not making the money that you want to why you're not as happy as you want to why your Marriage isn't where you want it to be why you're not as peaceful as you think you could be why you're not Meditating enough whatever it is If I were to give you 30 seconds right now I guarantee the majority of people right now could come up with 30 excuses as to why they are not exactly where they want to be Whether it's their children whether it's time whether it's their boss whether it's their parents whether it's their spouse the government the president Local businesses authorities, I don't know what the hell you're blaming but you could externalize that like crazy And you could give me 30 reasons why you are not succeeding at whatever level you want to succeed at There's always an excuse there will always be an excuse which makes it hard because if we're good enough salespeople Which we are to ourselves. I always say everyone's a salesperson and the best salesperson is you selling yourself on something You can sell yourself enough to believe your BS excuses You can or you can just make a pact with yourself right now and say I will no longer Externalize any of my excuses. I will no longer make any more excuses and I will put full burden and blame upon myself And nobody else or nothing outside of me And that's when you were start to take control of your life Because there's always an excuse you either find an excuse or you find a way So instead of using for instance your children as a reason why you're not succeeding What if you were to flip that on its head and use your children as the reason why you succeed? So instead of saying I'm not succeeding because I have children that are keeping me up late at night Or they're waking up earlier because I have to homeschool and da da da da da What if you flipped on its head and say I will succeed at the highest level possible because my children deserve it Because I need to succeed for my children. How would that change your viewpoint on the world? How would that change a viewpoint of what you do on a daily basis? So instead of saying it's their fault Why I'm not succeeding succeeding I'm gonna say I'm going to succeed Because of them I'm going to use them as the reason why I'm driven every single day Why I get up in the morning and work harder towards my goals because I want to be able to make enough money To live in a better part of town so that my children get a better education so that they go to and it's sad It sucks that it's this way in America But if you live in a better part of town your children get a better education that is it sucks It's that way. It shouldn't be that way, but it is that way, so If you succeeded a higher level and make more money You're then able to take your children move your children into a better part of town when you move into a better part of town There's a pretty good chance they're going to get a better education if they get a better education as children Will that change the course of their life? Absolutely, which means that maybe they'll go to a better college Maybe they'll get such good grades and they get a full ride into college and they can go to any college Or they want to and that could change the trajectory of their lives completely Because you decided to make a change because you decided to stop making excuses and you decided to start using your children instead of using your Children as an excuse you decide to start using your children as the reason the why Behind what you're doing. I'm going to succeed because I know that my succeeding will change the course of my children's life So I'm gonna work my freaking ass off. Nobody will work harder than me because I'm going to do it for my children I'm not gonna do it for myself. I'm gonna do it for them And if there's one thing that I know by coaching tens of thousands of people is when you can Now this is gonna be tricky because I said you you don't want to externalize your your excuses You want to internalize them and blame yourself? But you do want to try to externalize your why your reason why you're going for whatever it is your success Your happiness your peace your joy if you can go okay I want to make two hundred thousand dollars this year and you say I just want to make two hundred thousand dollars because I Want to succeed and make two hundred thousand dollars you might make it But if you if you were to really sit down and attach The two hundred thousand dollars to how it will change your children's lives being able to take them to different places that they've never Maybe taking them to Australia taking them instead of having them read about Rome What if we were to go to Rome and they were to actually be able to see it? How would that change your life to be able to go on different experiences to be able to see different cultures? How would that change your life versus just you know staying in Oklahoma where you currently are wherever you live? It would change your life massively and then what you do is you realize I'm taking my why Why I want to make this two hundred thousand dollars why I want to succeed and I'm putting it on to them as them being The reason why because I know that if I work my ass off and develop the life that I want for my children It will if you were to build the life that you want right now for your children. Would it change your children's lives? Absolutely 100% So, why don't you do it? Why are you still blaming them as the reason why you're not succeeding? Why are you blaming external things? The moment that you decide to turn the mirror on yourself and say no matter what happens in my life I will blame myself for it I will figure out a way to succeed is the moment where you take full responsibility for your life You make the decision that full responsibility is what you're going to do and that's where your life starts to change And what do you do? You go I'm gonna succeed for my children and instead of saying they're the reason why I'm not succeeding I'm going to wake up earlier because it's easy to wake up earlier if I'm trying to do it for them I'm going to stay up later to build my business to leave where I currently am making You know thirty thousand dollars a year because I want to build a hundred thousand all your business It might take a few years to get there. That's okay But I know that I'm doing it for them and when I get to that point, you know what I'm gonna do I'm gonna take my children to Australia I'm gonna let them see a completely different country. I'm gonna take them to Rome I'm gonna take them to Spain I'm gonna get into a better part of town by a house in a better part of town So they get a better education they get a better education. It can completely change the trajectory of their lives So I'm gonna use it as the reason why I will succeed not the excuse as to why I'm not succeeding Now for those of you that are out there that don't have children. How does this relate to you? What excuses are you believing? That are complete BS at this point. How are you lying to yourself? What excuses are you believing in yourself that you keep saying over and over again? Oh, yeah, I don't have enough time I don't have enough energy. I'm too old. I'm too fat My parents never gave me the right mindset. They never loved me. The government doesn't assist me This president that's in the office. I hate the the people that are around me aren't supportive. I Could come up with a million excuses you could come up with a million excuses Excuses are always going to be there and we can either believe the excuses and sell ourselves on it Or we can figure out a reason to succeed Life is that simple either you make an excuse or you find a way That's what you need to figure out. Are you making too many excuses as To why you're not where you want to be to make yourself feel better for the current circumstances that you're in or Are you going to wake up and say listen? I don't care where I am Somebody has been in my situation before and has succeeded I'm going to use this as a reason why I will succeed and ultimately I'm gonna do it for myself Ultimately, I'm gonna do it for my family. I'm gonna do it for my children I'm gonna do it for my mom my dad to retire them to get them a new car to put them into a better part of town to be able to afford putting them You know something nicer than nursing home Whatever it is that you want to be able to just have the freedom that I want to provide for my family That is what I want. I'm gonna wake up earlier. I'm gonna stay up later I'm gonna hire a freaking sitter once a week so I can have an entire day just work on myself and work on my business If you want to succeed bad enough, there is absolutely a million reasons why you should succeed Have you written those down on a piece of paper? Here's what I'll challenge you to do I want you to get a pen and paper out right now and I want you to ask yourself the question What excuses am I telling myself every single day? Write all of them down write them all down pause me What are all of the excuses that I'm telling myself every single day? That's number one number two Why are all of these lies? I want you to prove to yourself Prove to your brain that all of the excuses that you're saying to yourself are all lies You could work through them if you really wanted to and number three Why will I succeed? What am I going to find? Externally outside of myself as a reason why I want to succeed is it for myself? Is it for my family? Is it to be able to retire my parents? Is it to be able to buy my parents a house? Is it be able to take my children and put them in a better part of town? Is to be able to take my children to You know go to another country is it to be able to just not have to say to my kids anymore I can't afford it or we don't have enough money and to stop feeling that pain that alone could be enough drive to get yourself moving Because ultimately it's the way life goes either you make an excuse or you find a way but Ultimately, it's all up to you. It has always been up to you and You are the person to blame for it That's the beautiful thing about life if you don't have the life that you want to you're to blame for it But if you create the life that you want to You are also to blame for it and when you place the blame on yourself You make the full decision that I'm going to succeed And here's the reason why I'm going to succeed because I take full 100% responsibility for where I am and Where I'm going and that Is how you start to change your life Hey, thanks so much for watching this video If you want to learn even more about master your mind click right here and watch this video as well There will never be a perfect time the perfect time is always now because your comfort zone is where your dreams go to die You have to jump off the ledge and know that the parachute will open You can't open the parachute before you jump off the ledge