 No doubt, we all want to be treated right. We want to feel respected and influential. Being liked or respected makes us feel valued, and it gives us the influence we so much desire in our circle. It is because being well respected gives you reasonable control of things, and also makes people admire you anywhere you go. However, as much as we would like to be treated with respect by everyone, we do not have control over how others behave to us. We can't force everyone around us to respect us, but we can influence their decisions or reactions towards us. It means that if we can influence other people's response towards us, we can stop people from disrespecting us. The question now is, how can we influence their behavior? How can we get them to stop disrespecting us? Well, in this video, I'll share with you some tips to stop people from disrespecting you. If you are new here, consider subscribing so that you don't miss out on exciting videos like this. 1. Respect people even if they don't respect you. Let's face reality. When someone disrespects you, your natural reaction will mostly be to disrespect them in return. However, retaliating messes up the entire situation instead of fixing it. So when you find yourself thinking or planning how to disrespect them in return, it's a sign that you have been hurt whether emotionally, professionally or logistically. 2. Respecting about retaliation is your brain's way of deciding a defense mechanism that will keep you from being hurt in the future. So instead of reacting that way, stop the thing for a bit about your response. Here's what your reaction should be. Respect them. You see, every one of us silently wishes to be respected by all, even in places where we do not necessarily deserve to be respected. We seek recognition and the respect that comes with it. For instance, the reason why you are watching this is that you want people to treat you with respect wherever you go. So think about it. How about you act on this general need? Since you know that every other person is like you in this regard, they also want to be respected, then maybe it's time you started respecting them and earning their respect. Now, respect isn't all about playing cool and acting all nice to people. Respect is a positive feeling or action shown to what someone important. It conveys a sense of admiration for good or valuable qualities and it is also the process of honoring someone by exhibiting care, concern or consideration for their needs or feelings. So, when a person disrespects you, pay them back with respect. 2. Improve your communication skill. Sometimes, the reason why people disrespect us is because of our manner of communication. For instance, you made a person for the first time, but because of how they spoke to you, you don't want to have anything to do with them. You probably want to give them a piece of your mind so that they'll know better than to repeat that the next time. What just happened? Well, somebody's mode of communication was so bad, the other person felt disrespected. So even though they don't know each other before, they don't want to have anything to do with each other. You see, having good communication skills means that you can convey your feelings, ideas and thoughts in a clear and well understood manner. It means that you can deliver your message effectively in a way that helps you have more influence and network, builds a successful career and helps you form a better relationship with people around you, which in turn yields respect. Effective communication isn't all about conveying your message, but your ability to listen carefully to others while keeping an open mind to their suggestions and opinion. Also, effective communication skills will help you become a good leader, which in turn earns you the respect you deserve. 3. Add value to people's lives. Do you know why you respect your employer or any other prominent person around you? It's because they add value to your life, whether financially, intellectually or career-wise. For instance, have you ever wondered why our teachers from back in the days, preschool or high school, have unique places in our hearts? With so many years down the line, bumming into them at any point in time, we want to just hug them, kiss them, care for them and make them feel good. Why? Simple. They added value to our lives. People tend to respect those who are willing to help and add value to other people's lives. It means that you are eager and ready to take responsibilities, sharing other people's problems and learn a helping hand. When you do this, you become someone that people will like to listen to and come for your advice when in need of one. 4. Learn how to handle anger and other forms of emotion. When experiencing some sort of anger towards something or someone or when you are stressed or pressurized as a result of deadlines to meet or a specific task or even financial obligations to fulfill, it is inevitable to experience some emotional rush or tension. However, knowing how best to handle or manage these situations and not lash out on people around you will put you in people's good books as someone who deserves to be respected. Although, we all make mistakes from time to time. It is crucial to remember that no one likes to stay around people who have a hard time putting their emotions on the check for fear of being attacked or being used as a dumping site for those emotions. 5. Set clear and reasonable boundaries. People disrespect those in so many ways without even realizing it. For instance, they might encroach on your time, taking away time you value without regard to your loss. They might share things with others that are rightfully kept just between the two of you or you might consider the manner of communication demeaning, unkind or insulting, even though they don't mean to sound that way. So what do you do to prevent future occurrences? You need to set clear boundaries, healthy relationships establish appropriate boundaries to ensure mutual respect and accountability. Boundaries are not meant to restrict, but to set free. So be open enough to state what you like and what you don't, but be as polite as possible when you do so. 6. Call the person out on their behavior. Do you know how you try to avoid people who are disrespectful to you? Well, in some cases you can always avoid them. So in such a situation, it's best to address the situation directly. So have a conversation about what is going on with the person involved. The person might not realize how hurtful his or her actions are to you. When you call them out on their behavior, it will give them a chance to apologize and try to be more polite. 7. Show empathy. Showing empathy requires you try and understand why someone is disrespectful to you. Perhaps that person is dealing with a difficult situation in their personal life or is feeling overwhelmed by deadlines that are piling up at work. Finding a way to show them that you understand and care about them and what they are going through will make them feel more connected to you and respect you better. To get people to stop disrespecting you, you have to 1. Respect them and resist their urge to disrespect them in return. 2. Remove your communication skills. Perhaps they don't like how you talk to them. 3. Become valuable to them. Nobody wants to always be around people who take from others all the time with nothing useful to give out. A healthy relationship involves giving and receiving. 4. Learn how to handle your emotions so that you don't keep pushing people away with your adverse reactions to things. 5. Make your boundaries clear to them. 6. Have a conversation with them about their attitude towards you. However, make sure you do this as politely as you can. 7. Be empathetic that just might be going through a rough patch. Thank you very much for watching our videos. If you like this video, watch more videos on our channel and subscribe. We love you.